This seems to be a question that is not asked enough or we think what we are feeling is not as important as what our loved one is going through. This job we have taken on is a tough one and there are days when I think my "stress rope" cannot be pulled any tighter. Then there are other times that make those bad days just a memory. Do you feel like banging your head against a wall one day? And then the next day your loved one is attentive and loving and comprehends whatever you say? There are some who keep those feelings bottled up within themselves; others take the time for outside resources and others who look at sites such as this for some understanding. I do better when I have someone else to bounce my feelings off of. Let's face it....we aren't superhuman and besides ourselves and perhaps a family to take care of we now have taken on the responsibility of another human who is incapable of taking care of themselves. Do you breeze through the care giving without a problem? If so, I would like to know how you do it, maybe you can offer some new ideas; do you have feelings of frustration and need to talk about those? Come and talk and know that you can speak freely and without judgement and without finger pointing.
I am caring for my mother-in-law and have been for about 1 1/2 years. She has moderate dementia and incontinence. Other than that she is very healthy. Sometimes that short amount of time feels like 10 years and I wonder how long I will be able to do this job. I get so very tired of hearing the same thing day in and day out, but I have to remind myself that to her, each time she sees me, she is offering new information. At times I have no problems communicating with her, but it seems like more and more she cannot retain a thought longer than 5 minutes. We have had to make signs for her so she will know what she can and cannot do. So far it's working, but for how long? Maybe I will have to end up making her a "Book of Do Nots". She is on memory drugs, which don't seem to make a difference. So why do I continue to dole them out to her? I guess I'm afraid of what might happen or how she might act without them. I might have to rent a boat or buy a helmet! Sometimes I see something in her that leads me to believe that she could get aggressive and what would be my reaction to that? At the end of each and every day, after she is tucked into bed, I breathe such a sigh of relief. The "inner beast" is quiet at last, or at least for a few hours.
Pull up a chair and visit........I would like to know how you are coping everyday..be it good or with handfuls of stress.
Little ones can make you want to pull your hair out, especially at that age, every thing is still new and interesting in life.. they have to experience it all at full steam.. We spend the first 2 years of their life wanting them to walk and talk and the rest of it telling them to shut up and sit down...lol
when red goes down for a nap tomorrow, try and do something nice for yourself..
Jam you didn't get to far off topic..lol.. at least seeing as how we don't have a set topic here... I have several little keepsakes of mom, her HS diploma, other little things like that I was able to get out before the brothers got busy..
I like your idea of the journal, I've been debating on a blog.. the real life adventures of a newbie..lol.. Tell Target get off his butt an get that RV spruced up.. Right now, I have had enough of the prairie "breeze", so gave it up and am currently hiding out in the camper.. seems to be dying down alittle, might venture out again here in a while.. Hope everyone is doing well...
No, other than being picky about the stupid window this morning, the col has been in a great mood today. We are trying to figure out where in the world she is stuffing all this food. My God, she is eating constantly! I fed her breakfast, an hour later she was wanting lunch and ate something while I was fixing her what she asked for, then fixed Italian subs for dinner and gave that to her early and she was eating potato chips when I took her sub down. What a mess if she explodes! Her aim isn't too good.
I have sweet potatoes!!!!! I planted 4 plants just to see if they would produce and by golly they did. I dug up 3 off one plant, but my back was screaming so loud and my allergies wouldn't stop sneezing so I had to give up. Will let some strong-backed son do the rest tomorrow.
I hope everyone has had a good day and I wish for you all a peaceful evening.....
Love and Hugz to all,
Jam
Sibs, well, as Jam said, we don't usually have much good to say about them... Stormy has a great sis that they work in tandem with her dad, the brother, well, we all want to smack him....
It is the nature of caregiveing for some reason.... it all falls on one or two... and the rest go thier merry way.....My oldest "ugly sister", yep, that's what I call them... to hear her tell it she was the ONLY one to take care of the old man... Not true, but I finally got tired of hearing about it and just went on about my business, if he called me, I did what I could, other than that I just put disatance, and haven't seen either on of them after the old man died... Life is too short...As emjo said, I have sisters right here and friends down home, so who needs em...
Hope you come back to visit...... just jump right in...... always room for one more...
Jam, why didn't you remind me that it has only been six months since my broken leg.... should have seen me out there stumbling around the dry creek bed on uneven ground, hanging on to dead trees... my lord, and I left my phone in the car..... guess I'll have to get me one of those things Marie wears. "I've fallen and I can't get up" things....or gps or something.... do I really KNOW how old I am??? Apparently not...... anyway, something for pain when I got home, and a shower... wind was gusting up to 40mph today, and still is, my little house will have to be renamed, " A whole lotta shakin' goin on"... have decided to think of it as being rocked to sleep instead of possible take off.....
Emjo, sorry that old tooth is still giving you problems, sorta like an ex-husband, even when they are gone they bring us miserey....hope you feel better soon...
Starri, haven't been to FB yet, so hope there are new pics, and I know what you mean, for years I would pick up the phone to call Mom about something, or miss her horrible when things were going on I knew she would enjoy.... I really do understand......
Stormy, sorry dad is not getting any better.... hopefully this new doc will have some answers...... or maybe he will get like Seeme's mom, and just say NO MORE... if they aren't helping him, I would not allow them to keep harming him... talk to him and see what HE wants......
Vic, ok, where are you???? I feel you out there, check in and let us know you are ok, crazy or in the black hole...
Jam, hope you had another decent day with the col..... I know she can turn on a dime, so hope she was still happy from yesterday....
Everyone else, hello, love ya, check in, and hugs across the miles to all of you...
Jam, we missed any storms that you might have got, we had a few sprinkles but that was about it... at the edge of Missouri/Iowa and saw what I thought was a lake, a big lake, it turned out to be a area that had flooded back on June 1st and was still under about 5 foot.. it was so sad..
We're safely in Nebraska, and this campground is all plus more than it was advertised to be.. Makes me a happy camper, lol.. sorry for the pun. It has a nice large lake, with paddle boats you can rent, swimming, etc.. Temps are actually low today, 73 degree's, feels cold compared to what we've just come from. There is the prairie breeze.. which is not a breeze..lol, it's a wind. Good thing I don't care about how my hair looks or I'd be trapped in the camper. We're here for a week, get the mail sent in. Glenn's got meds waiting and I have a check or so due in. Hopefully the post office does what they are suppose too, would hate to have to fly back and kick some bootie..lol
Peg, welcome, you have found a great place.. lovely people to listen..and vent too.
Jo, sorry to hear that things are not going well with the extraction.. get in there Tuesday if things are not better..
Stormy, honey you need to let Sis know that red will be out of daycare tomorrow and that you need to be home with him, I am sure sis will understand.
Ya'll take care, hubby and I are just chilling, trying to relax, I had a minor melt down this morning, grief I guess still trying to come out.
Miss Mom more than I could ever say, thoughts keep popping in my mind about calling her and telling her about the trip, the wonderful things we are seeing, what we are doing. Breaks my heart that she wasn't there to see the end results of the fight for the past two years of getting baby brother his VA disability. That she isn't there for me to call and share this adventure with..
Guess I ought to get off here and get something done, even if it is wrong. ladee, how are you today? hopefully not with your hands around Maries neck..lol.. Everyone who hasn't checked in please do so.
I'm glad you feel that you have found a place to come to. We have a terrific group of friends here, with lots of varied experiences, sometimes we can get a little crazy but that just keeps us from getting bored. So come on back and visit with us, would love to get to know you and your family.
Love and Hugz to all,
Jam
be sure to let me know how the ice cream turns out
stormy - sorry dad's legs are worse - hope the ultrasound and visit with the vascular doc go well -as well as possible anyway - can u hire someone to come in and be with dad so you have a little more time with lil red and hubby - he is a good man I think. I understand u r so sick of all the testing and no answers and just the whole situation (((((hugs))))
Seemee- You sound like you are in a better mood today. I'm glad. I hope things continue to go alright with you and the sibs. And it's good that hubby is helping you out some. You take care of yourself! ((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))
Emjo-Sorry you are in pain. I don't think advil is going to do anything u need something alot stronger than that. I take tylenol 500 mg when i am in pain. but i take about 2 or 3 of them at a time if i am really hurting. I hope you feel better soon. Ice no heat....
Ladeee- how is the tx heat there? Any rain yet? Sorry that marie is giving you a hard time. But glad that you and sonny had a good time outside. Get you some ear plugs so you don't have to hear marie's rambling mouth. See if that helps.
Starri- Glad that you are having a good trip traveling and seeing the world. Ya'll be careful. And don't have too much fun. Maybe one day me and hubby will get to do some traveling.....
Well, yesterday I had the day off. Thank the Lord. Today I am having to stay with dad 1 til 8 tonight. And the schedule hubby and i made up for me says that i am suppose to have tomorrow off because red is out of daycare because of the holiday. So i got to tell sis I know she has not thought about red being out of daycare. I hate to tell her that. I guess i just feel guilty. And like i am being slack for not coming over here when red is out of daycare. But that was what me and hubby decided on so red and i would not have to be over here all day long. And so i would not get so stressed out with red and dad at the same time. And if i stay over here with red, hubby will get mad at me and it will be a fuss between us. And we have been getting along really well lately and i hate to bring any arguing on between us. Oh well i will do something i guess. Dads legs still look bad. If not worse and even the left leg is about to look just as bad as the right leg(the cellulitis leg) He is suppose to have a ultrasound done on his leg or legs this week and then he is suppose to get a appt with a vasular dr after the ultrasound results come in. So we will see what happens with this scan and dr. Scan will probably say everything is wonderful with his legs and nothing is wrong with them. And vascular dr will probably say that dad is in perfect health!!!!!!!!! All of these tests, scans and drs appts are nothing but a JOKE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Can you tell I am just sick of everything about the whole situation!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Just sick of my life being like it is. I'm not depressed. Just tired of the same old stuff everyday. I need a change. I will talk to ya'll later better go check on dad. Love and hugs to all of you. Stormyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy
a partial clot has formed again over night - i already googled every dry socket site on the internet (slight exaggeration) and it is not following the pattern
when I phoned the dentist I mentioned that the clot was gone and she said the doc is not concerned - normal part of healing O-Kay and truthfully the pain was worse the first day - around the 9 level - now about 8 and my jaw is not swollen - so it is not following the pattern completely. When I had a root canal done in one of the ones extracted I had the same terrible pain - even the painkillers didn't touch it - this time I do get relief for a couple of hours and have started alternating advil and acetominophin which seems to be working better - what helped after the root canal was heat which is why I am using it again. I did use cold the first day or so.
other than that I am fine ;p - grabbing sleep when the painkillers first kick in
ah well, this too shall pass - they say a week or two if it is a dry socket
Gary comes home probably tomorrow and i was hoping to go to the horses with him but not sure that is a good idea now - when we go down there we stay with his friend farmer john and you should see the state of the bathroom sink - I don't think so. The other option is Connie's Cabins - never seen the inside of one of them and probably over priced.
I blended the hamburger soup to a puree - looks awful but better than gettng stuff stuck in the holes, I miss my veggies so had a can of V8, scrambled eggs work, banab and almond milk - shake and had some salmon and some ice cream!!!! I may blend up some chili ;p
Interesting when I post of face book that I am having a holiday it gets passed on to my sister and my mother but when I am in pain it does not get passed on - still thinking about inventing a fantastic holiday - or even better convincing G that we need one lol
peggy welcome - keeping your sanity in one of the good things to do with it - losing it is not so great though most of us have come close - siblings - well most of us don't have much good to say there - mine does not even make it sound good by offering and as well she thinks nothing about telling me off for not doing the very things she doesn't do even though I do do them - if that makes any sense - so for me she is a write off unless there is a major change and I am not holding my bresth - I have cyber sisters and other friends and that is fine - tell us more about fil and your life. I am the resident oldster - just turned 74 and my mother at 99 is going strong and just recovering from a hip repair -she has borderline personality disorder and is narsissistic - which are compounded by aging though she still is very sharp and as difficult to get along with as she ever has been - I have had to detach and distance as the stress has affected my health though still oversee that she gets what she needs -she is in an ALF.
love and hugs everyone ♥♥♥
jo
seeme glad the family is arrived "on schedule" lmao and so glad hubby is doing the meals - one less things for u to worry about -sort of makes up for the lawn furniture flying in the hurricane
emjo.....I have to agree with seeme....I'm thinking dry socket. Advil won't touch it....you need the big guns. And use ice, not heat.....heat draws in the blood which makes the pain worse. Freeze that jaw!
Wow, here it's 1 pm and the temp has reached 68...........I am so enjoying this....the windows are open and a breeze is blowing through and I'm seriously thinking of taking my kindle to the front yard and sitting in one of the gliders and just reading the afternoon away. Later I will get the col and take her out to sit, but have to bundle her up, she's already complaining about being cold. Going to be a long winter if that is happening now.
Have a great day everyone!
Love and Hugz,
Jam
Sisters arrived safe and sound eventually....like 3am...they turned the GPS off and shouldn't have......they stayed with mom and I came home.....my sleep schedule is way whacko, so I am trying to straighten it out. One sis can't sleep without ambien, so imagine she stayed awake all night.....I will go shortly when hubby gets back from shopping....he is in charge of all the meals, so he needed ingredients. Things are going very smoothely so far and I don't expect anything less.......my pockets are still full.....hahahahahahaha......as I told my sisters.....I'm baaaaaaaccckkkk...
Jam – 62 - awesome!!! I did make more ice cream - with fresh strawberries this time. It is good and the cold helps and it is easy. I used soya creamer this time – still froze rock hard. The rest of the strawberries I boiled up with an orange that I blended – rind and all – tasty!!! -temp 57 here this morning –better to be alone with this tooth thing – not good company and I like my space anyway glad u had a good dinner with the col - Edmonton eh? Small world
starri – hotels r good –sweet water –maybe everyone is diabetic – think the Advil is affecting my brain –sweet springs would work too – safe trip to Nebraska
mismiley – nice to see you again – hangers or throwing old dishes –glad u r getting a break
ladee– need a fresh set of hangers? rock hunting sounds like fun – love rocks – let us know what u found – 6 days of Marie sounds like too much –u do need some time off
seeme – prayers going in ur direction – sounds like u have ur ducks in a row - glad mum is getting the help she needs –sorry about the old friend but glad u got to see her -terrible week – tune in the sibs if need be – any way u can
shawna –so glad u had fun at the fair –we all need a bit of that –nothing wrong with eyeing the guys
stormy – how ya doing? How’s dad?
John - nice poem –you do a good job of those
worried - wondering how u made out with the lawyer
Vic, YR, asg, ros, ib4, burned and anyone I have forgotten – have a good day and check in when u can
Love hugs and prayers ♥♥♥
jo
Am getting out of here for awhile today and going rock hunting, I'll be a different person when I get back.....
Marie is one of the most selfish people I have ever known other than dad.... it amazes me how she has NO compassion at all for Sonny, yet bitches and complains constantly, is bitter, controlling, hateful at times.... neither one have any control over their illness, yet Sonny is a joy to be with... some things happened yesterday that made me think of some things I am eventually going to tell her.... the main one being, too bad she can't show any compassion for Sonny, as she receives so much for her illness....... I just ignored her yesterday and Sonny and I spent most of the day outside.... we went to the front yard and bless his heart he hit the mother load of sticks to pick up.... he was just a happy little guy, just a jabbering away, and steady picking up sticks... yes, I would rather be with Sonny any time of the day...... I was tired and did not feel like listening to her tell me same things I hear everyday,,, and YET, she doesn't she what she does..... agrrrr. they are going to have to find someone to come in on the weekends..... God knows I need the money, but not enough to sell my soul to that devil to get it...... but ya"ll know what, I still had a good week... once I make up my mind, then that is the path I follow, until it is time to take another direction....
Glad to hear you and the col had a descent dinner... I bet she was fun before this disease took her away..... and tell Target I hope he feels better today...
Ok, getting my stuff together to go rock hunting...
Love everyone, check in and let us know how you are...... don't make us worry and Jam is like a mama duck, if she doesn't know how all her "babies" are she gets worried..... so let us know how ya'll are....
Headin toward the future... love you all and hugs across the miles...
PS, talked to Seeme last night, she is doing very well, is very pleased with the facility her mom is in, and is READY for the sibs... prayers to her and mama...
I woke up this morning to temps around 62....what a drastic change....it's only going to be in the 70's all week.....Fall is definitely on it's way. I don't think I'm ready for it yet. Target is feeling better today and I haven't bothered the col, letting her sleep as long as she wants...after 87 yrs she deserves to sleep the day away if she wants.
I've sent seeme her first round of angels this morning.....something tells me she really needs them today.
ladee......you're especially quiet.....and I understand......I think we all are right now, even though we have our own worries, we are all standing with seeme.
emjo.....I hope you are feeling better today...no pain from extractions. Made more ice cream? I haven't gotten ingredients from the store to make any yet, but I'm going to. You make it sound so easy that it may be something I do more often now. The col and I were talking on the way to eat last night and I mentioned to her that you live in northern Alberta and I had completely forgotten that her mother and grandparents settled in Edmonton when they came from Finland......their last name was Sutherland. I don't recall when they moved to San Francisco, but the col could give me an approximate date I bet. It is a small world.
stormy......hope you are doing well this weekend, how's Dad? I understand that you get tired of going to doctor after doctor, but I think most of that is because you haven't found the one yet that can and will give you the answers you are seeking.
starri......hope you made it through the storms that passed through here last night and are safe and sound in Nebraska. And yes, I waved at you! There is a little town called Sweetwater and it's down by the Arkansas state line...that's why I was confused when you said you were on I-70. I'm sorry the "travel plaza" didn't turn out to be what you thought....but isn't that the way of reality tv? They get you by making you think it's something else. We will be going past it on our way to our destination later so I think we may jump off the highway to take a look around.
John, Rossella, Vic, Shawna, mis, ib4, burned, YR, ASG.........I'm sorry if I missed anyone.....I don't mean to....my brain is about as sharp as a round rock this morning. I hope you all are having a peaceful morning. Let us know how you are when you can.
Love and Hugz,
Jam
Just got home from dinner out with the col......full of crab legs and shrimp....col had a wonderful time, only one issue...she wouldn't keep her glasses on so told her if she couldn't read the menu she would have to put them on. Then I had to order for her. Coconut shrimp, mashed potatoes, cole slaw, Red Lobsters famous rolls and a glass of raspberry lemonade. And she ate every single bite. Don't have a clue where she put it all. Me either....crab legs, shrimp skewers, broccoli, green salad, rolls and 2 glasses of raspberry lemonade.....and I can still walk! Target still not feeling well, so he got to stay home. But I did bring him a vanilla shake.
seeme......ditto on what ladee said. Whomp those sibs up alongside the head with those bronze babies if they step out of line. Don't let them treat you like the chief cook, bottle washer and taxi driver. I think you will find that with hospice mom comes first, you come second and if the rest try to interfere with anything they will be put in time out. We are here for you....anytime you need us. Love you bunches girlfriend!
Everyone needs to check in.............
Love and Hugz to all of you,
Jam
Mom has deteriorated from Thurs nite. Yes, the pain is controlled, they have suctioned her throat a couple of times, gave her medicine to dry that up. With others here, it will be difficult to find some me time to get on here, but I think of you all as my family and know I will be reading if I can't do anything else.
Jam, you need to shoot those angels over here like you were firing a machine gun.........Pray I'm not in the spa before the next week is over............xoxoxo
seeme.......I have my little assembly line of angels going out to you as fast as I can....hope the meds have helped to ease Mom's pain and allowed her to get a little rest. Once hospice got the MS going in my Mom she settled down and didn't do any more yelling and moaning, although the breathing was still labored, but that was to be expected with pneumonia. Prayers and love sent to you.
ladee....working for a while today. Me too since the girls aren't here on weekends yet. Told either one of the girls that if they want to start picking up some weekends while I am looking for constant help, just write it down on the calendar so that I see it.
Shawna....sounds like you had fun with your nieces.....I wouldn't get on any rickety, squeaking rides either...........I squeak too much on my own anyway!
mis.....glad you're getting away for a couple of days. Yes, the repetitive responses will drive you crazy. Just remember that each time she repeats something to you, it is new to her. She doesn't remember that she just asked the same question for the tenth time in 5 minutes. Anymore, I use a simple yes or no, or as few words as possible.....it makes it easier that way. If you go into a long explanation you just wear yourself out and that's when your mind starts to get irritated.
starri......you should be on the road by now. Hope the drive is safe and that you go north around the city and not through it......you will be beating hubby! Double check with the Post Office...the last time we went to Vegas I did the whole stop the mail bit online....and they delivered all the mail everyday for a week. When I complained the local office said that happens sometimes......so why have it then? So again I will have to go myself and stop it physically....don't trust them to do it right....it's the government after all....:)
emjo.....enjoying cooler air this morning I'm sure. How are you feeling? Teeth, or where they used to be any better today? I always enjoyed my days with hubby working, I could relax or get whatever I needed to get done. Now I have to wait to vacuum so I don't wake him up!
stormy......how's dad? Hope you're having a good weekend and not having to sit....
Taking the col out for early dinner today. Don't know that Target will be joining us. He picked up an enteritis somewhere.....the only place he has been is to Wal-Mart.....but he has not felt well for a few days. Hoping today he might perk up a little. One of our day help has noticed some bizarre mental changes going on with the col, not constant but enough to make her go "oh my"......yesterday it was "the Indians and Cowboys took me, but they brought me back soon enough so I could go to work".............alrighty then! Watching too many old westerns I guess. But much better than Headline news or CNN all day.....that makes her in a bad mood.
Everyone else must be busy enjoying their weekends..........check in when you can.
Love and Hugz to all,
Jam
Mis, sounds like you have had a heck of a day, glad to hear that you are getting a break. We need that from time to time..
Ladee, looking forward to hearing more from you..
Shawna, so glad to hear you had a good time, funny to hear your niece didn't want you picking up guys.. she's still at the age isn't she that she doesn't understand guys can actually be fun sometimes? lol.. it's a joy to hear that you are having a good time.
We're in Sweet springs instead of the sweet water I thought we were in yesterday evening..lol.. holed up in a little motel, had a great nights sleep for a change.. the rooms my DH has been getting us are the ones with two full size.. not enough room to sprawl out.. I registered us this time, and got a queen..lol.. hubby is still snoring, Claire and Squeek are up on the bed with him. Maggie likes to play the little girl card and pretend she can't jump on the bed, I know better. So she is curled up on top of hubby's jeans.
We're off for the Prairie Oasis RV park in Nebraska today, going to stay there for probably a week, just to chill and get the mail sent in. Will check in with ya'll later this evening when we get there and get set up..
Love ya
Carmen
We had a good day today we just got home at 12:30 mom was full of piss and vinigar today i tell you. It hit 10 lol we got there around 5:30 6 at the Fair and i was checking on her to see if she needed anything. She looks at me big smile and says nope I am just fine are you enjoying yourself. Then goes do you want to go home I said do YOU .. she looked around smile and said not unless you do. I said nope I was fine riding the rides with the kids and my great neice showed up with my other niece and my other great niece so she had some of her grandbabies there as she calls them. My niece Alena yes I do have favorite I know I shouldn't but there is a long story in that one... anyway she decided since AUnt shawna was there and riding rides SHE had to ride with her. She's ten... well will be next month the girls got a pointy elbow I can tell you I will be feelin those rides tomorrow. ONly had one scare and that was to do with a ride. It was creaking so badly that I truly thought it was going to break with us on it and I had my niece and two of the little girls that came to the fair with me. Thankfully when I told the god dang engineer SIX times to let us off my friend who was also a carny at the fair came over after hearing me yell and told them to get us down. Told the girls I will ride every ride with you but that ONE ... Told my friend they needed to check it out a bit better as it didn't sound right when riding as i have rode that ride before and it never sounded like THAT. They had a haunted house ride DID NOT go into that one. Sorry I don't do horror or scary movies ... not gonna go in a ride thats gonna give me nightmares or a heart attack ALena didn't want to go in it anyway. This is the little girl who gets scared watching LOTR .. and is afraid of FRODO yes I said Frodo. OH the funny thing is my adorable little niece had a fit cause aunt shawna was scopin out the carnies there was so cuuuuuuuute guys there ... hey I am only 33. My niece that is the adult was laughing cause I'd say oh isn't this one cute and Alena would have a fit and asy AUnt shawna we are here to ride rides not pick up guys lol I wasn't picking up ANYTHING anyway it was an interesting night and i am DOG tired ... got cleaning to do tomorrow and so much UGH
Strangest thing. I was walking down to the kitchen and reading names on the other rooms, and I saw a last name I recognized with the same first initial of an old friend from when we were stationed here on Seymour Johnson AFB. We bowled together and even went to a tournament in Raleigh and we slept together in the same bed....had a lot of good times......went back later to check if it was her and yep, sure was, so I said hello to family and spoke to Carol. A while later one family member came to mom's room and told me she died not 10 min. after I left. Been one hell of a week......and a former co-worker's mom is there and she is having trouble with her mom's sisters. They are of the generation that you don't see them until there is a funeral, but they talk about how they were there when so and so died and they are waiting......so she was going to put a sign on the door limiting visits to 15 min. I told her Make it 10. Her note was done by the nurses all nicely printed up that said 10-15 min.....just before I left I saw it had been changed to 10...LOL Doesn't matter what age, sibs can be a pain........
Will try to post tomorrow. Thanks again for dll you're good wishes. Don't know what I would do without all of you.........xoxoxo
BUT, I did have a good week.... amazing what a change in attitude will do for our sanity....
Seeme, have thought about you and mama all day, how is she adjusting to the new facility and how is her pain???? Hospice are the most awesome people on earth...... hope your experiance with them is a blessed one..
Everyone else, love ya, will have more time tomorrow evening to get caught up with ya'lll , hugs across the miles....