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I want you all to know I'm reading your posts and thinking of you and praying for all. I don't know if its the antidepressants or what, but it seems like lately I'm stumped for anything to say. Mom slipped off the portapot this morning. I am Thanking God that my nephew came out and spent the night, last night. He is 6'2" and about 250lbs so it was not to hard to get her up. I tried without him because she was on her knees and leaning over the bed. I thought if I could get her feet under her she might be able to hoist herself up, but her feet kept sliding. She has drop foot and somehow her toes were bent backwards and I think she broke her big toe or cracked something in there. She doesn't want to have it looked at cause she says there is nothing they can do. We had a really good day yesterday with my favorite cousin, and my aunt and uncle. They are in their 80's and are doing great. They actually drove from Tuscan to Indiana. Moms legs are really swollen, which I'm thinking contributed to her going down. I really wonder about water pills, she went all day yesterday. Now I'm just blabbering. I'll be back later, but Ladee, I think your few brain cells work better than most with a full house. LOL. Hope all is well out there, especially for Target and Jam. Vivian
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Vic, I hope you and your dad have a good day today and of course I wish everyday but that may be too extreme to ask in a Alzhemier's world. ; )

Jam, sounds like your dad is in good hands and I hope you are able to take care of yourself. If you need to vent you know this is the place and it does help.

cmagnum, I agree with Shelia that I do not see how you do it but I guess if you don't who will. Double kudos to you.
Jam and Cmagum, I think what Jessb that, "we need to do what ever.." we can do to find peace to ease our mind.
well, i forgot what i was going to say for the mnl just pop in asking me same question about what pair of pants she should wear even though she is wearing both pair! But she seems to not know where the other pair of pants. I just told her they were on her ass. Now she wants a pair of scizzors and you know that not going to happen. She thinks her pants are too long. I got get her out of her frustrated mood so we will have a somewhat nice day. : 0
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Meant to sy he did not have a decent dy....wishes right!
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cmagnum ~ Kudos to you. I can barely keep my head above water with regular ol' depression. I can't imagine having to go through caregiving while being bi-polar.

Jam ~ Prayers for Target's procedure.

Ladee ~ Everything going well with your son?

I'm watching the sun come up--my signal that I'd better get my ass into bed.
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Jam..prayers for Target and you...know all will be well soon..
Notlike..yaay for dad and hope your 'went' feet don't give you a cold!
Prayers cmag.
Vivian glad you are feeling some better. This wonderful thread just makes things easier. Would have been nuttier than I am.
Dad did have a decent day yesterday but he has slept pretty god so maybe today will be better. Still trying to climb out of black hole..am doing some better thanks to my wonderful hubby..
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Hi Jam I too take care of my mother in law who has Alzheimer's it is so hard I have 12 years in the medical and home health and still this is so much. We need to ask ourselves every day how are you and give a honest answer if where are having a bad day do what ever we can to make us feel a little better for me it can be as simple as sitting quiet with my eyes closed and breathing telling my self get though today just today.
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Good Morning and guess who can't sleep? Thank you all for your good wishes and prayers for Target.....I will be thinking of you all today.
seeme.....yep, 4 little incisions to get that thing out, then there will be a button and mesh to fix the hernia and he should be as good as new.....Yesterday the doctor walked to the waiting room and said "well Dr. _____, haven't seen you in years".....Target doesn't remember him well, but apparently he used to be a physical therapist and years ago Target's Dad had an accident and this guy was his therapist.....he commented about wanting to go to medical school and Target's Dad told him he would make a phone call.....the guy was accepted into medical school and now he is the surgeon. Small world!
notlike....hurrah for Dad!!!!!!!!!! So glad to hear the news.........is there any other way to make a cake these days? I'm guilty of that too....just don't have the inclination to make one from scratch. And isn't it a sad state when we perfectly understand what "went feet" are?
ladee......hope you have a good day....I know you will be tired when you finally make it home and then hopefully can get some good and much needed rest over the weekend.

Wishing you all a wonderful day!
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Prayers for Target this morning... He has many women praying for him today, remind him of that....and prayers for you too Jam, it's hard setting in the waiting room..
Notlike, What an awesome blessing for your dad, please give him a tight hug for me and tell him I am so excited he is doing so great.... I know you are happy, if that is even the word to express how you are feeling, that dad is on his way to being healthy again....
Sorry you had 'went' feet yesterday. hope you don't get sick, think of all the fun you'll miss, taking care of folks at work, then coming home and taking care of folks... I am doing the same thing right now, not enough hours in the day, right...
Vickie Vic, hope the clouds are lifting a little for you, I know you are having a really bad time right now.... just know you are loved and deeply appreciated for the position you are in...
Sorry if I'm not addressing everyone... even after I read, I don't remember what I read... when you only have a few brain cells that still fire, and some of them are making a sputtering noise, well, you make do with what you have.... love to everyone...
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ASG, I'm almost at the maximum dose for wellbutrin, plus with my bipolar II disorder, I'm also on lamictal, a mood stabilizer, and abilify which is to improve the effectiveness of the welbutrin. I've contacted my psychiatrist about my current state and maybe, I will be able to see her sooner than May 14th. Today was some better. What also makes things tough is my wife has so much pain in her back, and her foot, plus her hand is still re-cooperating from carpal tunnel surgery that I feel like I'm running an assisted living at home. Thus, I have to drive her every where that she needs to go. She wants to get better so that she can get out and do things. That's nice, but I want her to get better so that she can help with some things around here!

Thanks everyone for your prayers and support.
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Wet feet - not went! Whoops.
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Jam-I will be praying for Target, too. Hugs. Too funny that he is tall, but sassy, not distinguished! LOL
I am going to grow the best beans with the cowpatie to fertilize them! You are all too funny.
Dad's labs came back - NO malignant cells. Amen. That's one parent out of the cancer woods, praise God. He is so happy. It's good to see.
I made a spice cake (box mix - it's a work night after all!), and re-arranged the vase of flowers. Managed to salvage 3 blooms into a little vase. So we'll get another day or two out of them. I caught an awful chill driving home in the rain. My feet were went (darn Crocs) and the window fogged up every time I turned up the heat. Headed for a pile of blankets and my book.
Good night, and better tomorrows.
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Tell Target I will be thinking about him and wish him well . Sorry it has to happen, but what a relatively simple fix........unless he is scared of the surgeon?? And I am hoping for the simple 4 hole version of surgery for the gall bladder. This is when "being in the business" may not be a good thing, huh? Worked in the yard today and I am pooped. Everyone have a peaceful evening and get some much deserved rest. Love you all.
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ladee I've been trying to figure out how to tell the difference myself....:) he said thank you for the angels....he is pretty apprehensive.
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Ok, ya'll can tell I'm tired this evening....maybe I should have made a comment about his surgery FIRST.... glad things are getting tended to, and how is it again that you will be able to tell he's grumpy????? different how????? love ya Jam, tell him we are sending the surgery angels to watch over him..... hugs to the guy, he knows I care about him or i wouldn't pick on him....
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Not only is he a Dr, Jam, but a 'handful' too, damn girl, you did good!!!!!
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Home finally!!!! Target scheduled for surgery tomorrow morning at 11am. They are also going to repair his hernia......he's going to be a grumpy gus all weekend...:) Oh and he is tall....has long legs....about 6'. His whole body...not just his legs...:) The girls in the ER used to love working with him......if you told him he was distinguished, he would look at you with a handful and say "I'll show you distinguished....:)
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Kim I am so sorry for what you are going through-it is amazing how they can turn off and on bad behaivor-they save the bad for the family and as sweet as sugar for strangers-one friend from church who met my mother said she is so sweet-I saidNO SHE IS NOT.
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Darn Notlike, Seeme beat me to it, saying about the cowpattie for the beans.... see what happens when you are gone for a few hours....
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COW PATTIE NOTLIKE!!! As soon as I saw that I thought what good fertilizer that would make for your beans!!!!!
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Jam-I love the poof brain cell! I think some of my better ones have done that :) And I pictured Target the same way as ASG. Sort of distinguished looking, and tall. Don't ask me why. I don't mind going to the mall, but I always have a list and know which stores I need and what I want to buy. My girlfriend and I go once in awhile - we can spend alot of money in a short time because we are so organized!
Ladee-I know my happy thing for today. I get the cow pattie! Finally! Yeah!
Hope everyone is having a good day.
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ASG....hahaha not even close!!!!!!! Of course I've always thought Target was a good looking guy....what first caught my eye was seeing him in his baby blue scrubs and it made those green/hazel eyes turn blue........but he's a Levi's 505 kind of guy. That's not to say he doesn't wear khaki's when he has to but he has always said the money in his pocket is just as green as the guy wearing a suit.....and if anyone is shaking a finger it would be me!!!!! I really don't like shopping in a mall.....that was what made the col mad at me, she just couldn't understand why I didn't want to wander a mall for hours. I guess some people like to do that and I will if I absolutely have to but I will look for every way to get out of it first. And as for the col coming home, I would take care of her if she wasn't a total lift and I was not restricted to what I can lift. But she is so much better off since her physical limitations have decreased. It's sad that she doesn't realize she has these limitations......when Target or I tell her that it would be difficult since she can't walk, it's always "I think I can" and we tell her when you can get up out of the chair and walk, then we will talk about coming home. Well, we know that will never happen and thank you Lord that these thought processes don't stick around long.

Wishing everyone a beautiful and peace-filled day........hugs to all!!
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Vivian, prayer is what I cling to, and does more good than just about anythingelse a person could do. Prayers are gladley accepted here. Night:)
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Hey everyone!!! Seemer..glad I could give you a laugh. Ive been married for 9 and my daughter tells me today holy cow mom...thats almost a decade, ha ha. I guess if youve only been around for 1 that would be a long time. Jam, I cant imagine target as an ass. Ha ha. I picture target a good looking, guy in kaki's and a red bulls eye polo shirt holding a golf club, wagging his finger no no to you as you and his mother shoppy shoppy!! Am I close? Ladee, did they evr figure our your sons seizures? GMag...im so sorry you are in such a hole. It sucks I know. maybe you can talk to your doctor. Sometimes we need to review those meds and make a change with them. Have you ever tried cymbalta or welbutrin? Welbutrins the one I have taken when all I could do was sleep. Its supposed to give you a little pick me up. Jam, oh you know you wanna let her come back:) Not like I love that idea! Kim...I agree with Jam. And thy are gonna decline eventually. Maybe this time will the nh will be different. It sounds like he is in the last stages. Of coarse we do everthing we can to keep them going but once they reah a certain point its outta our hands. I hope you get some peace that is a very hard stage to go through. im sending hugs also.
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I just wanted to say Hi to Everyone, I've been busy with Mom's appts, and getting ready for relatives tomorrow. Cmag, I hope tomorrow is a better day, I can totally relate to the showering, teeth brushing, and not wanting to fix meals. Then we seem to beat ourselves up for what we are not doing. I come here and read what others are dealing with and I just wish I could fix everything for everyone. I can pray, and they say thats the best thing to do. Peace to all of you. Goodnight dear people.
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Jam.........All I can say is YEE-HAW!!!!!!!

I'm STILL chuckling about ASG's missing WD-40......BWAHAHAHAHAHA

Hubby is home and we avoided rush hour traffice by eating out during that time. Good to me.......he has been home almost 24 hrs and he is almost on my last nerve. When you have married 40 years, it doesn't take long.
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Well, guess who called demanding to come home tonight? Oh, Lord I am so hoping this isn't going to start again.....I wish that brain cell would go poof!!!! Why can't the cell that had Elvis be the one to stick around???????

Target actually ate some mac and cheese tonight.....first food in about 2 weeks. I think the Nexium is helping to calm his stomach. I'm hoping they will get him into surgery as quickly as possible. When he starts to feel better and eat again he should start cooking again....woohoo!!!

Hope everyone is having a good evening.............
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Jam, are we talking about the same Target??? An ass?? Target??? BHAHHAHAHAHA, don't tell him I posted that... he may get cranky.... BHAHAHAHAHA
Sorry they put him off for another day, but maybe all the bloodwork results will be back by then.... prayers for his grumpy old ass....and for you having to put up with him, but he will be feeling better soon...scairy thought huh???
New posters, you have landed as close to NIRVANA as your going to get.... everyone here understands what you are saying, how you feel, how you want to run away, and all the other stuff... you are not alone... so hope we see ya'll again soon....
Poor Sonny, who is going to go pick him up??? Anyone else want to take a shift answering that question over and over and over again.....that is when I start to feel like Chatty Cathy Caregiver, pull the string and I'll just repeat and repeat.....
Son was asleep when I went to check on him, he had his stitches and staples out today, so know he is exhausted, first time he has been out of the house in two weeks, and that was the ride home from the hospital....hope they took xrays so he could see how much it is healing... thank God for workmens comp... a stack of bills came in today from the hospital.... I wonder if they charged him extra for all the fits he threw....
Hope everyone had something interesting happen today, or funny, or just plain dumb.... If I take myself too seriously I would loose what little mind I have left....
Love ya'll, more later... gonna go check on the kid, the 42 old kid!!!!!
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Cmag-Hugs to you. I wish for you a better day tomorrow.
ASG-Glad she focused on something else today.Maybe you could tape shows on how to be nice to your caregiver/family, and play them repeatedly?!?
Jam-bummer on no appointment today. Hugs for tomorrow.
Ladee-Hugs, prayers, and blessings. I know things are hard for you right now, being pulled in two directions, and at it 24/7. Maybe we should all call ourselves the Energizer Bunnies, because we keep going, and going, and going.
Welcome to the new posters. Good to have you here. Hugs.
I am getting off the computer soon. I got new library books today, my sis sent me a book, and I have alot of bubble bath to use. Wish me luck...I'm not off duty yet - the parents are still awake.
Goodnight, and better tomorrows.
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Sorry to hear you are so down CMag........sending you hugs and angels to help you work your way back up. Hate to hear that you are so depressed that you are ignoring yourself.....hope you find a way out of this hole soon.

Kim......doesn't it seem like the antenna come up when you come home? Sometimes no matter what kind of medication they are on nothing helps and they holler. Have you talked with Dad's doctor to see what kind of suggestion he might have? It's also possible Dad's mental status may decline to the point where you can safely place him........sending a hug and wishes for earphones.......

ASG......Target isn't a baby at all when it comes to illness......in fact he rather resembles the southend of a northbound mule....:)
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First of all..hello to all you caregivers! Hope everyone is having a blessed day! The first part of my day was super! Kids off to school..paid a sitter to sit with dad and had lunch with my fiance..ive been home for about 3 hours and all i have heard is yelling saying momma i want to die..i wonder sometimes why is it when i pay someone to sit..they get to sit and watch tv in peace and quiet..when i get home i get the hollaring part of the day?? Its not a sundowners deal either because it can happen anytime of the day..i have given him his meds but he stilk continues to yell..im about to pull all of my hair out!!! All i can do is talk to him calmly but nothing seems to work at times..it will go on for hours! Ohhhhhh i wish i could afford a sitter allllllll day when we have these days!!! I cant put him in a nursing home..tried that and he refused to eat..went into a fetal position and deep depression..i cant let him die but i think i may go work in the yard for awhile or something..grrrrrrr
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