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Thank you Llama for mentioning Jay Leno.
Jay Leno is sharing new details about the injuries he sustained during the car fire at his garage.
The comedian and classic car lover, 72, suffered third-degree burns and may need skin grafts, he told TMZ on Monday night from his hospital bed. Posted 2 hrs ago.

Honorable mention:
Michael J. Fox was reportedly passed in just another celebrity death hoax.
Then posters were talking about him here. I cannot confirm with certainty that he is dead or alive, living with Parkinsons.

The internet has enough information to be able to determine if a celebrity has passed, but it may take some time to be accurate before posting.
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send - Michael Fox is alive. The posts mentioning him was with regard to the cause of his Parkinson's, the broader context being aging, behaviour and environment.
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Send: You're welcome. He loves his autos.
Michael J. Fox is alive.
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Wow! Someone reported Dorker”s thread and now it’s gone. That’s just ___.

Let’s report the dinner thread, joke thread, general thread.

Those have nothing to do with elder care.
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Really?

I guess she should have put more emphasis on her mother's take in all of it....🤔🙄
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PB, don't forget the "on my mind" thread.

Perhaps the crime triggered someone.
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I’m sad Dorker was shut out. She’s such a talented storyteller. She really has a way with words.

AC admin, Dorker is one poster that keeps other posters coming back to AC again and again. You made a huge mistake deleting her thread. Remember her other thread from a few years back? “I’m so disheartened.” Over 11K posts. I think that was a record for any single poster/situation.

Huge mistake AC admin. I suddenly don’t like AC forum much anymore.
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Dorker's thread is gone???

RIP 😭

THAT thread was the rope I clung to when I couldn't see for FOG & seemed stuck in the bottom of the bog.

Dorker's turn of phrase & honesty was a treat to read.

It was also such a tale of success! How to unmesh, disentangle from others' expectations & finding reasonable limits. To stick up for oneself. Plus keeping the relationships intact!

I hope she writes a book or film.
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Too bad about Dorker's thread but I don't think any of the aforementioned threads should be reported. It would be like chopping off your nose to spite your face. Not necessary.
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Gershun, I was being a smart a$$ and I have to think that PB was too.

I would be very sad if the threads that just deal with normal life were removed. It would alter the forum far to much.
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Beatty, not her caregivibg journey thread. One she posted today.
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I have wondered about Dorker,, since I missed the recent post I guess I'll never know.
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That's okay Real, I can be a smarta** too. Didn't think you really meant it. At least I had hoped not.
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I sent AC an email message saying that I think closing Dorker's thread was an error.
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Dorker, don’t stop writing, here or elsewhere!

I had a feeling it was going to be preemptively shut down, after the recent rhymes-with-moles unpleasantness.
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just a reminder to all us kind people here:

you’re doing more than enough, even if it doesn’t feel like it.

don’t let others influence your emotions.

be like a tree, let the dead leaves drop.

do more of what you love.
🙂🙂
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Hmm, PrettyWitty seems to have gotten pulled. I wonder if she was a troll.

I've never had anyone get upset before when I've looked at their previous posts. Do you guys thinks that's something one shouldn't do?
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Heck no Barb, reading their profile or previous posts is often the only way to get a clear picture of someone's situation.
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I think your main mistake was not simply approving what she wanted to do in the first place. We all think so much more highly of the intelligence, wisdom and good intentions of people who agree with us, I suppose.
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Barb, Nothing wrong with looking at profiles and past answers. I think she only wanted to hear answers she agreed with.
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well I just figured out how to update my profile! So now no one will think my folks are still with me! It did take a bit to figure out
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Barb,
We should look at a person's profile to better help that person. If their profile is set at private, entering their screen name into the search icon is a good idea so we can view their previous posts.
I just would not tell them, especially a new poster. And I would stop posting to someone who appears to be a bit wonky from the get-go.

Still, we are all challenged more now to protect ourselves from insincere posters and those who just want to get mad at us.

This is a public social media platform, correct?

People often mistake kindness for weakness, and choose you to get mad at for some reason.
Maybe they think you are a safe person to criticize because you show no malice when you post real, thought out answers.
Or maybe because you are often the first to post an answer or a query of the new poster, giving them the benefit of the doubt.

I am glad that you are still here, helping others.
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Barb PW was either a troll or had a plan to keep the estate for themself. And some hide previous answers and questions by changing user names, changing accounts or closing them and saying they are leaving.

Why do posters have to take on new usernames? I think it is very deceptive and dishonest especially when so many tragedies and unfortunate events seem to befall them, so many, it is completely unbelievable. I, for one, am completely appalled and sickened by it! And it has been going on for years.
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I changed my username because when I first found the forum I was desperately seeking help and used a username that reflected that desperation. Later I wanted something that was more reflective of my rational personality and changed to TNtechie. I think we all have at least one username change coming, although I do agree repeated changes to attempt deception should be avoided.
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There's a difference between just changing your user name and creating multiple and/or consecutive accounts. Generally forum users who have changed their name for legitimate reasons have acknowledged their new persona and the reasons behind it - a lost account, privacy concerns or whatever. Logging in pretending to be someone new with a different set of issues totally unrelated to their previous posts is just game playing, but I'm willing to put aside my suspicions and tolerate it as long as they stay respectful and any advice given is a positive contribution.
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One thing I have noticed about multi-name users, the style they use to write is usually the same, thus an easy catch for some. If they try to change their style of writing, eventually the true person will show up when there is a kerfuffle on-line.
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hugs to all :).
slowly climbing my way back up from problems here. this means, i'll continue to be gone from the internet. wishing us all a great thanksgiving soon! :)
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Because I have been routinely targeted by some posters, I need to know when someone has changed their screen name (user names), so that I can continue to avoid them.


Beyond that, I now try to tolerate them instead of exposing their lies. Even though that person still comes after me with harsh criticisms, tolerance is not my strong suit.

This is not a happy topic, but I understand how frustrated we all feel at the betrayal and deceit.

Letting it go.
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You're exactly right FF. I can't change my writing style or my interests. But I did change my user name from Becky04469 after the recent troll attack. I received multiple mean messages accusing me of being multiple posters including Jeffrey Prince, Lil Melba, UsedUpDIL and Bandy 7. After this thread last night about multiple users I was accused by PM of being PrettyWitty. I am none of those people. I also am not a pot stirrer and troublemaker because I'm a psychologist and like to watch the fusses. All the accusations that were made by PM had been told by a longtime trusted member that I was doing these things.

And I had notified several forum members of my name change. My old profile is still up and my old comments can be seen. They are not deleted when you close your account. Closing your account makes it impossible to post, receive messages, etc.

I am a 66 year old female living in Maine and sometimes for extended periods in WV. I have a variety of serious health problems. I am on dialysis, peripheral artery disease, other cardiac issues, multiple falls resulting in being in a wheelchair and a long time type 1 insulin-dependent diabetic. I am a widow.
I have a shortened life expectancy. On the upside. I have a large caring family who help me greatly.
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@Bridget66

You know, you're exactly right. Personally, I don't like using multiple names, but people do for other reasons besides trolling and looking for trouble. You clearly state valid reasons for a screename change.
Me, I started out as BurntCaregiver and that's the only handle I'll ever use on this forum.
For the most part you can pretty much tell by the writing style who's who and if they're serious or just out for a bit of trolling.
I will always call these people out. This forum is a good group and a valuable resource for people that are actual caregivers. It's not for bored, lonely, mentally ill, or just no good jack-o**s who have nothing better to do with their time other than try to get a rise out of people or tear down the people on this site who truly can offer support because they're going through the same things or have a wealth of experience in it (been there, done that).
PrettyWitty was here before under a different name. I remember what it was though. I recognize the writing style. That style is contemporary troll.
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