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I'm not noticing a huge increase in "trolls, sock puppets, influencers, and toxic manipulators" in any the threads I usually follow🤔. I'll admit I've dropped one or two I regularly followed because of a huge increase in the number of comments, I figure I can decrease the volume of my daily feed by checking in every few days.

Are you sure you aren't just feeling moonstruck?😉
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:) dear send,

hope you're ok!! :)

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hugs and courage to everyone, whatever challenges you're facing.

"difficult roads lead to beautiful destinations."
emmmmm....hopefully it's true :).
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My older grandson came to see me this afternoon. He brought his girlfriend with him. She was very nice. We played back alley bridge. I lost big time. I hadn't played that in years. They had gone to the grocery for me and loaded up my little fridge. He got it moved it so I could reach it.
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Well, I took the plunge and am in the process of buying a condo near Edmonton. I am looking forward to having less house to clean, less maintenance over all, shorter less-cold winters, being nearer better services, entertainment, shopping etc. Oldest son and sig other are in the process of moving to Edmonton from Calgary which is a plus. The process seems more complicated than previous real estate purchases I have made - more technology/more errors and bank people just plain not knowing their jobs, but we are getting there.

The house still needs some downsizing. I need to reduce belongings to fit a two bedroom + den unit, and some repairs/renos by R are needed, but I was assessed and I am quite happy with the figure.

I don't plan to sell till several months after condo possession date which gives me time for the transition. The trickiest part may be moving Rocky. She is such a creature of habit and likes things to stay the same. But she, like other cats, loves cardboard boxes so that should help. 😊
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WooHoo Golden! You have been working toward this for a long time, I'm happy for you that things have finally fallen into place!
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Thanks Cwillie and Bundle of Joy,
I am okay and unfollowed so many.
Now my News Feed is better.
I do think in part, the Full Moon was affecting me.

An early birthday card arrived with enough gift to get the leak in the kitchen sink and the running toilet repaired. Any left over will be saved, because I would no longer be able to figure out how to have fun!

Happy Birthday to those with February and March Birthdays!
Really early for March, huh?
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great you're ok, sendhelp :) :).
and very nice you received a gift! :)
happy early birthday!! :) :)

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dear everyone,

meanwhile, here's just another funny quote to make us smile/laugh :)

"If you look like your passport picture, you probably need a trip."
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Thank you BOJ

I don't look like my passport picture from 1980.
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haha :). no one likes their passport picture.
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send - glad you got your plumbing fixed and early happy birthday.

Thx cw, My puttering away at downsizing actually has accomplished a reasonable amount. But I still have more to do.
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Great news Golden! 😻
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Golden....as long as Rocky is with you,She'll be A-OK,I'm sure.
That's wonderful youv'e found a new place and you took the big step~
GOOD JOB!

&

HAPPY BIRTHDAY EARLY SEND!
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Congratulations Golden on the new home! Happy early Birthday Send!

Long gloomy day in Illinois! Poured rain all day. My son picked up our new van today. Wheelchair accessible, so he'll be able to take me out sometimes. My first outing will be to my grandson's ice hockey game Saturday afternoon if doctor approves me going out. My stepson and his wife left to go back to Maine. I'll miss them.
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Thx beatty, lu and becky

lu - that's what I was thinking with Rocky. I may have to stay with dd for a short while in transition and she has 2 cats and a dog. But if Rocky is with me (and my plush camo blanket) I think she will be OK. One of the cats has visited here on a leash and Rocky was cautious but not freaked out. She actually looked a bit interested.
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Golden, have you ever given Rocky rescue remedy. You can buy it for cats online. It eases anxiety for things like moves etc.
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Thx gershun - I may try that. She really likes her routine with NO changes except if she wants her supper earlier or later. She notices everything!!!
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golden: Good luck on the move to Edmonton. Congratulations on your condominium purchase!
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Golden, you can just add a couple of drops in with his water. But I know what you mean. Our late cat Daniel would always watch when we did this and give us suspicious glances.
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:) what's on my mind?

this is more of a comment to myself, but i feel like writing it anyway.

...often one feels like only mentioning when things go badly
...and one forgets to mention, when things go well!

i am sooo glad the private caregivers we have do such a great job.
kind, caring, sweet, competent.

obviously this is very good for my LOs.
BUT also it's muccccch better for me.
i am much less stressed.

before these caregivers, we had other ones.
not good.
then, they did something awful.

i interviewed many new ones.
i decided on the ones we have now.

they're really nice. and they're in a verrry sweet mood, every day, while they help my LOs. they also already helped during an emergency and did a great job. extremely luckily, my LOs are fine.

soooo, this is just to say (i tell them this directly too, often), that i'm really glad we have them.

at xmas time we had a lot of fun together -- i gave them reindeer antlers, and we all wore them daily, while we helped out my LOs and created a wonderful xmas for them.

in the mornings, my father would wake up and see a face in front of him with 2 big reindeer antlers.

bundle of joy :)
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Becky, tried to copy and paste something for you, but it's not working.

Google "OT and wheelchair users" and you will see why the OT is coming to visit.
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I would appreciate prayers for my dd and all of us. She is in emergency with chemo side effects - woke up in a mess with incontrollable D. Fortunately her hub is on days off and very good at dealing with this stuff. I have to be prepared to help when he is not on days off.
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Golden, so sorry for DD. I'm glad she's getting care and I hope they can get her more comfortable and hydrated. Prayers for all of your family as you go through this journey and especially DD. (((((hugs)))))
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Oh, Golden, your poor daughter! Prayers sent!
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Thanks everyone. She is feeling better but being admitted overnight. Her potassium is low, Thankfully I have extra bed linens for them. Better safe than sorry. This is just her first session.
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Golden, glad she's a bit better. Keeping both of you in my thoughts and prayers. 🙏
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Golden. Prayers for you and your family.

Snow, snow and more snow. Long, boring day in the nursing home.
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golden: I am praying for your daughter and for you. Chemotherapy can be rough. Hugs.💝

I am relieved to hear that she is being admitted overnight where she can be taken care of.
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Hello All. I realise I haven't posted since early December. It's been a very difficult few months and I've been quite depressed. On the back of the many family bereavements I received a really abusive letter from my stepmother which has called into question my entire relationship with my late father. I've been really struggling to deal with this but am now starting to feel I'm coming out of this dark place and beginning to feel a bit better. I always found this forum a really supportive place but haven't felt able to tune in for a while. I've been reading some recent posts to see how everyone is. I can see there is good and not so good news out there. Love and support to all and sorry to have been away and to not have invested in you all recently.
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Missed you Chriscat!
A really abusive letter from your step mother? After Dad has died?
What kind of sick person does that? This sounds serious. Like serious pain.

We are here for you. Share what you feel comfortable with. Let's get it out, when you are ready. Do you want to start your own thread, or talk with someone by private message? I can recommend a few good longtime forum members that you may already know? I won't push.

How can we help?

Do you still have Merlin-cat with you? 🐱 How is he taking the losses in your family, and the recent loss of Arthur? (I looked it up).
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Thank you, friends, for acknowledging my pain. I feel self-indulgent when others are going through major health issues, but I guess that is the way abusive people get to you, and my stepmother has always dismissed my feelings as an indulgence on my part. Sendhelp, I appreciate your kindness. Merlin cat is still with us and although puzzled that Arthur is no longer here, is enjoying his status as an only cat, with all the extra attention that brings. My stepmother is another matter. A week after Arthur’s death, and just a few weeks after our latest family bereavement (my poor cousin, in her 40s, who died unexpectedly in her sleep one night and who was a good friend to me) she sent me an unpleasant letter, with a Christmas card, great timing. It opened with a paragraph about how my late father felt shut out of our lives and kept away from our son, his only grandchild, accusing me of cruelty and coldness. After further criticisms and insults, it concluded by stating that her letter was not meant to offend and that if I acknowledged my faults she was prepared to overlook my awful past behaviour so that we could move forward with “ a relationship of sorts”, as she puts it. This is from someone who was really cruel and heartless towards me when my father was dying, focusing all of her anger on me and preventing me from being able to sit in peace with my father in his last days. As a result I have been “no direct contact” with her since, as advised through the therapy I needed to get through the immediate months after dad’s death. The therapists call this “compassionate detachment “ - I don’t wish her any ill will but her abusive nature is bad for my health, so my husband deals with her when necessary. Her letter troubled me greatly, making me question the relationship I had with my father for the past 20 years. I felt I had a good relationship with him, and we always made them welcome, with good hospitality, when they visited. I will never know now how he felt though, as he is gone. My family, including my husband, son, aunts and uncles, tell me her accusations are untrue but things said cannot be unsaid and the damage is done. On top of this I am still mourning our family bereavements - 4 last year and 4 the year before. I withdrew to our bedroom in the days after receiving the letter, unable to eat or do anything, staring blankly at the TV or a book, not taking anything in. Since then I have felt a terrible sadness, emptiness and feelings of dread and anxiety, coupled with insomnia, hence my “middle of the night” post. I probably need more therapy but the Omicron situation over Christmas and into New Year made direct therapy difficult. Things are improving now on that front so I think it’s time to see someone. I am also hoping that as we emerge from winter and into spring I will feel more positive. Sorry to ramble on but I think writing things down is therapeutic and seems to help sort out the conflicting feelings, unburdening a little.
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