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My avatar will be a candle for a while, because another one of our friends on the site is going to lose her mother...
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Just got through cooking dad breakfast and it is hot in here. When you turn on the stove and the oven in here I think this kitchen gets 20 degrees hotter. And being hot outside doesn't help either! Love and hugs stormyyyyyyy
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Hey all I will be writing short posts today to make sure this computer doesn't lose it. Love stormy
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Mismiley, my mother likes to watch on TV those short movies like the ones you see on Youtube. Animals doing strange things, people falling at the weddings... She laughs when she sees them. She is not capable of watching anything which has a plot, anymore. She can't follow the story!
Jam: At least, COL listens to your hubby... I know the situation; for example when we are back home after a ride and my mother refuses to get out of the car (because she doesn't want to come here, she wants to go to "her" house), I leave her in the car for half an hour (every now and then I go there and I ask her if she is ready to get out of the car) and usually after half an hour she accepts... In the meantime, I water the garden.... Of course the car is a protected environment so she can stay there; I can't do this in every situation.
Seeme: you are reacting the right way; a change of environment will certainly help you.
Shawna: if your mother still likes to see children, yes, ask your relatives to allow her to see children. My mother loved children and animals and now she can't stand either! It's another sad thing of this disease.
Ladee, when you are ready, (and I have some more $), come here and we'll have a road trip! I am going to leave my mother with the girls and I will hire a dog sitter to stay here. We definitely need it.
Night everybody
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Hi Everyone,
Seeme, so glad to see your making plans out of the house, good for you. I'll keep an eye out for the boob. LOL I've am new, but I feel so welcome. I'm so happy to have this site for reading and posting. These Ladies, I know there's a guy here too, but all have been kind and helpful beyond words.
Rollng coins here too, mostly sorting every jar of pennies, yo know the one's 1982 & before are worth more than a penny. close to 4cents of copper in them. we getting rain again. F-I-L is weaker again today, he's going to Doctor tomorrow, I hope there is a blood draw to check his white count and coumidin. I told my hubby we need to make notes to ask everything we want to know. This diarreah, hasn't cleared up, the poor guy is so weak. Right now though it doesn't have the C-Diff smell. it's raining again, yippee, almost a whole inch in the last week. thanks everyone, from peggy in tucson
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SH$# i had a long post that i just put on here and lost it and i am not doing it again. I will post tomorrow at dads. Love and hugs stormyyyyyyy
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Everything went better today than I thought. Today was voting day so I had to get mom up dressed and ready for the day. She was looking foward to it. So off we went. Well earlier this morning had to go with niece to get some things mom was relaxing watching cooking show so made sure she was good then went got things done came back. Got her up and headed to do errands. Voted then back home to relax did pull one episode of bending trying to sit with her legs but other than that was a good day. Told off neighbor when he started his bull today. tried to find my black chairs that were outside thinking they were still in the garbage heap that they threw there nope they went missing called sis to see if Rick came and got them for the baby shower ... she said she'd look. If not then someone took them which will tick ME off. They should start work on the roof this week sometime not sure when. Finished up design for Austin thats the little one coming. plaque... now just waiting for money to come in so i can purchase said plaque lol.... Gonna start doing ornaments either next month or november. Mom is relaxing gave her her meds and her sleepy time tea she should sleep good. Almost had a blow out with my niece though today. I know its hard to understand when they get mean and yell. But to threaten to keep the kids away from her because of it ... it upset me a lot ... if she did that my mother would give up .. period her great grandkids are the light of her life espically Alena. I talked to her ... hopefully she doesn't do that to her Mom does not yell when the kids are around ... or at them just at the adults when shes upset .... and what's wierd is if mom is in a cranky yel at me mood all Alena has to do is hug her and tell her *Gram* that she loves her and moms all smiles again. ...
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hey ya'll, Marie is in the hospital in Ausitn, hence the long day.... had to wait for her son to get here from Houston.... I am brain dead, and as the evening progressed Sonny got harder of hearing... I am tired.. they are running tests on her to see where this infection is.... she slept most of the day so was really out of my hair... so will be pulling long days until she comes home...
Vic, I am so PROUD of you for not having a perfect day.... and I know you know where this is coming from.... the world didn't implode, your dad survived the day and you actually said ENOUGH, I'm tired now.... am very proud of you, and you know I am not being silly when I say that... love and hugs...
Shawna, sorry mom gave you a hard time last night, but sounds like you are so on the right track with her diet...... you are an awesome daughter and I have no doubt you can handle the neighbors.....
Ro, we are both working out butts off, maybe one day we'll get to run away like Starri got to....miss ya but knew you were busy, glad you got out for awhile, sounds like fun...
Jam, let us know what the dr says about the col..... some meds will cause that too, but you would think she would have been doing that all along instead of all of a sudden,,, who knows with the col....lalalalala!!!!!
emjo, hope you enjoyed your walk today, I am going to WALK to the bed and fall in it, another long day tomorrow.... don't know how long she will be in the hospital....
for everyone I missed, hope your days get better, and you are blessed with the resources to make ends meet... and get some rest and take care of you....
Love ya Seeme, in my heart and prayers.... hugs....

I am tired, going to bed... love you all, later
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Checking in tonight..........so far, so good......I am busy even though the house is empty. Had to go see the lawyer today and get all that started. Got together missing information. Came home and rolled coins. Have bunches to do, but went outside on the front porch to have an after lunch smoke and ended up falling asleep in the chair !!! I was in the shade, a beautiful day, cool breeze....just wonderful...

Sisters finally made it home after a couple of adventures......like heading in the wrong direction for 50 miles....leaving an i-phone at Wendy's 3 hrs behind them.....the car comes with GPS, but they didn't turn it on......dummies.

Now Kathy and I are leaving next Wed for a trip to Illinois to see the newest baby and staying with the fave sister that just left.....take one bro his little box of things he had given mom....get in on the surprise 60th b/day party for her hubby....gonna be a crawfish boil. Kathy and I can drive it in 13-14 hrs, and we will stay one week and come back on the next Wed. I still have trouble realizing I can leave the house. I'm worried I don't have anyone to stay here with mom.................it will just take some time to get into the new routine.

We have started looking into fencing and of course still waiting for someone to fix the shingles......insurance will only pay to have the missing ones replaced.....too much roof to get the whole thing done.

Got to get busy doing all the clraning up from everyone being here before I leave next week....got packing....and I hope that this will delay the grieving part until later ........shamlessly, I want a little fun right now. The puppies will be the next thing to look for when I get back.......may have to order them for Christmas!!!

I have seen new people on the thread, and we are glad you are coming to visit. Don't mean to be all about me, but after losing mom only a week ago, I am still kinda numb.

Oh, did finally get a call from the hospital today and they still can't find mom's boob.....so, if you see someone walking around a little uneven, let me know........

And everyone have a good week............love and hugs to all, and thanks again for all your support....................
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rossella...yes the col has always been stubborn, but now it's more of a demanding when she wants something. She will get right in my face and scream at me when she wants her way. When we were at the Christening on Saturday she tried everything but the trash can to get rid of her glasses. I told her to put them on, that was as good a place as any, and she leaned over and snarled "you're not by boss"....all I had to do was say Target's name and she straightened up. He had already told her that if she continued to act like a spoiled brat we would just take her home. So at tomorrow's doctor appt she is getting checked for everything I can think of from head to toe. I've got my list all made out, so we will just go through that and we won't miss a thing.

Just got a message from ladee.....she's still working so that's why we haven't heard from her.

Oh dear, there must be a connection between posting here and my blind doggie waking up. Outside we go.

Love and Hugz,
Jam
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Good evening everyone,

rosse - My grandma is the same way. So I've started to keep track and will say something like well that's a quarter in the jar. It works sometimes and other times it doesn't.

Grandma was in a very good mood when I came home today. She was watching Anderson Cooper's new talk show. It really seemed good to hear her laugh for a change instead of being negative all of the time and waiting to kick the bucket. She wanted to go to bed at 6:30 tonight. I told her well why don't you stay up a little while longer. I'm just thinking of my hubby cause he works 2nd shift so he'll be able to sleep a little longer.

My Peanut (chihuahua) is a yr and half. Since I sprained my ankle in June I couldn't bend over very well cause of my crutches I've got him trained when I get his leash he gets up on the chair so I don't have to bend over. When Grandma goes to bed at night Peanut goes in his crate. We'll tell him it's bedtime and he goes right in with no problems. He also likes to lay around Grandma's neck and mine too.
I hope everyone has a good night and day.
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Jam, I am sorry... She has always been very stubborn, hasn't she? My mother is in a stage where she realizes she doesn't really understand anything anymore and she is very sorry about it, which makes me very sorry of course. As if a part of her could see what she has become. Very confused, but somehow she realizes. She says "I have become completely stupid". How many times we said we hate this disease.
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Rossella...so wonderful to hear from you! I'm glad you got to have a short time away, and it sounds like you were very busy in that time. Hurray for Franca!!!! Relaxing on the beach, dining on wonderful food......makes me jealous! So happy that Nicky is well and recovered. And your brother is being kinder? Maybe being stranded in a hurricane made him think twice.
Yes, the col's memory is virtually gone. But instead of being more manageable, she appears to have a mean streak that is showing up. Very stubborn and is an authority on everything. We have an appt with her doctor tomorrow.....will have to remind her again tonight and she won't be any happier than she was the first time I told her.

burned....with dementia, your husband is probably not able to make an informed decision on what would be the best for his welfare right now, let alone you and the children. Is going to Wa going to be the best move for the entire family? Then you will have to be firm and make the decision yourself. You don't plan to leave your husband in a NH permanently, so tell him this is only temporary and soon you will all be together again. If you are waiting to get his approval, I think it may be a very long wait.

I hope everyone has had a great day....time to fix dinner for the col.

Love and Hugz to all,
Jam
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it's "wellness", not "well being"!!!!
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Ah by the way, on the other thread someone said that the NASA diapers are wonderful. You can google "NASA diapers" and you will find the firm which produces them, something like "Wellbeing". I am thinking that my brother could import them, he has a parapharmacy.
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Hi girls I read the posts of last week to know what was going on.
Seeme, I am very sorry for your mother but I am glad she passed away with little pain and surrounded by her children. You really did everything you could to take good care of her and you must be proud of it! Now I hope you can get some rest, because these last months have been very hard for you.
Emjo I am glad you are better with your tooth ache.
Starry I have seen photos of your trip on Facebook and I am jealous... I want to travel, too.
Stormy I think that the doctors don't really know what to tell you about your father. The problem is not that they "don't want" to tell you, but it seems to me they don't really understand... I am very sorry for your cousin who lost her husband so young. She has been very brave to throw a party for her daughter, she really is a good mother. These insects are getting very dangerous.
Jam, it seems your COL is getting worse... I only hope that, getting more disoriented, she will become more manageable.
Ladee was there a fire in your area? I am glad you are okay. I am sorry Marie is acring crazy, I am sorry for you and for Sonny, too!
ASG I would take the goose back, wash her, put some band-aids on her "wounds" and tell your daughter that she had an amazing adventure; she (the goose) got lost and she had to climb mountains and cross rivers, and was attacked by huge animals and won the battle every time, to go back to her. Your daughter won't believe a word, of course, but she might like the story and accept the scratches on the poor goose's body. And, being a cat lover, I would buy a cat toy for the cat.
Forgive me if I disappeared, but every now and then my financial problems become the most pressing issue of my life; more pressing than my mother's health, in these cases I have to work work work so I can ask money from my clients. I'm walking on the razor's edge these months, and I have a big family to support. I have a few days of rest, now, and I spent the first one of them sleeping for 15 hours! I was exhausted.
I spent one and a half day on the beach with my great cousin Franca who did her best to entertain me and it seemed to me it was a longer vacation. I went to the beach, I was invited to dinner in a resto, I met lots of people... It was very good. Franca literally drags me out of my burrow when she feels I need it!
My brother came back from NYC with no damage and he is kinder than usual.
Many kisses to everybody! I hope I will be more present in the future. Not too much, because it would mean I have no work!
Ah BTW Nicky is very well and kisses all of you!
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i woke up with a headache and especially after trying once more to get hubby to consider NH temporarily so I can leave with the kids to Wa to get a home etc but no its beneath him to be there and well i gotta do errands...do some housework and see if i am in the mood to make his pot roast lol. I need a better processor/blender but can't afford a new one
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54 - stress will cause your blood sugar to go up and that is way too high

with the stress of the pain from this extraction I put on 5 lbs in a week and it was NOT what I was eating which was less than usual because of mouth pain. -stress

to get it back down, exercise and also cutting carbohydrates really low for a while will help as will anything that reduces stress. - make sure you eat enough protein

I am supposed to go in for my annual medical but will wait till I get my weight back down as right now I am sure my blood sugar is up but due to the pain and also lack of exercise these days - walking works for me and I have to start again today

have you thought about placing your hubby in a facility? I know you said your promised not to but life changes and sometimes we can't do what we thought we could - I am facing this with my mother and POA - due to her mental illness, and the family history, dealing with her over this is so stressful for me it affects my health. I can't afford this - in some ways she is healthier than me. It makes no sense to me for you - or me - to go downhill while looking after someone who could be looked after by someone else just as well - in my case probably better.

the first thing on this thread is look after you - the caregiver - you sound so deoressed - are you on antidepressants? most of us are

((((((hugs)))))) do something good for you today
jo
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nurse came this morning checked him. blood pressure little high. everything else seems fine she says. I on the other hand have type 11 diabetes and when checking it this morning it was 261. way to high. daughter in law says stress will cause this? dont know but do know i have to get it down. i take metformin twice a day. shoot really sometime i wish i would just die and let someone else mess with the poop SHIT!!! oh well guess i will go and wash pee and poop clothes. love you all and we are all in the same rocking boat and i am getting mighty sea sick!
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Oh I have told him about it ... even our landlord has told him she's 80 something years old and its not like it happens all the time. He has a fit if i slam my front door well sorry my door is warped and you can't shut it without slamming it. Its not like he should talk considering the dang parties he and his girlfriend had this summer waking mom and I out of sound sleep. My mom is hard of hearing if they are loud enough to wake HER UP.... then they are too dang loud
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Oh I have had her checked for the UTI she doesn't have one. She doesn't do this a lot just once in awhile she gets mad. She was like this even before she got older. She didn't throw it at me cause she knew I was in my bed I just told her no and she didn't want to. I usually give her sleepy time tea to get her to sleep. She usually sleeps fine it was just last night that set her off it was also because we had a problem yesterday with my idiot sister ... calling late at night when she was trying to sleep. She's relaxing now and said she was sorry just she wanted those things and I told her no. Her doctor says shes doing good and he's suprised that she doesn't have much edema in her legs ... he says that I am doing good with cutting her sodium down she used to have such bad edema and I had to keep those support hose on her now because I am watching her diet better she doesn't have as much trouble with it. Which he says is good ...
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Good Morning Posse!!!!!

ladee asked me to post and let everyone know that she tried to post yesterday but apparently AC is having issues and she loses everything she has written. She sends her love and says she will post as soon as the issues are resolved. Happened to me twice yesterday, so the site is having a problem.

Vic....I'm sorry Dad had a frustrating day.....it only rubs off on us. If they were in their "right minds" they wouldn't appear to be so ungrateful for all we do.

Shawna.....I'm thinking it might be time to get Mom checked for a UTI. And maybe something to help her sleep through the night. Next time it might not be the wall she throws something at, could be your head. Maybe you should explain to your hard-headed upstairs neighbor that sometimes elderly people have outbursts and Mom isn't doing it to cause him problems. After all, he has kids and I bet they aren't quiet all the time. That's why I live in the country....can make all the noise I want.

Gotta run........have some things to do but will check back in later........so please let us know how each of you is doing today.

Love and Hugz to all,
Jam
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Morning folks..had a frustrating day yesterday as dad did not want to do any exercises and his toe was hurting from gout.....tired too I guess. Finally just left him alone. He told mom I was in a bad mood..this was after he spoiled coffe all over and yelled at me because I was telling him he was asleep and to please put your feet underneath you..and on and on....by that time I was frustrated!
Today just has to be better. Have to go get him upas I thing PT is coming sometime this morning. Mom feels back to normal...yaay hubby left to go back to work..boo
Will try real hard to have a happy outlook today as frustration doesn't bother them only me! You all are in my prayers for the best day possible today. Will try to check in later.
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Today is not looking to be a good day. Mom kept yelling all night long about having to go to the bathroom I took her. Five minutes later she said she had to go again I took her she didnt have to go. Finally I got to lay down she wanted a candy bar I told her no go to sleep. She wanted ice cream again no I told her to go to sleep. She threw a royal fit picked up her walker ... (but she can have some strength when shes super ticked off) and threw it banging it into the wall. Now we live in apartment we have upstairs neighbors who during the summer decided to have loud parties and bang things around. They generlly dont like us they want the downstairs apartment AINT gonna happen. Well The banging ticked off the guy upstairs and he yelled to knock off the banging or it'd wake up his kids. But I digress I apologized I'll call Flip about it later and tell him that I apologized before they can call and start beotching about us. Mom is now setled down in another night gown I think tonight is giong to go back on drinking sleepy time tea before bed ... otherwise I am not going to get ANY sleep and I need some oh and they threw out my metal chairs I had outside just cause they were on the ground .. when they were cleaning up from the mess from the tree... UGH ...

Seeme sisters leave yesterday everything okay with ya

LOL your Chihuahua sounds like my kitten Starr she has to be in constant contact with me ... Jam. Ladee will tell you shes cute... she gives me kisses and always has to be near. I think I am up for the day just too annoyed to go try to sleep .... they should be working on the roof soon...
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There are several different types of diabetes; most people are only familiar with the Type I and Type II, but one of the pre-diabetes is called Reactive hypoglycemia. This is usually caused by people who are "couch potatoes", they don't get exercise and sit around and eat, voracious appetites, gaining weight; the pancreas is very sluggish and is not producing insulin to push the sugar into the cells, so sugar goes high.....then WHAM the pancreas wakes up and there is a flood of insulin pushing the sugar into the cells and the sugar will fall. And this has become the lifestyle of the col....she prefers to sit and eats and eats and eats whatever she can get her hands on. If the lifestyle doesn't change these people will usually develop diabetes. You all have just gotten a tiny bit of my EMT course diabetic lecture.....:)

I'm sorry emjo that you are still not feeling well with your teeth....makes me start to dread the dentist on Friday. I don't numb well on the bottom and I've had dentists drill on me without anesthetic.....ouch! And once had a dentist numb me so much that it was all the way down my throat.....you talk about scary!

mis.....my chihuahua thinks he's a part of me. We bought him back in 2002 after Target's poodle died and when we went to pick him up I told Target I would drive home so he could bond with the little guy. He said no that was okay......well by the time we got home I had a permanent furry appendage. He rode on the back of my neck all the way home and he doesn't get very far from me now. He is long-haired with the deer head and is beautiful. I have pics of him on FB. When he was 4 mo old he got puppy strangles and of course I was a basket case.....researched everything I could on it and after treating him for several days with no improvement, hubby took him into the vet and told him to lance his neck. This is not a recommended procedure.....but the very next day the swelling was gone completely and he healed up within a week.

starri.....you must be enjoying the Nebraska weather. I hope things are okay and you are having a good time.

seeme......thinking about you. Sisters went home today correct? Post when you feel like it. We miss you and love you!

ladee......any hanger fights today? I watched Target have one the other day.....rather interesting. Need to send you an email.

Vic.....where is your happy outlook today? Did I miss it?

Yesterday and today were headache days for me......think it is originating in my neck. Niece told me today that if I go to Johns Hopkins to have the herniated discs repaired, we will stay with her and we'll be able to have all the seafood we want. Works for me. They live right in Baltimore.

Need to get some sleep...........where is everyone? Sleep well and I hope for a peaceful night for everyone.

Love and Hugz to all,
Jam
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((((hugs)))) ladee - -and jam and mis and peg and.burned ..and...and... everyone -
poopy days in one sense or another
for me the pain is better - just regular pain now - not ferocious but I am fried from over a week of this - think it will take a few days to recover and catch up on sleep

jam - if the col is gaining weight doesn't sound like diabetes to me
but definitely something going on - sounds like 54's hubby
starri - have u fallen into the lake???
stormy - glad dad's legs look a bit better
asg - what's happenin'
vic -hope mum is feeling better and dad too
YR - missing u
seeme (((((((((((hugs))))))))))
shawna - cute kitty pics on facebook :)
have a good night all
love, hugs and prayers♥♥♥
tired jo
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COW PATTIE ladee!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Evening........ladee you must have written something and had it disappear......I did also earlier. Then was too darn tired to write it again and wasn't sure I could remember everything I had written.

I was in dire need of HB's Book of Poop tonight. I couldn't believe the mess that greeted me when I took dinner down to the col. Wasn't pretty. I've become convinced that when the girls leave for the day and close the door, it causes a butt cork to pop loose. Her mental status is changing daily as we watch....it's sad to see. I am really anxious to talk with her doctor to see if we can come up with a solution to the voracious eating. Her granddaughters and great gd's came to visit today....it was so nice to see all of them again. But the col doesn't remember they were here. We also noticed today that she has her bathroom and bedroom confused. She told Heather today that the bathtub is her bed. No, I'm pretty sure I have been tucking her into her bed at night. And I certainly hope she doesn't start pottying on the bedroom floor!

Hope everyone has had a good day.....except sounds like ladee didn't.........

Love and Hugz to all of you,
Jam
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Ok, what I had to say was apparently not important....don't know if it's the browser or AC, any way had a crappy day, I'll get over it.... love ya'll
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don't know if this will get posted or not... have been deleted three times now
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