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I jus finished scrubbing out our shower...if I had one thing to do over in this house, it would be the master bath and closets....

Mom is her usual self today. She just wants you there when she is sleeping or she will holler just to hear someone answer....problem is she doesn't hear very well anymore. There is very little she is capable of doing....or she refuses to do. I guess I will just ahve to live with it, too late now to train this old dog any new tricks.

I got SOME decent sleep last night, just not a lot of it in a row. Hubby got up with her at breakfast time and fixed her a good one, then when I got up she tried to eat again and almost made herself sick, so she napped in the bathroom with her head over the sink, sitting in her chair.

I must vaccuum today if I don't do anything ele, so I will check in later.....
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Good Morning Posse!

Thank you now and later for birthday wishes.....I think I stopped having them years ago...:)

The col's knife must have been at the bottom of a pile. It wasn't sharp, but falling on it would have been sharp enough. It's just like the strawberry pyramid; edges not sharp, but if she fell face first onto it, well it sure would make a mess!

I'm trying to decide how energetic I want to be today....and not very.....is winning out. I should work a little more on some dining chairs, I'm recovering them, could scrapbook, could read, need to fix a fingernail.....life is tough...:)

Hope y'all have a peaceful Sunday,

Love and Hugz,
Jam
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G-R-E-A-T ladee - a home - woot woot!!! bring out the bubbly - coke that is
I am so happy for u ((((((((hugs))))) what a bargain - challenges are good - got lost on a backwoods road once a couple if winters ago and the sun was setting – stopped at a place for directions and heard “deliverance” playing in my mind shudders - not nice – got out of there
jam - an 8" knife - good grief!!!! -and target decided she's nuts - he gets A+ for that lol - have a good read - u do have some adventures with the col!
seeme ((((((hugs))))) my mum is a physiotherapist and drilled into me that u keep people as independent as possible - I was born with only one good hand and they let me figure things out for myself - I have been forever grateful - one of the few things she did right - mind you i am stubborn by nature too :) - the trick is knowing whether they can do it or not - I prefer to believe that she can till proven otherwise - even mother herself said that she could do more than she thought she could. I am nearly 74 and find myself at times thinking I can't do something or that I need help when - most most often I can - not to be foolish about this as I know as we age we have limitations and especially when we have illnesses of any kind and you guys are looking after people wuith severe limitations, but also know that as loving caring people we can sometimes rush in where angels fear to tread and do things for others that they actually can do for themselves - (learned that on many years of teaching) - anyway just some thoughts the subject
tweet debbie - you must have slept well after that long shift!!!
ros - laughing at you laughing - I can give lessons on online dating - u would not believe !!!!. In fact there is a nice boy in italy I was in contact with who... enough said - if I can help ypu to laugh i am happy, if i can help you to learn. I am happier, if I can help you to love I am happiest!

Found out that mother discharged herself from rehab because they were telling her to do things she shouldn't (in her view) - pretty predictable - I wonder how her senior care person - Dee - is doing -haven't heard mention of her. mother had full anaesthetic this time - and tends to go a bit wingy afterwards but she will cope with what she has to her way - and I'll stay out of the way! Getting emails that she needs help now - well she should have stayed in rehab then - the tone is pretty obvious manipulation. I am still coughing but getting better - anointed myself with oil the other day and claimed healing - woke up in the morning singing (in my head)" I want to see Jesus" and feeling much better - on the mend. Gary said be careful.what you pray for - I said I know - I want to see Him eventually lol

ladee - love the quote - so true - had that exact experience a while ago - Gary asked me why I was crying - I said because i had to be strong for so long I couldn't afford to cry "sniff" - better stop here or i will start again
luv and hugs and prayers to and for all and advance Happy Birthday to jam in case i have a senior's moment and forget ;p ♥♥♥
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Found this great quote I have to share, "People cry, not because they're weak, It's because they have been strong for too long..." speaks volumes about us doesn't it !! love ya'll.
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Ro, thanks, and you are right, I can make something of it,,, but realized this morning, what am I going to do with all my "stuff". A yard sale will have to be done soon... and the place I have picked out to park it, (Please God, let the man say yes!), is in the country, but there are cows and donkeys on the property... The Diva will freak smooth out.. but I had the donkeys coming up to me yesterday... will bring them oatmeal cookies today.....Pretty much everything we do in life is a challenge, Yes? So might as well be happy and just go right along and laugh at the mess.. and yes , Harleys. had another life before this one, that is for sure, have no regrets.. If I die today, I have had a full, interesting, and sometimes dark ride... we should all get together and write a book.. a chapter for each of us, we could call it " Caregivers Gone Wild", and yes , we have to meet at some point, can not let that opportunity pass us by.... hugs to you this morning, don't work too hard and remember to SWIM...
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Emjo, "I married twice the same mistake" made me laugh for half an hour. I was engaged so many times with the same mistake, too!!!!!!!
Ladee: congrats again for your new home. I am sure you will make something amazing with it. Try to work on it in the evening, and rest when the sun is up!
Seeme, my mother lacks coordination, too. If she is cold and I put a blanket close to her (I mean, on the same chair where she sits) she doesn't manage to put the blanket on her. I have to do it, otherwise she shivers, with the blanket at 1 inch of distance from her.
Jam: I imagine COL wandering around the garden with a knife in her hand and the face of Jack Nicholson in "Shining".
Ladee again: A Harley? We are a bunch of wild ladies! We must definitely find a way to have a big meeting!
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(((((((hugs)))))) sandra - I wish so too. You sound exhausted!
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sandra, I wish you could have a day off too. I have been there and know that feeling of exhaustion, to the point of just going thru the motions... hope somewhere somehow you get some time to yourself.. if you are like me, all I wanted to do was sleep...let us know if something can be worked out for you to get a day soon... hugs to you..
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good morning i am very tired and wish i could have day off!
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ladee.....CONGRATS ON THE NEW HOME......oohhhh sceery on the drive.....had that happen to me once when I put the brights on. Hope your alternator isn't going out.

Got the col in bed, had her jammies on when I got downstairs, but gee hadn't bothered to change her wet pants....go figure. Then wouldn't pee, said she would just get up after going to bed to do it. I guess that makes sense to the demented mind.

And yes ladee, birthday next Tuesday......don't we all turn 29 y/o on our next birthdays?

Going to hit the bed and maybe read a little bit. I've been reading all the Janet Evanovich Stephanie Plum series.....must finish #16, just downloaded #17 to Kindle.

Sleep well my friends.............

Love and Hugz to all,
Jam
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Ok, ya'll I have had an adventure today.. I am the proud owner of the ugliest, dirtiest little motor home in Texas.... Everything works on it, generator, ac, ect.... but it is a dirty mess on the inside.... after haggling with the guy, ya'll will never believe what price I talked him into...... $200 !!!!!!! can ya'll believe that lol.. took my nephew with me to check everything out, but when I saw how dirty is was, I started bartering.... anyway, and have checked into a place to park it.. am waiting to hear from that guy...

It has a lot of potential and I can make it an awesome banana boat with time and improvements here and there.... I will be insane by the time I get it clean tho...
Then the adventure continured as I am driving home, my car lights kept going off !!!!!! I am sure at some point I wet my pants..... I am a wreck from driving home, so am going to take a shower and go to bed and read.... love you all, more tomorrow when my hands stop shaking.... these country roads are DARK ... I was sceered.....
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Evening everyone.....me too seeme.....I've been lurking. Helped my son and dil do some yard work and now I'm tired and hot. When they got here we were looking at the front patio and they said "do you know she's outside" and pointed to the garden. The col is wandering around with a knife in her hand, with an 8 inch blade, says she's cutting weeds. Good grief...I made her go inside and then followed her to make sure she understood again, that she was not to be outside with a knife. Checked her this morning around and she is eating a bowl of oatmeal.....didn't remember she had just eaten waffles and bacon an hour or so before that. After I chased her back in a little while ago, she called Target on the intercom because "I can't get out my front door".....and he looks at me and says she's nuts!!! Well, what was your first clue Whizzo? Then she explained to him how she doesn't need anyone to watch her daily. I would love to lie down and just go to sleep....unfortunately I have to wait until the col falls asleep.

I guess we can pass the crown when someone hits the same number post....so rossella gets it for 1111......who will it be for 2222?

Going to go back to lurking for a while. Hope everyone is having a good evening.

Love and Hugz to all,
Jam
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Been here for a while like a fly on the wall.....If I drank I would be a barfly.

Had bunche of ambition when I got up this morning and ....POOF...it went away. I took mom to the bathroom all day today.....or she wanted to talk some crazy shit, or she said she was dizzy........huuumm....do ya think?

I kept my butt home today....decided to give the pharmacy a break until I talk to the doctor on Monday.....then I'll show my ass.......

Finally got laundry done and waited on mom the rest of the time. I realize more and more what all I do for her and I created this monster. She now wants me to pull her pants up and down all the time, can't put a blanket around her shoulders, can't cover herself when she gets in bed, can't change her pads............ Ten min after the kitchen floor dried, she got her lunch all over it..........just can't win....almost don't care anymore..... it's not even dark yet, but I think I am going to bed.........nite all.........zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz
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Hey everyone. I just worked 10 hours and am effing beat! Hugs to everyone and I hope you're all doing well. Tweet Tweet.
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OK a pool - ladee -doesn't matter to me
I so understand needing your freedom and your space - I do too but thankfully G does as well so we give each other a lot of space and freedom and really enjoy our time together.
- stories are good - and rhymes - refreshes the mind
love to all and hope your day is going well ♥♥♥
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Ro, I think you should get the crown.. seeme has had it for awhile, but I think she would share because of the numer 1111, now that is special, just like you...happy to hear you got some work, try to take time to go swimming everyday, the work will go much smoother.... love ya..
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ros and all - I can get lots of horse sh*t if that works - Gary has about 200 horses now . -crazy man - and every one is a pet
it just happens that way for me - I don't pursue young ones. After 15 years cloistered in my own because I realised I had married the same mistake twice and did not want to do it again my daughter took a look at me and said Mum You have a bod! I said "I know but I hide it" Bless her heart and thank God for daughters she encouraged me to dress differently, wear straight leg jeans etc and show my stuff - suitably lol. So I had to examine myself and get in touch with what I was OK with and what I wasn't ( I really am quite conservative) and figure out how to present my "new " self. WOW - did not expect the responses I got - think it had more to do with the changes in my head than my clothing, but that helped. I don't shock easily but got a few surprises. the first few blew my mind

Use the internet - dating sites - I met all the guys that way - all across the world - got engaged to a couple - all on line lol. Oh my goodness - I could write a book! Met the 23 yr old that way and he was very determined.He was also a nice young man, with a good job, a nice apartment, a new vehicle etc and treated me well. Told him "No" lots. Finally met Gary who is soooo different than the others and a very great man. We have been together 2 years now. If it can happen for me here in a town of young people it can happen for anyone - so try it ros!
Glad you are feeling more relaxed.
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Afternoon everyone... I got the cow pattie, uh huh uh huh, oh yes I did, uh huh uh huh... emjo has us making up songs now,, a change of pace, good idea ..
Starri, Ya'll name the place, I'll need to know 2 yrs. in advance so I can save money!!!!
Emjo, campfire,,, oh lady please, couldn't you have come up with something that's not HOT!!!!! Suggest this again in a few months, I may be more receptive... and as much as your love story makes me happy, I personally do not believe in "happily ever after" love.. I know it is my own life experience, but I do not think it really exists, at least not for me...Have been on my own for too long, can not imagine having someone around all the time.... too set in my ways, love my freedom..But I must remind myself that I am so in love with Gary Busey,, I could do with that wild man around , No doubt he would at least keep me entertained....Oh yes we have some stories,,, I am a recovering addict and alcoholic , been clean for 27 years and rode Harley's since I was 14, so yes, we all have stories... Our little get together will not be for the easily offended or the faint hearted....lol...And I don't know where the "brownie" comment came from this morning, but I will never eat another one.......gross....
Jam, you got a bday coming up soon?? You can tell us the date or at least the month, I won't even ask your age!!!
SOMEONE KIDNAPPED TARGET!!!!!!! no hurry about bringing him back, we like the one you left in his place.....
Vic, so happy to hear you and hubby got to go out.... hope you relaxed and had a really good time.. need to do that as often as you can...
John, you sound like you are feeling a little better day by day, and good luck with your new eating plan, let us know your progress....
Seeme, where are ya????
Sorry if I missed anyone, will check back in later.. hugs across the miles...
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I am the post n.1111. What do I win? A goat pattie?
Seeme, I am glad that you found nice people, complete strangers, who told you kind words about taking care of your mother. Sometimes they (the strangers) are better than friends and family.
Starry: I am very excited for your trip!
Emjo: I like very much your phylosophy and if I could, I would do the same. I shall have to go back to town, in order to have a bigger hunting ground. A small village in the country doesn't offer many choices! (very few good men here)
Ladee, I have started to work again and I hope to go on until the end of july (I know already that in August every working activity stops!) So I am sleeping a little bit less but I feel more relaxed.
'nite everybody
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that's great John - there is more and more evidence that following one of those - atkins, caveman, paleo type diets actually can get rid of diabetes type 2 and high blood fats. The problem is the sugars/carbohydrates in your diet not the fats - especially for some of us. My daughter, who is not a big person had become very low energy and found herself starting to eat peanut butter sandwiches one after the other. She had out on some weight and had some depression. Now she is a different person. She has lost at least 15 ibs - quite a lot on her small frame - has more energy, can think straighter and feels much healthier over all. She looks amazing!!! One of the key things in these diets is the amount of healthy veg you eat - these diets are nutrition dense which is what a lot of us need- not calories but nutrients like vitamins and minerals, enough of the right fats, and protein. Your body can make carbs/glucose from protein and fats if it needs them, Consistency and motivation is the challenge for all of us. After a few days on this eating regime, the cravings for carbs and food in general decreases dramatically. The main way to lose weight is by eating right - exerccise is a very small part of it. Mind you, exercise has other benefits for health - cardio, flexibility, good bones, strength, endurance etc. heck i am talking myself into getting on the exercycle lol.
No dietician will support you in this as far as I know. In my view they are far behind the times in their advice in some areas. We have to think outside the box - green veggies for breakfast with your eggs etc. Go John, go!
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emjo,

I will try a low carb diet. I have been a bit more active the last two days with some yard work and walking the dog. The challenge is consistency and staying focused.
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vic- thank u for ur prayers , we all sure do need it .
it is nice to have a sitter to come in and take over so we could get a breather and get out of the house , whew !
you all have a good day . xoxo
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ladee...........COW PATTIE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Hi everyone! Pray each of you has the best day possible. Hubby got home the other day! Thanld God for him. I would be more out of my mindthan I am. Dad seems more and more out of it. Little spurts of peppiness. And yesterday mom seemed older than ever. Not much sleep last nigh but I did get long nap yesterday. Our sitter came for a few hours and hubby and I went out do dinner. Was so nice.. Need days of that to recoup.
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See what happened to my post AGAIN? This has happened before and I'm NOT doing that on purpose.........it splits in half like that when I hit submit. Oh well...:)
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Good Morning Posse!!

emjo...........I'm impressed! And boy I bet you have some juicy details....want my email address...:) I mentioned those glasses holder thing to Target and he said good idea, he just wondered if when the col falls asleep on the couch the glasses would get caught and smashed somehow. I don't think so because once she gets used to wearing them I think she will fall asleep with them on. She tried to tell me yesterday that "see I read the paper just fine". She has no clue what those glasses are going to do to those words. And I have tried to explain the difference to her and she isn't getting it.

seeme.......you are sounding so much better. I'm glad the melatonin is working. Wish I had known you were getting rid of crocs.......I wear those to work outside in the yard. I would have bought that box!

ladee.....the air conditioner is out in my car also. So I drive Target's car. My son looked at mine the other night and the compressor never came on, so I'm thinking it's time for the SUV that Target promised me. Birthday gift maybe? The col just bought me a set of dinnerware.....I know that sounds odd but I haven't had a new set of dishes in years and Penney's was having a wonderful sale. Got a 72-piece set for $99....regular $200....how do you pass that up? And she always makes us pick out our own gifts anyway.

Guess I will get a shower now.....the guys fixing the front patio will be back this morning and will want me to come out and look at the color. The jerk that did the original job had no idea what he was doing and these guys are getting it done right.

Hello to everyone this morning!!!! Will check back later.............

Love and Hugz to all,
Jam

starri.......I hope your traveling plans work out real soon. Is there a chance you might get sucked into caring for your mil? I hope not, now that you have the chance to live freely and go where you want. That was my plan when I retired. Not just going up and down the stairs....lol

Did I ever have the surprise of my life this morning.....Target always gets up early and then will come back and let my chihuahua outside.....of course he always leaves the blind poodle for me. This morning I heard the door open, went back to catnapping for a bit....then decided I really need to get up. Looked around, no poodle...uh oh. Target had taken her outside and he was no where to be seen. He went down to the col's and fixed her breakfast, let her dog out, and sat down there talking to her for a while and then tells me "I thought I would do something nice for you this morning"........did hell freeze over? I'm still in shock....lol
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and BTW - am sure you and others have "stories" too!!! ;-p
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hi ladee - campfire stories would be great -I am with you on the brownie lol aaaack no a/c I would melt - Gary??? my s.o is Gary too and I do love him - in a quiet steady way - he is such a relief from the crazies in the past - but fun too - look you are NEVER too old to love, fall in love, have crushes - and age doesn't slow some things down - I'll up those stats any day - think i was an original cougar though i never went after them - they came after me -and I never could handle more than one at a time -and a long time at that - yeah we could call it educational

well back to breakfast of home made choc - no sugar - left over ribs, coffee and a visit with my kittie - oh dear my imagination is going wild now lol
luv ya♥
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hugs ladee, I think for a get together we would need to find a central location, and then contact a hotel there and make them give us a deal on rooms, with everyone just on this thread alone we would fill the average sized hotel..lol.. Glenn has a bike group he rides with sometimes and the hotel they stay at, gives the guys a good price.. Even if it was just for a couple of days, it would be wonderful to be able to put faces with names..and lounge around the pool sipping drinks and BS'ing till late in the evening.

Glad to hear that things are moving forward for you in finding a new place, and man o man can I understand the a/c not working and wanting to collapse by the tiem you get hone. Had a car one time, the a/c didn't work, could not get two of the windows to roll down... made for some hard driving..lol..

Got most of the stuff gathered up into one place, now to move it to the car, hubby out of bed, and us on the road.
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Oh emjo, what fun we are going to have around the campfire listening to the stories, and no Debbie is not too young, this is an opportunity to let her know what works and what doesn't .. good for you girl and you keep shakin' that money maker .....love ya.
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