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Oh Jam..don't forget to stop by hobby lobby or the dollar store for a flower for the COL?..love ya!
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Hi all...busy day yesterday but good. Dad didn't see any bugs and knew where he was!! Woohoo.. He did get mad as a hatter because I had to cut his toenails...thank the Lord done for another few months! Whew. He has had his bath and he is up eating breakfast. Mom feeding him. He did do pretty good at dinner last night...fed himself. Good days bad days.. Just thankful that I can be here for them despite the craziness. Mom..well she is just great! For 91 she can do just about anything..some things she shouldn't and thankfully she doesn't try anymore. She drives me cockoo but be cause we are a lot alike..you know like mother like daughter!! Hahaha. Parents both love my hubby so I am grateful for that too. They really get along well and he is so patient! Have day off today..guess I will do a few chores around my house and love on my kitty...
Kids..well you do have to stay on top of them or they learn they can run all over you! Don't know if I could have handled this when they were little..but we do surprise ourselves! God doesn't give us more than we can handle! I know I know...while we are going through it is really seems crazy but when we look back..we see He was always there. Love and prayers for a good day in all our situations!
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Oh and ASG.....I absolutely love reading the posts from your phone! Keeps my brain working.....:)
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Good Morning Posse!

Up with the chickens again today! BRRRRRRR.......it's 13 degrees out there!

Welcome Marj........glad to see you join us and just jump right in and post whenever and whatever you want. I read your profile and it's refreshing to read how you are getting along with the caregiving. Your mil sounds like mine was in the beginning....except for the appetite. Mine always tried to tell me how large she was and even though she had an appetite like a lumberjack in truth she was 5'4" and 120lbs before she lost weight, then we managed to put that back on her this last year. Her mind is now gone to where as soon as the words are out of our mouth she forgets. So come back and visit with us.....we love making new friends and this thread has wonderful care givers and very compassionate ladies....and sometimes CMag pops out of his man-cave.

ASG......I sure hope we can get the lake house sold this year since we can't convince ladee to come here and buy it.....:) The kids would probably like swimming in Wheatland park. Sounds like Aunt is having some good days....I'm glad for that. Is everyone feeling better? I saw on your FB post where hubby wasn't feeling well.
stormy.....don't let that cyst go too long....you don't need an infection. Sorry to hear Dad might be getting another one. How's sis? Is she prone to kidney stones?
sorry for the long day today ladee.....but if you take your lap then I'll probably see you on FB.
Ladies please check in so we know how you are getting along.........hubby is taking me to lunch today and we will be visiting with the col also....must check her ears and make sure they are working....last time there I was having to hunt down a quilt so I need to find out if they ever found it. It's so much more cheerful for her than the green bedspread that is provided for her. Will check back in later....hope everyone has a great day!

Happy Trails,
Jam
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Marj, welcome... we hope you come around more often, even if things are somewhat calm for you, you still have things to share, a place to put that frustration of answering the same questions all day, or hearing the same stories.... that's a big one and it does get old, and it does get irratating.....
And if you've been reading this thread for awhile, you know us, now we would love to get to know you.... just jump right in.... it was very refreshing to hear that things are good for you in so many areas....we need to hear things like that, it gives us hope....so hope we see you again...
ASG, I love reading your posts anyway, but especially now with your new phone.... it's like a puzzle, we get to try and see what you 'meant'.... and great suggestions for being a mom with added responsibility of caregiving... does Stormy know how many little ones you have???? I always love reading your posts ASG, and wish we heard from you more often..... love and hugs...
Ok, we are going to try the long day again today.... that's why I am up so early... did sleep all night, AFTER calling the cops on the illegals and their music at 10:30, am starting a search today for another place to park this thing I live in.... I am too old and cranky too keep putting up with the crap that goes on here all the time....said I am going to cut my stress this year, and living somewhere else will definetly be one less thing to be upset about....
But the good news it they know me at the police dept. now, so I all I have to do is give my name and they know why I'm calling....sometimes it takes them 30 minutes or more to come out, during those times I am setting here thinking, hey, I know how to get them here faster, and all the beautiful visions of me out there with a baseball bat breaking all the windows out of the guys truck goes thru my head..... he sets in his truck to listen to his music..... so after awhile the bass and my heartbeat are the same.... one of these days, one of these days.......they don't speak English, I don't speak Spanish, but a baseball bat is universal, especially with a fat old tired lady on the other end of it..... but they don't let you smoke or have internet in jail, so those are my deterants..... so far.
Ok, gonna go make the big bucks today.... as ASG would say, blink blink, ok......
Going to take my laptop today, after I get all the Suzy Homemaker crap done, think I will play some games and just let Sonny rearrange the whole house if he wants to.... yep, that is where my mind is today....
Love, hugs and angels to you all today.... later, much later....
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It would have been easier at the moment to just let them out. But instead I sat there. If they got up. They went right back. We take bathroom break before we go to rooms. We also have a snack and gt a drink. Does this all take time? Yes...but after a few days it gave me more time for myself.which I needed. And so did they. It not easy. I can't imagine what you go through. My hubby is away most nights for work. I had to learn the hard way how to juggle the kids with the cargiving. You can do it to. You are a strong lady to do all you do. I can tell you love your kids very much. I hope this help:) prayers to you.
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Or I will look through the backpacks later. When I have time. That time never comes...so you have sleepy kids the next day from nit getting enough rest,cranky cause they didn't do their homework and know they will miss recess,and the whole morning is outta sack.nothing can be found. They go to school and you feel tinges of guilt cause it didn't all get done. In the end I have learned to take the time anyway. Its hard I know. I learned not to let the kids argue about anything. When they start in I say ...im not securing with a 6 year old. Im the mom,you have do do as I say...now do it. Bit mom. No but mom...not arguing with a 6 year old. Eventually thy learn. Same way with the bedtime. Its so easy to say fine...let them fall asleep when they fall,then you don't get your quiet time...then you are irritated they didn't listen. And you caved. Get them back into going to bed at a certain time. Make sure it gives you time to yourself..but reasonable to them. Tell them go to bed..don't argue. If they get up...put them back. You are the parent. Tell them that. I had to spend. almost a week setting next to their rooms in a chair at bedtime to make them to stay. Did I want to? No
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Asg- Aww. thats ok i knew what you meant. Hope you r doing well.
Well, I thought the cow pattie was a lucky charm. And i'm going to keep on thinking that. Glad i got one!!!! Thanks for all the congratulations on getting one ya'll.
Jam- Lily Lou is doing some better with the bathroom issue. But she still has her accidents. So i am hoping the poochie bells work that mis is sending me in the mail. They might be here this weekend along with the panic button(life alert).
Everything is pretty much the same on the front with dad, although me and sis thinks he is getting that neck infection again that looks like a yeast infection around his trach tube. ugh. It's something all the time.
And me and sis have not felt too great this week. Her back has been bothering her and she thought that she maybe having some kidney stones. So i was having to take care of her and dad today.
And then i have developed a huge cyst under my breast that will not pop. I have never had one there before. Although i have been plagued with cystic acne for years but that has gotten better since i started going to a dermatologist. The cyst is just sore. If it has not drained by monday i am going to the dr to see if they can do something for it. Well, i fell asleep trying to get connor asleep so i think i am going back to bed now. Night all. love and hugs stormyyyyyyy
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Seemer I miss all you guys to when im away. I try to drop in but sometimes am not able to post. Good news about flags wife ya. Vic..ok I had something to say but have forgot. Rozella..hay lady. Sounds like you have a new baby food for you. Burned...I pray for you in your situation. I can't imagine how hard that would be. Young children take up so much time as it is. It is so easy sometimes to go along with what they want because we get so busy cargiving they are the easiest to please. We feel guilty for this...then we feel guilty because we know they need more of our attention. Our hearts break when we see this affects all them to. A few wonderful people have made the point to me on here that kids are resilient and strong. It was so hard for my kids at first to get used to all the changes but it seems like they have. Im hoping they will learn important tings like compassion from all this. Something I've learned myself is...when we have the tendency give into kids because at the moment we have something going in with the person we are caring for...so its easier sometimes to let them not go to bed just yet,cause we are to busy to argue...or its easier to say...I will just clean their room myself instead of making them cause its quicker and I can't deal with arguing right now. Its
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Hi, everyone. First actual post, altho' I have been reading this thread for several months. I have been reluctant to post because my situation is actually very good at this point in time. My MIL has been living with us for about 2 1/2 years and is still quite independent. She takes care of herself and her cat and helps around the house with dishes and laundry [she FOLDS most of it :)] I do get frustrated at times because her short-term memory is shot and I often answer the same question or hear the same story many times in a day. Also she cannot seem to remember where things belong in the house, or how to do activities with "modern" appliances, etc. I have a pretty good relationship with the other family members, both in my husband's family and in my family of origin (both sides are small families) So tonight I am feeling grateful that things are as good as they are and I thank all on this thread for helping me to realize that I can detach from my little problems and carry on. I am very shy about posting, but I do read a lot.
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Oh gosh!!! My phone makes me so so mad. It was supposed to say yaaaaa stormy.
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Hazardous stormy for getting the cow pattie!
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River...lol..look back a couple pages you will see me talking about the same thing...we constantly listen to funeral arrangements and the special dress. You are right. No subject is taboo. Like you I try to find the humor in it. If I didn't I would lose my mind as well. Sheila...do what you like with your cow parties when you receive one..I like throwing them at people im irritated with(hypothetically of coarse:) Ladeeda maybe today was a good day for you to leave early. Jam...I thought about you today. As I was passing by palm..I saw the camp grounds and told hubby as soon as we get the chance I want to come down here. It looks so very peaceful. I hope the kids aren't to old before we get the chance:( auntie knock o only wood hasn't had anymore behavior episodes. Im hoping this is a new turn for us. It sure makes it easier when she didn't come out and throw fits. The cat has calmed down so much..she's not a cuddled cat by no means but loves to lay across the top of aunties chair with her. I have to remind her here and there not to feed the cat people food. For some reason its very sensitive to people food. Gets an infection if she eats to much of it. My kitty is getting bigger. He is such a comfort for me. I see why so many caregivers have them. Its so calming to have them close. We'll im thinking and praying for all the caregivers out there. Just remember sunny weather will soon be here. We've not had much winter to speak of so far.
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Glad I buzzed through tonight....River....sounds like never a dull moment with Mom....precious memories! Sorry for the mess with son....when my son and his first wife divorced it got pretty ugly, but thankfully not to the point your son's has. And he has custody of his 8 y/o daughter.

burned....glad to hear you got some rest. And yes, you shouldn't try to take on the burden of a sil.....not your responsibility, especially right now. We might find you sitting in the corner talking to yourself.

stormy.....how's Lily and the housebreaking? Saw that you finally got your cow pattie....woohoo!

ladee.....so glad you had a regular day....doesn't that feel good when you realize you can go home and relax? Hope you got a good nap.

Hope everyone is having a peaceful night...you're all in my thoughts every day.....and prayers are sent for each of you that your burdens will be light.

Happy Trails,
Jam
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River, you had me laughing this evening... needed that .... mom sounds like she has not lost her sense of humor.... sorry about the mess with your son..... hopefully this will not be a long drawn out deal, accusations are not proof... and poor granddaughter, in the middle of something she has no control over... prayers for you....
Sheila, a cow pattie is something that cows leave in the pasture after they have had lunch.... AND it the prize you get when you post with the last number being 00, something we started at the begining of the thread and it' just stuck, sort of like a cow pattie in the pasture.....
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hi alll....I finally achieved some long overdue rest and almost feel sane...on the other hand things getting worse for my sister in law that lives here in ajo...her exhusband gave her thirty day notice...she still hasnt gotten the since to leave ...bad enough she almost destroy the relationship with her children,,,neither of the two will be stand up enough to take her in...she may have parkinson's besides bipolar ...so what do they do ...they ignore her. I feel for her but I am not gonna let myself be trapped to look after another family member ...its not my responsibility...its her childrens which are both fully grown btw. Hubby is doing ok tonight so far no episodes and seems very talkative even at night when i am trying to sleep....still hoping for the best ...well i guess that is my vent for tonight at least...
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Riverleigh here. Met with attorney with my son today. Ex wife made allegations this week that my son molested their daughter. We are in for a very tough fight. Caring for my son is just as difficult as caring for my parents. My mother called me 11 times today to discuss for the 11th time funeral arrangements. Each call is new to her-not to me. She was crying and worried. So here is what I told her: We decided that you mom will be buried in the back yard, down by the river, next to the pets in a coffee can. It's just cheaper and since you have 8 kids we could use the money to go on a well deserved vacation. She said " well, ok. But it has to be a Maxwell House can and not too close to the river, cause if I get wet my name will be mud!" Mamma. got to love her. Have any of you had parents who were just flat proud of the plots they'll be buried in? My folks love their cemetary. Episcopal, ancient, dad would go clean their plots every week end. Mom was ecstatic that she and dad would be buried under a great old oak, next to the bishop and his wife. I guess no subject is taboo or too bizarre to deal with when you are a care giver. I am
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What's a cow pattie?
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Mix up at the oncology lab, so Marie came home, got off at the regular time... but will go early tomorrow... came home and crashed.....
hope everyone had a good day, later, hugs...
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Ladee- I'll try to check out the hairy fairy. Is it a long ways back on the post?
C-mag- meant to post to you last night. So happy for you and the wife. This is wonderful news for all of you. Now ya'll can go out and celebrate (LIFE)!!!!!
Ros- that is a big personality. Sounds like ya'll are two peas in a pod. Glad that she is a good match for you.
Well, better go check on pops. I hope all of ya'll have a great day!!!! Love and hugs stormyyyy
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notlike, hope this is not the calm before the storm with your mom, you must be on high alert for the next explosion... how stressful on top of everything else.... love ya... happy Zen day to ya....
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Cmag-how awesome! Good news for you and the Mrs. Hugs.
Semee-glad you are feeling better. I've been sneezing alot - hope I don't get a cold.
Vic-Lately, I've had so many errands to run, I stop a couple of places after work. It is nice to delay homecoming some nights. I won't be able to do that when Mom gets sicker, so I do it while I can. My sis lives 800 miles away. She is great support on the phone and by email, though. I'm blessed to have her.
Welcome to the new posters. You are going through alot. Blessings and hugs.
Still quiet at Casa Crazy. Dad's first treatment is tomorrow. And more chemo for Mom next week.
Have a great day!
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Ro, there couldn't have been a better dog for you in the universe.... give her kisses for me... and and extra hug for making you so happy.... love ya
mis, good to hear from you... how awesome the things you are finding.... and the autograph book, priceless.... hope you get to go north and have a good time, you and hubby deserve it... think about you often.... hugs
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Short post so it doesn't get lost:
Stormy, Dorothy is:
as smart as a fox
as hungry as a shark
as happy as a skylark
as fast as a hare
as stubborn as a donkey.
A big personality in a very small dog.
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Welcome to the new posters.

cmag- that's good news. Give Ms.cmag a hug for me. I know you two are relieved of the news.
seeme- glad that you're feeling better and M is on a normal shift. I'm younger than you and I got to bed anywhere from 8:30-9pm cause I got to get up so early.
stormy- yahoo!!! you have a cowpattie. :)

Yesterday, I finally got some cleaning done while the chili was simmering in the crockpot and even made a dozen of cookies. I was tired by the time my hubby got home. I did find a newspaper from 1851, now that thing is pretty darn old. We put it in a safer place. Also we found grandma's high school diploma and an autograph book from her senior year that was pretty cool to read through. One of our neighbors called and was checking up on us and was wondering if we were still going to be neighbors and I told her that we were. She was relieved. My hubby goes over plows their driveway since her husband can't do that stuff anymore. Speaking of snow we're suppose to get some tomorrow night. I wished it would hold off cause we're suppose to head north depending on the roads. Spring can hurry up and get here. Hope everyone has a good day and talk at ya later.
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Stormy you'll have to read back over the posts about the laundry fairy... hence the Hairy Fairy...
River, glad to see you back, I don't think of it as the internet per se, I've known some of these ladies for a long time and it's more like setting down and drinking coffee with friends, or drinking rum or all the other stuff we talk about here... not just caregiving... tho that is our main focus... we get silly sometimes, but you will feel the genuine love and support here.... thanks for filling out your profile, it helps us to get to know you.... and you get to know us.... hugs from all of us to you....
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Hairy Fairy? OMGoodness Ladee,
Yipeeeeee- I got the cow pattie!!!!!! Hugs stormyyyy
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You FINALLY got the cow pattie Stormy...... yehaaaa!!!!!
I would not lay a finger on him nor raise my voice, and I would have him saying yes ma'm in about ten minutes...... he is a good boy, most all kids are good... but I wouldn't be a young mom again for anything... after all we are now calling my son, Hairy Fairy....but that is a statement about his adult choices.... not the way he was raised... that's my story and I'm sticking to it...... going to bed, long day tomorrow... hugs to everyone....
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hi every one. I haven't slept in a few days so I am tired tonight. Just stopped in to say thanks for the warm welcome. Haven't quite got the hang of all the stuff on this site-I don't usually involve myself much with the internet. It's nice to meet you and glad to know there are lots of folks "out there" doing right by family and friends by being care givers. Hope I can contribute a bit to help a few of you get through the rough patches.
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Well, i guess i better see if i can't get him to lay down and leave lily alone. I will check back in later once i get him down. hugs stormy
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