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Yes Llama, I have and will continue to do so. It's all so sad.
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Gershun: Thank you. It most certainly is.
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Well, can you just see it?! I have lived such a clean life. Contracted on a new home yesterday, at the new location, just three minutes from home to work. Then to have a bench warrant issued for my arrest for not showing for jury duty!

A couple hours ago, I realized that tomorrow is February 28. What is going on that day? OMG, I came across a notice for jury duty that I had stuck away, hiding, from first showings. Thank goodness decided to finish up my taxes to get them ready for the accountant. Came across the notice. All jurors have been excused tomorrow. Thank Goodness! I have other things to do!
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Don't you love how your brain works, Glad? Good job!
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This morning I woke thinking how fortunate I am to have found the new home. I usually check realtor.com several times a day for new listings. For whatever reason the home did not find its way into realtor but other sites have it. My realtor was very helpful, it looked like the lot was at the very corner of the subdivision, so a large lot, no small lots directly adjacent.. Highest elevation in the subdivision with mountain view from West Windows and forest view from East Windows

I am.excited for the framing, first floor to get built so I can get a better idea of the views. And the garage is on the south side of the lot, adjacent to county that is not very well taken care of. I am excited!

As I was writing the contract, a couple came in wanting to also write on the house.

Now get my butt out of bed and start packing.
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It sounds great, glad. Love the views!!! You have a lot of work ahead of you.
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hello :).

what's on my mind?...

this is more of a message to myself...literally in my mind...
but i want to write it anyway.

with all my nice intentions to stay calm...
i got very frustrated today (in my mind)...

oh boy.
trying to help my LO.

LO making bad/dangerous decisions/falling-risk...

hourssss spent researching a product for LO, who wanted it (safer).
today, LO said doesn't want it.
i think the product (special, comfortable, safe armchair) is an excellent idea.

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it's not easy.

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i'll try to go back to calmness.

hugs to us all, with our various challenges!

bundle of joy :)
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:) adding another comment to my comment, below.

again, this is actually just "in my mind", but i feel like writing it anyway...

1 of my LOs had parents who were doctors.
and growing up, my LO heard many stories about difficult patients, and therefore made a very conscious decision that in old age, the LO would NOT be difficult.

so here i am, with 1 LO who is verrrry sweet, kind, appreciate (anyway, throughout their life) -- but especially now during old age.

and 1 LO who is NOT easy (anyway, throughout their life, sometimes, very difficult) -- and especially now during old age.

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wishing us all lots of strength -- and the wisdom not to get derailed from our own direction/goals/dreams in life.

hugs!!!!
:)

i'll now try to go back to being calm -- but first i'll be a volcano for a few weeks (in my mind). as a volcano, maybe i can become a tourist attraction :).

volcanoes can make islands...
maybe something nice will come out of my volcanic activity.
:)
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Is the site navigation once again incredibly slow for anyone else?
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Extremely slow since Sunday night
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goodnight from here :).

and thanks — i’m so glad this website exists. i learn A LOT of practical things. i learn A LOT of emotional advice.

just great.

and amaaazing, all the loving things people do for their LOs.

hug!!!!
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glad: Congratulations on your new home.🏠
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"Never Simple" by Liz Scheier is a first person account of growing up with a mentally ill parent and attempting to manage when dementia is added to that parent's other challenges with facing reality. It's a really good read.
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Barb: That sounds like an interesting read. Must put it in my phone notes.
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hugs from here!! :)

this comment is just to point out something nice that happened :).

today my LO (91) needed to do a procedure at the hospital (it’s standard, but there’s always a small risk).

here i was worrying, silently, while my LO was with the doctor in another room.

all went well!
and i was informed that my LO was singing the whole time! :)

my LO is always in a good mood.

amazing.
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Spent yesterday afternoon watching middle school.baseball. The weather started out nice for March 1, in the low 60s when the game started @4:30 but dropped into the upper 40s before it was over. After spending years taking my mother to these events and then missing them for the last 3 years after Mom couldn't go, it feels strange to be attending again. There is a feeling of grief/guilt/regret that I can attend again because I no longer need to care for Mom. I wonder when that feeling will go away?
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Website is slowing, have to wait to get on this thread to complain.
But then I see others have already mentioned it.
Aw, sad, because I am running out of time at the first of every month.

See you all soon!

Finding recipes online by entering the ingredients is amazing. Dh and I are cooking cooperatively together-and he makes the rice! Last night was Turkey, rice, bell peppers, onions, tomatoes, mushrooms, and a sesame dressing sauce cooked in.
Lots of spices to perk up what would have been bland. It was gourmet excellent, one pan. Key was not to over-stir the ingredients together.

Fun at home!
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TNtechie,
Turn the grief/guilt/regret into gratefulness.
When the thought comes on, say to yourself, miss you Mom, wish you were here. I will enjoy this for us both now.

Maybe something like that, using your own words.

I am happy for you that you get to experience those games! I loved seeing my grandchildren play soccer and basketball. And baseball when my son was growing up-All Stars! Those were happy times!

Again, sorry for your loss. 🌹
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I've been in the NH and can offer a couple of observations. I am well treated and receive the care and therapies I need. My dialysis is good. I get weary hearing the people complaining about everything and everyone. The food is okay. But it's extremely boring. I'm used to more. On the upside my stepson and his girls are her visiting for a couple of days. I wouldn't mind if I hadto be here permanently.
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The food at my mom's nursing home was mostly quite good, but the menus were an endless repetition right down to the type of vegetables served with each entree so I can imagine that getting old pretty fast. You have been lucky enough to have family that brings in food Becky, some (most?) don't have that option. And I honestly can't see how my small town NH could cope if anyone ever needs a special menu (vegan, kosher, halal, celiac or gluten intolerance, IBS etc), their meal choices would be whittled down to a handful of items.
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CW, I am lucky with food. My son and granddaughter both love to cook and bring m things.. I'm a diabetic and have CKD so my diet is always somewhat restricted. But the NH is not nearly as bad as some of the hospital food I've had.
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Solar storms and Coronal mass ejections could be responsible for a slowed internet or website.
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LOL!!!!!I

Hunting boxes. I thought I had saved them from the last moves, but gave many/all to DD1 with her last move. My son is coming to help and will pickup what I think I need at HD. Not even boxes, at a reasonable price, in this city.

I have probably packed close to 15 boxes at this point. I feel like there is still lots to go. I have taken eight boxes of books to donate. Two big bags of clothes and shoes to goodwill. So much to do. Will be in my new office in three weeks! Excited to get out of here.

Only two showings on the house so far, that is discouraging. One of them is, supposedly, working on financing.
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:) just wishing us all a great day!! and courage!! :)

for many of us, it’s a very stressful rollercoaster:

emergency/calm/emergency…etc.

(i’m in the lucky calm phase. my LOs are doing well!)
:)

hugs to everyone!
be careful of your own health.

by health i mean many things:
…the food you eat (stress eating)
…social health (more isolated, not spending time with kind, uplifting friends, because all your energy is going into your LOs)
…love health (for example, maybe unconsciously avoiding to fall in love, because again, all your energy is going into your LOs)
…dreams/goals health
…etc.

the side-effects of being altruistic sort of creep up on us. and time passes.

somehow one must be careful:
actively love others and ACTIVELY love yourself too.

hug!!
:)
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The denouement of the Arizona grandfather's trip to NY (wanted 5 year old granddaughter for the day without any "interference" from us--hasn't seen her since she was a baby, will be here with his elderly, frail, wheelchair bound father--what could go wrong, right?) is that he is refusing to see her at all, has cut off all communication with his son and "will let the kid decide when she grows up who was wrong". Lots of blustering about "you'll have to answer to God".

Too sad.
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UHH???

Barb, I've only just caught up with this.

Arizona Gpa is as daft as a brush. Everyone realised that when he proposed that a five year old would be content, nay delighted, to spend her birthday with two old men she doesn't know from Adam, right?

Silly old sod. I don't think you or SIL need have any worries about what the Almighty will have to say about it.
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Ample evidence, if more was needed, that it wasn't a good idea.

Barb- he sounds unwell.
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Golden, CM, I'm starting to wonder about his mental health, as you point out. Such an extreme reaction.

Oh, and I'm told he wrote the kids an email saying that he knows why we all hate him.

It's because he's Catholic.

His argument was a bit deflated when my SIL pointed out that my whole family is Catholic and we get along with THEM just fine.

Sad.
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Who would be the family member to contact about your concerns? His doctor should be informed. Paranoia can be a sign of developing dementia. I think he needs a full geri-psych evaluation, not that that will be easy to arrange in his state of mind. Is he the one responsible for his frail father? If he is, I would be concerned about that too and looking for alternatives. To me it looks like a train wreck waiting to happen. It is sad when aging produces issues which isolate people.

Thanks for updating us.
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