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Mis, my thoughts are with you. I'm sorry that your grandma passed though it's a blessing it was peaceful. She will always be with you in your heart and memories. (((hugs)) Bee
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Ro, she IS a Dorothy Lamour!!! What a face!!! She looks even tempered and I hope she brings you joy........
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Mis, you have my condolences, sympathy, prayers and hugs. But it will be a comfort that she died peacefully. You are a good g/daughter.
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emjo......wow look at you.........first the crown, now the COW PATTIE!!!!!!!
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mis.....it's with a sad heart I'm here again this morning sending prayers and hugs to you and hubby. Let the tears fall as they may, as that is part of your healing.
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I am so sorry mis, you and hubby are in my prayers.... I will be thinking of you...lots of hugs to you
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Grandma passed away peacefully early this morning around 12:45 am. Rob was holding her hand and I was holding his. Our youngest niece and her adopted mom was with us in the Grandma's room.
Rob called me before his shift yesterday and told me that grandma wasn't responding to the nurse when they'd move her or bathe her. I was going to come home take a nap and then go see her. I'm glad I didn't and went straight from work. So many emotions I have from the numb feeling to the crying. Well I'm going to get off of here and get something to eat.
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This is to introduce Dorothy to you. But I shall put back the feather in a few days...
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Notlikemom... Don't lose your patience... Breath, take a deep breath. I wonder why these parents we have, want to complicate our life even further.
Carol, congrats for your mother. They are made of iron.
Jo I can't say I miss Heathcliff. I worry for him, that's sure. I know he is well and today I will call the people at the dog shelter to be filled in...
Ladee have you seen that movie with Lucille Ball where she had a mobile home and she loaded it with hundreds of rocks? It was a very funny movie. The Long, long trailer. I googled it.
Thanks ladies for grieving with me every time one of my pets dies. It happens almost every week. I am going to bury the last one this morning and I am not looking forward to it.
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thx stormy - got it - think ur sis is a special person -(((((hugs)))))
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Emjo- sorry you couldn't find it. I will post it to my fb page so you can read it. hugs stormy.
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gotta add here -I dont look the oldest - oh my vanity is showing - sis and I are 14 months apart, but it is assumed I am the oldest because I have always been given more responsibility -`maybe because I was better at math??? go figure
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stormy - I didn't see anything on her wall about $20
ladee - so happy you have time off -and lots of rocks
maya - sounds like the docs are too slow - glad you have at least one decent cousin - hope the aches get better soon
cmag - good thread -see you there
jam - mimosa's - have fun!!!
sdpeg - glad the med adjustment may help mum feel better
notlike - not always the oldest who gets it - I am the younger of two, though people often assume I am the oldest. you are doing a great job!
carol - your mum is doing so well!!! awesome - prayers
mis honey - glad the new babe came - gma is safe - hugs and prayers
ros - want pics of dorothy lamour - hope u r getting some rest -I know you will miss heathcliff ((((((hugs))))))
anyone I have missed - hi and hope u r doing OK
got a cold, so laying low - roads are terrible here and the highway is closed south of town - good weather for staying in - pics of a winter sunrise (and UFO's???) and also the trip north are posted on facebook
hugs, love and prayers♥♥♥
jo
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emjo- yes, it is debbie m.
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And now I'll shut up.
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uh no, those are OLD rocks.... but guess if I would get them out of the car, they have been there awhile.... they would look NEW..... I had so many rocks in the trunk one time, my car looked like one of those cars that bounce.... can't think of the name of them... the back end was looooowwww, i was amazed at my gas milage after taking them out... well, I paid a nephew to take them out.... I don't pick em up twice.... lol.....
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I look around at what is left to be unpacked and I ask myself why I'm bothering because I'll just have to pack it all up again if nothing gets done about the wire and the infections it causes in her abdomen. Since we moved here, I've had a whole lot of grief over who I rented from because one side of the family doesn't seem to want to see anything good that he does, they just want to run their mouths about him because he isn't scraping by like the rest of us. They don't know him at all, but they know what they've heard rumored, so it must be the truth regardless of how good he's always been to me and now to my mother. Guess which cousin I would rather be around? Yep, the one I have for a landlord.

Yes, if I had my druthers, I'd druther have some more electrical outlets around the room and some drawers in the kitchen, but this cousin has told us that we can do whatever we want, that it's our home, not just where we happen to rent. The drawers will happen eventually, because if I'm here long enough, I'll see if he'll let me replace the cabinets in the kitchen with ones that my brother and nephew build. My cousin and his wife have been good to us and they've gone out of their way to make sure that if we have an emergency, he gets his crew out here even at night if need be. Our apartment complex in Virginia went from being a very safe and decent place to being drug-infested and run down in a hurry when the original owners sold it. Our next door neighbors were dealing and the mother was employed as a manager at one of their other properties, so nothing was ever going to be done about that by management. I talked to a couple of folks that I knew in another jurisdiction who worked in law enforcement and they put me in touch with local vice, so it got cleaned up eventually, but we went through so much harassment in the meantime that I wouldn't even let my mother sit next to a window. I feel so safe here, I forget to lock the doors half the time. There, the police were called to the complex almost on a daily basis.

But I second guess myself all the time about this move. Up there, she'd have probably already had the surgery and the wire mesh removed. Doctors didn't sit on their hands until something was life-threatening before they did anything. Here it seems as if nothing ever gets done, that it's a neverending list of appointments with these doctors, but they don't even seem to know what each other is responsible for.

I'm afraid of what will happen if they don't get up off their keisters and do something soon.
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Now we know why ladee hasn't been rock hunting lately........she just has to go to her car and "shop" for what she wants........busted chicky....:)
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Years ago I housed pregnant, unmarried girls in my home (as I have mentioned before) and we had "Thankful Thursday". Amazing how one day out of the week, when it was homework, what those struggling girls could find to be thankful for. So I will start this trend on this site, you may follow if you want to on the first Thursday in the new year:
I am thankful today because I received two phone calls from my mom's nurse answering my questions. I am thankful doc thinks outside of the box and changed mom's meds. We are all looking forward to her f/u appt next Friday to see what direction we will all go in assisting my mom in enjoying life. I have worked very closely with this doc for years (my dad was her patient as well) and I am more than thankful for the rapport we have. And the robitussin is helping her cold. Perhaps we all will sleep better tonight. SDPeg
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Maya....a problem shared is a problem half solved!!!!!!
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But that is what we are here for Maya, to share the load.... sorry it has been a bad day for you and mom....and it's not 'junk', it's your feelings and that is important.... hang in there and let us know how you and mom are doing... prayers for you...
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My mother saw the nurse today. It's back to wet to dry again. And yes, the nurse believes that I was right about another infection. In the meantime, my mother has been sick all day. She couldn't keep anything down. I called her primary and I was assured that he would call me back before the end of the day. I think I can safely say that it's not going to happen at this late of an hour.

And my hip is hurting and my leg is sore myself. My right hand is tingling from carpal tunnel. I've got a load in the washer, a load in the dryer and another one to start.

Sorry to break up the good with my junk. It's my problem, not anyone else's.
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notlikemom, yes, you are picking your battles... so that means you WIN.....less stress for you, and who cares if your car is filthy... will it crank and roll??? that's all that matters...mine would get better gas mileage of I took all the rocks out of it,from my rock hunting, but at least I know where they are.... lol...Progress girl, not perfection.....hope all goes well tomorrow...
Good luck cmag with the new thread..... it may take awhile for others to see it, but hang in there.... it will serve a great purpose....
I am going to enjoy my time off.... seems totally strange to not have to be anywhere for the next few days....
hugs and angels....
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Sorry. Don't know how, but I missed Cmag's post about the new thread. Awesome, and thank you for starting it. This eldest child can go read her book now LOL
Jam-you are so right about professional, good people in caregiving. They can swoop in and save the day. I'm so glad I talked to her and explained the situation before she came. She knew just what to do. Yours must have been exceptional to get the col to think it was her idea. Too funny!
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PegSD-so glad your Mom got med changes. Thinking good thoughts...
Carol-Go your Mom! Sounds like she is doing really well. So glad for both of you.
I am the oldest in my dysfunctional family. So I immediately thought about doing the thread. LOL That is a correct theory! But I've learned my limitations over the years. Let's kick this around...anyone else interested?
I am wondering if I will ever get a night without some kind of Mom issue. If I do, I will certainly enjoy it! Tonight it's taking Dad to his appt. tomorrow. I suggested he take me and pick me up from work, so we can have only one car for the appt and be able to talk when it's over. I really need to maximize my time. Although he prefers his van, we will be taking my car in the AM and the van in the PM because SHE thinks that's fair. I could argue he's never driven my car, it's filthy inside, and I'd pay for his gas in the van, but it wouldn't do any good. She can only see what's in front of her and that's the gas cost. Not to mention all the hours I've lost from work and miles I've driven to be there for their appointments. Oh well, it could be a bigger issue and that would be worse. So I'll take the small issue instead.
Done venting. Crossing my fingers that figuring out Dad's treatments tomorrow won't rock the boat too much here.
Sweet dreams everyone!
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That is great news; God is faithful.
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They have moved her , my Mom , to a regular room. She started in ICU on Monday, step down unit Tuesday , Wednesday and now to a regular room. She sat up for three hours today and they were trying to get her to use a walker and keep her bad leg off the floor. Said she did well. That is remarkable considering her age of 97 as said by her Doctor. This is truly the Great Generation.
Thanks for all the prayers and kind thoughts. Please keep them coming. Carol
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Birthday cake is done all that is left to do is frost it and decorate it and my son wants spaghetti n meatballs for dinner tonight...I wasnt able to take him bday shopping had an appt for myself and my daughter had a dentist appt. She was brave and handle getting two cavities filled today ...i am so relieved no more dentist visits for awhile except for me which eases some of the stress for a bit. I been having nasty migraines but at least i can sleep in tomorrow and i am not sure if i am gonna do my usual routine tonight besides working with hubby n then going to bed....i am just that worn out with the unknown of things and still praying for good things to come our way ...God Bless n thank you
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Carol, you and mom are in my prayers. Keep your chin up....hugs......
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So sorry to hear about Mom Carol......lots of prayers sent to Mom and you. Making it through the surgery is a good sign, but the thing to watch for now will be pneumonia since she is not able to move around.

Ro.....my heart is sad for your kitty.....but glad now that Dorothy will have a loving home with you.....pictures please!

Going Saturday to the winery that our brother-in-law owns for brunch and "all-you-can-drink" mimosas.............now I should find a designated driver.....:) Sounds like a good morning.
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