Countrymouse Posted November 2018
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Replacing the much lamented 'On My Mind' profile option, this thread is for musings, jottings, whimsies, preoccupations and the rest of the thesaurus for anyone to jot down anything they please.
I can't remember what the maximum character count was before, can anyone else? But anyway it wasn't very many so let's keep to that.
That’s a great thought! LOL 😆 I wonder if he is bald now!
Your MIL sounds like she was a bit over involved in her son’s life. Geeeez, and had bad taste too!
Well, you fixed that problem! Good for you.
Do you attend high school reunions? People either love or hate them!
We went to our 10 year reunion. I hated it. Recently DH said our 40th is coming.
You know what I say to that? Too Freakin Bad!
I don’t go to them. I am simply not interested in going. My husband doesn’t go either.
I stay in touch with some friends that I have known since kindergarten, but have never had any desire to participate in school reunions.
I respect that some people enjoy their reunions but some people find them a boring experience or just a place where people enjoy gossiping about their old classmates.
Amen to, Too freakin bad! Love your attitude!
I was fortunate to have a wonderful mother in law but her mother (my grandmother in law) was truly a despicable woman. She interfered in everyone else’s lives. We learned to simply ignore her foolishness.
"Too freaking bad". You're speaking my language now. Good for you!
No way ! Wasn’t starting off our marriage with her in control . We canceled everything without telling her . We eloped 3 months early and told her about a month later. We told her she was the reason we canceled .
Then she had the nerve to ask if I was pregnant. And she still acts like we robbed her of going to her son’s wedding . She is a piece of work.
Oh my gosh, your MIL is a piece of work!
My husband’s grandmother told me when I was dating her grandson that she EXPECTED me to attend her Sunday dinner every week!
I politely told her, “Nope, not going to happen!”
She didn’t like it but had no choice but to accept it. We went to her ‘Sunday dinners’ when we chose to and no more than that.
I was grateful to my MIL for warning me about her mother’s abrasive personality and she told me not to allow her to run all over me like a steamroller.
Good for you for eloping! That put an end to your MIL trying to run the show.
Good for you not letting your MIL run your day.
My mother ruined my first wedding. All that was expected of her and my father was just show up and have a good time. My in-laws paid for it and they didn't even ask my parents for a cent. My father gave us some money and enjoyed himself. My mother gave us nothing but compaints because she wasn't running it.
My second wedding was nice and expensive. My in-laws and husband paid for it. My mother wasn't even invited. She would have ruined it so she was best left at home.
MIL criticized me for not being involved in my son’s wedding guest list . It was during COVID and it had to be cut down to 40 people total . State rules at the time .
I told her it’s not my party to plan !!
She kept insisting certain relatives had to be added back on the list . I finally told her “ I’m not the kind of mother who interferes . I just show up when and where I’m told . “
Now my daughter hasn’t set a wedding date yet and she doesn’t want grandma to know until the last minute possible .
Yup . No regrets on eloping . 😁
R did lots of work. Though there is some still to be completed, the house is looking fresher.
When we went to p/u the van, which we thought was a cargo van, it turned out to be a cube van. Over dinner R looked around and said
"How much are they charging you to move?"
I said, "$7000".
"There's not $7000 worth of work here. I'll do it."
This man is 71, albeit a few fit 71 year old who is still wrangling horses, has a torn rotator cuff, a torn muscle under his shoulder blade, is waiting for prostate cancer surgery and also knee replacement surgery- and he wants to do the move himself - with a friend then other end and sil and dgs this end.
Okay!!!
I knew better than to argue with him. He is also stubborn.
Yesterday morning he loaded up the van with lighter items and I sent him on his way with one box of frozen items - his fave turkey necks/sauerkraut meal and other frozen foods, and one box of fresh (apples, oranges, cheese, pumpkin bread etc, a roast pork meal and so on) for the trip.
The flooring in the condo is not quite finished and there is sawdust everywhere, so I was told. We agreed he will get a cleaning service for that.
He'll come again up at some point, soon I hope, and finish the repairs and take down another load of furniture and then a final trip should do it. Somewhere in the middle of this he will have the first booked surgery. It doesn't make a lot of sense to me, but I know he has it figured out.
In case you are wondering, this is the man who, during a carpentry job, fell from one floor to another b/c someone removed the plywood covering a hole in the floor, broke his pelvis in 4 places, drove himself to his parents home for help, went into shock so his mother, as she told me, thought she would never see him alive again, was in hospital for weeks and told he may never walk again, but could only think of getting back up on a horse. Within the year, he did. He refused painkillers (actually hid them under the mattress) and told the nurses not to move him in bed as he could feel his broken pelvic bones grating against one another.
It reminds me of a story about when I was visiting ex in hospital after his gall bladder surgery many, many years ago. In a bed across from him was an old farmer, yellow as buttercups. He had fallen off his tractor and it ran over him, injured some vital organs and broke a leg, but he was very much alive. A nurse came to his bedside and instructed him to cough. I'll never forget this large gnarled, old, saffron yellow, with arthritic knuckles, but still strong hand reaching up for the triangle suspended from the frame over his bed, grasping it and hauling him more upright while he coughed as ordered. The man had to be in serious pain, but he did what he had to do. My money was on a good recovery for him. These aging farmers are tough as an old boots.
Anyway, I know R has a plan for the moving, and it will get done. Rocky and I had a very quiet day after he left. She needed some extra cuddling after the busy-ness of the past few days. I need to tidy up from all the activity and see if I can further reduce my belongings.
After R voiced his intention to do the move, I called dd and asked for help. She assured me they will do all they can. She has moved many times and will help me with the packing. Sil and dgs will help with the moving, and she has a friend I can hire to do the cleaning.
Dang, I swore I wouldn't pack my stuff again. Teaches a person not to swear!!! But it will save a few bucks. Less than 10 years ago I packed up other's two bedroom apartment in a day, I guess I can do it.
So it is happening, not according to my plan, but I know God has a plan and it will work out His way and for the best. Hard to believe it is finally underway.
I just took my house off the market after a year. Will work on yard stuff before I list it again.
glad - it doesn't say anything about how fast - or not - the house will sell or for what, but at least the plan is moving forward. I want to be out of the house after I list it. There is no way I can haul the cat out for showings, and I just don't want to go through that process. Then I can get on with settling into the condo and wait for a buyer for here. Average time on market is about 3 months. Taking your house off the market while you make improvements makes sense.
[in Just-]
By E. E. Cummings
in Just-
spring when the world is mud-
luscious the little
lame balloonman
whistles far and wee
and eddieandbill come
running from marbles and
piracies and it's
spring
when the world is puddle-wonderful
the queer
old balloonman whistles
far and wee
and bettyandisbel come dancing
from hop-scotch and jump-rope and
it's
spring
and
the
goat-footed
balloonMan whistles
far
and
wee
I may sound childish but being greeted so joyfully really gives me a good start on my way to work.
I hope all goes well with move/ sell. You are on your way.
I am struggling as we have to move, finding condo is not difficult but considering my husband’s needs to get around with walker is not that easy.
Usually I am good with making decisions, somewhat hesitant this time. It is space and safety which although no guarantees but minimizing risk of falls when turning with walker.
There is one bigger condo 1400sq ft and good location as we live now on the edge of the city by beautiful Fish Creek Park in AB, but it is going to be construction for a while as lots of houses are being built, other one is in the same neighborhood smaller 1100 sq ft. Needed to measure and make sure all kitchen- island distance is right, bathroom easy access, hallway with enough room. No perfect place exists it seems.
I know most furniture has to go, I know selling has to be done and move arranged month in advance for deliveries etc.
I did six years ago three moves, sold here, moved out of the country, my husband was diagnosed with Parkinson’s we moved back and then bought this place but as it was not quite finished we had to rent apartment for 4- months.
I know we have to decide fast as there is lots of activity in this city and it is seller’s market, people often pay well above asking price.
((((anche)))) that's awesome. So glad you are getting your life back!
eva - the area you live in must be lovely. We look out on fields and some trees which is the best we could find in the area. The sunrises are great. At this point we don't have to worry about walkers. I don't envy you. So sorry about your dh's illness. R's oldest son lives in C and says the prices are going up. That hasn't moved to E'ton or here to Ft Mc. I am relieved to be this far long in the process. It felt like we we stuck for a while. Either way it is hard work and downsizing is a b*tch. Hope you find what you need and get a good price for your place. It helps.
Anche, those dogs sounds so sweet!
Thanks, Golden
Moving is such a pain in the butt! Hope that you get settled into your new place soon.
How does Rocky do with all of the commotion around?