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Jam what state do you live in-it is amazing some people on the road-my son stoped n elderly couple in the middle of the night going the wrong just about to get on a major roadway -both the driver and his wife confused they were on the way to see their daughter and could not remember her name of where she lived-hours later the wife did remember her phone and was told he would have to take a drivers test -the daughter said he will not be ever driving again-and she calls them each evening at a set time.
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You're welcome stormy..........started the col on Seroquel last night so we will see this evening how she is doing. At least we didn't get a demanding to go home phone call last night.

brandy......what state are you in again? Want to make sure I stay off the roads....just in case. I was in the DMV one day and watched the person administering the test talk a little old lady through the whole thing...she didn't know what the roads signs were...couldn't understand what he wanted her to do....took her pic and handed her the new license and out the door she went. The number of elderly I have picked up from wrecks, without valid licenses, was really surprising. They don't care if they have one or not. I love hubby's response.....:)
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It being Friday, I was there taking care of her. She was cranky and crabby per usual. Now she insists that she is still driving. Lord of mercy, I hope not. I told her that she was not to drive and she became angry about it. I told her she didn't have a dl and she said fine, I'll just go get a new one then. I said okay. Knowing that in this state it is very difficult to get a dl, forms to fill out, birth cert things, she would have to contact the state she was born in, 3 other forms of ID, utl bills, voter registration etc. She I just said okay. Knowing her she will probably try to drive without a license. What fun. Then husband who has MCI says things that are strange too. I told him I had a 30 min of exercise in and he said half an hour would be better. What fun again.
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ok thanks jam. hugs to you!!! how's the col today?
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stormy I don't believe you can, unless someone out here is a CPA and can say differently. This year you can still take the Energy Star credit, but that pertains to doors, windows, furnace replacement.
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Hey ya'll i was wondering something and thought one of you might know. Hubby and i are getting our taxes done tues. and we had to have some repair work done on our fireplace and it costed us 3800.00 and i didn't know if we could get anything back off of that repair? hugs to all stormyyy
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Ladeeda Linda and I are on the way to dig you out of the black hole with our snowshovels-the garden ones are packed away for the winter-I will round up some groung hogs to help. You were owed a real mistake but that was not really your mistake you were only trying to clean. We finally got our snow storm and it played havic with our cable system.
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Morning All, ladee, stay out of the land of the blah's.. not a good place, I bet that the shade exploding scared the daylights out of you.

We're here in Long Beach now, got the paperwork I needed, it's overcast and kinda foggy, but not a bad day I guess, had a nice dinner with the Eldest.. food was great.

right now I am listening to Glenn snore.lol, we'll be taking off for Garden Grove about noon, will stay there for a couple of days and then head back to Desert Hot Springs to start putting the finishing touches on the RV and Trailer, so that we can hopefully hit the road come the first.

Hope everyone has a wonderful day, and there is peace and quiet on the homefront.
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Notlike, It does get old dodging verbal bullets doesn't it... I had shared how I was making so many "mistakes", well yesterday I really did it.. she had gone to Austin for her transfusions, it's a long boring day so I thought I would wash kitchen curtains, change the light bulb in the breakfast area, wash the globes..... you know, susy homemaker crap to keep me busy.....to make a long story short I didn't get one of the globes in the light fixture secured and it fell, and literally exploded all over the place. Glass in the living room, kitchen, laundry room, even found a peice on the cabinet top.......I just stood there thinking, now THIS is a mistake she can get upset about....!!!!!! Called her daughter to tell her what happened, and she said to just tell her I had already talked to her about it and not to worry about it....
She is always very tired when getting back from Austin, understanbly so, so I really hated to have to tell her of the MISTAKE I had made, so started out telling her the good news first, clean and ironed curtains, ect... then told her I had called her daughter about the fixture, and it worked... it diffused the situation, and the only comment made was, "well, you didn't have it in there right", my reply..... " well DUH".......so got to slide on out of there with my a$$ still attached.... today may be another story since she has time to rest and recharge her ' bitter' batterey....and you're right Notlike, lets make as many mistakes as possible so we will be very very wise one day.... lol...
Hope she does feel like making the girls skirts, will give her something to do and make her feel better (?) ...And give your sis hugs for me for making things easier for you..... every bit helps....
I am up this time of morning because a cold front is going thru and shaking my little house all over the place... so thought I should post before I end up in the Land of Blah's....... love ya and keep up the good work, at least we can see some humor in our situations and that always helps....
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Burned - awesome that you had a good family night, and got your money back! Hugs.
Seeme-deleivery dinner always sounds good to me, too. Happy A!
Jam-you could make a fortune in vodoo dolls, I'll bet LOL
Ladee-I am so glad I found you and everyone on this site. I appreciate you all saying how far I've come...I would not have made it through the dark time without you! And I look forward to everyone's posts - the strength here is beyond amazing.
Kudos to my sis, who had the girls make Easter decorations for the shelf in Mom's room. I love my kid sis and she makes this easier.
Mom got material today to start making skirts for the girls. We'll see how much energy she really has. She pinned a picture above her sewing table, on the good woodwork. When I asked her to not do that anymore, she said she asked Dad if I would mind. Argh! Wouldn't ask me herself, and now she can blame it on Dad. I've also been asking her each night what their dinner plans are, since last week she was too tired to cook for herself, and sometimes i make things I know Dad likes. Tonight she asks me if I've been "at her" about dinner because I think she's not eating enough! Well, I thought asking was how you found things out. Silly me. Ladee - this one's for you:
I've learned so much from my mistakes, I'm going to go make some more.
Put that in a serving bowl! LOL
Good night, and better tomorrows.
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Just wanted to let you all know that plans changed and we are leavibng tomorrow morning for SC,. I will have to catch up when we get back Sunday night. Everyone take care and have a good weekend.
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Its about time for me to cook dinner and my back is giving me hell...I have been so tired lately but the good news I got my money back and I am thinking of getting a tat. I got a decent quote on it..no not going thru some crisis just want something to show my family how much i love them and they been my bedrock ...its yr 3 now in Az so lets hope we can make it thru and make it work but on the good news one of my hs gf is moving out here and gives me another project and help her settle in and help her get over this painful hump this past yr has been for her family. its a project of friendship and good will. so hope ya all having a good one peace n god bless
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Yeah, had to come home and take a nap I was so stressed from making mistakes today.... by the way, I made enough scalloped potatoes to...... FEED AN ARMY...should have sent some to Seeme to go with her take out dinner....
Good thing I don't expect any thank you's or my, that was good's from her, I would come home crying everyday, no, I'd be crying at work.... jeeezz, that's pretty bad when you have to complain about the potatoes, and like Notlike's mom, I probably didn't serve them in the right bowl..... !!!!!
Oh well, the woman is simply teaching me how "not" to be....and guess I don't need to expect a reference from her, I make too many mistakes.... (smiley face emoticon here)
But on the real side of life, it was beautiful here today, got up to the love 80's....
Of course it will be cold again by the weekend, that 's my punishment for making so many mistakes....
I don't have allergies, but feel really bad for those who do... we have 'cedar fever' here and so many folks get so sick....
The Diva is staring at me so guess it's time to eat, should have brought her some potatoes....
love ya'll, hugs and angels...
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stormy.....I use Clariten for my allergies......used to use Drixoral, but couldn't find it so had to switch. Tylenol Sinus and Allergy is good also.

seeme....wings and pizza and just the two of you sounds good too!

I stopped and picked up a slab of ribs after getting my hair done.....put a few subtle highlights on the top and I'm now wearing the same style as Lisa Rinna.....will see how long that lasts...it's probably been close to 15 yrs since my hair was longer than 3 inches! Something tells me it will be again soon............

Haven't heard from our problem child this afternoon...aka ladee.....she's probably cleaning up her MISTAKES!!!!!!!!!

Hugs to all!!!!!
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Yes, SDtormy, spring is here. All the dafodils are out, so are the red bud trees, next will be Bradford Pears, then dogwoods. azaleas, pine trees.......it will be a rough one for pollen and fleas and ticks. Get Lily on protection.........

Thanks for the anniversary wishes. Hubby and I were going to Red Lobster for supper, but I have been shoveling rock from one flower bed to another and I am pooped. Back hurts from all the twisting, so wings and pizza for supper and it will have to be delivered......as long as I'm not cooking, it sounds good to me.

I've decided to get a little bistro set for under the breezeway to use in the summer. Will probably have to be concrete so it won't blow away.....we get real good breezes through there.

Notlike, you have definitely progressed on the trip of your life. Sounds like you are handling things better with mom.......at least, better for you. And Ladee is pissing Marie off without meaning to. If only she wouldn't make so many MISTAKES!!!!! Remember.....a smile makes them wonder what you are up to..........

Hope everyone has a good day..................later
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Jam-what do you take for your allergies? I just bought some clariden d 12 hours. I have not taken it yet cause i found some prescription zyrtec in the cabinet and i took that to see if that would help. It is driving me crazy. Found out that the pollen ct is going to be in the high range tomorrow. I feel like incasing myself in a ball so i don't have to deal with the pollen. Ugh. hugs stormyyy
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Good Morning Posse!

Doing a drive-by this morning to check on everyone.......Mother Hen ya know...:)

Welcome Kenna.....happy to see you here and glad you found the website also....there is a ton of support to be found.

ladee......I wake up everyday and try to have your attitude about things....you're special to me!
seeme......Happy 40th Anniversary to you! Do something fun......
notlike....I have this voodoo doll............ladee is using it but I bet she would share
stormy.....it's probably the trees starting to bud, that is when my seasonal allergies start, so you're not alone in the runny nose department.......
Vic......I also try to have your attitude each day.....you are such a good and loving daughter.
Ro.....have seen you on FB...glad to hear the snow is gone and hope all is well with you and Mom.

YooHoo............where are the rest of you? Having days of leisure.........

The col phone calls are continuing.....Target looked at me last night after the last one and says "where in the world did she find that whiny, baby voice"..........uh, just now noticing that are we? This was a very strong woman who worked as a Social Worker in the inner city before computers and nice soft, cushy chairs and where the customer came to you.........I hate Alzheimer's with every fiber of my being!

Hoping y'all have a wonderful day.......hugs and prayers to all of our angels!

Happy Trails,
Jam
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Am wrapping myself in ya'lls love and support and going to be with my Sonny man again today... hoping Marie is feeling better and not so angry, but it's ok if she is, I didn't break her and I can't fix her.... Maybe I can talk Sonny into going outside for a little while today.....be a good break for both of us...and we can leave Marie to her own little Kingdom of Resentment and Despair.....the more I don't react to her the madder she is getting, so no telling how this is going to turn out... I only know I have to go do my job, be respectful, take care of both of them, her if she'll let me, and feel good about myself at the end of the day..... not impossible... some of you have it a lot worse than me, I keep that in mind on the tough days... thank you all for sharing, keeps my world in perspective... love, hugs and angels....
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Notlike- i will try to find some, i don't know if i have a cold or if it is just allergies/pollen coming in season. Lord i am not ready for that. I hate pollen season. It drives me crazy and my nose!!!!! Thanks for the tip i will look for some tomorrow!!! Love and hugs ya'll stormyyy
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Notlike, yeah the list was pretty long, and since her and your mom are from the same 'town' maybe we should plan a reunion for them,,, ya know, get together so they can tell each other how pitiful their lives are, how no one understands what makes them so unhappy and volatile to the world and people trying to help them... of course they will be mad at each other before it's over , each wanting to have the most miserable life stories...have decided we don't need to understand it, just need to know how to take care of ourself in the situation....just reminds me that we make choices every minute of everyday how we are going to treat people.... guess if nothing else, we are learning it is not our job to make other people happy... nor do we have to participate in the pain they inflict.... I am grateful Sonny has Alz and forgets the things she says to him.... there are times I do intervene tho, and she'll just have to get over herself..... I love that little man, and nothing he does deserves the way she talks to him..... it makes her mad, but so what, she's already mad, so for just a few hours Sonny is made to feel that he still matters in this world.....
But am very proud of you for starting to have some humor about some of it... I know it helps me to look at how ridiculous some of the things she gets upset about.... and like her daughter says, 'if that kitchen sink could talk!!!'.... so am grateful her daughter understands I am not making these things up.... she has gotten so self involved she no longer fixes the coffee pot, puts our thier meds, leaves the kitchen table and sink a mess.... that's ok, keeps me busy and a moving target..... lol....
It's not going to get better, just different... that being how we veiw it and how we handle ourself... we are both doing so much better, thank God we have each other on this thread....
Vickie Vic, I know you are so tired and wanting to be in your own home.... and I appreciate that you share honestly about things, yet try to find something to be grateful for.... some days, I take it in, some days I say to hell with it.... but it always comes back down to blessings..... Surely God has a vacation retreat in Heaven for caregivers...I could do with an Angel massage, how bout ya'll???? I think I would be afraid to get one now, letting all those toxins loose in my body would probably kill me, at least they are contained in muscle now....
So for one more day we did it, one more day we survived, one more day we appreciate each other and the sacrifices we make... that makes it much easier for me anyway.... so love you all, hope you all get some good rest tonight so we can all be 'happy campers' tomorrow.... hugs and angels to everyone who knows what I am talking about....
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I want to start with saying except for one incident which I got screwed over ...a Dairy Queen doublecharged me and i have to go back to tomorrow to fix it. I got hubby in therapy today...He wasn't volatile and he did talk alot...I just sat in...He didn't recognize the therapist but once he heard her voice he did. The baby sitter wore the kids out and the dinner/ice cream wore the kids out. Daughter has tummy feeling not so good and my son he was glad to be out of the house. Tonight tho is great..I felt tho I didnt get anything accomplished ...I accomplished a goal of a normal family night out. Hubby even picked some flowers for me and his other girl ( our daughter) and lol I got to play speed demon on his lap with his power chair on the way home before he Knew it we were at DQ. I am so happy and bless but then that realization comes in of what more new challenges will lay in store for the both of us if he doesn't regain enough strength for this and that. This evening was bittersweet but a precious memory for me...i hope to plan few more suprises like that :) I have to get him outta the house more...Ty all :) God Bless
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Stormy - I had Rudolf nose last week. Found a box of Cool Touch Klennex at the grocery store. OMG - go get some, they are awesome!!!!
Ladee - That long of a list, eh? How do you stand it sometimes? Well, you are strong and you know she is so very wrong. We all do. Must be in the air - Mom's gearing up again for meaness. She was decent last week when she was so tired. Sunday she started getting her energy back and we started all over again in Meanville. Very cold, one word answers to me tonight. Just trying to make a little conversation, but she answers like she thinks my questions are stupid. Then yelled at Dad because he didn't know she was done making dinner for them. Now he's supposed to come ask her and find out when it will be ready, then be at the table. Even he thinks it's funny. Sort of.
Tired, tired tired. Working too hard because the other nurse is off and we've been swamped. Wishing I could hear - my cold is gone except for the stuffed up ears. And escaping whenever I can into my FB games and my books. That's probably not healthy, but it's fun.
Dad's last treatment is this week. Yeah! His sugars came back normal. Yeah! Now if he would stop banging himself up and bleeding all over (he's on a blood thinner), he'd be great. :)
Goodnight everyone, and better tomorrows.
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Have ya'll heard when pollen season is going to start in my area yet? I live in the southeast part of north carolina. I did hear that it was going to start earlier this year and last longer. yippeeeee!!!! NOT!!!!
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My nose is raw. Sinuses sp? are killing me. First i had a nostril that was clogged then i took some meds now it is running. And i look like rundolph the red nose reindeer. Ugh...... stormyyy
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Afternoon everyone, was going to make a list of things I did 'wrong' today in the World According to Marie, but thought I needed to leave room for others to post... the list is looooong, but I had a good day anyway, am getting better and better at letting in come in one ear and out the other.....
been up since 4, going to go lay down for awhile... love ya'll and hope you all had a good day... Welcome Kenna, hope to see you here again....
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I can't believe it i got a cow pattie... WooHoo!!!
Sis carried dad to the dr today just another check up and i carried lily to the vet for her shots but they wanted to start her on heart worm meds first and then she goes back next week for shots. So i came home and straighten up connor's play room and vaccumed in there and in the den. Sis is suppose to call when they get back from the drs appt. So just sitting here with lily lou napping on my lap. She done good at the vets office. Her first visit there. And they said she weighed 3.9 lbs. So she is growing and loves to eat. Well i guess i will get up from here and go do something probably wash the dishes. hugs and love stormyyyy
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I am doing good....I am glad I found this website
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Stormy...love ya girl. Your feelings are all normal. Just too much on your plate. This too shall pass. We all hate the feelings we get when we can't find our way out of the black hole....sometimes we have to just get though minute by minute. Many time I feel like a couped up chicken..with no where to go. Everytime I get comfortable...dad calls or mom wants something. When I go to my house to feed my kitty or wash cloths..I think how much I miss my things course they are only things but they are many memories of life and laughs and comfort. Oh well... Get tired of living out of bags and a couple of drawers. I look at my place and think this needs paint and the gardens need work and the yard Needs..blah blah ...
So then I turn my back and come back to mom and dads and look at them and think that I will never have this time again. And just sigh.....I say a little prayer to get the ugly thoughts out of my head...just do what needs to be done.
It was such a pretty day yesterday...made me feel good to feel the sunshine
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stormy.....you at least got the COW PATTIE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Hey ya'll brother has left he did not stay long. So it me and dad again. And he wants me to wash his hair. I just got through shaving him. But he is asleep now so i thought i would write ya'll back.
Jam-i'm sure i will probably just stick to the meds i am on. They work well and i don't want to try to get use to another medicine. I know that this problem is mine and mine alone and i just have to find a way to deal with it and get through it.
Ladee- i probably do need to talk to someone, but sis has always been the person i talk to about my problems and this one i feel i can't talk to her about but i know that i have got to change my way of thinking. Well dad is awake so i gotta go i will chat later. hugs stormyyy
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