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Replacing the much lamented 'On My Mind' profile option, this thread is for musings, jottings, whimsies, preoccupations and the rest of the thesaurus for anyone to jot down anything they please.


I can't remember what the maximum character count was before, can anyone else? But anyway it wasn't very many so let's keep to that.

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@Way,
my year started with my new cancer and ended with N.'s stroke.
I would say it has been the year from Hades, but looked at another way we are still standing if a bit more wobbly-ish. So, I'm very grateful for fabulous (this atheist wants to say "miraculous") care throughout both "incidents."

My daughter is battling massive chronic pain having found out that her back/hip pain comes not from her bulging back disc but from the fact that several knock-down drag-outs from the out-of-control "special needs" little ones she monitors in school, that occurred several years, ago resulted in torn tendons and two muscles actually torn from hip bone anchor and left a few years to flap in the wind.
FINALLY someone thought "better MRI the hip, too" and there it was. Said the Doc "What happened? You fell off the horse and then the horse fell ON you?".
She's working her way through it with PT, with with a new procedure come January (anyone have "tenex"?), but it is constant pain night and day and she is so far avoiding the "pain clinic" (yeah, talking the good drugs or the bad drugs) by every means possible. Nothing so depressing as chronic pain and at 63 come Feb. she still has to try to put in a few more years on SS. Add that she's had two women friends newly diagnosed with breast cancer and "dealing".

Seems to me this year was so heavy on medical for everyone I know. I lost a neighbor next door. I keep expecting the Grim Reaper at the door instead of Amazon these days. So far it's been Amazon. Knock on wood (door).

I hope all take care. I am looking forward to turning the page on this year, myself.
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Going over in my mind about some people near me who have had a rough year . My recently widowed neighbor , the elderly couple neighbors on the other side , my friend battling cancer , my nephew who’s a caregiver for my sister .

I’d rather cook and drop off a meal for them than sit and write Christmas cards to other people who I know are doing well and the card will be looked at for 5 seconds and thrown out . 🤔🤔🤔
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send - good luck with getting the decorations!!! I have to rely on R too as he has put them away in our storage locker and that's his territory. He likes decorations so I don't think it will be a problem.

cw - good luck with the car. I agree there comes a point. My last one was a 2 yr old demo which is what I like to get. It's 10 years old now and still driving like a dream.

nacy - early in our relatioship R once tried to tell me how to clean the glass surface of my stove. I think that was the last time he tried to tell me how to do anything in my kitchen. I don't think I said much. It would have been the tone and the look. He's not a micromanager by nature - rather the opposite.

Psue - We used a plug in thingy which is supposed to work for rodents, but we needed to keep birds from pecking at the front of the house - in between cats. It worked on sound waves I think. Got it on Amazon. It's great when your man is good at repairs. I am very grateful for R's various skills.

Over the years, the revolving restaurant has been a place we go for special events. The view is awesome and the buffet is great. Calgary will be a nice trip for a few days. R will spend lots of time with his youngest grandsons. The hotel has a terrific water slide feature. I will stay quiet which is what I need. Rambunctious boys, for any length of time, are a bit much for me.
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Dryer sheet, in your car?
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Have you tried moth balls around your garage
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Nope. They like going for rides. Once I was picking up groceries and the guy came out of the big doors pulling the cart, screamed like a girl and ran back inside! Apparently a hitch hiking mouse jumped out of my wheel well and ran across his foot.
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Peasuep, will it help if you start your car every day, take it for a short ride?
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Omg peasuep, one year, I kept trying to bake cookies. Hubby wouldnt leave the kitchen. Kept telling me which spatula works best. This is right after retirement, so we were not adjusted. Or should I say he didn't quite get I don't like being micro managed yet.

Well he learned, and I did a very bad thing, through a cup of flour at him. We all make mistakes, I just got pushed a bit to far that year. Lol. I stopped stressing myself about xmass cookies and we by them now, from Harry and Davids for some people. And he doesn't try to micro manage me as much anyways. 😂

Nothing is worth stressing over that much.

And to add, yeah since hubby is older than me I try to be as independent as I can. Someday it will be useful
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Nacy, no car help for me anymore. I have to say I really took it for granted all the years DH did it. Now the mice are moving in and doing all kinds of damage (not to mention the smell) and I can’t keep up with the traps and the peppermint oil spray, etc.

cwillie, if you come across a mouse proof car in your shopping, let me know!
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Golden, not impressive, compulsive! In a house this small anything extra starts to poke me in the eye after awhile.
Your Christmas plans sound so nice. I had lunch in the Seattle Space Needle once when I was a little girl, it was enthralling.
Christmas trees on balconies make me so happy!

Send, sorry for the bah humbug at your place. You must have to work twice as hard just to hold on to your own joy.

Nacy, I keep DH out of it as much as I can too. He’s usually not grumpy about it all but he has a talent for getting in the way.
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Sends, I try to organize things so I can be least dependent on hubby. There are things I need him for, but I'm not gonna wait until the day before Xmas for him to pull out the decorations.

The other day though the tire pressure was low, on my car. I really have to learn to do that myself because I had to keep reminding him. He has an air compressor. But I get frustrated waiting, so I do need to put my big girl pants on and just go to are local convenient store.

Yeah some do get grumpy during the holidays. My hubby doesn't get grumpy but he isn't a fan of xmass as far as participating and things.

Golden, that sounds like fun going to Calgary with family, sounds like a perfect xmass

Peasuep, I feel that same way but I hold off and hold off , and tell myself not to untill closer to New years
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I've been searching the price of cars as I was told mine is going to need some costly repairs very soon, and in my experience once that starts it becomes a never ending money pit. Ah well, I was hoping to get another year or two out of it. If I spend $30K and it lasts as well as this one did that's only $2K/year I guess. Wish I could opt out of cars altogether
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Today begins the start of me asking dH to get the decorations out of the shed-to celebrate Christmas. Done hearing about the date of the celebration is wrong; the wise men did not arrive right after the birth, having a tree or wreath is a pagan practice, etc.
NOT.

Trying something different maybe. To avoid all the nagging, begging, heartache,
shouldn't I just pay to have decorations?

Waking up Thanksgiving morning, was met with Mr. Grouchy Bear, a reoccurring attitude during the holidays. Silent treatment. Increasing and changing as he gets older. Used to be, that a sickness occurred in Nov. and Dec., having photos of him on the couch, ill. At least now, he does not get ill, and the early oregano oil treatment (drop on hands, breathe it in) has worked.

Maybe I will buy only what I can put up, and decorate my own personal space.
Not wanting to force any joy at Christmas on anyone.

I am grateful for my husband, very good at many things throughout the year.
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I do very little decorating these days, but I like my little fake inside tree and a few things around. Some decorate their front door area and I will again. It's nice to see what others do. I also have an artificial tree (not fir) on the balcony with some lights on it. The fireplace could use a garland but you gotta stop somewhere...

Looks like we are going to Calgary for Christmas for a few days. I am inviting my the kids and grandkids to Sunday brunch the weekend before Christmas at the revolving restaurant in E'ton. It's a good time for us all to get together. Doubt my son and dil from Fort Mc will make it but the others will.

nacy - enjoy all the "treasures"

Psue - you dismantle it all on the 26th??? 🎄 Wow, I'm impressed!!!

Colour me well retired. R wanted to set up a spread sheet for some reason and I faked it. It wasn't complicated but it'd been years and many updated versions since I used Excel. As I worked on it things were coming back, so maybe next time.
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I love decorating for Christmas, but I LOVE having it all packed away and out of my face on Dec. 26 even more!
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Doing a bit of Christmas decorationing today. By the looks of all the stuff I bought, on clearance last year, I can turn my home into a winter wonderland.
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cw -WHMIS was a pain in the neck even when I was working 15 years ago.

Definitely making something and being able to use it feels very good.
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Peasuep, it's always a proud moment when you taught yourself something new and finished it and can actually use it. 🤗

I crochet very little when I was very young.

Mostly the whole concept to take a string ( yarn) and make something with it was so foreign to me.

I will say it's nice to get a excited about something, no matter what it is. I had my plants and outside work, freezing vegetables, been feeling like I needed something new.

I know that this isn't popular vote but I love the weather we are having. Highs of 50 and sunny. This is my happy weather.
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Nacy, you cracked me up……taking a walk with your scarf! I’m picturing it! Did you have to keep it from chasing passing cars? (I’m spending too much time reading children’s books!)

Anyway, who cares about matching? Especially when it comes to outerwear. Yay for finishing the scarf and sparking your creativity - it’s the perfect time of year for that. DD is the knitter and crocheter in our family, I did a couple baby sweaters and an ‘af-uh-gan’ (as my DGM used to call them) but was never very good at either.
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Took a walk with my new scarf, color don't match much of what I wear but looks adorable, it's warm . Definitely back to knitting, I impressed myself 😁
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nacy - I started embroidering a tablecloth - never did finish it.

way - I'm so sorry about your sis. Sounds like nephew is handling it well. Mil is gong to do what she wants to do, safe or otherwise. It's a waiting game,sn't it? I am so thankful my years of mother care are over.

doggiemom - you know what your mother is like You know living with her is going to be stressful. Isn't it time to look after yourself, rather than living in strife all the time?
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Thanks Peasuep,

I have to work, otherwise I would have helped my nephew with the move , but luckily a friend is available . But I wish I could be there to back him up with my sister . I drove out this past weekend and told her to treat her son better ( than she has been ).

MIL is a big problem . 😩😩
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Rough week, Way. Sorry.
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My sister is leaving rehab tomorrow to move into a board and care home . Hoping she does not demand to go back home . I feel so bad for my nephew.

Meanwhile mother in law fell outside her house again . At this point she should give the EMTs a Christmas bonus .
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I finally put tassels on a scarf I started, 2 years ago. 🤗 , my first knitting project. Only took 2 years.
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Doggiemom
If you intend now to live with an OCD mom who doesn't much care for your dogs for the duration, the honestly there isn't much left to say to my mind. You are out of the frying pan now, and into the fire. I can only wish you good luck. But this is CHOICE on your part. That kind of takes away any rights to talk a whole lot about how unpleasant it is. This truly is your choice. Given that, take it on happily and whole-heartedly. Refrain from talking about how bad it is, because that, if you know what I mean, only makes the hard times worse and makes them more set in stone, a litany you repeat for no good reason. Just accept it is difficult to live with ANYONE but this is who you wish to live with, and make it the best you can.
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Sister spent the last two days here doing her annual online workplace training - all I can say is I'm glad WHMIS wasn't a mandatory thing when I was working 😖
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Ok, that makes sense, just id say, maybe be a bit more patient with mom, and understand that the dogs have changed her everyday life.

And to add, I see a lot of people my kids generation, waiting my generation to treat there dogs like they would if they were are grandchildren.

I suspect that is a generation gap thing.

And there is nothing wrong with it either way. But I think my sons generation shouldnt be angry or annoyed at my generation if we don't.
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It's not my mom's home. I am on the lease and pay the rent and bills. She is on there as a resident but the main duty falls on me. She agreed to move in with me while I get settled. I do not want to kick her out
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Doggiemom, I have not commented much because I feel rather strongly that you do not bring pets home to others.

We had a horrible time getting my step daughter to understand that. She tried so hard to bring her 2 huskies, in are home, and are 3 cats hated them and they stayed in the basement when she was here, trying like heck to pawn her doggy duties off on us. In the end it ended very ugly, which is sad for her because, me and her dad , could of been much help to her in life, but she didn't want that help she wanted to take over my home , with constant dog fur, honestly they where just destroying everything.

I do know that is not what you are doing, but I'm a firm believer, that if say my stepson, that lives upstairs, wants a dog we all have to want a dog also. If any of are kids just assume they are moving in and bringing there dogs with them, that is a GIGANTIC no from both of us.

I love dogs, but I won't even dog sit. I had a neighbor wanted me to feed her dog while the went away, I said NO, because I new that would keep happening, I have a life and I don't want my time taking up with others pets. If I want a dog I'll get a dog!

I do on occasion, sit for one neighbors dog, but that's only because it when he absolutely needs to do something.

I can imagine have OCD it must be even harder for mom.

Alva, I just googled your museum, look like a really great place to go. Hope your trip goes better this time,!
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