This seems to be a question that is not asked enough or we think what we are feeling is not as important as what our loved one is going through. This job we have taken on is a tough one and there are days when I think my "stress rope" cannot be pulled any tighter. Then there are other times that make those bad days just a memory. Do you feel like banging your head against a wall one day? And then the next day your loved one is attentive and loving and comprehends whatever you say? There are some who keep those feelings bottled up within themselves; others take the time for outside resources and others who look at sites such as this for some understanding. I do better when I have someone else to bounce my feelings off of. Let's face it....we aren't superhuman and besides ourselves and perhaps a family to take care of we now have taken on the responsibility of another human who is incapable of taking care of themselves. Do you breeze through the care giving without a problem? If so, I would like to know how you do it, maybe you can offer some new ideas; do you have feelings of frustration and need to talk about those? Come and talk and know that you can speak freely and without judgement and without finger pointing.
I am caring for my mother-in-law and have been for about 1 1/2 years. She has moderate dementia and incontinence. Other than that she is very healthy. Sometimes that short amount of time feels like 10 years and I wonder how long I will be able to do this job. I get so very tired of hearing the same thing day in and day out, but I have to remind myself that to her, each time she sees me, she is offering new information. At times I have no problems communicating with her, but it seems like more and more she cannot retain a thought longer than 5 minutes. We have had to make signs for her so she will know what she can and cannot do. So far it's working, but for how long? Maybe I will have to end up making her a "Book of Do Nots". She is on memory drugs, which don't seem to make a difference. So why do I continue to dole them out to her? I guess I'm afraid of what might happen or how she might act without them. I might have to rent a boat or buy a helmet! Sometimes I see something in her that leads me to believe that she could get aggressive and what would be my reaction to that? At the end of each and every day, after she is tucked into bed, I breathe such a sigh of relief. The "inner beast" is quiet at last, or at least for a few hours.
Pull up a chair and visit........I would like to know how you are coping everyday..be it good or with handfuls of stress.
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I deleted several books from the Paperwhite ereader so that i can make more room in the collections. Plus any of my favorite books or memorable books, I want to keep in the Collections. I usually Delete 'so-so' or "Ugh!" ebooks from the device only. I kind of got suspicious after deleting 6 books when it hit me that every time I was deleting the book, the question would ask me if I'm sure I want to delete the book. I suddenly recalled that all my other devices would ask me if I want to delete it out of the Device. Oh-oh.... I immediately went on my laptop, logged into my account, went to manage my devices, to my ebooks. I typed in the author's name and all the books I deleted from the Paperwhite - are gone!!! I went to check if I can re-download it but - all previous purchases of these books are gone AND the books are no longer free. Oh, my gosh.. does this mean I cannot delete the books from the kindle paperwhite???? If I delete it, it will delete all my book in the cloud!!! I found one book that is free. I downloaded it and will be experimenting on the paperwhite if it's possible to delete the books from the device only - not from the cloud....
I gave in to my cravings and bought dried mangos, which to me tastes so much better than the fresh fruit. It's mango season and our trees are producing. I'm allergic (but not so bad yet) to the blossoms. I opened the package last night and it was delicious going down. I went to bed lastnight with no headache. I kept waking up during the night because of the pounding headache, stuffy and squishy nose.... Well... There goes that mango. I will give it to sis. So disappointed. I sure miss eating mango! And shrimp (the most).
You know, there must be an update recently. This iPad keeps changing what I'm typing- in the middle of my typing- and automatically types at least 2 words while I'm still Spelling A word. That one word I'm still spelling- is Entered by iPad as 2! It's irritating because I have to stop and backspace. I forgot the shortcut to undo it. Oh, yeah, maybe it's slightly shaking the iPad. Let me test it out..
Shaking works but it took out this line and a few words from the last paragraph. Nah, backspace is better, more accurate erasure than the shaking iPad syndrome.
Can't help you with the computer I am afraid. I know very little and just keep pressing keys till i get something to happen.
Book, I have Windows Vista as well. I am going to use Firefox for awhile and see if I run into any problems. I will let you know. My computer use to freeze up anytime I installed IE9 so I uninstalled it and went back to IE8 and never had the computer freeze up again. For some reason Windows Vista and IE9 are not a good match.
And try the prescription!!! Can you even imagine how much better life could be without those headaches?
Research is being done and if I got the jist of it they happen because of rapid and extreme fluctuations is hormones and is treatable! But treatment is some trial and error to find the right medications.
Reverse, Thanks for sharing the picture of your Mom with us! Looks like she is having a fun time.
"Caregivers who love/loved their parents"
Cute pic of your mom with the bunny ears! And polka dots all over!
Of course posting anywhere and staying here with us, letting us support you and you sharing what has happened could help you in your grief. There are some threads especially started for when you have a loss and want to remember and post.
"Love notes from caregivers who have lost someone"
Gershun posted another one, I will ask for you. Put the words in the search bar when you are ready.
So ask the bank if someone could come out or if you know a notary who could witness your father's signature and pick the papers up from the bank that needs signing.