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*find the humor in what your can...and the human in what you can't* im sending you an extra big big hug and prayers today cause I know you need em.
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Johnny I'm so sorry about that. That would be a shocker. In the nh in he alzhiemers unit it was so common to see sweet wonderful women who had always adorned their husbands seem to misunderstand other residents for a spouse. The spouse would come in and they would be holding hands with someone else. In their mind it was their spouse.I always thought that would be so hard for them. Most handled it with grace..some not so well. One man ordered we not allow his wife to set near this man. Wasn't allowed to eat with him wasn't allowd to set and watch television. The sad thing was this man looked strikingly similar to her husband. Even though she couldn't say much she thought it was him. And it comforted her. One sweet man came in faithfully and sat with his wife. He said it bothered him a little at first but she seemed happy to set and hold hands with this gentleman. So the husband would come set next to them. Would give the man company to. That man had no visitors ever. Both reactions are normal. Just remember she still loves the man she married. Its the disease that dosnt know. Inside she knows. Then again...sometimes I try to pretend I don't know my husband either if he puts me in the right mood:) maybe she's having a lucid moment:) jk. My great grandmother had early onset alzhiemers and would run my great grandfather out of their bed at night. Very insulted that her dad would sneak in bed with her. Of coarse her dad never did that. It was the alzhiemers but back then they didn't know so much about it. I guess it tore him apart. I don't tell you that to worry you,but just be prepared for anything. We have at least a little more of an upper hand now days cause they have done so much research. We are armed with so much more information that what we've had even 20 years ago. You love your wife with everything I can tell. Try to find the humor in what you can....and the human in what you c
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I hope he gets to feeling better. It hard enough caring for an elder+a child then to add sick kid to it to. Your a good momma. I can tell you really love conner. He's very lucky to have you,im sure he will grow up to be compassionate and loving I can see that in you when you write. MARFIL--- hey lady...so good to hear from you. You are an amazing woman!!!! Glad to hear about big work that's exciting. Pat pat pat...and kisses back to you. Yes honey you make such a good point about life not going backwards. Sometimes I think as caregivers we do that to much. We say I will do such and such when my caregiving is over. Not knowing that could be a while. So yes you find love. The right one will not care,you will be a kewl in his eyes for what you do for your family.
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Anyways. When someone in my house gets sick I have to act quick to keep it to a minimum. Hand sanitizer is a half to have. I go around a couple times a day wiping the door knobs and video game remotes, and anthony else they touch a lot with diluted florid water. Watch your clothes though. It really helps. Some people use Lysol wipes..but im cheap,everything cost me 5 times more. My sister uses all this cutsie hand foam and kids products with a frog on it. She only has one though. But I think she gets the stuff at walmart. Something else my kids love when they ate sick is jello water. Mix it up like in hot water like your gonna make jello then I pour it into a coffee mug, or sippie cup when they were that little and they loved it. It was good for them. If its a stomach bug...I was told by the doctor and it really helps. No milk products for a few days after they are better. Something about the virus feeding on milk and it revamps it. It really helps. I noticed a huge change in how long they keep stomach viruses when I quit giving them milk products. I was the worse for making them a milk shake when they didn't feel like eating. Or those little pudding cups. It seems mild slouch for them to handle. But it all has milk in it. So now we stick ti jello water, chicken bullion broth,jello...then move to other food. And take a break from the milk products.
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When auntie told her no....I had made her an appt. For the next morning with her doctor...she did try to talk her into letting her drive her. I don't think so. Again if she wanted to help she could have called me and offered to help take her places. She was asked once to help with the hair appt. A year ago but was to busy that day. She had a lunch appt. With her friends. No thank you. That with the people who stopped me in town 2 days in a row with a bunch of misinformation showed me her heart was,and it was in the wrong place. Got it from here thanks! STORMY---you got a little one with the pukes? Yep we can look forward to that in day care...plus when they go to school. Remember when the h1n1 was going around. Mine didn't get a vaccine. It hit the school ramped and someone who worked there clued me in that the school was technology supposed to shut down because to the percentage of kids outta school but wasn't because of money issues. I kept mine out for over a week. They didn't geget it but everyone else did.
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Good morning everyone. I tried to post last night bit it fell through...oh well. Jam I Love nurses to. Matter of face I use a NP for the kids healthy child checkups and will take them to her for an ear ache. The kids love her and call her by her first name...miss Wanda. However anything more they go to the pediatrician in the city. With auntie,she's on so many medicines, her b/p is so high its a very fine line she rides between high b/p and hypertensive urgency. One little screw up of the wrong cold med could send her for a tail spin. We are also right in the middle of changing some of those meds. It seem somehow between what was given to her at the hospital and what she was already on something wasn't right. Plus I was pretty peeved that she called auntie up and tried to get her to let her take her to a different clinic to see a different np without talking to me. Yes she is her own boss but if she wanted to be helpful she should asked if there was something she could do to help. Not gone on her own own and tried to tale her somewhere else.
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Good Morning Angels!

We've heard from new friends and old friends and how much better can that be?
MH.....PATPATPATPATPATPATPATPATPATPATPATPATPATPAT....for you! And say a big yes when you find Mr. Right!
notlike.....ouch! Too easy to snap an ankle....if it's not better in a couple of days better get an xray. So happy you had a good time with Mom and Dad....and cake too.
marj....your mil sounds so much like how the col used to be. She wanted to do everything for herself and for the most part I stood back and let her do it then I would go along behind her and redo it....but she really lost the ability to do that a long time ago.....that came with an epiphany the other day.
Vic....so glad you got to have some cuddle time. And I bet kitty appreciated that too. My chihuahua was a bit frustrated with me yesterday since I ignored him a little too long....he went on a kiss and hugfest last night.....takes the tension away.
johnycares......good to hear from you. Yes, it's sad and breaks your heart, but remember all the love from your wife that she has given and this is not her fault...it's a short-circuit that she can do nothing about.

Taxes.....is there anything worse? Well I guess a diaper full of pingo.....but finally got them done. Did the col's first and I kept coming up with this huge overpayment, she always pays her taxes quarterly, so my son had to come help his poor ol' momma......and he came up with the same. And yes, long form for us and the hard part was trying to figure out the form for foreign credit. That's what had me running in idiotic circles....and causing a dependency on alcohol...:) Started printing it all and Target is having kittens..I made the mistake of hitting the "save return and worksheets"....52 pages later.......what saved us this year is paying our own insurance premiums.

Couple of days ago we went to a reception at the hospital for a couple of friends who are retiring. It was so good to see old friends and Target is much loved and missed by the hospital personnel. Everyone was asking how the col is doing and then that made us talk about her later......and we came to realize that her dementia actually started back around 2002. We thought about some of the things she did, like getting confused with simple driving directions. We were so busy with our own careers that we didn't take the time to even think that there might be a problem.....if we had I don't know that it would have made a difference or maybe it would have made things worse....perhaps leaving her to fend for herself for those few years kept her brain more active. How do you know?

I hope everyone has a wonderful Super Bowl Sunday....I'm having lunch with 2 sisters today, then watch the game tonight with Target.

Happy Trails,
Jam
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Today was my first time when my wife of 52 plus years ask me the question when is my husband coming home? I told her to looked at the pictures on the walls and then ask me that question again. Still it was a shocker.
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Visit with Mom went Very well yesterday, VERY WELL! : )
I hope everyone has a great Sunday. Here is a little line I use sometimes, you might find it useful down the road, or at least have a little laugh. "Not only did he/she get on my last nerve, he/she stood on it, jumped up and down on it, and ground it into the dirt! LOL! "For when the times get rough"
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Morning all! jam...I thought about doing taxes yesterday...does that count?!?! Hahahahaha ...I am a big procrastinator when it comes to taxes..don't know why...but there it is! The new caregiver came yesterday..stayed awhile and talked and answered questions...when I got home both parents were smiling happily! Mom said she really enjoyed Asher and thinks dad liked her too! Praise God..He knows what we need!
Marjorie...know what you mean about your mom ..she is the opposite of dad..very independent, sharp as a tack at 91. Still gets around ..doesn't want any help.."I do too much " ..it has taken us awhile to get in a routine of sorts...she does quite a bit of puttering. She loads and unloads dishwasher, takes care of her laundry, makes her bed, pays her bills..I do statements.., she makes her and dads breakfast but I take care of lunch and dinner.. It is still so aggravating when I stop to do something else then come back and find her finishing what I didn't..errrrr .. At least I have stopped her from climbing step ladders, she will sneak outside without telling me..not that there is a problem with going outside but what if something happens! Of couse she doesn't need any help to walk..I can do it myself! ...
I have learned to back off and give her as much independence as I can..while running around making sure there isn't anything on the floors that she will bend down and pick up or get the broom....try to outthink them is like crazy!! Oh well....I am very grateful that she is in such good physical and mental shape.
Dad is doing ok...staying the same bad days aren't quite so bad right now..yaay
My day yesterday was nice...I cuddled with my kitty at home..and your right ladee she has never not once talked back to me..but she is very demanding when she want fresh water or fresh food and a treat!! Haha
We will try to make it to church today.. Then the big game...although don't think dad will make it as he has been going to bed pretty early these days..forgot to raise his legs a little last night..he is so squirmy..when he called to pee he was already scrunched down at the bottom of the bed!! So got him all fixed up...dummy me! Lol
god bless all of you and pray that whatever situation you are in that it is the best day possible!!
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Hi again, been lurking lately because busy schedule and no time for the computer...barely managed to read posts let alone comment. Mom(my MIL) appears to have gotten over whatever was "bugging" her. I did talk to her doctor about the possibility of a TIA and as expected he told me there is almost no way to tell unless she happens to have one during an MRI to check for blockages or such. The chances of her agreeing to one of those are slim-to-none so for now we will just carry on as we have, but keep a closer eye on her. And we are back to the usual frustrations of dealing with a 90 year old with no short-term memory....like trying to convince her she does not need to wash the dishes with soap before they go in the dishwasher! She so wants to "do her part" and not be a bother.....I just take a deep breath and let her do what she will. Often I think I have the opposite problem from many of you....Mom is so determined not to be any trouble that she will not let us know when she needs or wants something. There are times when I know she does not feel quite the thing, but I have to ''read between the lines". She will not request anything special, and even if I offer something, tells me not to bother because she does not want to be a burden! Arrrrgh! Believe it or not, that kind of attitude can be as stressful as constant unreasonable demands, because I have to try and guess what is going on.
So I take a moment to remind myself to be grateful she is as independent as she is, and the jobs she does around the house are really a big help even if I DO have to wait on her and/or hunt for things she has put somewhere other than where they belong......heck, my DH does that all the time! :)
Hope everyone has a restful night and gets a chance to watch the big game tomorrow if they want to. Super Bowl is one of the few sports events we pay any attention to, and then mostly for the commercials! Mom will probably stay in her rooms most of the afternoon because she doesn't like the noise of the TV. Hugs to all who are stressed this weekend. Like everyone else says, take a few moments for yourself, and don't let anyone tell you that it is selfish. Your loved one will survive and you will be a better caretaker if you take care of yourself FIRST!
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River-sounds like a great book. Glad you got a breather.
MH-Pat! Pat! Pat! and many more. Welcome, and glad you found us. I've been caregiving for 4 months...you are an angel for doign it 19 years.
Today good: Stayed in my pj's ALL DAY! Just because I wanted to.
Today bad: Sat on my leg, then tried walking while my foot was asleep. Came down on it wrong and sprained my ankle something fierce. Big lump, lots of pain. Oh goodie.
Today Good: Mom offered to help me make cake since I'm a gimp. She and Dad did most of the work, and it actually was a nice time. And the cake was yummy.
I no longer expect perfect days. But I am grateful for a decent one like today (minus the ankle)
Hope everyone had a decent day or better.
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MH, of course you get lots of pats on the back... I can not begin to imagine 19 years of what we do... and yes, look for that wonderful man that is going to appreciate what you have done in your life.....
What do you teach online??? and good luck with finding Mr. Right and hope he also has money... money is good too.... best wishes to you, hugs...
Jam, yes,it is rum and coke time.... bet your little head is smokin'....Is Target feeling any better???? Put all the IRS stuff down and relax and get some alchohol in you... It'll put the fire out in your brain..... love ya...
Stormy, there is no other way to ask this than to just ask it... why do you ask us questions and then not try any of it..... especially for Connor....If you had spent the past few days throwing up and going to the potty would YOU want to eat??? Get him jello, gatorade, thin soups.....We've all raised kids and managed not to kill any of them so mabe we know what we are talking about.... he's just little, it doesn't take much for him to dehydrate.....and keep him home until he is running around and getting on your nerves...THEN it's time to send him back to day care..... I hope I didn't piss you off or hurt your feelings.
Just a lazy cold day here, reading and snoozing, talking to the cat... by the way she agrees with me all the time, thats why I talk to her.... love ya'll, check in and let us know how you are....
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The Caregiver....How are YOU doing today? --- I feel darn so and so.. same old same old! Groundhog Day is what comes to my mind. No not that I'm living in a winter country. On the contrary it's so sweltering hot here in the Philippines. How AM I doing today? Just happy I got you fellow caregivers here online I don't feel so alone and I feel welcome. I feel we women must uplift the moods of one another. I am in the middle of my soul-searching trying to discern should I seriously look for the love of my life, to follow my heart and to say "I do" when I find him.... easier said than done. When a guy comes here to visit me, that's when the real challenge begins. I don't hide them my circumstances. I just hope they will truly understand that I'm not postponing anymore this part of my life wanting to find a mate, because I've postponed far too long already because I thought I'd let mom finish her business first, before I start seriously looking for that man! But I got my epiphany that life don't tarry backwards. I'd better search while I'm still a bit young & healthy. I don't wanna pass the chance. And I'm not getting any younger, and my daughter would benefit from having a balanced perspective of having a "dad" to call her own. Anyway good luck to me! Today is a "me" day so I love the chance to share my thoughts & feelings here. Tomorrow it will be another work week teaching online, and it will be another day for my mom and me at home together, while my daughter goes to elementary school. And few more men to chat online, hoping one of them is the Mr. Alright. Cheers everyone! I wanna watch the recommended movies "Groundhog Day" and "How to Train Your Dragon." I've finished Friends with Benefit and Bad Teacher already. These 2 gave me some funny moments to laugh cheaply while staying at home over this weekend. Perhaps this week I go out a bit for an ice cream sundae at McDonald's... cheap simple way to get back my balanced footing.. 19 years of caregiving is darn too long! I give myself a pat in the back.. will u guys give me more please? LOL hugs & kisses everyone
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Other than rest, I've done nothing today but some reflective writing and coasted along because my energy level was not as good as yesterday's.
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would give you some, but don't drink, the hardest thing I have to offer is Dr. Pepper, I use to do our taxes, but ours were the simple 1040's. Your probably having to do those that have 18 pages to them..lol..

Beyond resting, I haven't done nothing today.
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stormy.....I agree with seeme......keep him home, keep him quiet, keep him hydrated and hydrated and hydrated. Give him clear liquids, broth, chicken soup, then work you way up to more substantial food. How many kids in daycare keep their hands clean? They're always into something, wiping their noses, sneezing, coughing.....just little germ magnets......he'll get better but he needs to be away from the source for a while.
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I've been doing TAXES and I need alcohol!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Everyone has been very quiet today, I hope that means everyone is getting to enjoy the day some.
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Sounds like you sent him back to day care too early.......Just like at the col's NH, it probably hadn't gone through everyone yet......he'll be better by Monday....
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As ya'll all know that connor has been sick with the stomach virus this week. He is still not feeling good. Last night he threw up again. But that was the only time but it was right much. He had some pudding at day care and some hushpuppy after day care. He didn't eat much of them. I know that that was probably not the best thing to feed him as they have grease in them but i was just trying to feed him something and that's what he wanted. Well, today hubby tells me that he still looks like he doesn't feel good and his stool today was mushy and green and he doesn't eat anything green. All he has had today has been some eggs and a few chips. Do ya'll know what could be going on with him. He should be feeling better by now shouldn't he? hugs stormyyyyy. Just worried.
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You know the good thing about dementia-even early on set short term short outs is this: My mother ten minutes later didn't even know I had yelled at her. And yes, I was at my rope's end. Being in court all day for the now 12th time listening to my ex daugher in law accusing my son of vile things is daunting. Dealing with 2 adults in crisis is difficult. I didn't sleep much and when I did I dreamed of being in court presenting evidence to a demi-god of a doctor who didn't believe my father was sick. Not a good night sleep. But I did take my few dollars and go to a coffee shop this morning to sit and read. I read about Gladys-a parlor maid in the 30s who wanted to go to China as a missionary. She eventually made it. Just in time to help 100 orphans escape from YangCheng across the mountains to free China. After a grueling mountain trek this group of children with Gladys reached the Yellow River. Blockaded by the chinese they could not cross. The Japanese were closing in on them. Gladys in despair and very ill thought it was the end. Until. One of her children asked her if God could part the Red Sea could he not also part the Yellow River? Gladys answered that she was no Moses. No you are not, Silian answered. But God is still God. Renewed by this Gladys and the children knelt beside the read to pray and to sing hymns. A Chinese soldier on river patrol heard at first what he thought was the whirring of airplane propellers and brought his boat down the river to investigate. There he found Gladys and her 100 orphans singing and worshipping God. Gladys explained the situation and you guessed it-the Chinese officer ordered a boat to come to take everyone across the Yellow River. You know. It is hard to realize that in the middle of the challenge, God is still God. He really can make a way when there is no way. The weight of my "no way out" yesterday-the feeling that these circumstances won't change had blinded me to the One who is a Way Maker. I feel better today. Encouraged. Thank you all for the kindness shown. Deeply appreciated.
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Morning All, it sounds like pretty much everyone was suffering from serious "caregiver" burn out yesterday. I'll stand here before you and God and admit that there were a few times I yelled, I had reached the end of my rope and my grip was slipping on that last frayed strand. That was my warning that I needed a break, some kinda relief, even if that meant locking myself in the bathroom for 5 minutes. I was safe in there, I could relax for a few moments with no one there to make demands on my time or energy. When I came out, I was ready to dive in again.

Stormy, no murdering the husband..lol.. I've got the place to hide the body, I'm just not close enough to help you move it..lol, hubby's can be a bunch of big babies.. They want our attention and if our attention is spread out to other places, they can tend to pout, but in defense of the men, I will have to say that women can be the same way if the husband is working long hours, (they see if as providing for the family) or if they are off having fun with their buddies and leaving us at home alone to handle that end. Let him know how you are feeling. He might not understand it, but you'll feel better for doing it. Mine pouts and sulks if he doesn't get his way.

I hope that everyone has a better day,... Big Hugs and much love
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I would think hubby would want you home to watch the game and most important commericials if nothing else to fetch his beer chips.
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Notlike, great news for your mom, and hope things continue to improve.. my heart goes out to your dad, and my heart goes out to you for having to be on the sidelines and not be able to make it all better for him.... guess if we spent our days seeing all the things that aren't 'fair' we would all loose our minds....
Prayers for all of you today...
And billy, come back and visit.... we need all the voices we can hear to get us thru our days.... we all have something to contribute... hugs to everyone...
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River and Vic-Hugs for your bad days. People yell when they are hanging on by a thread...the group is right. Why is it that our charges can yell, and whine, and be mean, but when we react, we feel guilty? We shouldn't. And Vic, if all we get for prayering for patience is more tribulation, I am going to pray for something else from now on, like donuts or cake or cocoa. LOL
Brandy-Hugs to you.
Angela-Hi! Please come visit us again. There is a ton of support from people who know what you are going through.
Well, the brain tumors are shrinking. One is actually all gone, and now there is an empty spot where it used to be. Weird to think about an empty spot in her brain. They said didn't see the fourth tumor this time. That doesn't mean it's not there, just too small maybe.
Mom was pretty nervous waiting to see the doctor. She paced around the waiting room. It was good for her to get good news. And her cold is getting better, so she's good all the way around.
Dad is having more trouble. These treatments are taking a toll and he's having more trouble going to the bathroom. I guess all these flushes are irratating his bladder. I sure hope this works, because it getting harder on him.
Hubby and I talked last night. he knows how stressful this is for me, and I couldn't ask for a better or more supportive spouse. I am so lucky. I know that this is what I want to do, and that I will be a better (more wise?) person in the end. I may not remember that every time things get rough, but it does help sometimes.
Hope everyone has a good day today!
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hang in there and know that so many of us here know a little or similiar things you go through. i will go to see my mom today, and as on previous trips, i never know if it will go smoothly, or she will become quite ugly, in which case, i must leave. when she gets riled up, i tell her that if she wants me to stay, she must calm down. usually, she will say --- scream, leave then. sad to see her like this and she refuses to take any meds that i believe would help. we all just do the best we can, and come here as members of a larger family of sorts. sorry of the odd typing this morning. for some reason, i am unable to do any capital letters, characters, etc. have a good day, make it a good day.
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Wow Vic, and you survived all that, proud of you!!!! some days are like that, and especially when we hurt all over, too tired to be patient, and the ex caregiver could at least have been professional about the situation.... and try not to worry about your dad adjusting to the new caregiver... she may walk in the door and win him over....sounds like she has the experiance you need.... so you won't worry about your parents when she is there...and if you hadn't already been over the edge the other caregiver situation would have upset you, but not to the degree it did....
do you know her well enough to call and talk with her about this??? See what she has to say....???
sorry it was one of those days for you.... you haven't been feeling good and that wears us out on top of everything else..... Texas hugs to you Vickie Vic and you are one awesome daughter to do what you do every day and night..... so one blow up isn't any big deal... you will make up for it, but as what seems to be the norm for yesterdays post, we are HUMAN..... we get tired, we hurt, we can't think, we let things get to us.... wonder how our loved ones would handle it if they were taking care of us under these same circumstances.... you act like your parents never told you to shutup, or raised their voice to you.... I doubt that happened.... so be kind to yourself, look at all the things you did RIGHT yesterday....I love ya girl... today is a new day.... yesterday if done and gone..... lots of hugs for you today...
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Well it seems many of us had bad days yesterday...ughhh I was soo very crabby by the afternoon that everything dad did just got on my last nerve. And then mom right there saying he is telling me this or that and then I yell at him cause he doesn't want to try ... Just wants to give up. ..I even told him to shut up! Ackkkkk that was when I knew I was over the edge! I apologized for saying it but treated him a little rough. My back is killing me from moving him and I was so glad he wanted to go to bed early...stupid little things throughout the day happened.. Yesterday as many of you know is moms hair day... It is chilly and raining.. So I load them up and get them to town..take mom in get a cup of coffee for day ..go to grocery store hurry through and he tells me I was gone too long...get back to hair dresser call to order take it for lunch...go in get mom...get to restaurant...get back to car and he tells me again I was gone too long... Get home get him to bathroom.. Get him to table to eat a fantastic meal (seriously) ..he gets through ..take him to his recliner ...no sooner are we there and moved ..he has to go to bathroom.. And so it went on...
Know I was stressed it getting things done early so we wouldn't have lots to do when we came home..the more I thought about current caregiver the more I got upset.. She had worked with us every other friday and everywhere sat. For over a year. Then when her hours change at another job instead of saying I am working afternoons every Friday...but I could come until 2 ..she says she can't come at all on Fridays because she is going to stay with another lady every Friday from 7 to 2 at my neighbors.. I don't begrudge her that at all especially since my neighbor needs someone to stay 24/7 as she may fall. She uses a walker but with her ms and her kids not near it is safer for her to have someone there. As I said yesterday we found another lady..am real excited about it but she only has Saturday available.. So for dad to get used to her I felt the best would be to have her every Saturday. As soon as We make decision I text caregiver to call me at her earliest that I found someone..this was around noon..she finally calls back after 7 in the evening saying that she just got MSG.. Ok... Then she says that she has already been able to pick up someone else. I am happy for her but ..the more I thought about it the more I felt that we were just being pushed off to the side anyway and this was just passive aggressive..
That just added to my crappy day for myself! The pity party lasted all day!!! Stupid of me.. Feel shitty for treating mom and dad short and curt..
Prayed all day to be patient.. But when we ask for patience we get tribulation so that we can be patient!!!
The new lady will be here today...will go to my house hope hope to just hang out and do nothing but read and sleep and cuddle my kitty cat..maybe work on tax papers...hahahaha
Just vent away.. Needed to get it all out so I can move on..each day is a new day and we start from here right!? I love you all and thanks for listening.....
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stormy care giving is hard for all those involved....you and hubby are both doing stress-filled jobs and the one thing that a person always looks forward to is the time away from that job. So hubby has been looking forward to this all week and now his plans have been interfered with. He doesn't remember that this is no different than him being called in to work overtime or to work someone's shift....I'm sure he would want you to make allowances for that. Most men like to act like big, tough macho types, but they are wuss's when it comes to their honey's......he just loves you, misses you when you're apart, and wants to spend some time with you. He will get over this and when he does you will find a perfect time to bring up the subject of there possibly being more schedule changes in the future....some you can plan for and some you cannot. And if sis can give you more advanced notice that would help also....after all, you value and want your time away from care giving just as much as she does. It's hard being pulled in so many directions.....I think that's why God made us the stronger sex.....:) Hugs!

angela.....welcome and hugs to you! Wouldn't it be wonderful to have a button on the back of our loved one's neck that we can just push and the dementia goes away? Or at least the thousand repeated questions would stop......sometimes it's very hard to wake up with a smile when you know how the day is going to go...and then there are those days when that's all you do. Come back and visit, we offer love, compassion, support, and freely given hugs.............

Still raining here.............

Happy Trails Angels!
Jam
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