This seems to be a question that is not asked enough or we think what we are feeling is not as important as what our loved one is going through. This job we have taken on is a tough one and there are days when I think my "stress rope" cannot be pulled any tighter. Then there are other times that make those bad days just a memory. Do you feel like banging your head against a wall one day? And then the next day your loved one is attentive and loving and comprehends whatever you say? There are some who keep those feelings bottled up within themselves; others take the time for outside resources and others who look at sites such as this for some understanding. I do better when I have someone else to bounce my feelings off of. Let's face it....we aren't superhuman and besides ourselves and perhaps a family to take care of we now have taken on the responsibility of another human who is incapable of taking care of themselves. Do you breeze through the care giving without a problem? If so, I would like to know how you do it, maybe you can offer some new ideas; do you have feelings of frustration and need to talk about those? Come and talk and know that you can speak freely and without judgement and without finger pointing.
I am caring for my mother-in-law and have been for about 1 1/2 years. She has moderate dementia and incontinence. Other than that she is very healthy. Sometimes that short amount of time feels like 10 years and I wonder how long I will be able to do this job. I get so very tired of hearing the same thing day in and day out, but I have to remind myself that to her, each time she sees me, she is offering new information. At times I have no problems communicating with her, but it seems like more and more she cannot retain a thought longer than 5 minutes. We have had to make signs for her so she will know what she can and cannot do. So far it's working, but for how long? Maybe I will have to end up making her a "Book of Do Nots". She is on memory drugs, which don't seem to make a difference. So why do I continue to dole them out to her? I guess I'm afraid of what might happen or how she might act without them. I might have to rent a boat or buy a helmet! Sometimes I see something in her that leads me to believe that she could get aggressive and what would be my reaction to that? At the end of each and every day, after she is tucked into bed, I breathe such a sigh of relief. The "inner beast" is quiet at last, or at least for a few hours.
Pull up a chair and visit........I would like to know how you are coping everyday..be it good or with handfuls of stress.
Ladeee- OUCH to you too. I think that would be worse than the towel warmers, but i do not want to find out which one hurt worse. They both sound pretty painful!!!! Ladee- girl you be careful around them fires. You are going to have me worried sick til they get them things contained. Please take care of yourself....
Seemee- Sending angels your way. We love and pray for you and your mom. And i can't believe your brother is not coming to see his mom. When she passes he will have something to live with if he cares anything at all about her. My brother did, he drank his self silly that year mom died. He loved her and he just had alot of regrets and that really done a number on him. Don't know what you got til it's gone...
Emjo- girl you take care of that mouth of yours. If the advil and tylenol is working then keep taking that. I hope you will feel like yourself again soon with no pain...
54J- How are you and hubby today? Is he still eating you out of house and home? I'm keeping you in my prayers!!!!
Peggy- It is great to vent it helps so much to get all of these feeling off of your chest and to just relate to other people(friends) that know what you are going through. And to know that they are there to support you through some of lifes biggest challenges.
Ros- where r u girlfriend? Working again i guess. Take a break and let us know how u are doing and how the babies are.
Vickie- There is nothing like your own home and your own bed. I love them both. Glad you got to go home for a few days. It helps to get away for a while from everyone.
Starri- How is the vacationing going? Where r ya'll headed to next? Hope the depression is keeping it's distance from you. Take care you and hubby on the road.
Shawna- I'm so sorry you had such a bad time with your mom today. You are a wonderful daughter to be taking this on. I can't imagine what some of you must be going thru with having to take care of loved ones with ALZ and dementia. Especially the change in personality. If that was my mom I dont think I would ever stop crying because she was just the sweetest person with the sweetest soul. She did not have a mean bone in her whole body. And if i had to witness her turning into a mean person it would just break my heart into a million pieces. So thankful that she never got that dreaded disease and that she went peacefully with no suffering. I miss her sooooo much!!!! She was my best friend!!!!! Love and Hugs to all of you!!!! Ya'll stay safe from the storms and fires. Stormyyyyyyyyyyyyy
shawna I am sorry u can't get a little break - don't let ur health break down any more with all of this - I think u r amazing -i am sure somewhere inside ur mum appreciates what u r doing for her (((((hugs))))) - is there an agency, church or so that could send someone for a few hrs even
cow pattie - well thats great - I will put it on the swèet potato plants - good fertilizer!!!
ladee - I want to know how far away that park is to you too - the zipper if your pants - now that is quite a feat - son dave when he was about 2 didn't want to wear underwear and I warned him he might get himself caught in his zipper - well the dreaded day came - that no mother ever wants to face -i heard him call me and went upstairs and there he was with the skin on his most private part caught in his zipper -and - the big question was - do i zip it up and try to unzip it to get him loose. I knew whatever I did it had better be fast or I might not get a second chance and it had better be the right decision or i would have a maimed son - Oh the joys of children - don't remember which way i went but it was the right way and got him loose, though he had a mark for a while.The moral of the story is...??? ladee have u got one -can't be put your bra on first -would not have helped him
shawna honey ((((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))) u r such a good and loving daughter -is there any way one of the good sisters could look after mum for a short whiie and give u a break. I hope they appreciate what you are doing and good that they saw
peggy - menopause may and likely does play a part but it is not just menopause -when i think about you sending that email I think of the song "I am Woman" by Helen Reddy
think it applies to all of us - you have paid your dues sweetie and you are standing up on ur hind legs and roaring - as u should and it makes the world a better place - look what u did for ur husband, and that bully bro needed that
I am woman, hear me roar
In numbers too big to ignore
And I know too much to go back an' pretend
'cause I've heard it all before
And I've been down there on the floor
No one's ever gonna keep me down again
CHORUS
Oh yes I am wise
But it's wisdom born of pain
Yes, I've paid the price
But look how much I gained
If I have to, I can do anything
I am strong (strong)
I am invincible (invincible)
I am woman
You can bend but never break me
'cause it only serves to make me
More determined to achieve my final goal
And I come back even stronger
Not a novice any longer
'cause you've deepened the conviction in my soul
CHORUS
I am woman watch me grow
See me standing toe to toe
As I spread my lovin' arms across the land
But I'm still an embryo
With a long long way to go
Until I make my brother understand
Oh yes I am wise
But it's wisdom born of pain
Yes, I've paid the price
But look how much I gained
If I have to I can face anything
I am strong (strong)
I am invincible (invincible)
I am woman
Oh, I am woman
I am invincible
I am strong
FADE
I am woman
I am invincible
I am strong
I am woman
fits us all doesn't it?
love to alll♥♥♥
jo
ladee.....read your link in the email. How far from the State Park are you? What is your plan? And how much time would you have if you have to evacuate? Gee, I'm not the least bit worried about you am I?
Caregiver back tomorrow.....a little break for us. The col wanted so badly to help dig up the garden today and I kept telling her to go sit down and look pretty, then I would disappear around the house and here she comes......out of sight........ Then she decided to play the race starter for my granddaughters so I could get my work done and quit wondering where she was. She thought the wind was "raw"....it was in the middle 70's. Told her if she thought today was cold, she would never make it through the winter. This morning I found her dressed in lined parachute pants and the inside of her house was 76 degrees......I was sweating after about 10 minutes. I just stuck my fingers in my ear and went lalalalalala..:)
Hope everyone has a good evening......
Love and Hugz to all,
Jam
It is great to vent, oh yeah, I did forget to mention, I think it's really menopaws. It's been toying with me for a year or so, but I got 3 months no flo and hot face symdrome. Irritibility, well I guess it could be related.
Thanks to everyone here, reading your daily real life stories is a big help.
Hugs Peggy
Shawna.....I just don't know what to say. Since you have seen Mom act like the Leaning Tower before, this isn't new and possibly she is trying to get attention? My mom would "fall" and then yell for her son, and would refuse to allow anyone else to help her. If you can rule out any physical problems, then that may be all it is. But after all that I'm glad you had a good day with your family.
Vic....so glad you got to sleep in your own home for a change. I bet you really enjoyed your time.
I am so tired tonight....worked in the yard for 6 hours. My back just cannot take that stress. Then I'm trying to pick up the plants I'm pulling and I'll be darned if I didn't get a cramp in the left side of my lower behind.....:) Geez, never had a cramp there before, and I really hope it doesn't happen again....just sore right now. So after all this it's time to take a shower and you know how they say men should never fry bacon naked? Well women shouldn't be ready to step into the shower and have a dog come to visit through the stair railing and lean over and have a boob touch the towel warmer.........ouch and ouch and good grief that hurt!!!!!Thought y'all might get a kick out of the visual.....:) After all that hard work, the yard looks great and we finished digging up the sweet potatoes and got about a dozen out of 4 plants. For being the first time I have ever planted them, we didn't do badly at all. Next year I think what we will do is plant in big pots, and then when it's time to harvest all we have to do is turn them over and dump them out and shake off the dirt. Much easier than trying to get them out without cutting or tearing them up.
So now the col has decided that the moohaha's live outside again. But she can't tell me what they look like so we can be on the lookout for them. She's been fine all summer and now that it's getting dark earlier, those critters are coming out. Hmmmmmm.....what to do.....Time for evening meds.....that will help I'm sure.
Hope everyone has a great evening............and remember the lesson learned today was...........do not lean over naked close to a towel warmer....:)
Love and Hugz to all,
Jam
vic -so glad bro come through and you got to your own house - must have seemed like a holiday. Good that bro saw how dad is
ladee - just be sure u and diva r OK - lordy we don't want u starting all over again - hate the smoke - we had tons earlier this year - re drugs just hate how they make me feel - not that I have had many - just when having kids -demerol and even that didn't work when I had dave - he was one solid pain - NO breaks in between - with John I had 2-3 mins between contractions - time to regroup, with Dave once it started - no breaks - they gave me a second shot of demerol and it didn't touch the pain and I was not in a position to explain it to the nurse - we had this conversation - Nurse -Are you having another contraction - Me - Sure - pushing all the time, Nurse - take time to breathe, Me - Sure - continuing to push -grabbed a little air and pushed. With the first 3 kids it was 2 pushes for the head, 2 for the body and 1 for the placenta - I was fit then - 7 years later when I had gordie that was another matter - at 41 - I was not as fit so it took more work -gave them time to get my feet in the stirrups - only time they did - anyway, so much for pain -with my daughter when she came she came so fast they did an episiotomy without any freezing and offered me the ether - I took it! - butcher of a ob/gyn put in staples and then removed them before I went home and did an internal exam - didn't say a word but could have hit him - needless to say I didn't go back to him
starri - the leg??? yes better to take something sooner than later - I left it a little too late this morning and it took a friggin painful 3/4 of an hr to kick in which was exhausting - tonight i have gone 7 hrs and am starting to feel it so taking something now -i do have a little sense - usually it takes about 20 mins to kick in - it is still pretty bad at its worst but longer between pain meds and overall not as sore - I call that progress -I am more concerned with healing than pain killing - and don't want any infection to set in - and - so sick of pureed soup but know I need a balanced diet in what ever form I can take it and advil/tylenol is doing it well enough
peg -would love to see a pic of the table - face book - joan benoit fort mcmurray -doesn't venting help??? -especially to those who understand
-only had the experience mother had with c-diff -took a long time - months before she went back to normal -she avoids antibiotics like the plague now and still takes probiotics
seeme (((((((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))) - hope things r going as well as they can - tough time for u - and you mum - and the others - you r a strong lady - but allow urself to feel not so strong sometimes - we all need that -and don't forget to breathe - deep! special love and prayers going in your direction
beautiful day -75 here, sun shining and a few more yellow leaves showing though no frost at night yet - no sign of G yet - shopping done - need to clean up the kitchen
love to all
jo
I have said many times how much I hate Alz. What it does to the person, what the family has to witness of thier loved one....and the simple fact that there are no meds out there to help them when they are so out of control......oh, dr's give them meds alright, but they do not work at all, or they are so medicated they just set and sleep... the meds out there today are for other things, not Alz...... but we work with what we have... please get some rest and watch how much stress you put on your back.... do you have a gait belt?? Maybe that would help when you have to get her up.... Ruth weighed 180 lbs. and when she would start fighting me when I was trying to help her with something, I would feel I had gone 10 rounds with Ali before it was over..... so please take care of your body... easy to say, not easy to do.... hope she has a quite night so you can rest...... and am so sorry to hear she head butted you..... I am very proud that you were not posting from the city jail after the day you had.... a head butt, that makes me mad just thinking about it...... you are an awesome daughter Shawna, and regardless of what she says or does, we all know how hard this is for you.... you are in my prayers for a restful night...... When others would ask me what happened to my leg, I would say I got my ass kicked by a 83 yr. old woman...... laught to keep from cyring sometimes, what ever gets us thru the day.... hugs to you, take care..
Seeme honey I send angels to you to be with you and wrap their warm caring wings about you and yoru mother. There is one of my songs that I love to listen to by Keith Urban that i listen to when I am down its called Sometimes angels can't fly. I'll have to write the lyrics for you ... sometimes I think it describes you girls ....
Shawna, hope that you are feeling better, I like watching the storms as well.. just something about them.
Hope your day was a peaceful one Ladee, I'm glad that Sonny likes picking up the sticks, he gets fresh air, exercise and some peace and quiet away from the constant criticism, this is something he can't help, it's a pity that she can not recognize it ..you'll have to show me your collection when we hit your state.. and trust me we will.. probably not till after the first of the year, but we will show..lol... keep us posted on how you are doing. smart thing to have a bag packed and ready to go if you have too..
((((Seeme)))) big hugs my friend, this is tough on you and the others as well, like you said, you have no blame or responsibility for that brother of yours. If he was 2, then maybe, but he's not, he's the one that is going to have to live with the fact that he was not willing to come and see his mother.. I thought that idiot brother of mine was going to mess around and not see mom before she passed, he finally got his head out of that dark smelly place and made it. That banana bread sounds wonderful, nothing better than fresh out of the oven..smeared with butter.
Jam, thanks for letting us know about Ladee and the fire, hopefully they will get that thing contained.
Vic, good to see you, and glad your brother showed up for a change, I bet it was nice just to be able to piddle around in your own home.. after Mom passed, I spent a few days doing nothing and then started to work on my own home, left it in decent shape when we pulled out. will probably be covered in dust when we get back home, but that is ok.
Jo, I'm with Ladee, I've become a sissy in my old age..lol, mouth pain has been something I never could take. Now I try to keep from taking anything unless I really have too, and sometimes I come to regret not having taken something earlier.. they say to take something for the pain before it gets too bad, otherwise you might as well forget it, it won't help . i try and not take anything for the leg if i can
Jam, thanks for passing the word..... It made me feel better just knowing ya'll knew about it, I didn't feel so alone.... thanks again....
Seeme, it is probably a good thing that that bro is not coming... seems it's just too much trouble,,, actions speakes louder than words, and he will be the one with regrets, and you are right about maybe talking to him , or not... will depend on how important it becomes to you.... Your plate is full right now... take care of you and mama, and kiss Mike for us for being such a sweetheart in all this... I am so grateful he is there with you.....love, hugs and angels sent your way... love you!!!!!!!
Vic, so good to hear from you, I been missin' ya !!! I almost went insane when my computer crashed.... I was having a serious "sister-friend" jones....... missing everyone so much.... and the brother came thru did he.... well guess there are still miracles and happy to hear he finally sees how things are... and happy your parents got to see him....and sleeping in your own house in your own bed.... just no place like home, huh Dorothy!!!!! Love ya...
Emjo, glad to hear you are starting to feel better, and I really admire you about the drugs, but what you don't take, I will... I have become a real sissy in my old age...but rarely need anything strong, like if my leg is really hurting and I have to work..... I am on my feet for many hours so , no, I will be acting like Marie if I didn't take something....
I know I have missed someone, catch ya later... have a sinus headache from the smoke and wind... going to go lay down and read for awhile...
Love ya'll bigger than our smokey Texas sky...
the petrified wood table in at F-I-L house 2 1/2 hours form our house. When we go back a a few weeks to get more stuff and turn off water, i will take a photo.
I pray that the fires stay away.
I will look up on FB when I get a few more minutes. I hope everyone has a safe labor Day. We are headed out at to look for a new recliner for F-i-L because the one we brought from his house, might have c-diff spores, since he put soiled disposible underwears in it the other day.
Have any of you had any experiance with this Colustrium Difficile, C-diff?
Will try to check on later. About caught up on posts..... Lve and prayers to you all vic
ladee - rock hunting sounds like heaven - we had a gravel driveway at one house and the kids used to find petrified wood in it - that started a collection that we had for years - love rocks - and natural gemstome jewelery -have a slice of a geode from the rockies - such a wonderful greeny blue colour - hope ur day goes well - good to lower ur expectations re Marie - hope u r not too stiff/sore from yesterday's trek
shawna - take it easy till those allergies settle down a little -hope the BBQ goes well. and that u r able to work on ur website again soon
peg -glad you spouted off -both here and in the email -being honest can really shake things up -what a blessing u r for ur hubby -sounds liike things are lining up much better than they were - and as far as the bully goes -like ladee said -stand up to him - they back down fast - lots of mouth there -poor fil - these gut things are no fun and takes a bit of time to straighten them out - tell him my mum had c-diff from antibiotics too about 7 years ago and it took a long time for her to get over it, probiotics are essential but she is 99 now and going strong. Sorry u r missing ur family and hope u get to see them soon -I am jealous of the petrified wood coffee table too -Gary would think he died and went to heaven - love geodes too - as re the number - it seems to run in the family - both sides - the women look younger, live longer - into their 90s often and mother is planning on breaking the pattern and making it to 100 -she will do it out of sheer stubborness if nothing else (another family trait lol)
stormy, I guess I am surprised that sis doesn't understand that your dads house is not a place for kids to be in for long - it really isn't and u have done so well so far - think she is so tied up in concern for dad -understandably -yes your hubby and lil red have to come first -i think he is wild over there because it is not easy for him - u r in a tough situation trying to balance it all
starri - a blog sounds good -glad you have a good campground to setttle in for a while -of course u miss your mum and meltdowns will happen for a while yet I am sure -and that is OK
jam - good idea about writing things down -what the counselor suggested i do re Gordie - haven't done it yet - but I talk to him (Gordie that is) - the scrapbook sounds like such a wonderful idea and also a record for others - good for u - love hearing about it and not off topic at all - ur way of dealing with ur mum's death - dealing with death is something we all have to do at some point (caregivers especially) and it is not easy. Sweet potatoes!!! I planted some eyes that were growing into a large tub of dirt. Gary wants to bring it in when the weather gets cold and see if we can grow them here in the house - I need a "hobby room" for skulls, antlers and sweet potatoes
everyone -how r u doing? saw somewhere that 54 is getting some hospice help -so glad, cwgrl is going on a holiday -awesome - what everyone needs to do - look after urself -so much time and energy goes into the caregiving - it is like a bumless pit (bottomless but we change it to bumless - what we called my oldest grandson as he was growing up and ate and ate and ate - the bumless pit - sounds like the col is turning into a bumless pit too -her second childhood?)
everyone let us know how u r and what u are doing for u!
here I upped the painkillers - woke up with pain last night and took some about 4 a.m. and went back to sleep and woke up around 8 this am relatively painfree -and still that way - went 8 hrs at one point yesterday but then needed them again 4 hrs later -now going on 5-6 hrs and am pretty good - so - hopefully - past the worst - of course all these painkillers do a job on bunging up ur gut - so working on that now - can't eat the raw veggies i usually do and miss them so headed for some V8 this morning and will have some flax "porridge" - lots of fibre - the area in my mouth looks good - the inflammation/swelling is much better down and no bone visible - feeling some twinges so back to the painkillers in a bit - see how long I can last - doing things is a distraction - need to organize my freezers - having my head in the cold won't hurt either lol - as much as my mum is difficult she does some things right -when she got sciatica a few years ago some predicted the end - but she would't take much of the heavier drugs - was in extreme pain for a while - couldn't go for her walks - didn' t even take her tylenol on time - b*tched, complained, threatened - made everyone's life as miserable as her's was -but she got through it and healed - quite an achievement at 96. I have the same tendencies - though I hope I don't make every one else's life miserable - don't want the heavy drugs. will rather tolerate as much pain as i can and get active as soon as i can -my friend knew an older lady who got sciatica - went to bed with the heavy drugs and went down hill from there and passed away
well on that "cheerful" note better get up, bathe and do my hair -G is supposed to be coming home today and I needd to figure out some meals as well as freezer room for the goodies he will bring home with him from camp
another cheerful note - really this time - seems like the increased dose of diflucan is helping - my colour was (not so much since the extraction) back to normal - always a good indicator for me and I am able to eat some fruit without dire results -yippee!!!
just saw ur latest post jam - prayers for ladee and the fires - we had them pretty ]close too - NOT a good feeling -
ladee - how do u do it??? from floods to fires - stay safe -whatever else stay safe -and Diva too! sending cool winds and rain in the right direction
love, hugs and prayers ♥♥♥
jo
Just wanted to send a quick post, then I need to do some col things, then I will be back.
seeme.....good to hear from you and I'm shooting angels to you as fast as I can....although I did let a little devil cut in line and that one went to bro......Give mom a hug from us..........I'm wishing a peaceful day for you and mom. Sometimes it helps when you let go and tell them it's okay to die. I did that with my mom and she seemed to rest better. Love and hugs being sent......
Just got off the phone with ladee and she and Sonny are out in the yard playing pick up sticks and having a great time. She asked me to convey to everyone and ask for prayers..........the fires are getting closer to her area....about 20 miles and the wind has not let up. Approximately 425 homes have been lost to that damn fire. I have told her if she needs to leave to throw Diva and some clothes in her car and head to Missouri to stay at our lake house. So here comes another volley of angels to ladee and the others in the area that have already lost their homes.
Love and Hugz to all this morning,
Jam
Bro from WA state says he can't figure out how to get from the airport in Raleigh to the hospice center, so he's not coming.....already told him to pack his GPS and rent a car, so don't know what his problem is. He did that last year when he came. Guess he wants to blame me for not picking him up in Raleigh........sorry....I feel no blame or shame.......I may just tell him how he is , if I bother at all.
Gonna take a shower and go back. Hubby made banana nut bread for everyone there....still warm from the oven. Put cinnamon sugar on top and it smells wonderful.....and he even cleaned up the mess in the kitchen. YIPPEE!!
Will be a long day today, so catch you tomorrow....Love and hugs appreciated.......
And it's ok for your fil to get down.... maybe after things have been explained to him, he will understand there is an end in sight....We can't make all things all better all the time....
Sorry to hear you are missing your family so much... and yes, I would really feel torn between fil and my own family..... but you'll get there soon, and you will rest easier...Thank God your sibs are very present for them.... I would be a wreck being that far away if they weren't being taken care of...... let us know how things are going for you and we are all happy you let it out, makes room for some peace and quite in our brain....
Your fil has a table made from petrified wood..... omg, if you are on FB please send a pic so I can see it. You can find me, Linda Miller, picture of a little girl with a donkey..... my granddaughter Keltin and Cheyenne.... and many of us are on FB so we'll get together there too if you want....
And I think we were in competiton about who had the hottest summer... It is cooling off here and I think I will have a shirt made that says, "I survived the summer of 2011 with the help of my AC friends"
So keep coming back, you will get to know us and us, you, and it's like having a whole family that understands and gives love and support.....glad you feel better...
Shawna, sorry you have felt so bad yesterday..... try to get some rest today, and if you don't feel like doing the whole day of festivities, then don't... I have to work, so no fun for me today. Oh, I forget, we did have some pretty high winds yesterday so Sonny will have lots of sticks to pick up today.....so we can spend time outside and let Marie be alone with her misery...... I do not expect her to be in a good mood, so therefore I am never dissapointed.... it works for me..
Seeme, no word from you last night, hope you get a minute to post and let us know how things are going.... love , hugs and angels for you and mama....
Love to all, talk to ya'll this evening...hugs across the miles to everyone....
Seeme I hope those siblings are behaving if they don't I'll lend you Rick ... lol he'll teach them a lesson they won't soon forget lol.
FIL is not in the best spirits, my husband wrote a term paper to infom him of the treatment for his C-diff. this is his third round of antibiotics, he was not wanting to take the probiotics, because it was something i made him take with the last script and since the diareah returned, he sumized the probiotics didn't work. Well my hubby explained how troublesome and dertimined the c-diff bacteria is, and how, he is only 3/4th of the way though because the doctors, will let this 10 day course run and when the diareah returnes then he will start the longer course, and then the tapering. FIL was discouraged, For me I have a giant weight lifted off my back, because I was the only one in the house trying to help dad. my husband had been going to work early coming home later and later. until i broke last wednesday night. i got the older "bully" brother pissed because I emailed them both saying they needed to grow up and acept responsibility. their dad needs them. it got yelled at by the bully brother and his wife told me stuff she must have been holind on to for years. well it did make me feel worse. But they had said when we first got dad on July 3, just take him for a little while. we have to help our daughter moved to Los Cruces, and we will take him as soon as we can after that. Well then Bully brother confirmed his elective knee replacement for aug 10, or so that's not a good time to take him. We are okay with keeping him, just say you can't do it! well it has turned out my husband has been bullied by his brother his whole life. my email caused a ruckus and the bully brother gave an ultimatium email, just have his stuff ready we will pick it up tomorrow. then a few hours later, i want too know what does dad want. well, dad like and wants to stay here. but we all were expecting bully brother to follow through on his bluster. ... well, the emotional blockage my husband had been holding back against his bully brother broke loose. he wrote a long explination to his dad to tell him of how his brother had treated him for the last 50 years. and how bully brother is always to busy to help, but he says he wants to help, but something else is more pressing at this very moment. my husband has always been quiet,not one to just talk about stuff---well i live with a new man, he has opened up, he is making jokes, and talking all the time, i've already had to put my finger into my ears and go, la,la,la....he is right now talking with his sister in Omaha, they have talked 6-7 hours since the - EMAIL !
I have thought I souhn't have sent it, but with the new communications with my husband, is sister, and shutting up bully brother, i think it was more successful than I could have ever hoped for. --- ladeeda, my fil has geodes and pink granite and matates at his house and a table made of petrified wood. he is a real rock hound. Well he love botany, biology, and birding. good thing my front yard is filled with birds. wow, it feels good to release this stuff.,,, thank all
Yeah, I'm not the sharpest knife in the drawer sometimes am I??? I think I was just so excited to get to go that I really wasn't thinking, but I go by myself all the time like that.... nothing has happened so far, and guess I just don't look for things to happen and they don't..... usually someone knows the vicinity I am in.... when someone came to check the cattle tomorrow they would have found my car.... ohhhhh lighten up ladies....... that is one of the cool things about being single, I do what I want, when I want, how I want.....and ya'll all knew I was going, I post everyday,, so if you didn't hear from me in a day or two, call the local cops and tell them to look where the buzzards are circling.... oh, sorry, those are sibs, not buzzards... any way, I will at least take my phone next time, ya bunch of old mother hens..... and no, the leg is fine, just sore, I didn't even think about it until I started down the bank of the creek... OH Yeah, maybe I need to take it easy.... but I was in "rock hunting mode", and I did bring water, ok??????? I'll try not to let ya'll know next time I have fun... party poopers....
And yes Starri, I found quite a few pieces of petrified wood that looked burned on one end... I find that a lot in this one place... I always wonder if a very long time ago some sort of dwelling burned.... they are really beautiful....it's in this same vicinity that I found a spear head and a 1916 Standing Liberty Quater.... the quarter was under a rock that I just wanted to look at, didn't want to keep it. When I picked up the rock the quarter was sticking in the dirt,,,, you could hear me holler for miles...... and coming up the other side of the creek I found the spear head..... so , no ladies , I'm sure I will continue on as before....
Hope Seeme posts tonight..... just to let us know what is going on with mama... and hope the sibs are behaving.... it could get ugly.....
Hugs to everyone......