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Jude, I'm so sorry.
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Knowing you will do the right thing for the child, Jude.
Hoping you will stay calm, and like Stacey says, carry on.
Talk later, after you have visited.
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GO EARLY.
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Define OSTENSIBLY. Apparently or purportedly, but not ACTUALLY.
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Where is grandma? Oh, she took him shopping for a goodbye present.
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Oh Jude, you know how sorry I am that all of this is happening at the most stressful time, moving. I hope your visit goes well, and that arrangements can be calmly be decided on between the parents of your grandie! I know that you must be exhausted and anguished about it all! Try to get some sleep, and thank God your Mom is behaving nicely! I Love You my friend, and I'm thinking of you!
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Yep Pam she is coming back for them as we speak, she's not intending leaving them with him nor would he let her he would contact social services if she tried that one. Can I just thank you for all your wonderful ideas that you have pm ed me and I will try to keep you all updated after tomorrow when I have to be nice to her.....fortunately Mum is coming with me so I imagine it won't be QUITE as nice as she expects because Mum has no control over what she says when she needs to say something and right now she is being very vocal about it - she actually seems normal tonight like something has forced her to focus that is stronger than the disease itself. Mum can be incredibly cutting and right now it is not being directed at me so I do at least have that to be thankful for.
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Wait a dang minute.. she left her two daughters with your son, and took his son? And expects him to break the bad news? What a piece of work she is! I am so sorry for both of you. When she gets her other kids.. how long is her dad gonna pay the bills? Go for custody, and let this news be on your report!
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Well time will tell on the custody she has already taken him - ostensibly to see her Dad but while she was there she organised schools flat the whole lot and left him to tell her two daughters. I cannot express how angry or hurt I am and seeing my son in absolute agony is so utterly devastating. She just rang him while he was at work and said I am leaving you I am coming home to get things and I am not bringing XXXX with me. Well we managed to get her to bring him back to say goodbye to his daddy but he thinks he is going to XXXX to look after Mummy for Daddy. So she is lying to him and I am dying inside and I know my son is too.
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Jude this is so awful. Nothing worse than waring parents. Can you let the dust settle for a while and make your plans when you can start to distinguish the wood from the trees. You are so insightful you will be able to figure out her weaknesses and plan your attacks. She is going to want money so make sure she does not get any till your son gets at least duel custody. Mum must have some good points after all!
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Jude, is your son okay? I feel so bad for both of you. I like what Pam said about trying to get custody. Lots of men are single dads now.
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Once you have moved, your son will need a place to take his son on those long weekend visits, to your new apartment.
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Oh dear Jude, on top of everything. There are no words for this.
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Oh dear Jude.. my thoughts and prayers are with you, and I may know good discrete hit man... can your son file for custody, in light of the fact she seems a bit flakey (OK I was really thinking another word there.. but...) Keep us informed and take care of yourself as best you can. This is horrible
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and that reads like gobbledygook :
If I wasn't stressed enough what with mum, selling and buying property and now the move I am now..
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OK time to tell people - I am not on good form right now - my daughter in law has decided without warning to leave my son and take my grandson with her and if we don't make it difficult she will let us see him.......she didn't finish that sentence but even I get the gist of it. Tomorrow I see him for possibly the last time in a long time because I can't make the 500 mile round trip with Mum. Am I murderous oh hell yes I would happily do time for this woman right now. She has a lot of children by several men but this grandson is the only son my son can ever have and he is very precious to us all. So am I doing OK? Of course not and if I am less than nice on here I just hope people appreciate the stress and anxiety I am going through right now. I am trying to retain my humour but its not easy. On the plus side Mum is strangely being very very nice...the sort of nice that a puppy is when you aren't well if you know what I mean. She has eaten everything I put in front of her said please and thank you for everything (which is not my mum at all believe me) and is generally quite maternal - something else she has never been. if I wasn't stressed enough what with mum seeing and buying property and north move I am now...Chest pains, numbness and tingling, sleeplessness (more than usual) crying most of the time, tummy doing very weird things - oh yes I am stressed! And before anyone suggest it nope I am going to work through this without pills or die doing so and right now I really don't care which. By the way that last 5 words was said tongue in cheek
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Way to go Book! Now get it done fast before he changes his mind again!!
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A lot of times, I get these Gut Feeling and most times I ignore it. This just drives me crazy at work. My gut would tell me to do this, but my logical mind would tell me otherwise. In the end, 99% of the time, I go with my logical mind. And 75% of the time, I Regretted doing this because my guts was correct.

As you know, bro and I are trying to get POA before dad worsens. For the past few weeks, while we're trying to get things done, every time I was changing his pamper at nights, my guts kept telling me to talk to dad about POA. I kept ignoring my guts. Then one night, a few nights ago, I could no longer ignore it. It was this overwhelming urge to talk to dad about it. In a round-about way, I told dad about how it's so difficult lately for me to deal with the bills, etc... without POA. I asked him what did he think about me being POA? At first, he didn't want it because of what his brother's wife did to him. So, I reassured dad that I would not do that to him. His money is his, the house is still his, the land is still his, etc.. All the POA is for - is to help make decisions with his money. So, he was okay with that.

Today, when I came home, he was mumbling on and on. I wasn't listening until I heard my name. He said a big lady (big as in important) came today and talked to him about... In frustration, he said that what I mentioned to him the other night. POA? Yes, that one. Anyway, he told me tonight that he does not want bro to have POA because he's a thief. So, I told dad that we need another POA because if something happens to me, then we have a back-up POA. So, he is willing for my fave sis to be the 2nd POA.

D*rn! I was hoping bro would be also POA. All well, it's better to have a POA than not. I'm Not Sure if the POA is going to happen. Trying to get the story out of my dad was like pulling teeth - and it coming out like a puzzle with missing pieces. Anyway, he said that the lady told him that it's okay. She will talk to me. My dad said he was surprised that the lady knows me (because she mentioned my name).

The one thing that concerned my dad about the POA when I brought it up the other night - was that the lawyer cost is going to be very expensive. He was so worried about that. Tonight, he was soooo happy when he told me that the big lady told him that it's Free. He's so glad that he doesn't have to pay for it. Me, too!

P.S. the lawyer's office is coordinated with the senior citizen government office. That same office was the one that helped set up all these years of the gov't caregivers to come 4 hours a week. We broke down that visit to a one hour, 4 day visits to sponge bathe him.
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Windy, we all know that your mom will never be satisfied wherever you put her. I don't know how you've lasted this long with visiting her. The 2 weeks that my dad was in the hospital, he verbally got mad at me in front of others, even with the doctor and the head nurse there. I was soooo embarrassed. The doctor calmly tried to tell dad that that was not nice. Another time, I came in, and my dad was on the roll getting mad at me. His roommate and his visitors (at the other side of the curtain) were snickering as Dad continued to verbally abuse me. I thought it was bad with the doctor, this was worse - because those IMMATURE people thought it was funny to laugh. That was the last straw. I stopped visiting him daily and when I did visit him, the minute he got mad, I told that I'm leaving - and I did. You have lasted this long with your mom. Wow. Kudos to you!

Pam, I'm so glad for you and hubby! Enjoy yourselves as much as possible while mom is away. I read your comments earlier but didn't want to jinx it. I'm so glad that it worked out!
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Whoo Hoo!! Mom is with Aunt, fav cousin and his wife are taking doughnuts and checking in,, and hubs and I are like two teenagers left home alone!! Stopped at a few shops on the way back,,, have the daughters dog.. and we are happy clams for a few days! I am sooo going to the bookstore tomorrow to spend some of my gift cards!
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Trying to remain optimistic here. Mom won't give up the same old, same old complaints about her AL. She claims she loved her past AL and how great it was in her mind.

She hated it and complained about it bitterly when I visited every other day.

When her last AL shut down the smoking room we moved her to a place that allowed e-cigs. That was two years ago. She's been fine for quite awhile, but I think her vascular dementia is clouding her thinking and it's disturbing to me.

I was with her for three hours today and she was in an argumentative mood. My father in law has prostate cancer and was denied an expensive drug. His doctor came through and got him another prescription. Good for my dad in law!

Mom took the news to mean he must have better insurance than her and her life is crap. Ummm mom...you refuse to go to a doctor and how would you know??? We pay Blue Cross premiums quarterly. You have excellent insurance.

It drives me nuts sometimes, that thankfulness of what you do have. I realize she's not exactly cognizant of her blessings.

It's been a difficult week. Mom is losing so many abilities. It's hard to witness.

I lost my temper but didn't let it show after the 99th complaint. Just said I have to go now.

Because I did to maintain my sanity and do her shopping.

Cheerios plus flakes, small hairspray, prunes, chapstick, kleenex, paper towels, Starbucks coffee, puzzlebooks, wine bottles smallsies, papertowels, coleslaw, plastic utensils. small paper bowls, sweets, plastic baggies, Kleenex, Neccoes, Altoids, e-cig tanks, e-cig fluid and all her evening meals. Plus wash all her dishes, empty garbage, wash her glasses. I am so tired of this.
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Well we did not come home big winners.. but we sure had fun! And tomorrow we take mom to Aunts for a week, which we will all enjoy! Luckily I have a cousin and his wife who will check in on the ladies! So I should be able to relax and enjoy doing what ever hubs and I want!!
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Yesterday during lunch, I turned on my old kindle fire HD to read the book. I saw that they updated it overnight or while I was at work. The world logo changed from the pretty blue color to now white background with orange/green/blue swirl. Since lastnight, I noticed that the kindle is significantly slower. Every 'enter' takes a while a few seconds longer. I get frustrated with this on the iPad Air so I tend to use the older kindle. Now I no longer have a faster device. Why do they upgrade and make it more work? Don't break what's not broken... I rebooted the kindle. Maybe I'm suppose to do this after an upgrade/update?
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Cwillie, don't give them ideas!

Veronica, it seems they're trying to keep the money still within the company and not pay out the refund. Not a bad idea.

Kelise, I knew it! I found at least 5 ebooks were deleted from the Amazon cloud and therefore in all 3 devices (2 kindles and 1 iPad.)

I usually also download in the BN Nook but they changed it. I can no longer download ebooks because they "don't send electronics internationally". I sent an email trying to resolve this. Sending an ebook via the Internet will not blow up the airplane because it doesn't have lithium batteries. I was told to redo my profile and it will work. Nope! So, I've stopped buying ebooks at BN. Too bad, because I would have liked to know if it was just Amazon only that was taking back these specific ebooks.
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book,
something odd happening with my moms Kindle. she downloads all these jigsaw
puzzles from Amazon and they periodically disappear.
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cwillie they will as soon as they figure that one out. They are now issuing refunds as Amazon gift cards too.
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I think that disappearing books kind of creepy, almost like the stuff from old spy shows. When I have a library book that expires it doesn't disappear, it just won't open anymore. If they can do it with books who knows what else they could attach this technology to, imagine any software you download having an expiry and having to pay and upgrade any time the company decides you should... yikes!
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I don't recall reading any notice that these are Free ebooks that must be read within a month before it gets deleted from your device. Still trying to figure out why it was taken out of my device/cloud.
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This is the 2nd time I've noticed that some Free Ebooks I downloaded in Amazon in December - is no longer in my Amazon cloud or ereader. I keep a list of All the books I buy - hardcover (HC), paperback (PB) or ebooks (EB). I happened to be slowly but surely downloading the ebooks from the cloud to my new kindle paperwhite ereader.

The paperwhite ereader is black/white - no colorful cover photos (sucks!), no colorful highlights (sucks!). BUT - I can now set up files for each of the book genres... like Romance, Romance Para (for paranormal), Fantasy, Fantasy long (over 200 page ebooks), vampires, witches, mystery, mystery para, Teens (yes, I also read books for teens), etc...

So, I'm downloading the ebooks into the ereader. And I was transferring these books one by one to the file. I go to Amazon and check for any more free or 0.99 ebooks from the authors. I was excited to find more free ebooks from this author. I clicked on the books that I downloaded (listed in my notes.) And.... Amazon doesn't show that I ever downloaded it! So, I checked my device, scrolled for it in the cloud - and it was also not there. I stared at my list of downloaded books and realized that Amazon did it again! Without even notifying me, they took back most of those Free ebooks that I downloaded in December.

This is so rude and it should be illegal. I can understand if they sold the book as humorous but some reader read it - and discovered that it was some kind of hardcore adult content. But it's Not!

Fave niece said that I should go online and make a review with this complaint. I never thought of that. I'm seriously thinking of doing this - since this is the 2nd time I've caught Amazon taking back books that I've downloaded previously. Now, I wonder how many books that I have downloaded and no longer have.
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Oh include the Brits too Send I don't want to run the country but I will happily come as an observer!!!!!!
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