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I hope everyone had a great Mother's Day. I actually got two hugs from the mnl and here I was talking about their is never any touchy-huggy stuff. She broke into tears as she open her Mother's Day gifts. Hubby started to get concern for she stated to cry and he asked his mom, "Why are you crying mom?" I told him that no, this is a happy cry. So, she gave her son a hug too. Now, I cannot speak for the whole day that it was cheerful but at least those little moments were great for her.
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Yesterday was a bit of downer for me, and was being reflective... one thing that came to mind was that one reason caregiving is so hard is that we are not hard wired to have the same unconditional love for parents as we do our kids..... was wondering , for some, if this is where the 'guilt' comes in? We don't know how to switch gears when it comes to taking care of others besides our kids.... I love my kids and grandchildren uncondionaly, but I still would not tolerate unaccetptable behavior, and by that I mean, I do have the choice to walk away.... still loving them....My dad being one I walked away from, tho I would particpate in his care if I choose to.... that was about me having no regrets.. really had nothing to do with him.....
So something for us to 'ponder' today, may give a little flash of insight to our guilt and feeling like failures or allowing others the power to try and make us feel like failures...not so, I don't give to others as I do my children....
Was reading others posts today and came across something I have to borrow, some of you may already know it, but this is the first time I've seen it....LLAMP.....laughing like a mental patient..... have to start using this one.....
Hope everyone had a good Mothers Day, but personally glad all the fan fare is over.... love you all, hugs and angels...
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No word from Seeme, just know if the mil did pass this is very hard for her so soon after her own mom passing.... she'll get in touch when she can.
Notlike, glad to know mom didn't set your card on fire, and really nice that you got a card from your son.... my son has been so isolated with the broken bones, he doesn't have a clue today is Mothers Day, so that's my excuse and I'm sticking to it...... I have cleaned and napped today, then thought about work tomorrow and felt tired all over again... hopefully my sons surgeires will be soon so the sooner I can get out of there and away from M.... sorry Notlike, you don't get to quit yours.... love to you all.
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crs-notlike is fine. And you're welcome :)
Ladee-thank you. Honesty is hard, especially when it's something you don't like. The day turned out alright...mostly quiet, and I did give her my card without getting yelled at. I also got a great card from my son, so that made my day.
Has anyone heard from seeme?
Goodnight, and better tomorrows.
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I got away by my self Friday night and came home this morning. Got a few things accomplished up at my camper too that needed to be done. Went to a Mother's Day Tea at the nursing home and my husband didn't want to stay for the entertainment. He wanted to go back to bed. Had my 85 yr old mother with me and she enjoyed the music. She has known this guy who sang for 15 yrs. Took her for a ride and then stopped and we had dinner out. Now I'm home for the rest of the day. Not sure if my daughter and grandson will have time to stop by today or not. They are busy with her husband's family today. Happy Mother's Day to all you mom's.
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Happy Mother's Day to all!
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Happy Mother's Day to all you wonderful ladies. Thank you for being my friends and for some of you for being like a mother. Especially Mother Hen Jam!!!! I don't know what i would do without any of ya'll. I feel so blessed that i came across this site when i did. Ya'll saved my life and my sanity. Thank you all for being there for me. I love you all. Happy Mother's Day!!!! Love and (((((((hugs)))))) Stormyyy
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Thnx notlikemom...do i call you notlikemom or what? Thats a little long but your choice plz
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You're not crabby Notlike, just being honest with your feelings... MD is bitter sweet for me most of the time... My mom died a few days after MD, miss her still... Stopped having expectations about this day many years ago...But I love ya and appreiceiate every single sacrifice you make..... so we'll just be cranky together.... love and lots of hugs....
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Happy Mothers Day to all you wonderful ladies (((hugs)))...Cow pattie????..im from Tx and a cow pattie isnt an honor, but Jam says its an honor so i gladly accept...lol thnx Jam
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Sending prayers and hugs to Seeme.
crs-Belated Happy Anniversary to you! Sounds like you had a nice dinner out. And good news from the hospital, too, well at least not terrible news. Hugs.
Jam-As I was reading your post, I wondered if you've ever asked the Col what crime she commited to get incarcerated? Just my mental dark laugh for the morning. Enjoy your picnic. Hugs.
beck-please send the coffee instructions to Ladee :) I think she needs them, badly! LOL Can't wait to see your artisitc expressions. Hugs.
burned-Wouldn't it be nice if pot roast solved all our problems???? Hope you enjoyed yours. Hugs.
Lindasue-Welcome! Blessings to you - you are a busy woman. Hugs.
I woke up this morning to a mess made by a dog, and a sick son. Then odd words from Mom. If I read one more HMD post on fb I will puke. I am hoping that all the bad stuff is out of the way for today now. My mil passed away twenty years ago, before my son turned one year old. It threw my husband into a tailspin that lasted over 10 years. I didn't have a nice mother's day until my son was almost in his teens. And now I am trying very hard not to resent my Mom for being here and ruining the day all over again. For once, I will be happy to see Monday. Crabby today, can you tell?
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I have bookmarked the page, thank you all....I am so glad to have found it, I can vent here without hurting anyones feelings.. My husband does watch Mom some for me He does what he can, But if Mom needs help in the restroom or has an accident that is something he can't do and Mom won't let him. I work 3 days a week my sister and I have a cleaning business, My sister does keep mom every other weekend she will get her around 5 on Friday's and just recently started keeping her longer on Sunday but we work Sunday so still not time for me. I want to ask her to start keeping her on Sunday night to and me get her back around 6 or 7 on Monday but I am actually afraid too. My daughter in law sits with Mom on the days we work and it is good, she does get to bring the grand-babies with her and Mom loves it. Mom can not stay by herself nor walk by herself be cause of the high risk of falling, she wears briefs all the time because of accidents. I do have respit hours and we do use them when needed but i use them if we have to work extra days, I don't want to be selfish I love my Momma so much but I really need some time.
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Happy Mothers Day everyone... sending lots of hugs and angels.... hope it is special for you.....
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Welcome Lindasue you have come to the right place-we are a good group.
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Welcome lindasue..........my goodness your plate is indeed full! I can understand why you are tired......a young marriage, new babies, and beginning care giving and you've been at it so long, yes it's time for YOU now. Will your husband pitch in and help with Mom so you can get out? How about your children? Yes, the babies are young, but they don't take up so much time that one of the kids couldn't give you a little time to get out of the house. How about outside help? Can you hire someone to come in at least one day a week? Hope you come back and visit with us..........when everyone wakes up you will find lots of suggestions coming your way........in the meantime sending you a (((HUG)))........
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Happy Mother's Day! And sending hugs to those of us who don't have our mommas with us anymore........

crs..........won the COW PATTIE....yes, it's an honor!

The dogs woke me up at 6 am....darn those built-in alarm clocks.....so I will sit here and drink coffee and listen to the world wake up, then go have lunch with the col. Hoping it's not too windy out so that we can take her out to the area they built over a little pond for a picnic. She will enjoy the fresh air and sunshine and I won't have to worry about her trying to kill herself by pulling weeds! I still look at her door sometimes when I walk outside expecting her to try to come outside and do yard work. One of these days I will tell those that haven't heard it the story of the laser and the col.......we still almost hurt ourselves laughing about it.

Sending good wishes for a wonderful day for all of you!

Happy Trails.....................
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Welcome Lindasue, hope this isn't just a drive by post and you come back to see us.... friendly bunch here, lots of support and even a laugh or two... hope you have a Happy Mothers day, hugs and prayers for you....
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I am tired, I have been taken care of my Mother for 24 years, I am married and have been for 27 years two children 24, and 25.. 2 grandbabies 2 and 8 months, and I am wore plum out, mentally more than physically..I need time for me and no one seems to understand that, and then I feel bad for asking. I just don't know what to do anymore, i am only 45 and I honestly don't do what I would like to do. I would have Mom no other place but with me, I just need some time....
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My net is going funky today and now I have to find a new home for my kitty cat. Then my daughter did something she never done before in a long time. It hurt my feelings that she did but she also knows not to pick on a child smaller than her in a bad way . She is still sleeping in time out but she could leave . I am making pot roast so I hope everyone loves it. I also hope my daughter learns its not always about her but I am trying giving with all the difficulties I have been dealing with and then I have some smart ass trying to make up crazy stories about me and how I raise my children...this woman has no room to talk because she leaves her child unsupervised for max 2 to 3 hrs at a time. this lil girl is barely 3 yrs old and I am unsafe ...why do ppl have to be retarded when you speak ur mind and tell them to butt out of ur business. Some ppl just do not get my situation and I am for one can't wait to turn the tables on her...for one if she did call CPS on me then we have major problem but half the problem is solved I blocked her on my fb so no more viewing my page so score one for me...sorry for the rambling but its been quite a hectic day and I still have supper going and I have to take care of hubby.
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Had a good day today..got the house all cleaned, my sister and niece came, sis stayed with granny n pawpaw and my hubby, son, niece and i went to nice dinner. Pawpaw got sent home from hospital. No stroke or heart issue...a mild siezure was the dx..good night all :-)
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It's official, the Old Biddy let us hear from her singing her morning song, gotta love all the folks on here.... Isn't this "dysfunctional" alot more fun than our family of origin.... yeah, uh huh.... and it's even ok to be really hairy here, we love you even more becuase if worse comes to worse you can keep us warm in the winter... and yah I like the Hand thing too.... Jam, maybe that needs to be our new prize for hitting the double zeros'.... something to think about...I am taking my insane ass to bed,,,, disclaimer... cursing not directed at CRS.......... love ya'll
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Cock -a-doodle-doo!!!!!!!!!!
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Thank-you everyone for the prayers and angels sent to my Mom. CRS, I tried to send you an uplifting message yesterday, and at the end I was adding a smiley,and I hit the wrong key and poof!!! I couldn't redo it because we had unexpected company. My Aunt and Uncle came to visit. My Aunt is my Dad's sister and she and Mom are close. I think she really wanted my Mom's company because her sister passed away Wednesday and her loonie bin son she was living with didn't even tell anyone. My Uncle got a visit from the police to let him know on Friday. Ladee, you make me laugh everyday! I have been horrified of the hair problem for years. Tweezers are my best friend. Sheer panic if they can't be found. I'm happy its finally served a great purpose, and I became part of the family as an honorary cousin. I like the idea of "Hand" being passed around. Happy Anniversay CRS! Keep us updated about you Papaw. I love you guys!
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Don't worry CRS, I usually give a leat one warning before the cursing starts, so as it stands, your safe, at least for today...lol
Since Jam is the Mother Hen, does that mean we can call her the 'Old Biddy" ??? Guess we or I should say 'I' need to get permission first..... love ya Jamaroonie....
Beck, if you do draw that poster, use it as your pic, God knows there are days we all need the instructions for the coffee pot.....
I need to put sticky notes on my cabinet that I use to put my coffee supplies in... ran out of fliters... as I was going to sleep yesterday I though, " please God let there be some raggedy old filters up there somewhere".... Got up and sure 'nuff, there were a few, flat as pancakes.... fixed the pot, sat down at the computer to get caught up....when the coffee pot stopped, went to get a cup..... and had not put COFFEE in there.... OHHHHH NOOOOO, A WASTED FILTER.... funny how caregiving changes your priorties..... love ya'll ttyl
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Thanks for the anniversary wishes you guys :-)
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Lol ladee as long a you dont curse me we are good :-)
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Notlike...thanku for the coffee maker advice.I will try to tap into my inner Picasso, and draw the steps...i love a challenge..lol
I'm off to go to dad's house and drain their swimming pool...thank God my husband is helping! Hope everyone has a good day...
Later, ladies....hugs
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And Jam, you get to be the Mother Hen of our family tree, tho I said no mama's or daddy's, rules are made to be broken.... yeah, my poor little chicken needs a respite long enough to grow some new feahters....but as long as I am working for M, I totally expect my ass feathers to jerked out every day, butttttt, only if I get close enough..... ya, uh huh....
Happy Anniversary CRS, and I hope you will forgive me if I forget and call you CPR.....
Need to go check on Son then hit the road.... love ya'll have a day, if not a good one... hugs and angels....
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Good Morning! Checking in to see what's up for the weekend.......

Happy Anniversary crs!

Haven't heard anymore from seeme....maybe later on or ladee has heard something.

Didn't get our daily phone call from the col yesterday....the day before she was talking with Target and told him that a former aquaintance from years ago had just shown up at the NH......as far as I know he is no longer among the living.......she's been shopping with her husband....so when she says she is visiting with her daughter, then we will know the downhill journey has started. She is very easily redirected away from the demanding to come home these days, although each conversation starts with "I'm incarcerated here and these people won't let me out"........

I'm thinking ladee needs a chicken butt warmer for her avatar....................

Hope everyone has a glorious day filled with at least one nap...........
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Sending seeme and her hubby some much needed prayers. Thanks for the update, Jam.

Happy Early Mother's day everyone.
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