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Hey gang I am here but back and forth as today its cold and mom's in a mood. Not a grouchy mood just a mood that makes her clingy. We are a bit confused about something. Well I am but she's not sure either. I am making Christmas ornaments for the holidays for mom. She wants to give them out as gifts to her kids It would be a picture of Daddy in his naval uniform with the ship on the back (like the mugs I made) She's not sure if she wants to give one to Idiot brother or nasty idiot sister. Cause neither come see her neither call her. Yet she knows somehow they will find a way to see her on the holiday well at least idiot brother SOMETIMES does. She's just not sure if she wants to give them one while she's giving them to her other children. She asked me what to do I told her it was her decision. I really can't make that decision for her cause basically its her gifts. Yet I am giving her money to go shopping with my sister so I am not sure what's gonna happen. Its just a tough time all around. I figured I was not going to let ungrateful niece (who has not popped YET) get to me anymore. Neither her nor her hubby are talking to me. I texted him to wish him a happy birthday yesterday and literally got no response. Its okay ... I can deal... just kind of hurts to get burned like that by someone I THOUGHT i could trust. I am making chicken and dumplings tonight ... and I had some ideas what to do with the winter coming up and getting too tired to cook they have these easy alinium take out containers at the dollar store. I am going to get a bunch and make a bunch of dinners before hand turn them into tv dinners for mom that way when she's hungry all I got to do is hit the oven to 350 pop it in for 30 to 45 minutes and bam its done lol that way I can make a a huge homemade dinner only on sunday and give her good home cooked meals the rest of the week too without much muss or fuss ... lol though this means I might need to get a bigger freezer lol
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No treaters so far tonight due to the rain. :(
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HaPpY HoLlOwEeN !!!!!

It started raining about 4:30 and looks like it will continue all evening. Just had 4 treaters. And Mike went to get more candy..........looks like there may be another trip to the dentist for one of us................

Maya...hope there is nothing drastically wrong.........

Today we did errands and ate at IHOP. I have been in the bathroom ever since we got home. Guess the meal was too rich for me. Nasty, cold, rainy weather.....good for sleeping and diarhea........

Gonna dance with the stars and answer the door.....hopefully.....later.....
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The nurse was just here. My mother suddenly has gotten a fever and some nausea. The nurse wants to make sure it's not the incision, so she called the doctor. I'm waiting for them to call back.
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I agree with you, Rosella. Now, if I could just make that happen. Much easier said than done. We attempted to get in home care, she threw them out and won't answer the door for them.

Hey, I'm not giving up. It will happen. I just hope nothing bad happens in the meantime. I have to keep reminding myself that she is impacting these decisions. Guilt is an emotion I struggle with but not for lack of trying to help her!

I spend more time in my day doing research and finding potential resources to help in Mom's care than I spend on myself. It's exhausting. Since she refuses to go back to the doctor after her Mini Cognitive test, the doctor can't even tell her his findings, let along suggest any potential medicinal or other help to diminish or slow down the symptoms.

SDPeg, good luck with your studies! I'm envious! One of these days, I'd like to do some further studies. I'd have free tuition because my hubby is a professor at a local, private college. But...I have to get my eyes back before I can do that!
Maya: A walk sounds good. Some fresh air and exercise might help me, too.
Carolyn
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Ro your name is maciROni, but I just call you Ro for a nick name....or Rosellaroselladella, and I still call you Ro....the last one was a memeber of Saturday Nite Live many years ago.... she was so funny......
Glad you got some cash for the tooth....hey, can I borrow $70...... you KNOW I'm kidding..... love ya Ro, or maciROni, or Rosellaroselladella.......
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If you ever have the time and want to have a little fun on a phone solicitor's company's dime, when they call and tell you who they are, start asking THEM questions in return. You can start by asking them how the weather is where they are and move on to things like whether they like their job and what their boss is like. Ask them if their boss is listening to them as they speak to you. Ask them if there is anything that they really can't stand about them. Ask them why they chose telemarketing or fundraising or market research or appointment setting as their career because you find that to be absolutely fascinating. Ask them how you'd go about getting a job like theirs because you're ready for a real career change. Ask them what time it is where they are. Ask them if they're married and if they have any kids. And then, when you run out of questions, thank them for being your brand new friend and tell them that you like new people and you'd really like to stay in touch, so if they could give you THEIR home phone number, you'd be glad to call them because two in the morning is when you'd need their ear most often. Ask them just about anything, because they can't hang up until you do.

It's sort of like a prank phone call without you doing the dialing. It's fun on a stormy day. And believe me, it works. They'll never bother you again.
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Anyone want to have some fun with phone solicitors who ignore the DNC?
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Last year, we wondered if it would be cold enough for Halloween. That is not a concern this year! I enjoy this time of year for I dress up like a Jedi Knight and meet the folks at the door with my lightsaber in hand and on as well as the sound track from star wars playing in the background.

Have a good day and a good halloween night!
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Carolyn... I think your mom really needs someone to live with her. Or another solution...
Vic, always lots of things to do.
SDPeg, I hope you find a good solution for your mother and the food. What decision have you made about the car?
Jo is it very cold there already? Do you eat deer with berry marmalade? When I ate meat, I ate it in Germany and I loved it. Tooth: I'll have to put on a fake tooth; it is the last one so the doctor can't make a bridge. In a way it's Ok because you don't even notice that I have lost it.
Sorry if I forgot someone, my head is blank because I am working in the night.
Happy halloween
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Sorry, Ladeeda. I have a vision problem so I limit my online time. I end up with many posts to read. I must have missed that post. Sorry

You could call me BEE! That's cure! I'll get used to it.

I've tried to change my user name but had no success. I realize my signon is too long. So thanks for the idea!
Carolyn in Western PA
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Alzheimer by osmosis?
What's my name by the way?
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....She throws the food out. Poor thing. It breaks my heart to have these conversations with her.

I have to contact her PCP this week to see about another appointment. If he thinks meds might help, he needs to step up his role in Mom's care. I feel like I'm begging him to stay on top of this. I can't help that Mom is stubborn. He needs to at least try! Or am kidding myself?

Well, have a good Monday. And Happy Halloween, everyone!
Carolyn
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Good morning friends! It was a different weekend here. Snow on Saturday lasted all day. We didn't accumulate too much nere, about 2 inches. Eas of us they had upwards of 6 inches. Whew. We dodged that one, just barely!

Halloween will be noisey here. The contractor and his team are here to put the new shingles on. (We had hail damage from a major storm.) Can't wait for that racket to start. lol I may have to call a cab to get out of here for a few hours.

Mom is about the same. I do worry that she isn't eating very well. She gets dinner ready, keeps things warm for hours waiting for the "kids" to sit down to eat. She gets so frustrated and upset, talks to them and they don't answer, so she cries. I keep telling her to just take care of herself. Sometimes, she says she just throws
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Hi,
yes, the doctor's appt. The one I was fearing for a couple of weeks.
The weigh in was adequate for her doc at this time. Doc says she gained a pound but not sure math is her forte per se as I saw it as a half a pound but on well. Doc asked about normal food for breakfast, lunch and dinner and if Ensure is being drank and meds being taken at the appointed times. I am thankful doc listens to me as well as obviously I know and Mom forgets (and honestly, sometimes it is the other way around right?).
The consensus is to have another follow up in January when more tests on the cognitive ability will be given. Doc was pleased that I am going part time next semester and also that I hired a female caregiver. The balance of the male and female genders is important to remember. With the status quo we live each day as it comes and hope for the best.
Thanks for asking ... daughter and family came for dinner and showed of the kids' costumes for Halloween just as I used to do with my kids and daughter cried remembering my dad/her grandpa. Although this is the second Halloween without him, this is the first my mom allowed people over and it was bittersweet.
I took a day to watch tv and do nothing. A part of me regrets wasting time (I have reading to do for class) but I guess I needed it.
Mom and I prepared for tomorrow for the trick or treaters. Female caregiver will be here in the evening/night and that will be fun for mom. I am glad she wanted to get back into the routine she and Dad had ... she is looking forward to it.
Mom also gets very frustrated and says "I didn't know getting old would be so hard" and when I remind her she is 84 1/2 years old and some of this forgetting is normal. She always thanks me for that compassionate statement.
So for the next two hours I could continue to watch "Murder She Wrote" marathon or pull out a textbook and read a chapter. At least I did get my paper written and submitted last night so that is over with. woo hoo. Just have to hand in the hard copy tomorrow morning and onto the rest of the semester. Thank God jut six more weeks of lecture, one week of finals, and a break!!! (I sound like a worn out record!)
Good night all
SDPeg
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Oh ladee: so sorry to have added to the mixture of confusion...and I don't have rum in my coke (would love some tho). I am sooo sorry to be seemingly unintelligible at times! ... ALZ by osmosis ... I have often thought of that.
It certainly made for some fun and that's always fine.
Sending you hugs!!!
SDPeg
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Well, alrighty then... earlier I posted to carloyn in NJ, and asked if I could call her Bee because that was the last letters of her name..... apparently I did not make myself clear, and SDPeg, who I named that because there was more than on Peg posting, thought I was referring to her as her user name is Pegdbeelady...... so sorry for the mix up, and because Jam has too much time on her hands now and is adding a tad more rum to her coke at night also didn't get it.... so, I will try to make myself more clear in the future.....maybe we are all getting Alz. by osmosis.... I ask Jam all the time how will we know if WE get it??????
Sorry for the mix up.... well, not really sorry, did make for some fun reading there for a few minutes.....
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Emjo, I'm changing the picture just for you. It's the infamous Drew now.
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You know, thanks to the stimulus, we now have a sidewalk to go with the road in front that really didn't need the extra three lanes added to it. Maybe walking would do me a world of good. At least until the snows begin and the sucker gets slippery from ice. I've had too many broken bones and at my age, it doesn't take that much to get another one.
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maya - I am with the others. Your preacher sounds like he is seriously off base. That, to me, is a dangerous situation.
stormy -my heart goes out to you and dad and the troubles he has been having - even not being able to eat what he enjoys - our family seem to develop food intolerances so what we can eat gets more and more restricted - you do eventually get used to it
ros -$70 in hand is better than in the mouth. Are you going to have an implant?
ladee - hope laundry day went well and will pray for you to get a day off
jam - sounds like col was been doing well - hopefully she will find something good about the place again - praying that when the time comes to tell her it goes Ok
carolyn - caregiving at a distance is stressful too - but different from attending to all the physical needs daily
vic - glad u had some time with Billy - sounds like dad is hanging in there
sdpeg - what happened at the doc's visit and weigh- in - did I miss something?
mis - snow???? seems several places in the states have had a fair amount -is the brace working for the foot drop?
tpeg - fil seems to be doing pretty well - sibs -well I am about to confront mine...
seeme - glad mil has another arrangement - to much for you right now
cmag - glad you have been having some days of peace

everyone - hope the weekend was OK - I finally got a bit caught up on my sleep - the guys building the garage next door took the weekend off so it was quiet
am sorting out in my head and heart what do do re my sib and the cousins - I will remind her that in her last communication she told me she wanted no more to do with me and now she wants to "friend" me on facebook - so until what was said is sorted out to my satisfaction - we are not going anywhere else.

G is away with the horses as usual. Deer bones are cooking on the stove for soup. Cleaned out 1/2 the frig -will do the rest later, made some raspberry coconut ice cream, cooked up some cranberry/orange/apple compote. Have one more bag of apples to deal with and some rhubarb.Now I am going to walk to the store to get some fresh air and shop a little. Who else did their walk today? It is a good stress reliever!
love, hugs and prayers ♥♥♥
jo
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They were a couple from church who, from what I saw on the church website, became missionaries. Cathy and Ed were really great people.
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Maya, no your not loosing it!!!! Just got a lot on your mind, dreams can be confusing sometimes when we try to apply logic to them.... just try to laugh about it .. and maybe it's just time to make your choice about church and not concern yourself with what others think......
Who did you know in Hearne??? Have old family friends there....
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Ladee, I knew folks in Hearne and Navasota and Conroe and Waco.
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Well, here goes nothing....

I was up most of the night with stomach cramps. I tried to go back to sleep this morning, but I tossed and turned. When I slept at all, I had dreams about explaining my decision to change churches. Explaining why I'm looking for a new church did not sit well with cousin. He thinks that this preacher is fine. He doesn't understand why I feel like I do. He said it's up to me, but he doesn't see anything wrong.

Am I losing it?
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Hi all..happy late birthday Shawna! Sounds like it was a good day and what a blessing that was!!
Hubby is here soooooo...I was out of pocket.Friday we spent time together until 7pm as we had the day off. It was nice but boy does it go by fast...
As for Dad he is ok. Tired but alert. He has been going to bed earlier every evening. We finally made it to church today and he even stayed awake. We went back to the pastry shop of lunch. It was nice.
As for tests..well the CT scan was fine. So pain must be coming from muscles...hope hope. He isn't complaining as much. Blood work shows he is anemic and the kidney thing erythropoietin is low but he doesn't want to do anything right now. So back where we started..one day at a time. I have started to weigh him as part of morning routine to check for fluid gain, hopefully next time he can take a LASIK rather than a stay in the hospital. Course weighing him is a huge chore as he can't stand up for himself or balance. We just do the best we can.
Love and prayers for all of you. Vic
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Good Afternoon Posse!

ladee's nap sounds like a good idea to me............

Bee......(SDPeg)..................COW PATTIE!

Let's see.....the col called about an hour ago. Phone call started well, then went right into the toilet and she ended up mad. She's ready to come home, perfectly capable of driving her car, can walk without a problem and can certainly take care of her own personal hygiene. Her first words were "has anyone told you when I can go home? I haven't even seen a doctor yet"...........oh my, what do you say? We keep hoping the thought of "going home" will just go away like most of her thoughts do, but I know eventually she will have to be told and it won't be pretty. I just cannot fathom how she thinks she is as capable today as she was 40 years ago, yet can't even go potty without having it smeared all over herself. And when you look into her eyes, there is just blankness. It's a sad thing.

No football today.....will be tomorrow night. So I haven't done much of anything today. I hope everyone has had a good day also. Will check back later.........

Love and Hugz,
Jam
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Ladee, I lived there thirty years ago. I'm sure it's done a bunch of changing since. I remember going to Wally World for the first time in Bryan. It was more like a Roses then.
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OH my second one since I have been chatting with everyone here! woo hoo
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SDPeg got the cow pattie.
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Oh Ladee you may call me anything you would like...The SD stands for San Diego and Peg is my first name, but I do like BEE as well as that's an acronym that is still in the works for a business one day.
I wasn't so much comparing just thankful for the issues that I know personally I could not deal with. I am not a happy, healthy person without sleep so I am thankful my Mom goes to bed early, does not wander, and awakens only to potty during the night and although I do hear her get up and flush the toilet (the pipes of course go right past my bedroom ha ha) I know that she will go back to sleep. But other things she does that might be challenging to others, I can handle. She misplaces things and I seemingly (so far) have patience for.
I know there is nothing challenging that we can't make it through. I glean so much from this group and the support is priceless.
Today is a light day and although daughter and family are visiting, I will just make up a pot of pasta and sauce and viola ... dinner is made.
Hope all have a wonderful Sunday and safe Halloween.
SDPeg
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