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Love ya Rossella, you are my queen cat hero.... did you take pics of the kissing cat and dog??? later hugs across the miles
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Yes, Jam, if COL likes coffee, a surrogate is okay... My mother likes to have her decaf in the morning! I shall always give it to her.
Ladee, what can I say! if the plumber solves the problem I am even too happy- Otherwise I shall have to remake the plant and I am shivering at the idea! These are the disadvantages of living in your own house. If something gets broken you can't share the cost with other families!
This morning one of my cats and one of my dogs kissed each other for a quarter of an hour. These are beautiful things to see!
BTW, I am not "visiting" here... I write here and on the other thread as well because I have friends here and there, and I don't want to give up any of you!
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karmic....I hope I'm still able to take down drapes at 90...wow! I don't think I will have to worry a whole lot about the col watching CNN all day anymore because she was already having trouble remembering how to use the remote before she went into the hospital. She focuses on the macabre and bizarre.......every single night it's a show on another child beaten, stabbed, burned, raped, shot, abused in some manner, mutilated, killed....I wouldn't think that would do the demented mind a lot of good. And she likes to use her small tv in her bedroom as a nightlight and we use a transmitter and receiver that works off her tv in the living room, so whatever she was watching is on there also. She's happy when she runs across the old shows on TVland or a John Wayne movie so maybe I will start changing her tv to those.

Hope everyone has a good night and try to get a little bit of sleep....supposed to storm here by early morning....I hope I see a sleep-in coming....enjoy it while I can.

Love and Hugz,
Jam
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deefer.....I will check tomorrow when we go to see her again. Make sure hubby looks at her med sheet because I want to know exactly what she is on right now. So far the only change I have seen is her memory is declining more. Tonight when she called, she talked about her house at 1015. That was the address of her old house that we moved her out of. She didn't recall living next to us. Last night we sat in her room for about an hour then walked her to the dining room, and before she would start to eat she wanted to show us her room. Recent memory is gone. Some long term seems to still be there, but it's rambling and disjointed and she gets facts wrong. She told us tonight that she is ready to come home because everyone else there are just Forrest Gumps.....:)
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I love you too ladee.....and yes, thank you.....I'm better now and I think I can sleep....;)
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Years ago they use to have mental hospitals where they put persons like that but I guess it got to costly for the states and now they are in places like your house or homeless out in the streets. But abuse is a buse,please save your self
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I LOVE YOU JAM, you are such a baby sometimes... now, is everything all better now.????? I really do love ya and sorry I left your name out today... I'll make it up to you and try to behave for a day or two.... nahhhhhh, not gonna happen...
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Welcome yearight.....please do come back.....we're a fun bunch and we might even know what we're talking about occasionally.....:)

Rossella.......even though the col was using such a big pot....I started putting decaf in the canister a long time ago. That's just like Nexium "it's the staff of life" according to her and that nasty Prilosec doesn't work. I changed her to Prilosec about 8 mo ago and told her it was generic Nexium. She doesn't know better and it works. She called tonight to visit and sat there on the phone arguing about the rules she will have to acknowledge before she comes home. I'm slowly coming to realize she will never stop arguing.....that is something she is just going to do. But I can guarantee her new care giver will not allow her to do anything she is not supposed to do. I will have to remind hubby that when she is here, we cannot interfere with her handling of the col unless she calls and says she needs help.

Still trying to catch up on posts.....

Love and Hugz,
Jam
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Oh Rossella, you just can't catch a break can you.... Your work is so tiring and time consuming, and then you have to give your money to a plumber.... that just isn't fair... When I lived down home, at one point I had 18 cats!!!! I lived outside the city so they had plenty of room.. I had a house fire and neighbors got the cats out... when I put the "Thank You" in the newspaper, I put all the cats names... ad cost me a fortune... only have one now, she is 15 and I call her Diva, or Girlie, depends on whether or not she wants me messing with her... so we are the crazy cat ladies on this sight... don't ya love it... love ya.....
yearight, hope to see you again. You are welcome here, as is said often ,pull up a chair, a cup of coffee and let us get to know you... hugs to you
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54...I posted a message on your wall. ;)
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I rarely have time for the comp. but checked in tonight and found this thread. How nice. Enjoyed reading some of the posts. Will certainly try to visit more often.
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54J, yes I think is about time your hub goes to a NH... You can't handle it by yourself! I am so sorry for you!
JAM, i wanted to tell you about the coffee a long time ago. COL does not need stimulants. Coffee without caffeine is much better!
ASG, I am sorry. Sometimes I am blunt. My cats eat whenever they want; it is summer now and they mostly eat dry food: I leave a bowl in a place that the dogs can't reach and they go self service. I buy good dry food in specialized shops, (if you buy it in large bags you save a lot of money), because the dry food of the supermarkets sometimes is bad for the kidneys. (I buy IAMS) And I give them wet food just early in the morning, and in the evening. But most of the time they decide when and how much they want to eat. Of course I have 15 cats so I never know how much each one of them eats! In summer they eat much less than in winter, so don't worry if she seems to lose appetite.
Karmicelephant, I wrote you on the other thread.
Gosh I have to go to work (Ladee, my sewage system got broken and I dread the bill of the plumber! 10 translations maybe will be enough to pay for it!!!!)
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54j, I am a bit scared for you! Does hubby take any psych meds? It sounds like he needs them. I thought about asking about different door locks but he might get mad and hurt you? Keep a cell phone with you! I once had to lock myself in a bathroom to protect myself from Mother and ended up calling the police who took her to the hospital where she stayed for a week to get some drugs tweaked. I wasn't too scared because I could run faster, but seriously, do take care of yourself! And you need more help--sons? Grandsons? Church friends?
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54,I'm not sure what to say.. You know what needs to be done, and all I can do is pray for you....
Karmic.... all my friends call me Ladee, pronounced like Lottie, but with a d instead of tt.It confuses a lot of people, they think it is like Lady, nope, I am not a lady, but I am a Ladee... tell us about yourself...
To the other lady that posted, I am sorry I forgot to write down your name,, the one that made the choice to keep dad on antibiotics... good for you. If that is what your heart and head are telling you to do, then no wonder you are peace with it... let us know how you are doing, and an update about your dad... I will get your name next time, sorry, hugs to everyone..
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Well, that's good Ladeeda...because I just 'got' your name right now. You're one up on me. LOL!
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well can I jump in? today has been terrible well the last two days have. I have been beat like crazy. Hubby was on namenda and exelon neither helped even tried the drink. He is talking to people that are not here. He sees his father who died when he was 16, and is just so full of rage. He is on abilify but it is not helping. dr up the dose but so far I am still the punching bag. He never takes a nap and does not want me to do anything but sit and look at him. He does not understand what is being said and cannot carry on a conversation. He dumps his food and drink in the floor and pulls the sheets off the bed. He told me he would probably kill me a day or so ago and he about did today. I dont know how much more I can take and I have no help. I do have a lady who comes for me to go for 4 hours to the nursing home once a week to see my sister who had a stroke. I find myself wishing he or I was dead and even pray that I will not wake up. I cant go outside which I love. If I go out the front door to mess in my roses and other flowers he starts walking up the highway. If I go out the back door he tries to get out front door or does something really off the wall in the house. I know I need to put him somewhere but just cant bring my self to do it. someone said when they start seeing dead people the were near death. I know one thing one of us has got to get out of this house.
He might be talking to my dead body soon. Thanks for letting me vent. Oh I cant have the tv on because he thinks the people are real and he gets mad at them also. H E L P !!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Karmic, I wasn't confused by your name, but I am usually confused about most everything else... Yes we are silly here, if we are laughing we are not crying, it's about picking our pain sometimes...
Johnny, so happy to hear you are getting a "second honeymoon". You and her are able to make new memories and that is priceless. She must be very grateful to have you, and for you to have her. It is nice to see some married folks actually are happy to be together..
Starri, any sleep today??? Let us know what hospice said and did.
Seeme, I just love you, plain and simple,,, hope you get some rest soon..
Jam, so happy to hear you got the caregiver you wanted... sounds like things are going to work out fine for a change...
ASG, I love you too, but I meant what I said about the cat... but I still love you......
Hope to hear from the rest of the new folks to let us know how you are and what is going on in your world... we think about you even if you don't post... hugs to everyone...
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You could not confuse us anymore then I get nowadays, I just am so grateful for my wife and I getting along so good now. Kinda like when we first got married and did the adjusting thing as most newlyweds do right after the honeymoon !
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@johnnycares Not being assaulted with flying objects is always a good thing. *wink* And thanks for the welcome. :)
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Just for the record (and sorry for the confusion) I could not insert that critical underscore in my name when I registered here LOL! You people here are silly, but I like it! My name is Jan. But I will answer to anything beginning with the letter J (as my father never could get our names right) and I guess I can learn to answer to any names involving mice or elephants. :D
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Hi theredeefer12 where do we get our names from???,My wife is also on Namenda and she is very good on this medicatiion,she still forget but can keep track of me and her some thing, she doesn’t get mad and throw thing at me,so i like it.
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asg- i read about ur cat going over to the neighbor , thats good ur neighbor cares for ur cat . most neighbor would shoot the cats ass . ur cat sounds like my louie , he too thinks hes a dog . i love those kinds of cat . i cant stand the kind that demands to be petted and meows too much , i had a cat once she d whine and whine and whinnnneeeeeeee, geeze . think she was just begin a b#tch .
hell now it sounds like me begin one .
karmice - im thinking youre a mice ! lol welcome and you fit right on in too .
goodnight u all xoxo
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pa was on namenda for a while . ins wont pay for it . he was on exclon patch i hated it , i watch him go down hill and watch him refuse to eat and watch him get skinney till one day there was a warning on tv about exclon patch , hubby said ah ! its killin ur dad ! i stop givin it to him , he ate happy and perked up . exclon patch sucks !
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This is a good idea. My father was again taken to the hospital yesterday. I thought I was resigned to the idea of hospice and we had an evaluation today. However, dad is responding to the treatment at the hospital and I just cannot wrap my mind around the idea of not treating my dad with antibiotics that can help him. Hospice would not treat with antibiotics and I don't think I could live with myself if I choose to let an infection take his life when there is medicine available. I also have found that even with hospice I still will have the lion's share of caregiving and will still need to private pay for caregivers to help me. After careful thought I am now feeling comfortable with the plan to keep on with medical treatment for my father and dad's doctor has been wonderful in supporting me. I also am comfortable with the decision I've made today to take a long leave of absence from work to concentrate on dad and to continue with the hired CNA's, calling in home nursing, physical therapy and occupational therapy when dad comes home. I can always choose hospice later when his condition is worse and he is more ready.

So today I'm feeling more confident in my plan to care for dad. I have a night home alone without dad to care for and without caregivers in my home and am thoroughly enjoying it. Tomorrow may be different, but for now I'm good.
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Jam, Mom was getting more and more difficult and we didn't know what to do. That's when the neurologist started her on Namenda. It started to calm her down the first week and she kept on improving steadily. She is much happier now and not so off the wall. It is definitely worth a try. It may be what she needs to keep her thoughts from running rampant. By the way, my mom is pretty far gone dementia wise. Sure hope this helps!
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Jam, my grandfather lived to be 91 and it wasn't until he fell and broke a hip at age 90 that he started to decline mentally. He still travelled all over the country by himself and he volunteered. I really think that when one's reasons for living and one's passions in life are taken away that mental decline can suddenly set in. Which is also why I try not to disrupt my mother's routine of watching her favorite crime shows in rerun repeatedly (kill me now) and I try to keep to her maddening routines as best I can. My grandfather fell and broke his hip while trying to take down his drapes to be dry-cleaned. Yes, at age 90!
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well karmic.....now that you mention it...........:)
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deefer....the exelon patch scares me....too many creepy side effects. The social worker told us the other day that they were starting Namenda, but the doctor said last night they were going to start Depakote today.....and I didn't ask if Namenda was on board or not. The way he talked last night, it's almost like they know her memory is gone, never to return, they are just trying to find something to control the manic attacks. It's really hard to sit in a room with 2 doctors talking back and forth and try to get a word in edgewise....even when one of them is your husband....lol. She didn't call us tonight telling us to come get her, so we figured she is probably zoned out. I'm going to call the nurses station in a bit. I have this gut feeling that her days on this earth are numbered. I can't put my finger on it, but her whole being is "shoppy shoppy" or "out to eat" and if she doesn't have that, there isn't anything else.

Love and Hugz,
Jam
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Am I the only one who thinks of Rasputia (Eddie Murphy's female character in the movie Norbit) saying "How YOU doing?" whenever I visit this page? Or was that intentional? :D
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Karmic, yes please, or anyone else for that matter, please let your goofy side show soon as to take the heat off me... I am the one who runs with scissors on this thread, so what Jam says is true, but , but , but, we are all a little off at times. That is why we are here, as a group to welcome, support, give hugs and just be silly once in awhile... couldn't have made it these past few months without the love and support of People like me walking this part of our journey.... love and hugs across the miles to everyone..
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