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A little worried about Caty today. been super tired since yesterday, coffee cup is too heavy to lift. No appetite, said when she coughed, it gave her stomach & chest pains. Hoping it's the virus my husband had. She does NOT want to go to the hospital. Wants to die at home. She is paranoid that if she goes, they'll keep her. At 95, what u gonna do anyway? Just tryin to keep her hydrated.
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Speaking of which.....has anyone seen the new commercial for freecreditscore.com and the hunky guy? I would apply if he comes with it....just saying.......
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How in the world does everyone find the time to post so often? I don't get to the computer as often as I would like, and then take too much time to think about all the situations, I guess. Plus, don't type very fast! Anyway, Mom (MIL) is doing much better. She has spent a lot of time resting. It may have been a cold trying to get a hold, but so far no cough or other congestion. Ladeda, the doctor did not mention anything about a TIA, but it is something I will ask her regular doctor about when I see him.

The posts about ADHD were interesting. I raised two kids with that, and both are doing well in the working world,etc. My daughter is not taking any meds right now as she is still nursing the baby, but says as soon as baby is weaned she's going back to it. She has struggled with memory and attention issues for the last two years, both of which she needs in her job. Son does not take meds, but chose his profession (Civil engineering/highway construction management) so he could be outdoors rather than behind a desk most of the time. The local children's hospital in Ohio had classes to teach coping skills for the real world, and we never let them use the ADHD as an excuse to not do their work in school (and allowed them to face whatever consequences resulted from NOT doing it!). But really can't take credit for how they turned out...credit belongs to HP(God) for that, I think!!!

Vic, sure like your comments on how we survive caretaking. I thought I knew what I was getting into when we invited Mom to come live with us, but the reality is much different. And she is still really quite independent, except for the memory problems. So, change and adapt to whatever each day brings. And now my DH has retired so we face a whole new set of experiences. Yahoo!!!

Well, will finish reading all those posts and catch up later, I hope. Hugs to every one!
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Hell no....ASG.....I want to see where you run with the sex........
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LMAO , ASG, I love it when you are on the 'edge', your humor keeps me laughing... hate that you have to hear 'death' talk all day everday.... my dad used to be that way, so we told him to stop calling 911, he didn't think it was funny, but we did.....
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hmmmmmm...She does smile a lot!
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Ok gotta say it....wonder If one of those 13 secrets involve laser lights???
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Hmmm looking on he screen I see prompts for an article "13 tips for seriously better sex" (lip smack) am I the only one seeing that??? We are all grownups here...nah I better not touch that with a ten foot pole. Tell me to be quite Jam.
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Burned I hope you get that ride...we are glad to know ya. Yes this is a wonderful place to vent.
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Ladee you went suppose to tell our secret shhhh....today im Michael Hall...shhhh
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Lol jam and stormy....that's why I make all these post all broken up into segments. Rozella had a good idea about copying the post after we write them just in case.
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Stormy....the loony bin sounded sounded wonderful!!! The spa to die for! Ladee lmao!!! Change shades huh? Hmmm my wheels are spinning. Had...bags listen to Ladee. And does she smack her lips when she's pissed???
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Oh Ladeeda I LOVE your "lectures" lol!!! You make very good points. Thank you. Maybe I should take up rock collecting;) or at least take my walks back...when she moved here I walked every morning. After months of being rushed and struggling with this...I stopped. Maybe I should go back to doing that. Besides me missing my walk my weight scales do to!!! They've been scccccreaming at me when I step on them.
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Stormy yes I do one and a half years ago I would have bawled my eyes out like a baby. Even a year ago. I have thought about that to. But after listening to her wanna die everyday...after her being completely miserable no matter where she lives...seeing where she is headed with her mentally. An im not a bad person either I value life very very much. I have also seen a lot of people suffer.glad you think about that to. I wanna hug ya!!!
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well hubby is on usual tirade about this and that; were not even at the clinic..I am just hoping that his main doctor will understand the concept of a statement for his his SSDI so I can make that blasted trip to Phx or Tucson ...hoping for a free ride there so I can take of this part of his life. Wish us luck calling the shuttle to see what is the hold up...should of been here by now ..to all suffering my prayers are with you and ty for being my venting buddies...
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well Hadassah, guess the computer trolls made you post three times,,, felt like Groundhog Day, and then you said something about looping all over again.... hell, we're all crazy and this is not even real, none of us are caregivers, we are a bunch of old movie stars with too much time on our hands..... I want to be Lauren Becall(sp), why??? Because I can.....
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Computer trolls----Ha, Ha I like that Jam. And you are about right. You about have to pray over these posts ( that they won't disappear into thin air, especially the long ones)... Love you stormyyyy
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Welcome hadassah....glad to see you here. I don't know....lazer guys might be kind of fun...:)

I had a long post written to explain to ASG and stormy how NORMAL they are and guess what? Yep.....POOF! Too tired now to rewrite it, but will later. The computer trolls are out again.
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Thanks, Ladeeda, You remind me of my bst friend (lives w/both of her parents). She tells me to use her delusions to get her to agree to change. ( I haven't even mentioned the guys with lazers that shoot from the street to open blinds and clog drains!) She tells me to blame everything on the lazer guys. To tell you the truth, I'm afraid of getting sucked in to her crazy world! I have wondered how she would react if she woke up to new shades...afraid it would all loop all over again. May be better left alone... Thanks for your friendship! ...I'd better go see if she's breathing..
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Thanks, Ladeeda, You remind me of my bst friend (lives w/both of her parents). She tells me to use her delusions to get her to agree to change. ( I haven't even mentioned the guys with lazers that shoot from the street to open blinds and clog drains!) She tells me to blame everything on the lazer guys. To tell you the truth, I'm afraid of getting sucked in to her crazy world! I have wondered how she would react if she woke up to new shades...afraid it would all loop all over again. May be better left alone... Thanks for your friendship! ...I'd better go see if she's breathing..
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Thanks, Ladeeda, You remind me of my bst friend (lives w/both of her parents). She tells me to use her delusions to get her to agree to change. ( I haven't even mentioned the guys with lazers that shoot from the street to open blinds and clog drains!) She tells me to blame everything on the lazer guys. To tell you the truth, I'm afraid of getting sucked in to her crazy world! I have wondered how she would react if she woke up to new shades...afraid it would all loop all over again. May be better left alone... Thanks for your friendship! ...I'd better go see if she's breathing..
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Asg- I don't think the psyco's know they are crazy. So maybe you and i could a place at the looney bin. I think that is seemee's spa??? Am i right? Hell, at least it would be a different scenery. Something different. Anything........ Love and hugs to you!!! Stormyyyyy
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Awww.... Ladeee- Thanks for the talk. You bout to make me cry. Just to know that someone else understands and that they don't judge you for how you feel, it means so much. Thank you friend. Love you too
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Hadassah, sorry ,if it were me, I'd have to go to yard sales and get as many different lamp shades as I could find, and just change them when she's being a butt... if you are going to be criticized, make it fun...... glad you are here, come back and visit.... hugs...
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And for ya'll that are being so hard on yourself for your thoughts.... I can only share my own experiance, Somewhere along my journey it occured to me that certain things kept presenting themselves in my life.... to make a long story short, none of us are all good or all bad... but learning to accept the things about ourself that are less than flattering, or that someone might judge, it's not easy....God accepts the good and the bad of me, so who am I to know better than God... yes, we all have things to work on.... that's why it's called a journey....It is ok to feel what you feel, those feelings are trying to get your attention, that maybe some changes need to be made.....ASG, if it's time to put her in a NH, then do what you need to do... Stormy, if it's time for you to set sis down and tell her you can't do this anymore, then do it.... I call it picking your pain, or picking your guilt, either way it is fear keeping ya'll from taking better care of yourself.....ask yourself fear of what????
Not one thing is written in stone, you do have the right to say enough, if you can't then understand you have picked the pain of things staying the same, rather than the pain of change..... at least with Change, things get different... not always better, but different....ya'll are tired and resentful, and everyone here understand that..... but always know you have choices... always....
ASG, that girl with the smile on her face, well she's still with us....
Stormy that girl with the easy going personality, well, she's with us also.....My prayers are that ya'll face your fears and change some things..... I can not imagine myself doing what ya'll are doing at your age.....so kudos to both of you for doing this thankless job.... prayers for you both to find some peace.... love ya both....
If this came across as a lecture, then I'm sorry for that, but not sorry for saying what I said.... love ya both
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I'm taking care of my 95 yr old mother inlaw for past 1 1/2 yrs.We came temporarily when her husband went to hosp. He died & my husband & I are stuck here. We honestly thought she wouldn't live long w/o him. She is mentally ill, physically pretty good for her age. My father in law protected her for 60 yrs. In her mind the country is still like it was in 1945, when she held a top secret position for the Fed. Govn't. We miss him more every day! Her paranoid sc. OCD personality disorder went well with her job, just hasn't fit in too well with real life. I don't have the mess problems I read here . She tends to love to point out my shortcomings in a very intellectually condescending way. In the beginning I had to shut her out of my room to stay sain! She can go on for hours! I've gotten a degree of calousness, I guess. It's funny, when she has a bad day, dizzy spells n such, My day goes better. BUT as soon as she feels good again, look out! She tries to take back control of things she can't do anymore. She was an office manager, so she gets into the filing (which she can't see) , messes it all up, then wonders who snuck in the house overnight and moved it! Just can't admitt it was her. She woke up and swore someone changed the lampshades. If I won't agree, then I have something wrong with my memory! She always brings up the 'lampshade caper' every time she wants to deflect attention from her forgetting something onto me. Always following with a sincere " It's not your fault, you just don't have the capacity...". LOL Thanking God for a sence of humor. Without it I couldn't make it.
Thanks for this site. Nice to see the universal feelings we all have.
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LindaH, sorry to hear Pa is not doing well.... He has certainly given it the good fight..... and as ASG said, you are a wonderful daughter, did you worry about him when you were gone or was there just too much other pain going on..... I recently lost my nephew in a house fire... so I understand how you feel.... tho I am not angry at God, just hurt that things are the way they are...and as much as my sis and I don't get along, it still breaks my heart for her to loose her child.....
Take care of yourself... prayers and angels to help with your broken heart....
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Allshegot- I know just what you mean. I watch his breathing too. And like you said dissappointment. It makes you feel insane or it does me. It also makes me think too why does god let this go on when he knows that we feel this way about our loved ones. It doesn't make sense to me. I know i hate to say this but i have thought about the day that i find out that he is gone. And again it's terrrible to say this but i think i will feel relief that it's over. Just a huge weight will be lifted. You ever think that too?
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And I know exactly what your mean about it feeling like everything good has been squashed. I don't think bad about you. Then again.....I might be turning into some kinda sphyco and don't know it yet. I wonder if syco's know they are syco's ?
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Oh and stormy!!!those are the exact thoughts that are tormenting me!!!I can kinda deal with thinking stuff let it pass I understand it happens and move on. But its the holding my breath when I walk into the room, and she will look all pale and not be moving,I walk closer to check on instead of feeling scared I don't...then that changes to dissapointment when does finally stir. Its the guilt of that dissapointment every night that's eating me up. And no im not crazy I swear. Im not some sphyco. But that makes me feel like one.
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