The Caregiver... How are YOU doing today?

Starri, we mined around Franklin, NC. We really had fun doing it. Kathy is our wonderful neighbor. We had bought our lot first and then hunted for months for house plans. We watched her house being built, hubby even helped a little as he was checking out the builder, but we didn't use him. When it was finished, Kathy had just moved back here from Alabama as a new widow to be closer to her family. My hubby is my social butterfly and I am quiet, so she kinda new us. I happened to work for one of her nephews by marriage. Anyway, when mom came here, I had to find a daycare person to come here because I intended to keep working. I had interviewed a couple of older ladies, church-going types who would be shocked to hear some of the things my mom would say. Kathy walked over to me when I was st the mailbox one day and asked how things were going and I asked her if she would be interested in staying with mom. She was about 48 at the time, and I knew she had been a CNA and was getting certified here, so she came in to meet mom then and they hit it off. She is 2 yrs younger than my baby sister, claims to BE my baby sister, calls my mom her mother, has been on vacation to Illinois with us, met most of my family at one time or another, and we have met all of hers. Her husband left her well off, so she has the time when she's not cleaning her family's houses. We talk every day and she knows all mom's health concerns. Hubby is over there now drinking his morning coffee. And she had taken care of her MIL for 8 years, so she knows the story. Wonderful angel to me.

Ladee, so funny. My little sister just told me she was so hot in Illinois that she had to change her underwear 3 times one day. So now we tell each other how hot it is by saying, "It's a 3 or 4 underwear day". Been meaning to tell you that for a few days now and kept forgetting. So compliment Marie a few times and the day goes by better??? Sounds like a plan to me. Guess we all need a little stroking now and then, right? Not just the Diva. Let's face it, that's what we get here.

Jam, Thank goodness only Wednesday. I'm sure the weekends loom over your head now, but ain't it nice to have help during the week when you can get more done for yourself. It is such a treat for me to get my hair done or go to the chiro on Tuesdays. My week now revolves around Tuesday.

Must try to get a sample from mom today. Doesn't that sound like fun? Yesterday I tried to get her to pee standing up, then I told her to squat, she needed me to hold the cup from behind, then she sat down.....yeah.....my hand is still holding the cup from behind.....what a Kodak moment that was !!!

Cmagnum, do you live in NC?? Just wondered since you mention UNC.

Have to start my day.......oh, well...............later..........

ahh, Ladee, you left yourself wide open on that one, (pun intended) lol, I have a seriously warped sense of humor, but I will be good... Tell Diva that Mama has had far to much on her mind to keep track of the litter..but you will promise to do better..get her a little treat of some kind, maybe she will forgive you in a week or two.

Get you some powder for the other problem.. works wonders.. with the humidity levels around here, I might as well stay in the shower.. I'm glad about the a/c, it does make sleeping better, our a/c in the bedroom keeps it nice and chilly, the past couple of days though the one in the living-room just can't keep up.. Doesn't help that the trailer is about as air tight as a colander..

Today, since I am in a holding pattern for doing stuff till I retrieve Jerr from the hospital, I think I am going to go turn on the a/c in the camper and start getting stuff out of there and seeing better what I have for storage room and making a list of what I believe we need, I'd like to have at least two weeks worth of shelf stable stuff in there for meals. and then I can add meats and fresh veggies every few days. We need more assorted things for the camper, like towels, TP, another pan and skillet.. thinking about getting a electric one, use to cook in one all the time when we only had a propane stove and no money to get propane.. Well, ya'll be good and I pray your charges are today..

I hate this heat, my crotch is always wet and not in a good way....love to everyone today.. need to get going and stop by Walmart before work, the Diva needs new litter and her Mom has not been vigilant... pheww... and she is mad at me, gives me a little nip when I try to pet her..... sorta like my ex husbands.... love ya'll ,later,,, oh and I did sleep GOOD last night, so nice and cool, now onward thru the fog...

Ladee, congrats on the a/c, don't matter why they did it, just so long as they did it.. Sometimes we all need validation on what is going on with us, my family for years has and still do act like there is nothing wrong with me, part of it is my fault for learning to hide it so well.. they (and I for that matter) didn't know about the bipolar till I ended up in the local mental ward over a suicide attempt. Diabetes, I've learned how to cope..up too and including walking away from my post if I had to get something to eat to get stabilized. My HS? I just worked through the pain if at all possible.. the arthritis ? I gimped, hobbled and cried when I got to the car. He just started his drinking last month, so far it hasn't looked like it's that bad yet, but you know what they say, you start again and you slide down hill fast.. What's up with the helpers? can you kick them in the butt and tell them to get on the ball or your moving in with them? lol.. Told the guy at the propane place that one time when he let me run out of propane in the middle of winter, either he would have me propane by 5pm or I was moving in with him and his wife and he would not like it..

Jh? is Mom filing for her VA disability? if so has she had her C-N-P yet? I hope she gets it, how long have you been fighting for it? it was 2 years for hubby, and 2 years for Jerry, hubby remembered to say thank you, I had to stay on his butt about things both for VA and for SSD.. What irks me so about Jerry is the fact that 1: Glenn had to nag him about doing it in the first place, 2: Take him over to the local VA Rep's to get the ball rolling, 3: I have had to haul his butt 3 hours down and 3 hours back to the nearest VA Hospital plus add in the wait time for doctors for 2 frigging years and I paid for gas and meals for most of those. 4: I've been the one that has had to answer all the questions about his condition(s) They normally will not allow another person to go into the C-N-P, his TBI doctor had me come in with him, and then asked me to "help him" out when he could not get Jerry to answer questions cause he could not remember answers. He got his disability based on TBI, caused by the concussion received during a auto accident and that concussion would not have been in their minds had I not shoved the paperwork showing it in the face of the head of Rehab. She kept saying contusions and I kept saying concussion, hell yeah he had contusions, he face planted into a windshield.. but his egg got scrambled along with it.. get the ov - glove, get two of them..lol..

Seeme, this is a once in a life time opportunity for me and I am taking it, Hubby is 63 and I am 52, both of us falling apart, so we'd better get while the getting is good...lol... here I live under 2 hours from NC and never been up there panning.. might have to do that on my way out of town. Who is this Kathy? God bless her for helping you clean, but she should not be working you like a slave..lol..

hey Stormy, good to see you too, that sucks about dad, I hope they can do something.. Mom had small cell cancer, went from the lungs to the liver.. Hope that little one finally went to sleep..and that you got a restful night as well.

YR, hope you get some rest, what has the mind in a mush?

Cm, has your son been excepted to a school? I would take that letter and show it to the deans at the school he wanted to go too and let them know what you know, maybe they can change something. As for her, I'd report the whole school to the school board and maybe the state too. Sometimes coming in like a bull in a china shop does no good and other times it does, hard to tell which one of those times it is, if you can prove that she has lied with paper to prove it, I would be for doing that..

Ok, think that I have covered everyone that has posted..lol, where are the rest of you?

Jam the dr. didn't say it was a dvt or cellulitis. He just seemed to think that the swelling was coming from that lymph node. Dad is not bed ridden. But he does stay in his recliner all day and at night except to go to the bathroom. His breath is so short he hates to get up and walk around. It just wears him out. And he doesn't wear compression hose. He doesn't want to and plus he has huge feet size 13 eee. They probably wouldn't fit him. Plus we have a time trying to get his reg. socks on him because his feet do swell some. He doesn't have any cuts or breaks in the skin on his legs or feet. As of yet. Whatcha think is going to happen to his leg? Dr. didn't say to do anything for the swelling. Is it going to continue to get bigger or what? Just asking your opinion. I will let you know what we find out tomorrow if we find out anything at all from the tests. Love and Hugs back to you!!! Stormy

I was depressed for most of today until our youngest son told us how bad a letter of recommendation that his guidance counselor wrote for the colleges that he applied to. She promised to share about his struggle with ADD and some online high school courses due to them not following state virtual education policies. She lied about as well as Casey Anthony. Somehow, he has obtained a copy of her letter. First of all, her sentence structure is horrible. Second, she lied and slandered him as much as she could. Third, we know why she did this and it probably kept him out of UNC Chapel Hill where he is a descendant of the first student, Hinton James. We thought something was going on with these rejection letters given his grades, SAT scores, etc. We had not heard from Oxford College of Emory University yet, so we encouraged him to call them and inform them of his worries. That I believe helped him get in. It also helped that he has become good friends with the chairperson for our state virtual public education who wrote him a letter of recommendation. Fourth, he is not the only senior to suffer from this guidance counselor's incompetency. Fifth, to make things worse, her mother is a guidance counselor. Sixth, hearing the content of that letter today woke me up into a rage of anger which I still have some of. I would love to take that letter and sue her for we have a long list of documented problems we and others have had with her. Seventh, I am very, very, very angry at her and would love to tell her off. Our son has some contacts in this school district and above that he will share this information with. That will work much better than me going into that person's office like a bull in a china store. That woman is playing with people's lives and future education and should be fired, but she's protected by the principle who taught her when she was in high school. Teachers in that school who have complained have been told to shut up or you will lose your job. Other teachers have already left after being told to teach at a lower level than expected at a high school in order to make the school look good. Can you tell that I'm still mad!!!!??????? Good night!

stormy.....you didn't say whether the scan showed a DVT. Or maybe cellulitis. It's an unfortunate fact that cancers do spread. But don't start thinking the worst until all tests and biopsies have been done. I assume Dad is bedridden? Do you keep Ted hose on him? Make sure you are checking his lower legs and feet for venous stasis ulcers......you don't want anything like that! Any skin breakdown will need to be addressed immediately. Don't take what you read on the Internet as gospel; there are so many variables in conditions and the courses that a disease will take. And the pain versus no pain in an area is not always true either. Keep us informed of the test results please!

Love and Hugz,
Jam

I am here to. I just got dad to bed and I am about out of my friggin mind. I can't think straight so I'm gonna go stand in the shower for awhile than fall into bed. Night all

Hey gang I'm back that child of mine did not want to go to sleep. Ok back to dad. A brief history on his battle with cancer. Last year he was diagnosed with hurthle cell carcinoma( thyroid cancer of the follicular type). It is a rare form of cancer. And chemo does not treat it so he had to have the radiation part. His tumor was 5 cm. that's about the size of a lime. It was invasive into his windpipe. Dr. had to take part of wp out and pull up the rest and reattach. From what I have searched on the web and I have done alot of that.This type of cancer has a tendency to spread to other parts of the body. Age and Tumor size play a big role in this type of cancer. Dad was 78 this past March. Ok now for what happened yesterday. I was at dads and he told me to take his sock off of his right foot and look at his leg. Mind you dad is a diabetic so his lower legs and feet look awful. But when I took his sock off I saw his calf muscle and it was huge. It was all swollen to the point where the skin looked tight. I asked him when did it get like this? And he said it felt kinda tingling the day before and yesterday. The lower part of his leg below where the calf muscle is was not that swollen but was pink looking all the way down his feet. And there was some heat to the touch of where it was pink at. So I called sis at work and told her what was going on and that she needed to come up here and look at his leg. She did and we measured how swollen it was there was about 4 inches difference between right leg and left leg. She called the dr. and they schedule him to have a scan done yesterday to rule out a deep vein thrombosis. He has already had one of those in his right arm. So they done the scan and sent him home. Today sis carried him to dr. office to get results and dr said he found a enlarged lymph node in his groin area. And that if it was the size of his pinky finger the tip part he would not be worried too much about it but he said that it was more like the size of the width of his thumb. And this is a dr. that is kinda of big man. So he said that tomorrow he wants dad to have a cat scan done and a chest x ray done. I guess to see if any other nodes are swollen. And then sometime in Aug. he wants him to have a biospy of the lymph node done. Me and sis felt where the lymph node is and we asked him if it hurt and he said no. Now some of the stuff I have read on the web has said that if a lymph node hurts its infected and if it doesn't it could mean something else. Like cancer. Dr just said that since it was as big as it was that it could mean cancer. What do all of ya'll think it is? I just didn't know if any of you had any info on this type of cancer or cancer of the lymph nodes. Well sorry this got to be so long but I wanted all of you to know the facts of his cancer. I'll be waiting for your replies. Thanks for listening Friends... Stormy

Good Evening Posse!

I have been doing not much of anything today except trying to stay cool. It has been miserably hot. Here it is almost 10 pm and it's still 90 degrees. I walked outside about 5 pm to pick all the ripe tomatoes I could find before the heat got to them and the col wanted to sit on her patio. And talk about when Target would be going back to work, because hasn't he just been on vacation? Oh my. Then I told her I would bring her dinner in about 10 minutes. And there she is sitting on the couch inhaling a salad and didn't remember at all that dinner was on it's way.

Got interrupted to put the col to bed. She wanted to take her purse to bed with her...it's got her id in it. So, are we planning to prove who we are to someone tonight? Got a little nasty when I made her wash her whole hands instead of just her fingertips....after all, it's only her fingertips that ever get dirty.

Guess I am going to kick back and lurk for a while.............Hope y'all have a good night.

Love and Hugz to all,
Jam

Stormy....I too am waiting on the reports. It doesn't look like I will get much sleep after the last couple of hours. Mom is getting pissy and I don't mean the kind that goes in the commode. That would be wonderful. She'd getting mean pissy. Put the GD "gate" down......I peed quiet that time..(NOT)....oh, don't tell me when I have to go or when to hold it.......

I'm still drinking coke, so I guess I'll read for a time and see what happens. I still have homework to do from Kathy, so I only have till she shows up tomorrow night. This experience makes me want to be a minimalist.

I'll check in later..................

Mike got the AC fixed today.....I'm sure it was not for me, it will be for when they are getting the house ready to sell. They are selfish and greedy... but I am cool tonite and that's all I care about... just for today....tomorrow, now I will be griping again about my moron helpers getting the banana split moved... If it was all us ladies, we would already had it moved, set up and redecorated.....but nooooooooooo...... as I said earlier, am going to have to let go of the outcome...
I would be so afraid to come to your house right now, OMG, I would spill something or leave a foot print somewhere, I'll wait for another year to come visit... I have been missing you.. sorry to hear mama may have another UTI, those are so hard on our elders....and the craziness is hard on the caregiver... hope the chiro helps you so you can finish being Kathy's slave ....
Yep, many are getting some real vacations, guess we'll just have to wait... My friend in Colorado said she was going to retire to Texas with me, I told her not to sell her house, we would need a place to stay in the summer... she would die here, no way could she handle this heat....
Stormy hope you and little man are feeling better, waiting to hear about Dad...
Hope I can stay awake.... love and hugs.

I'm here everyone just for a minute though. I got to go see if I can't get this child of mine to lay down and when he goes to sleep I will be back. I have some medical information (reports) back on dad today so I will fill all of ya'll in when I get back in a few.... Hugs...

I'm here, for a while anyway.

Starri, I amso glad you are getting away for a while. I do envy you that. It would be nice to just go where you want to. My "vacationa" were always spent going to onw family or the other. Only once did we go to the mountains of NC and go mining for saphires. That was fun and the real thing--not seeded buckets. I'm sorry Jerry is being a butt. Now he's beginning to sound like my brother Jerry.

Shawna, Our weather will be back in the 100's by the weekend. Can't say anyone's allergies are any worse than before.....maybe everything has died and tobacco picking hasn't really started yet, but it is easier on everyone than cotton or soy beans.

Kathy worked my butt off yesterday again AND I had homework last night. I could hardly walk again last night. But then....I went out to pick some itty bitty tomatoes out of the garden and got bit twice, almost in the same spot, on my right toe by a fire ant. Itched at first and I scratched, but now it is sore, slightly swollen, and has the pus pockets. Then Kathy and I both went up into the attic to find a 4th shadow box that I could fill easily, and hubby changed the lighting setup without telling me. The attic space connects to the house after you go up 3 steps, and while I was looking for a light switch, I missed a step coming down and twisted my left ankle. I honestly thought I may have broken a small bone at the time, but not now. Thank goodness I had already made an appt to the chiro today. I told him my back was too sore to sweep or vaccuum and I couldn't even limp properly. He liked that. lol Yesterday we cleaned all the stuff I have on top of my kitchen cabinets. Yuck !! Today we rearranged some cabinets so I could get all the medicine hidden, finished cleaning all the walls and center island. A couple more drawers and 3 window, floor, and that will be finished. We have pantry, small bathroom and laundry room, master bedroom to go....maybe 4 more days. Now maybe the furniture won't get so dusty so fast. Kathy found a bunch of pictures she wants to hang.....whatever.

Ladee, I CANNOT BELIEVE you have no A/C !!! Does he think he can sell a house without it?? Are they NUTS??? Of COURSE they are!!! That's what you've been saying all along !!! How is Diva doing? That just pisses me off !!!!

Sounds like mom ans a UTI. Stopped by the dr's officve and picked up a couple of speciman cups and will try to get a sample tomorrow. She was just sitting in her chair in the kitchen and started hollering she had tried to walk and fell !! HELP !! Mom, I said, open your eyes !! Damn !!

Ladee, fill the tub with cold water. FILL IT!! Your new pool !!

Will check back in a little while........later....................

I'm here Starri, just enjoying the cool... Mike got the AC fixed today,,, I finally figured out why, they will need it to be cool in here when they are getting it ready to sell. It's ALL about them, but who cares, I am cool for now... still no progress on the banana split, I am having to let the end result go, I am driving my self in Sane.....
Marie, for as tired as she was today, was really in a good mood... early this morning I told her how much I respected her for keeping on, still putting one foot in front of the other because I know how tired she is.... And BOOM, she was a different lady all day... guess it never occurred to me to validate how hard things are for her, and yet she still goes thru all the transfusions and all the mess associated with it. But Sonny was out of it again today... so don't know if he is down sliding into another phase, or doesn't' feel good and just can't tell us... Just one big roller coaster ride being there....but was happy to see her more involved and laughing some today...
emjo on her way to the mountains, lucky lady...
shawna, sounds like you are having a rough time, try to get some rest and take care of yourself...
And starri, guess if we wait for others to tell us thanks, we'll just be left waiting.... sorry your sib is being a turd, but if he is drinking again, that isn't helping his state of mind.... When will you get to leave for your camping trip????
I'll think I am camping if the banana split ever gets moved and set up.... From the huge house to a cracker box, I'll have some adjusting to do.... as long as the AC works, I'll make do...
And I'm with Starri, where is everyone???? I am lonesome for my friends,, let us know how things are, how you are, how they are, how we are, how it could be and how it is.... hugs across the miles to everyone.....

Yep mom is all settled in and relaxing watching her cooking shows. She ate good tonight and can't wait to go swimming tomorrow. Yeah the burns are because the water bottle has a mug wrap that goes around it to press them in the oven and the wrap has clasps that are metal so i have to use a towel to get them off and sometimes the towel slips so I need to get some heat resistant gloves at walmart.. we also got news that they made a decision on moms VA claim... they sent out the paper letting us know if we were declined or approved so here's hoping she got approved.

I'm glad to see you are here, did you get mom settled? it sounds like you need someone to get you settled as well, swollen foot, allergies, and now burns on top of it? Take care of yourself and be careful.

I'm here Starr just trying to deal with stuff for next weekend. I had enough orders that I had to get them done not to mention get mom relaxed for the day thankfully its nice and cool today. Still dealing with my swollen foot but my allergies seem to be easing off only ended up with a slight headache today. Then burned my hand and wrist taking the water bottle out of the oven Oy... other than that we are doing good over here...

Is everyone ok? I've never seen this thread so quiet, Jam? Jo? Ladee? Stormy? where are all of you?

: ( : ( : ( Man I am sorry to hear that Ladee, your in TX and I know that the temps there are well over a 100... I would be a puddle in the floor without one. I hope you figure out a way to keep cool, hang out in a Walmart if nothing else.

Hey all, it's quiet in here today, heat getting to everyone? it is me, well, I am back from Anderson from taking the friend to the hospital there, it turned out to only be a cath, they got in there, his two stints he had already were open, but there was a blockage above one of them, so they opened it up, put in another stint and he'll be home tomorrow.. I should have learned by now, not to trust my brother when it comes to something being wrong with someone... he makes out like their throat is cut and they have stubbed a toe in reality.

So that means that we are a go for leaving at the end of the month, Jerr will be home, recovered from his stint pretty much and be available to haul Jerry back and forth to Columbia..

I can't begin to tell you what a disappointment that kid has turned out to be, no word of thanks, no acknowledgement for all that Glenn and I have done to help him get his VA disability.. I'm not asking for him to bow at my feet, jump up and down yelling thanks at the top of his lungs, but a simple hey thanks would be nice.

He's back drinking again, he'd stopped for 2 years, after mom passed he started again.. He's going to go down hill quickly I know.. anyway, how is everyone else doing today? I'm going to try and chart a course for us to start out on for the trip and get a list of things I need to stock the camper with.. maybe tonight after the sun goes down and it cools a bit, I can get out there and do some rearranging.

Woke up to no AC..

Stormy to me it sounds like a very fair schedule, if you can swap a day for a night every now and then, giving your sister a night off, that would be great, drag your brothers butt in there for that as well, piss on your sister in law, if she's that worried about him, then bring her butt over to help.

Don't do like I tend to do, and be fair to everyone else to my demise.

Ladee, is this Mike the guy who owns the place that your living? you might want to remind him that if there is no way to pull the humidity out of the house, he might want to think about mold growth.., even when Glenn and I were gone on our trip the a/c was left on, just because of that. You can also check with the local pawn shops, they have some used units you could stick in the window in your room for now.. or go to one of those rent to own places and get you one.. later if you need, it can be added to the side of the banana split.. They do have the portable ones, kinda like heaters you sit in the middle of the room, but those things are pricey..

Well, getting time for me to get ready to get out of here, it's 5:10AM and I am on my way to pick up the Jerry's (brother and friend of the family) and haul the friend to Anderson for a cath and possibly surgery. Gonna tell the friend he'd better plan on being home by the 25th, I can haul brother to Columbia for his surgery, but he would rather lose his sight I believe than let me help him. Ladies, I don't know how we are going to pull it off, but we are out of here by the first of Sept, if I have anyway to do it. Have a wonderful day...

Starri, I think that is a great idea for the banana split!!! I hope all is well with you.
YR sounds like you have a brother about like mine. MIA!!!!(missing in action)
Ladee, is the banana split about ready? You can come and save all of us from our cg's hell. We can all make a break out of JAIL! I hope you can talk Mike into fixing the AC it's too hot not to have air. You'll pass out in this heat!!!
Emjo, I am soo loving the antlers pics. I hope you are having a better day today!
Jam, the schedule I got for myself is better than what it was. I guess I'm just wondering if I am staying enough. Because before I got soo depressed I was staying 9 or 12 hours a day with dad. So these new hrs. are kind of a welcomed relief. My sister is basically staying every night with my dad and I guess that is why I feel kinda bad for her. She gets off work at 8 at night and then comes to stay with dad. And she leaves to go to work around 8:30 or 9 some mornings and other days she goes in at 1 til 8. And our dear brother does not help out much at all. He might and this is a big might stay with dad at night 1 night a week or 1 night every 2 weeks. But my sister has to call him and ask him to stay with dad. Then if he does we have to hear from sil that she is scared that he is going to have another stroke coming down here to help with your dad because it's too stressful for him. But he doesn't do anything except clean out his canula and get him some tea and help him out of the chair that's all. Me and sister do everything that has to be done to dad before we leave brother there. Feed, shots, meds, suction all that shit. And my brother use to be a paramedic up until last year. And was one for like 15 yrs. So he could probably do some of that stuff. But I guess he thinks well if I start back doing it. They(we) will be calling on him to help us all the time. And now he has started back drinking pretty bad. I think the wife is about to drive him insane. She would drive me insane. And he doesn't do anything all day long so he could stay some of these nights for our sister. When he doesn't stay for a long time then I feel like I have to stay a night with him, but I just can't do it anymore. And I haven't in awhile now. Little Red would call me on the phone saying Mommy please come home when i would have to stay at night with dad. And it just broke my heart to have to tell him that I had to stay with Papa. Oh and by the way sil doesn't do sh$#!!! She was coming down some at christmas to spend the night with my brother when he would stay with dad but now she doesn't even do that anymore. She's kinda like a no show. My hubby has stayed with dad some during the day for a few hours for me or if something is going on and we need him. But most of the time he tries to keep the little one at home so I don't have to contend with dad and a 4 yr old at the same time. And my bil has started helping us out some too. The new lady that is helping us can come pretty much anytime I think. Me and hubby just fixed this schedule so that I can leave at 4 or 4:30 to pick up LR and then go home and not have to go back over to dads with LR. And that way he can go outside and play with his toys and be at home some. Because before I was having my PA I was having to keep him over at dads until 8 or 8:30 at night, rush home bathe him, fed him and play for a little while and then try to get him to bed. I guess I'll see how well I can tolerate the new schedule. I'm kinda like you I want it to be fair also for everyone. Just not sure that it's fair to my sister. Love and Hugs to all. Thanks for listening.

Thank God this day is almost over. I hate Monday's. Had to leave work early to take dad to the dentist. The other day during dinner he handed me something and it was one of his crowns. #&*^%! So of course the tooth was rotten and had to be pulled.
Now try to tell him not to swish his coffee or spit. Yearight(hence my name), not gonna happen. The last time I checked he hadn't started bleeding again.
We had about 2 drops of rain yesterday. It never rains here anymore.
Well, low and behold, my bro agreed to come over last evening so hubby, teenager and I got to go out for dinner.
Have I said that I need to clone myself? Well I do.
Well dad just went into the bathroom so I better go supervise. Peace.

Uh, as long as someone else cooks it, I don't eat meat... yuk....but whoever wants to cook, go for it.. when I get in my little banana split, if it doesn't go in the microwave, I'm not eating it.... Lots of veggy stuff for the microwave tho..
Well when my son and nephew stop arguing like two old married folks, maybe they will get the banana split moved by Wed. I HATE having to count on anyone to help me, and this has turned into such a cluster f%%k... Called the lady that is renting me the space, want to go ahead and pay for it, so I still have one by the time those two make me have a nervous breakdown... and I found a storage unit today, so that is taken care of...
But for the perfect ending to the day, I come home and the house is HOT, the AC had frozen up... had to turn it off, it was 106 here today!!!!!! Let it thaw, turned it back on and it is just now starting to get cooler.. told Mike about it, he won't pay to have it fixed and I;m damned sure not, so will have to make do.... story of my life.....I'm starting to feel like poor white trash more and more each day..lol....
So, hope everyone had a descent day, will try to check back later, it is cooler outside than in here, hugs across the miles...

Thanks Stormy, I love that picture..lol...makes me think of maybe boiling someone else's head.. Maybe we should make that our official mascot.. Deer antler's stew on the banana split.

A schedule is good as long as it is fair to everyone, gives everyone equal or almost equal time, and works for Dad's needs. First off, how many family members care for Dad? Is it just you and your sister? How much time does bro take, how much sil, does your hubby help? Weren't you the person going in Sane? You will be there pretty quick if this is an ongoing schedule. It looks like you are there every day of the week, and we all know that has been hard for you, that leaves little Red in day care every day of the week. The weekends don't sound too bad......you MUST have family time. Does the part-time care giver always take the evening shifts? You should set yourself completely apart from any care when someone else is there. Reachable by phone in case of an emergency, but otherwise it's your own time. Don't try and take on so much time that you burn yourself out. It can happen before we even know it. And then you will start each day with resentment and unfortunately that can have a trickle-down effect and start to have an impact on other parts of your life and relationships. I was at that point and now that I have the girls coming in, I am much more patient when dealing with the col. Except when it comes to roly-poly doggies and bologna.....:) Soooooo, if the schedule you did is for one week only, it's doable.......if it's ongoing I think you should tweak it somewhat so you are not there every single day. Just my thoughts.......which we all know are secret when I go in Cognito..............

Love and Hugz to all of you,
Jam

I had to share this with ya'll if any of you here are friends with Emjo on fb ya'll have got to check out her pictures. She has antlers sticking out of a soup pot!!!! LMAO. Too Cute!!!

Hey again ya'll need ya'll opinion on something. The family has been saying (sis, bro, sil, hubby) to make out a schedule. So me and hubby made out one this week for me and the hours I would stay at dads. This is it M-F 8:30 to 4:30. Off 2 weekends out of the month for when I have Little Red. And the other 2 weekends that hubby is off work I stay at dads that sunday 1-8 and have that sat. off for family day with hubby and the baby. What do ya'll think about the schedule? ((((Hugs)))))) Stormy...