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HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU JAM, HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU ... AND MANY MOOOOOOOOOOORE.... hope Target got you something nice or takes you somewhere nice for the day.... hugs across the miles and by the way you look great for 29!!!!!
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Good Morning everyone, Burned, have you tried getting ahold of the drug companies? they offer patient assistance if you can't afford your meds. Your doctor will probably have to help you on this, I had to have it when I first started my lamitcal,

Ladee, yes, he is still breathing.. was thinking I'd wait till we are on the road and make it look like a accident..rofl.. I was cleaning out the freezer, cause if I waited for him to do it, it would really be rotten by the time he got around to it, ask him to do something and maybe 4 days later it gets done after you yell at him several times... I'll have to cut him a little slack, he's been falling over with apologies for having pulled a bone head stunt like this.

This morning I am off to Columbia, about a 3 hour drive from us, taking baby brother down to see his eye doctor at the VA, we might have surgery in our future, would be nice, maybe the kid can see then.

Emjo, you ought to write a book, you've got all of us waiting for the next chapter..lol, a autobiography,"The life and loves of Ms. Em.."

Well, 5:20 AM and time to go get ready for the fun, see you ladies later, be good, have fun, and I hope that your charges are nice today.

Big Hugs.
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hi john - glad your eating is going well and walking the dog is always good

it does seem a shame about the inheritance, though there are worse uses it could be put to - at least your mother is well cared for.

my mother, being in one of the more expensive assisted living facilities, is using her capital to meet her monthly costs. she has enough for 5-8 years at present and although she is 99 she is going strong and sometimes i wonder if she will outlive her money as what she has from pensions, annuities is very small. guess we will deal with that closer to the time.
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In reading over my mother's long term health care insurance, I came across a maximum of $300,000. She is now in her third year in the nursing home and will turn 80 the end of this month. At the rate costs are going it looks like maybe 3 or 4 years left of insurance and then 3 or 4 years of her securities at which point first the main house and then the beach house and then her inherited land will need to be sold all before medicaid would even think of covering her. I really don't like looking that far down the road because who knows, we might not even get that far. It is so sad how someone saves up all of this money and gets a nice inheritance only to have it eaten away by nursing home costs.
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So far, so good on my diet and I've been walking the dog some also.
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thx ladee - mother still cares about the games and the power and getting her way and what I "should" be doing - she has an indecent amount of energy - yeah the MTs were quite an experience - as were many others - there were two pilots...

everyone - sorry about the double post - i copied the post and shut down the browser cause it was being so slow then reposted but i guess it had saved the original somewhere
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emjo, you are a delight to have here, certainly breaks up the monotony of caregiving.. and you remind me of myself with my dad.. just stopped playing, he didn't care anyway, I was just one less pawn in his game....
Gotta hear about the Muslim terrorists.... I love cyberspace,,, millions upon millions of people we will never meet, but get to know a few, some good experiences and life long friends, and then there is the other stuff......
Hope everyone is ok this evening, have to be at work early tomorrow so am going to go lay it down....... love ya'll and hugs across the miles...
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Hi John - how is the new eating regime coming along - being accountable to others helps and I have lots of experience in low carb.
Starri - glad u r back though sorry to hear about your freezer - BTDT - some lads here working around the house afew years ago unplugged my freezer and we didn't find out till too late - do you ever get the blood out of the corners of the freezer - I eventually had them take it to the dump -it was an old one and a gift anyway -hope you have shower water by now
indy welcome back - glad u had a good break
YR - have a good break - maybe a tensor bandage on the knee?
jam -(((((hugs)))) glad u r feeling better -i'm with ladee - burn the hot rollers - of course she will forget... suggestions for bushes - well I love roses and if you get hardy shrub type they don;t take much care - I have Therese Bugnet who is pink and has a lovely smell and doesn't need care other than whacking her back once in a while - she has 2 sisters - Marie and Louise who are white and I want one of those oh and few thorns -and DON"T fold the underwear and hope your boat is sold. We have a motorhome cluttering up the drive way we are trying to sell - wish someone would it...
burned - good luck with the meds and getting reimbused - so much red tape!!!
seeme - ((((((((((((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))))))
debbie - how's it goin'?
vic - hope you are doing well - hope my stories don't shock you -
anyone i have left out - BIG hugs and love and prayers ♥♥♥
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Hi John - how is the new eating regime coming along - being accountable to others helps and I have lots of experience in low carb.
Starri - glad u r back though sorry to hear about your freezer - BTDT - some lads here working around the house afew years ago unplugged my freezer and we didn't find out till too late - do you ever get the blood out of the corners of the freezer - I eventually had them take it to the dump -it was an old one and a gift anyway -hope you have shower water by now
indy welcome back - glad u had a good break
YR - have a good break - maybe a tensor bandage on the knee?
jam -(((((hugs)))) glad u r feeling better -i'm with ladee - burn the hot rollers - of course she will forget... suggestions for bushes - well I love roses and if you get hardy shrub type they don;t take much care - I have Therese Bugnet who is pink and has a lovely smell and doesn't need care other than whacking her back once in a while - she has 2 sisters - Marie and Louise who are white and I want one of those oh and few thorns -and DON"T fold the underwear and hope your boat is sold. We have a motorhome cluttering up the drive way we are trying to sell - wish someone would it...
burned - good luck with the meds and getting reimbused - so much red tape!!!
seeme - ((((((((((((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))))))
debbie - how's it goin'?
vic - hope you are doing well - hope my stories don't shock you -
anyone i have left out - BIG hugs and love and prayers ♥♥♥
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pondering this quote - "the point I always knew would come, when I was at once too old and far too young, how I knew, really knew for the first time that there's a wildness in us." - by poet Maud Kelly

After 70, a woman is like Tibet, She has a mysterious past and the wisdom of the ages… but only those with an adventurous spirit and a thirst for spiritual knowledge visit there. (geography of men and women)

Today I am a crabby old woman - blinkety blank survey people called me three times and woke me up from a much needed nap - more nonsense fron mother who seems in fine fettle as "things are happening"- not sure what things and don't want to know, coughing up junk and needing to sleep so know I am recovering from this bug

catching young men - not at all - the thing is you don't catch them - they catch you. After I underwent my "transformation" told my daughter all that ensued was her fault - lol. I decided to online date as there was nowhere to go in town and beside which who wants to go out at 40 below. Then came the problem of how to present myself and how to respond to "takers". The first one was a guy of 27 who wanted only one thing - shocked me - he came out with it very quickly. I said - do you see my age - yeah - doesn't matter. He said would you meet me for coffee. I said Sure (I like yound people and will coffee with anyone -one reason I really enjoyed teaching at the college) - he said then we can let things happen. After I had established what kind of things I said Sure things will happen but not necessarily the things you are thinking about. He wasn't nice and that was the last I heard of him. After a while of this sort of thing i found out that there are a number of middle aged and older ladies - married and otherwise - who go along with this.!!!

reminds me of a guy years ago who was at the place I worked and after something - i was trying to put him off - he came up with the statement that life was all about sex and adversity - I said fine - you look after the sex and I will provide the adversity - that was the end of him!

next episode will be about the muslim terrorists - yes this is real and could be dangerous - but I ended up having some fun
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Evening everyone!

Yep, those turkeys were wandering around the pond earlier with the babies chasing after them. Not sure where they are right now. But will get pics.
Right after the col moved here she kept whining and b*tching about driving and both of us were tempted to just let her go, but it was the thought that she would hurt someone else. She told us tonight that she was going to microwave frozen veggies for supper. Geez....and she doesn't need a keeper. She can't do a frozen dinner anymore. So I went down and made her some bacon, scrambled eggs, toast with orange marmalade and a bowl of watermelon. Cleaned up the dirty dishes and her plate was half eaten already...:) I'm going to have to buy her new clothes and undies. She's gaining weight since her hospital stay and small/med diapers are a little snug.
Didn't I tell you girls that husbands are good for one thing only.............and we usually end up taking out the trash ourselves?
Just got a text from my son.....he might have our boat sold for us...yippee!!!!! Get that damn thing out of here since we aren't using it any longer.

Time to medicate the col for the night. Will check back later,

Love and Hugz to all,
Jam
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Starri, is he dead yet? you can just bury him with all the rotten meat, no one will know??? UHHH and I am confused, if HE made the mess, why are YOU cleaning it??? Just askin'.........Glad you are back...
Burned, maybe someone else here can help you with the claims, I know nothing about any of that... but I used to be on Zoloft and it had so many side effects for me, I went to something else... maybe that is contributing to him not feeling well.. did you get his pain meds??? Hope your day wasn't one hassle after the other... hugs.
Jam, you know the col can drive... give her the keys and stop being a meanie....... And I am very proud to hear you still have not folded the underwear......Target is slow, but he'll catch on sooner or later.... and as far as those damned hot rollers, I would bring her to a window and say, " See that little fire out there, that is your hot rollers", and then go back to your house, just let her look at the pretty colors burning plastic makes...
And I will loose my message if I look on the next page, but the "turkeys" ??? sound so cool. and the babies,,, take some pics if you can... and of course I will ask which one is Target........poor Target and Starri's husband, I just don't know what to say...
Seeme, I know you are tired, but check in and let us know how things are...
Debbie, check in after work and let us know how you are too.
emjo, where are you.... we are waiting for our next installment on how to pick up young men....
I know I have missed someone, so I'll check back later...
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Welcome back, Starri.......I think....at least welcome back to us....
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Hold out for a female jusge, tell her the WHOLE story from the beginning, and I bet she agrees with you and the case never goes to a jury......if it should, tell your lawyer you want a female jury............
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is anyone here a lawyer or a judge on your days off? I need to know if there really is such a thing as justifiable homicide.. I've just gotten the meat out of the freezer, washed it down as good as it is going to get at the moment, and threw baking soda all over the inside.. phase one complete...

I am going to be smelling rotten meat for the next frigging year.. I'd hop in the shower, but sometime during the time we were gone, something happened to the water flow to the shower, we have water in the sink, water in the toilet, but no water at all to the shower.

Does someone want to hold the hubby while I take a club to him? we just got the call out of our mechanic who serviced the truck, 835.00 there went the rest of the nest egg, we don't get paid again till the 27th.. Told hubby that we had x-amount of money left to get us through till payday and that meant no extra activities...what does he say? oh, I want to go riding on Sunday, do this that and the other thing.

Helllllooo. Didn't I just say no extra doing things? here he has wiped out any extra meats I have for getting us through till payday and he thinks he can just go out blowing money.... someone feed me a sedative.
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also how can i get reimburse for the medication I pay out of pocket for all the drug claims i submitted have been denied yet not cover under his part d plan. still need help finding a way to get his nebulizer treatment medication order and so forth. any ideas???
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Woot we finally got power back and still waiting on hubby's prescriptions to be filled because well lets just say he is a mess without his pain pills. I know dilantin is a seizure medication but if they are making him sick then he needs something else because he is 100 mgs of dilantin 3x times a day and zoloft 100 mgs 1x a day so something isn't working right so won't get that mess figure out until august and then his new neuro will prescribe new seizure med for him. I am also trying to save money so I can see the forest and the trees. I do not mind the desert but not my first choice to move to lol.
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FINALLY, got caught up on all the reading, not even going to try to answer everything, hello to all and to the newcomers welcome.. Jam, do you know that they have frames for glasses that can be twisted, turned, slept on, stomped on and just generally abused and not break? think Walmart has them..you might consider them if col does something to hers.

Ladee, congrats on the motorhome, passport america offers half off on a lot of campgrounds.. we could meet up somewhere traveling. There's a campground up in NC that for 325.00 per month, you stay there full time, they offer full hook ups, and including the electric you use. Over all it's a heck of a lot cheaper than where we live now.

I kinda love the fact that it took me a few hours to get caught up on the reading, gave me a good excuse not to have to put my head in that freezer.. but now the excuse is gone, hubby is on his way home from his doctors appointment, and then I have to leave here about 2 for mine.

If I manage to do nothing more than just get the meat out of the freezer, I need to get that done today. Big hugs to all
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Good Morning Posse!!!!!

YR........Hope you have lots of fun on vacation. Put some ice on that knee when you can and just think, you'll have an extra walker to use when you get home. Tell you what, those things come in handy......a long time ago, in a place not so far away, a young man was looking at the weeds on the wrong side of the road and WHAM hit us damn near head on. I had to use a walker for a week and it turned out to be a blessing.

starri.........glad you are home but not for the mess. Target did that to me once with the lake house. He remembered a couple days after we got home, oops I turned the main breaker off............it's only an hour and a half drive, but still....so I went back and cleaned out the fridge and freezer. We didn't have a lot there, but still.......why the heck don't they think? And God forbid if we do something stupid like that we would never hear the end of it!

And by the way girls....I STILL HAVE NOT FOLDED ANY UNDERWEAR.........!

I'm feeling better today......was really in the "hole" yesterday and my back was killing me....no appetite, good way to lose weight I guess. Target took care of the col yesterday except for giving meds. She gave him a lecture yesterday morning on how she can take care of herself. So while I was giving her meds, I made her go to the bathroom and sure enough...soaked. So I explained again, that's why she needs help with some things. She then demanded her hot rollers, a pot of coffee and informed me she CAN drive but just doesn't want to. Okay, we'll let you get by with that one. Got her clean, in her jammies, told her no on the hot rollers and coffee and left the building....with both of us in one piece....lol.

Will have a substitute care giver on Thursday....will call her today to give her the rundown on things so I don't have to do it in front of the col or try to get her off somewhere that she can't hear us talking.

I heard a strange noise coming from the area of the pond bank yesterday right at the back of the house, wasn't sure what it was then all of a sudden, there are the turkey hens and all the babies eating. They must like it around here.

I need to go out in the front yard, which is actually the side yard, and plant some bushes or something. There was a huge evergreen tree that died and when we burned off all the dead needles it left a pretty big area and it would be perfect for landscaping something. Maybe some type of bushes, it's all in sun, so can't be hostas, which I love. Any suggestions?

Guess I'd better get up and start making some phone calls. Scripts to refill, dog's butt to have sutures out, and whatever else comes up I guess.

Hope everyone has a good day!

Love and Hugz to all,
Jam
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Welcome back Starri, you have been missed.... Oh I would so kill him... what a mess!!!! Maybe a few short trips will have the same "get away from it all" affect for you... I can't stand being cooped up for that long, he'd pull over for no other reason than to leave me on the side of the road.... let us know where you buried the body...

Fill us in on your adventure when you have time. I know not all of it was fun, but let us know what neat things you got to see and do... hugs across the miles to you....
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Hi, Honey, I'mmmm home...lol.. good morning all, boy have I got my work cut out for me trying to catch up. We got in late last night, and I will tell you what, I am not sure at all about this traveling.

We drove for like 10 hours straight (well, we did take rest stop breaks..lol) but it has me sore as all get out.

My DH decided before we left that he would save us a couple of pennies on electric, so he shut off the power strip that controls the computer, wonderful of him to be concerned, screwed because the power strip that controls the computer also controls the "freezer" , sooo ladies, I have about 200.00 worth of spoiled meats to throw out, along with a area rug, boxes from the stuff I brought from mom's , looking at having to go through that a lot sooner than what I had planned.

Looks like YR is heading on a vacation, have fun and don't get sunburned. Big hugs to all.
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YR, Have fun on your vacation,,, come back and let us know how much fun you had... be safe.... hugs across the miles...
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Just a quick HI. I have not had a chance to visit since Friday. Had son, dil and grandson for the weekend. And I must have done a million tons of laundry!!!!!!!!!!
Plus cleaning today after they left. I hate to leave my house a mess. We are leaving tomorrow for San Diego, yeah!!!!
I hurt my knee at work on friday and I have been hobbling around. OUCH!! What a great way to start my vacation. But I'll be darned if I'm gonna let it stop me. It sure does make it much more difficult to run after dad though.
Well my cat is bellern' to beat the band and if she wakes dad up I'll kill her.
Night all.
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Just got back from the family reunion. I'm not sure why, but my brother bought Mom a new walker -- this makes 3 that she'll gripe about using... Maybe Dad will start using one. Mom has balance problems, and Dad has leg circulation problems.

It was nice to get away for the weekend, and leave the cares behind. My brother took them to see his kids/grandkids, and Mom was saying how she couldn't remember their names, "because I hardly see them anymore." (Not true.) She calls my son "that boy," or sometimes "my boy" or "our boy," and he's in the same house! The dogs in our house are Brownie and Little One. Sometimes she thinks I'm Dad's sister -- but she can't recall my brother's kids names because she doesn't see them often enough. Denial.....!

Oh, well... I haven't gotten any feedback from my brother on how things went. Of course, they were all on their best behaviors. I know it "bothers" him to see her like that -- his MIL died of Alz complications a few years ago. That was a different situation, though, and his MIL went very quickly. I know seeing Mom like this will dredge up those bad memories.

Anyway, we're all back tonight, and ready to start the week.
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ladee - you are one resourceful woman! That is some story about the bananas and 3 knives in the diaper.. These stories should really be written down. I regret I didn't write down the classroom ones - yeah yellow has to be somewhere!
tweet debbie - u are game for anything!!!
jam glad u are having an easy day - everyone needs one sometimes
seeme - glad u got some sleep even if interrupted - I hear u about the old dog - gtting a mental picture of her with her head over the sink
.so many more of u out there - thinking of u and sending love ♥♥♥
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I would like to find some one to paint a scene of monkeys in the jungle, now that would be cool. but yellow is going to be on it somewhere....!!!!
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Ladee, I think you should paint your motor home banana yellow and put a big monkey decal on the hood and banana decals on the sides haha. :)
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Debbie, yes it is the kind you drive, and no, no trips for awhile, and you can supply me with citrus green tea, I don't eat ice cream.... and yes we would have some fun, we would go see everyone, but we have to go to Seeme's first, she would be very very upset if we didn't .. We will kidnap her and take her with us, then go get Jam, and then whoever else wants to go along.. we'll be a motor home full of crazy women, all so stressed from caregiving no one will mess with us for fear of their lives... and I do need suggestions on what to pain the outside... it is soooo ugly right now... Some of you here don't know about the "banana" episode, so need to tell that so you will understand why some of us may be calling it the "banana boat"...
One evening when Ruth was sundowning very bad, walking from door to door, trying to get out of the house, cussing me with every breath, she had been doing this for three hours and I was at the end of my rope... she was going to get a butcher knife and cut my throat ( the sharp knives had been put up for a long time) and as she was going into the kitchen she tripped and fell. Now she is on the floor cussing a blue streak, and thought ok, cool, I can at least change her pants while she is down... she is kicking and screaming and as I pull off those pants, for the shock of my life, there were three kitchen knives and a BANANA in her diaper.... as I even said then, I know the look on my face was a Kodak moment...
I put it on antoher thread, but omg, we had fun for days with that one... I was nicknamed Chaquita, all and every banana joke you can imagine, and then they all knew I wanted a little motor home for when I finally get to retire and I would go around to my AC friends and offer them respite care... so the motor home was to be called the "BANANA BOAT"... but hey, I am open for suggestions... and believe me, people will know I am coming because it is definitely going to make a statement... life is just too damned short and I have worked hard all my life, so it will be my turn.... so suggestions for names, colors, decorations, bells and whistles, what ever ya'll think of will be taken into consideration.... so that is the story of the banana boat... later, going to eat dinner... love ya'll
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Ladee! You got a motor home? Like the kind you drive around on trips? Are you going to take a trip? Will you take me with you? I will give you ice cream, lol. Will you take me with you if I supply you with ice cream for the rest of your life? :)
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Well good ol' Missouri is seeing 98 degrees with a heat index of 109. It's a little warm outside. I watered the garden this morning, so far things are looking okay since it's all in shade right now. That has been the extent of any effort I have put forth today. A friend smoked some ribs and brought them to us, so I would imagine that's supper.
Target is fixing the col her supper....I guess I ought to feel blah more often....:)

Will check back with everyone later,

Love and Hugz,
Jam
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