Countrymouse Posted November 2018
On My Mind
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Replacing the much lamented 'On My Mind' profile option, this thread is for musings, jottings, whimsies, preoccupations and the rest of the thesaurus for anyone to jot down anything they please.
I can't remember what the maximum character count was before, can anyone else? But anyway it wasn't very many so let's keep to that.
We'll see.
We had a significant surge here 2-3 weeks ago, probably not omicron, wait and see.
cw - hang in there and keep trying to get your booster shot. It appears that it helps.
glad - case numbers are going up in Eastern Canada, spectacularly in some places and also across the country. From 22 cases locally two weeks ago we have now 47 - not large numbers here, but a great % increase. It's not omicron - that is yet to hit fully. Hunkering down here for another covid driven winter.
ali - I think that is very good! You will have a break, relatively speaking, Enjoy!!! I remember 3rd year university and thinking "What's the point? This is going on for ever" but of course it wasn't - just felt that way.
You are so close to completion. What an achievement!!!
Grandson Joel had his surgery and is fine. Still waiting for results of dd's biopsy. Feeling the loss of ex. He was in my life - sometimes closer, sometimes further - for 53 years. It's a long time. We had ironed out our differences some time ago, so all that was left was the caring.
some quotes i collected in the past weeks.
:) i just want to lift us up, make us laugh, try to make us feel better. pre-xmas hug!!
here:
...opinion has caused more trouble on this little earth than plagues or earthquakes.
...to hold a pen is to be at war.
...when he to whom one speaks does not understand, and he who speaks himself does not understand, that is metaphysics.
...i'm not saying let's kill all stupid people. i'm just saying let's remove all the warning labels and let the problem sort itself out.
...a happy dog lying in bed, with headphones and listening to a tape recorder.
[canine affirmation tapes]
"good doggie! you're - such - a good doggie! aren't you? yes, you are!"
...aside from the people, the hours, the work, the pay, the stress and the migraines, this is the best job i ever had.
...sometimes when things are falling apart, they might actually be falling into place.
...the path to every victory is paved with predictions of failure.
...there is one thing stronger than all the armies in the world, and that is an idea whose time has come.
:)
...one businessman to another, "now and again, i give myself a $10 million bonus. that's my favorite stress management technique."
...first say to yourself what you would be; and then do what you have to do.
...find ecstasy in life; the mere sense of living is joy enough.
...buy a harp and annoy everyone as you learn how to play it.
...do something you were never allowed to do when you were younger, like make a mud pie or eat a whole tub of ice cream, or wear a "too-short" skirt and "not-very-sensible" shoes.
...always do sober what you'd do drunk.
...dance first. think later. it's the natural order.
...goodness makes greatness truly valuable.
...do not think you will necessarily be aware of your own enlightenment.
...don't raise your voice, improve your argument.
...the first to apologize is the bravest. the first to forgive is the strongest. the first to forget is the happiest.
...excuse me, i have to go be awesome.
...and,
magic happens when you do not give up, even when you want to. the universe always falls in love with a stubborn heart.
inspirational-quote-girl bundle of joy :)
Taking prudent precautions is not the same as living "paralyzed with fear" and I haven't met anyone in real life who is living that way. Personally I know that my age and with no high risk factors dying from covid isn't likely, but being sick as a dog and/or possibly needing medical intervention is not something I want to deal with if I can easily avoid it. I've always taken precautions during flu season too, and I have ranted here about the lax attitude of so many people who spread that to vulnerable people.
(masks are mandated here so of course I will be wearing one, the only people who aren't are the anti vaxx looney-toons so they aren't allowed to go anywhere, which makes them easy to avoid)
What we have observed so far since the release of the Covid vaccines:
Covid vaccines do NOT prevent infection.
Covid vaccines do NOT prevent spread
Covid vaccines do NOT prevent mutations
Vaccinated people still get Covid, spread Covid, and some died from it. Same for unvaccinated people. No difference.
The only thing Covid vaccines are supposed to do is to reduce the severity of the symptoms. This benefit has to be weighed against the severity of the side effects of the vaccines.
The US government just awarded the first claim of injury or death from the Covid vaccines. There are currently thousands of claims allready filed. And I expect a lot more soon and in the future as long term side effects come to light.
Sorry Polarbear, I don't know what you are talking about, I didn't call anyone here any names. If you mean the anti vaxxer comment - that was about the fanatical, in your face, rude, and disrespectful of everyone else just doing their jobs people who are acting like idiots, yes IMO they are very much looney tunes (and given that we are nearing 90% vaccinated they are very much in the minority). If you choose to not vaccinate but are going about your life following mandates (however reluctantly) and respecting other people's different choices this in not you.
If we all just change the name of something, then change the definition of everything, and then remove the time and dates from all publications, we will end up brainwashed, gaslighted, and confused.
Changing the name of this thread from ON MY MIND to
OUT OF MY MIND may shorten the posts, because no one wants to admit how crazy the pandemic has made each of us over a long period of time.
cw - amen, the great divide...
Health and healing to all. We've been through A LOT the past 20 months.
Ali wonderful!
My tolerance to my hubs and his emotional roller coaster personality is down to nothing and I think that's part of the problem. I'm always having to adjust myself to his moods. If's he's up it's a good day but when he's down and when I say down in his case this can mean just about anything. Swearing, cursing wishing death upon his fellow mankind, or sullen, whiny and constantly complaining and feeling sorry for himself. Its gotten to the point that I don't even enjoy his good days anymore cause I'm just anticipating the bad day just around the corner. He's not abusive. He's just self centered and childish. He comes from a culture that babies their men and treats them like they are Kings. I'm not from his culture.
I just can't do it anymore. When do I get to have my time to wallow? When do I get to lay around, feel sorry for myself and have him be my pillar of strength. Cause inevitably when I'm feeling sad and need comforting I may get it for half a day and then it's back to him, him, him, him. He's so used to me being the strong one, the sensible one, the comforting one that when I'm feeling like I've been feeling lately he just looks at me and gives me the "snap out of it" expression. He's completely useless in bad, sad, situations. When my mom was dying he couldn't even comfort me then. I've always been good at comforting myself with my faith etc. but that isn't even working for me these days.
These last few days I just have shut down emotionally. I don't have it in me to give him the pep talks, the listening ear, the adult speeches. I'm just so tired of having to prop him up endlessly.
I love him.........but I just don't know what to do anymore. I don't know if I can live like this anymore. I don't want to leave him but what do I do?
Any advice?
PS: He doesn't think there is anything wrong with the way he acts so suggesting he goes for counseling just won't fly.
Can you try just ignoring DH for a few days? Leave him to his own resources and don't participate in the "dance"?
I think I'm going ignore everyone myself...
A few thoughts - "Swearing, cursing wishing death upon his fellow mankind, etc " - being around that is emotional abuse in my books. When he is behaving better, I would tell him that I can't be around someone who behaves like that as it is too hard on me -and when he starts leave the room and go somewhere else. He is getting what he wants which is your attention and support. You can choose not to enable his behaviour by changing your behaviour. Stop the pep talks, the listening ear, the adult speeches
I agree he is self centered and childish. Pandering to his moods doesn't do you nor him any good.
Focus on yourself and getting your needs met. "When do I get to have my time to wallow? When do I get to lay around, feel sorry for myself and have him be my pillar of strength." Take time to wallow if that's what you want to do. Have your pity party when you want one - BUT - and a big BUT here - don't expect him to be your pillar of strength. Find your support elsewhere. Maybe with a change in dynamics in your relationship he can learn to be more supportive - maybe not. In any case you need support sometimes and if he can't/won't give it you need to find it elsewhere. I am not suggesting you find another man. Think about where you can get the support you need. I know it is not easy.
You don't HAVE to prop him endlessly. It is your choice to do so or not. It sounds like you are burnt out. Concentrate on you and doing what is good for you, what lifts you up and stop doing what drags you down.