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Ladee, I think my mother calls me only to be reassured that I am there. In fact, when I go to her I see that she doesn't need anything. She is just scared to be alone. But I can't stay with her 24/7: I could put her on a wheelchair and take her with me when I cook for example, but she refuses the wheelchair... I guess I have to move to a house with a one-big-room, so that she can watch me everywhere! We'll see.
Dorothy is well and she is a doll. Two of my friends came to see me on Saturday and as though it was nice to see them - they are the only ones who didn't disappear - they criticized me for taking Dorothy. They said "You complain you have no money and no work and you adopt another dog?" And I said I am having such a difficult period that I needed something happy in my life. And they asked me: "Do you want something happy, and you take a dog?" (Actually they love dogs). And I asked: "Do you have other suggestions? Shoud I go out with people more often? Should I have a nice trip? Should I go to the hair stylist more often?" Goodness, people don't have a clue. They don't know that any time I want to do something for myself or spend some time for myself I have to plan carefully, save money, (a lot of money) and so on and so on. When they feel like going out and have a pizza they just do it! They don't have a clue. It was nice to see them anyway.
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Oh Lord Ro, she is sounding more like Ruth every day.... if the tv was on she would get so confused.....she couldn't follow it, she'd forget what they were saying, then she'd start asking me questions... so then I couldn't keep track of whatever I was watching....
And she called me all the time, but never by my name...it was either Benny, her brother, Sharon, her daughter or mama...... especially at night, BEEEENNNNNYY, BEEEEENNNNNYYYYY, I'd get up , go in there and she would need the whole bed changed at 2 in the morning.....so I understand how you feel... don't want to not check just in case something is wrong.... walk ourselves to death.... how is Dorothy??????
notlikemom, how is mom doing on the chemo, is she getting sick??? I hope not, I have often wondered if I would go thru that , guess it would depend on a lot of things..... what kind, where it was, when was it caught, ect..... glad you and dad got out for a little while today.... and she was quite about it????? Hmmm, you'll probably hear about it tomorrow....
hugs everyone, going to zzzzzzzzzz town....
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Laundry is a problem of everybody! When you live with a person who suffers from incontinence you have tons of laundry to do. It is cold outside so it never dries. We have in my house just one room which is warm, which is the living room where my mother sleeps. So we hang all the laundry there to dry. On the stairs, on the racks, on the chairs near the stove... Everywhere! The laundry nightmare.
I have one problem lately with my mother. She calls me all the time. I am doing the cooking? "Rossella, Rossella, Rossella, Rossella, Rossella!" When I go to her, she has nothing to tell me. I dust the library in another room? She calls me again. I go to the bathroom? She calls me again. Every time I say to myself that I have to take my time, because if I hurry up to go to her, I know she has nothing to tell me. But when you are in the bathroom and somebody calls you all the time, you hurry up.
This is another stage of her disease and it makes me crazy.... She is scared of everything, of what watches on TV (anything! She can see just music and dance programs, because if in the TV there are 2 people talking, even if it is a soap, a sit-com, something happy, she thinks those people are scolding her, or they are in our house to steal everything! Oh myyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy
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Semee has alot of courage to tell us about her wicked laundry ways. I'll be sending mine over to her when I get around to it. LOL
Ladee-It must be scary to see seizures like your son has. Blessings. They said Mom could get them with the brain tumors, so I am filling away the info in case I need it later.
Vic-good Pony poop line. :) Glad you had a nice day. My Packers lost, too. i think we need to meet in the Laundry Room for a looser's drink!
Everything went well at church and brunch. Mom wasn't too happy that Dad and I went, but she was pretty quiet about it. She gave me permission to message the doc because we still haven't heard anything about adding the radiation and her next chemo is next week. We'll see what they say.
Here's to the start of another week. Courage, strength, and hope to all.
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yeah, hardly hear from her anymore, but she sure let us know she got her f##cing laundry done.... love ya bunches Seeme Sue....
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Suzy Homemaker.....that is......:)
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psssttttt......kinda uppity, ain't she? (((((hugs)))))
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I know what you mean Ladee I have washed 3 loads of clothes, folded and put one of those away and the other basket i started on and quit. It is sitting over there looking at me saying well are you going to finish folding me or are you going to let me sit here like you normally do..... I guess i better go finish them and get it over with. UGH......... hugs stormyyyyy
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Well aren't you just Seeme Suzy Homemaker...I'd write more, but can't see the screen for the laundry basket full of clothes....
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Been afraid to post lately......WHY?, you ask.......cause I got all my laundry done in one day, folded it as I took it out of the dryer, and put it away cause I don't use a laundry basket........I know. I can hear all the boooooos from here......
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Burned, my son has seizures that have just started in the past 5 years... the first ones, as far as we know were brought on by him drinking the stopping, the drinking then stopping, has had three in the past 6 months.... hopefully he will get his butt to the Dr. soon so we will know what is going on.... He has grandmal seizures, afterward he is lethargic, short term memory loss, confused, Like that for a few days.... the last one he had he fell face first on marlbe tile , broke his nose, blacked both of his eyes, bit thru his lip. So I know how frightening it can be to watch someone have a seizure.... he bled all over the place and scaired his daughter half to death.....
Sheila, we'll have to give the name of your book some thought.... mind is a great big blank this evening....
I'm sleepy and it is way too early to go to bed..... can't drink any more coffee, so I will have to get up and move around.... OH NOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!
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Sounds good Sheila....I'll buy the first copy! Signed of course??
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Jam ~ How about Hints from HELLoise. with a strikethrough on "oise" The rest of you ladies are pretty witty too. Maybe we could collaborate.
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Burned ~ I copied this:

Symptoms depend on how severe the stroke is and what part of the brain is affected. Symptoms may include:

Change in alertness (including sleepiness, unconsciousness, and coma)
Changes in hearing
Changes in taste
Changes that affect touch and the ability to feel pain, pressure, or different temperatures
Clumsiness
Confusion or loss of memory
Difficulty swallowing
Difficulty writing or reading
Dizziness or abnormal feeling of movement (vertigo)
Lack of control over the bladder or bowels
Loss of balance
Loss of coordination
Muscle weakness in the face, arm, or leg (usually just on one side)
Numbness or tingling on one side of the body
Personality, mood, or emotional changes
Problems with eyesight, including decreased vision, double vision, or total loss of vision
Trouble speaking or understanding others who are speaking
Trouble walking

It is key to get to the ER ASAP.

My husband Alan has had three strokes since April. The indicator for the first one was when he was unable to dress himself properly--wrong limbs in pants and arm holes--and a decrease in the functioning of his left arm. The second one was his stating that he wanted to go home while we were watching TV--in our home. The third one was a drooped mouth, inability to swallow and slurred speech.

As you can see, there is a wide range of symptoms.
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Well had tech support on my computer and they cleaned out ...even save my pw to this site lol and finally got back too it...so far no allergic reactions to the meds but does make him sleepy but now he is taking one after he eats and the other hr or 2 later so he isnt compounded with the severe dizzines and the other night he had seizure episode but he was alert enough to where he was and so forth but almost seem like he had trouble speaking....what are the signs of a ischemic attack...stroke related of course...anyone know would appreciate the extra info...
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Sheila you should write a book.....like Hints from Heloise....only it would be......let's see what will you name it? You would make a bundle!

Hope everyone is having a good day.....I'm bored and whining!
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"If they (undies) end up not working for him, you can wear them when you finally get to sleep and not have to worry about going to the bathroom... "

Another practical use for Depends is to wear them while shopping at the mall. Saves having to interrupt shopping to go to restrooms. Just kidding, just kidding. Or am I?
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Ya'll talking about gratitude and laundry in the same post just scares me....but I am grateful I still have the strength to go to the washateria...load, unload, load and unload, load and unload, but guess if I went more than twice a month it wouldn't be so bad... hell, I go buy new panties just to keep from going to the washateria... that's just sad on so many levels..
Sorry dads new undies aren't comfortable for him Vic, are they too tight somewhere or he just knows it's something different??? If they end up not working for him, you can wear them when you finally get to sleep and not have to worry about going to the bathroom... just a thought....
Need to get going and get the laundry thing over with... then I can leave them in the basket and sometime go to work wrinkled somewhere besides me face, I just look at it as 'caregiver camouflage'. You ever notice how we tend to put distance with someone who has on wrinkled clothes... well, it keeps people off of me at Walmart...my big outing for the week... woo hoo... we are just pathetic sometimes, so I am grateful that we have each other and understand about things like this... ya'll have a good one.... love and hugs...
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Vic ~ Poop - good one. What's an ironing board?
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Good morning all..
Ok..here's one..I am grateful for all the poop..he isn't stopped up!
Sheila..well the undies work but he keeps pulling them down or calling me so he can pee..oh well
Plan on taking folks to church today..just depends on how dad seems. Can't do what I did last weeks when he was barely able to function. Will see what morning brings.
Had a good day yesterday..ran a few errands, enjoyed lunch with a good friend and vegetated...and clothes..well they are all clean .. Basket and ironing board full! Hahahaha
Watched my beloved Saints game..boy it was an exciting game! Boohoo they lost....
Did rest and the pain eased up so..guess I am ready for another day.
Love and prayers you guys for the best day possible! We are all ponies for doing this job..man proposes and God disposes.
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Sheila-LMAO on the prime parking spaces.
Here's my last one-
I'm grateful for the lack of time because I'm so far behind that I'll never catch up and no longer feel guilty for playing FB games, reading, or sleeping when I can.
Sleep well everybody.
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"...no reason to eat apples." Tee hee.

I'm grateful that I can't do everything for myself anymore, because my daughter and son-in-law do it for me.

I'm grateful that a car accident f*cked up my foot so that I can't wear heels and pretty shoes anymore, because I save so much money.

I'm grateful that a car accident f*cked up my foot so I can't walk far, because I get the prime parking spots with my handicap license plate.

It IS fun.
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Ladee-blessings to you with so many memories of Ruth.
I love the pony story!!! I'll go with it...
I'm grateful we move the furnature around so much because it's like coming home to a new house quite often.
I don't mind getting rid of alot of my decorations and extra kitchen things because then I can go shopping for more.
I don't mind all the doctor appointments because there's no reason for me to eat apples (apple a day keeps the doctor away).
Hey, this is kind of fun.
Have a good night everyone. It's been pretty quiet here today.
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Someone wanted me to complete my profile. I prefer to leave it as it is. I wish to remain semi anonymous. My relatives are such odd people, I don't want them to recognize my posts. I probably have said too much already.
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Stormy ~ Your mentioning your friend's mom dragging her feet, and it jogged my memory about the same thing happening to a friend's cousin. So I googled drop foot. Could this be the problem"

What is Foot Drop?

Foot drop describes the inability to raise the front part of the foot due to weakness or paralysis of the muscles that lift the foot. As a result, individuals with foot drop scuff their toes along the ground or bend their knees to lift their foot higher than usual to avoid the scuffing, which causes what is called a “steppage” gait. Foot drop can be unilateral (affecting one foot) or bilateral (affecting both feet). Foot drop is a symptom of an underlying problem and is either temporary or permanent, depending on the cause. Causes include: neurodegenerative disorders of the brain that cause muscular problems, such as multiple sclerosis, stroke, and cerebral palsy; motor neuron disorders such as polio, some forms of spinal muscular atrophy and amyotrophic lateral sclerosis (commonly known as Lou Gehrig’s disease); injury to the nerve roots, such as in spinal stenosis; peripheral nerve disorders such as Charcot-Marie-Tooth disease or acquired peripheral neuropathy; local compression or damage to the peroneal nerve as it passes across the fibular bone below the knee; and muscle disorders, such as muscular dystrophy or myositis.
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Stormy, I have been missing Ruth for awhile now, just now being ok with talking about it....
Just spent the last 20 minutes posting about the banana and the knives for Sheila, and lost the damned thing.... AC is getting on my nerves with this crap, so will try again tomorrow, don't feel like trying again right now.... but Ruth was a character, that's for sure....love and hugs...
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Well my friend's mom was having problems with one of her feet was dragging and they could not figure out what was going on with her and they thoughts that she had a mini stroke. Not sure if she did for sure. But she fell in dec. and broke her hip. As far as i know she is not on any meds like depakote. I took depakote for years for my seizures then dr switch me cause we were trying to get pregnant. But i am not sure what all they have her on now. I will check with my friend and see if she is on depakote. Thanks for the info Shelia. Hugs stormyyy.
P.S. Oh i don't mind washing and drying the clothes, I guess cause the machines do all the work it's just the folding and putting up....
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Stormy ~ I can share my experience with Parkinson's. My husband Alan was diagnosed with it after his second stroke. His hands shook so much that eating became near impossible, and his knees would sometimes shake and buckle.Fast forward a few months and another doctor said she didn't believe he had actual Parkinson's. He was taking a very high dosage of Depakote, which can cause Parkinsonian symptoms. She lowered the dosage, and, voila, no more shaking!

Like Jam said, there's a world of info online.
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Stormy ~ "And i hell hate folding clothes and putting them up. Most of the time i just leave the clean clothes in the baskets and pick out what i want to wear. So my house looks like it threw up clothes and toys!!!!!" ...threw up clothes. Tee hee. I don't mind washing clothes. I find it therapeutic taking dirty clothes and making them clean. But there's nothing therapeutic about folding and putting away. I, too, hell hate it.

Ladeeda ~ Sorry you're feeling blue. Grieving sucks. It's soooooo painful. Cyber huts. I missed the knives and bananas situation. Sounds verrrrrry interesting.
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stormy....this best way to find out the information is to research it on the Internet. I could tell you that my brother-in-law has Parkinson's....he still has his practice open and see's patients on a daily basis....his hands don't shake as badly as they used to because of medication. There are days when he is really hard to understand. And he continues to be a wine connoisseur....that's about it on what I can tell you off the top of my head.

Hi anne.....good to hear from you again!

ladee....I remember well the trauma of the fx leg and bananas and knives.....big hugs sister....

sheila.........they sent me to the back of the line......
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