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Oh my gosh, Golden! I know that I am not going crazy! LOL 😆

That was the quickest fix ever! Let’s see how long it lasts before I am off again!

It’s weird. I couldn’t post right after I posted a couple of questions. I saw where one went through. Not sure if the other one will.

It said that I was logged out so I didn’t even get to proofread it. Same thing happened to Glad when she posted a question awhile back. It logged her out.
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Yesterday was a beautiful day - low 70s and sunny - yet it was a downer day for me. I finished cleaning out my ex-SIL's apartment in the AL she lived in after I became her guardian. She died suddenly earlier this month and I moved on to executor of her will which left most things to her daughter. After her daughter took or identified everything she wanted, I invited her sisters and nieces to take what they wanted from her personal possessions and then donated the remainder. I am now in possession of a high end lift chair with all kinds of adjustments (including inflatable headrest and lumbar support) because no one wanted to deal with its weight - not a major consideration when you have access to trucks and young men to move it.

I don't know what happened; she was found dessed in her nightclothes halfway in the tub with the cold water running (drain was open) during a nightime check. They think she had been there for less than an hour. The water could have been turned on as she fell. She was discharged from the hospital 14 hours earlier, having spent 15 days there for treatment of respiratory issues. Maybe I should have had someone spend the night in her apartment, but I thought the hourly checks and the "summons" pulls would be adequate (SIL hated having someone check on her in the apartment) and her daughter was going to stay with her for several days starting the next night.

Both my SILs are deceased now; neither lived very long, dying at 56 and 69. I'm saddened by all the good times they have/will miss (like helping my grand-nephew get ready for prom). And maybe someday soon I will be able to enjoy this fancy recliner (I don't need the lift component yet) without its presence in my home painfully reminding me of who is missing. Is it strange that I find my mother's things to be comforting yet not this chair? Maybe because SIL is my generation?
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hugggg, TNtechie. ❤️
56 and 69 is young. very different from a long life, well-lived. it's not surprising at all that you're sad.

let's all live & appreciate life to the fullest, knowing that there's no way to know what happens tomorrow.
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Techie,

Very sad story. I’m so sorry. Sending many hugs to you!
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Tech - condolences on your loss. Such a sad day. Ex sil was so young and the circumstances were so strange. The "maybes" and " if onlys" can haunt us but we need to remember they are a normal part of grieving.

I hope in time you will enjoy the recliner and your memories of this lady who was dear to you. (((((hugs)))))
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Condolences Tech. That is a sad story.😥
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Techie: Deepest condolences.
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Gordon Lightfoot 1938 - 2023


Here's one of his songs that I've always loved - probably my favourite

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LfyDs6uXww0
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If you could read my mind....
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I hope when it's our turn to become elderly, we have an easy time...
Reading so many stories, I get inspired to stay as fit as possible, to try to prevent what I can.
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venting,

I want to go exactly as my sweet grandma did. Quick and painless! She just dropped dead. Her heart stopped. She wasn’t sick. She was healthy at age 85, living independently in her own home.

She prayed that she wouldn’t suffer with an Illness for a long period of time like my grandfather. I am so glad that she didn’t suffer.

I think dying in our sleep would be the best way to leave this earth.
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So, I see a pattern here. Every time I post a question the site logs me out. Same thing happened to Glad awhile ago.

Of course, then the question doesn’t show up so I can’t even edit it. Oh, but magically then the question appears. Let’s see what happens next.

I tried to post a question. Got logged out! No question appearing yet, it’s always delayed after the editing period. Very annoying! If I post another question there will be a duplicate. Also annoying!

This site has become so unpredictable that who knows what will happen.
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This site is crazy! Kicks me off every time I go to post a question or discussion! Happened to Glad too.

Then the question doesn’t seem to post. Later, the question usually does post past the editing time which is annoying! If I would post the question again there would be a duplicate post, also annoying!

Not posting the question again. If it posts and my stupid autocorrect typed errors, oh well…

Sometimes the site lets me back on quickly and other times not. I’m going to make myself a coffee! I hope AC can figure this out soon.
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Test
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Am I magically back on the site or is it an illusion? LOL 😆

So, all of the posts that are below did not show up as going through. Delayed response in the posting. It’s weird!
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We see you NHWM!

Of course with the new form policy now when people disappear we won't know if they've been locked out accidentally or temporarily banished🤔
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cw,

Yep! True 🤪
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So, I posted a question in the question section. Why was it placed by administrators in the discussion section? If I would have wanted it in the discussion sections I would have posted it there!
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@Need
Why? AC decides.

I find it a shame that we can’t openly, still staying respectful, talk in public posts about pasts conflicts between members. I think it should be OK to talk about it. But AC just made a rule now, that it’s not OK to post publicly about past and future conflicts.
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Venting,

Possibly because it ends up being an attack on a poster which isn’t always fair.

My issue is with not correcting the technical issues if that is the problem.

I feel many of us are confused about why we are getting kicked off the forum. Especially, if we aren’t being offensive to other posters.

It’s a mystery!
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@Need
“Possibly because it ends up being an attack on a poster which isn’t always fair.”

I get that. But I still find it a shame, because sometimes it isn’t an attack. On the contrary, it’s an opportunity to talk things through. And that’s why I wrote, “still staying respectful”.
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Getting accidentally kicked off: AC said it’s because the spam filter is over-sensitive and they’re fixing that.
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venting,

I hear you and I agree with you. Sometimes, it is only a communication issue.

I feel like this will always be an issue because no one can hear the tone of our voices or see facial expressions and things can easily be misinterpreted or misunderstood.

Personally, I don’t have an issue with explaining something if it’s misunderstood, others may be offended and hit the report button. Who knows?

I think everyone deserves a chance to explain their position. We have all seen behavior that is similar to a feeding frenzy where posters become attacked by others because people seem to want to jump on the bandwagon and join in.
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I hear you too.
What I mean is that, even if there has been an attack, a conflict, I find it a shame that we can’t talk about it publicly, openly, for the reasons I mentioned.
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venting,

Yeah, I see what you mean. I don’t know. I suppose that the administration feels that they are preventing a blow up or something of that nature.

I don’t expect everyone to agree with me on every topic and I know that I won’t agree with everyone on certain issues.

I am aware that people are entitled to their own opinions. There are people in this world who feel like everyone is supposed to agree with them on everything. It’s a ridiculous position and who knows why someone would feel like that.

Honestly, the older I get the less I try to figure other people out. I’m not their psychiatrist and I don’t wish to be their shrink! LOL 😆
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So, I don’t think I will be visiting certain Starbucks in my city. The violence is getting crazier and crazier. Employees being physically assaulted by customers!

So sick of it! It’s depressing actually. Our wonderful Jazz Fest is going on and a few miles away from the festival a young waiter is shot serving customers seated in an outdoor dining area. The gunfire went through the restaurant window and all of the customers are on the floor. I cannot count the times that I have eaten lunch and dinner there. It’s an institution in our city.

Oh, and the waiter is dead! 23 years old and dead. Disgusting how these shootings are occurring in our city.
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With regard to the changes by admin, I am glad they have set some policies to deal with the "personal attacks" that were being made in public posts. There is nothing to prevent people from messaging or private messaging to discuss any conflicts they have. This forum is about supporting caregivers and we generally are given a lot of leeway. Just my two cents.

Need - that's terrible about the shooting and death of the 23 year old, and any other shootings for that matter.
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Golden , how are the fires by you ? Did you have to leave your home ?
I like your new kitty pic
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Way I just posted in the whine thread about the fires No, the one I was concerned about is being held now so no evacuations, but there is another one to the north of us and a little closer and out of control but quite small.

Thx re my avatar - same kitty as before but the photo was taken this year. She is 4 yo this month.
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