Countrymouse Posted November 2018
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Replacing the much lamented 'On My Mind' profile option, this thread is for musings, jottings, whimsies, preoccupations and the rest of the thesaurus for anyone to jot down anything they please.
I can't remember what the maximum character count was before, can anyone else? But anyway it wasn't very many so let's keep to that.
I truly don't think about her often cause to do so would cause me too much pain so I shew her out of my mind a lot. I never thought I'd do that but for me it is easier to not think of her than to wallow in the sadness of missing her.
I understand that. In a way, we lose them before they actually die. It is best not to dwell on it.
In the 80’s now and our low temp for tonight is 75. Oh, how I envy those of you who have cooler evenings! Pretty soon, our weather will be so very hot, even in the evenings.
I can't get by without my coffee and I too started at a young age. I am in fact just now brewing a nice little pot of Cafe du Monde right here in the office.
Ahhhhh, you’re a woman after my own heart! We are most definitely a coffee drinking town!
I couldn't believe it when I found Cafe du Monde in a grocery store here.
You know I did a little dance and everything LOL
My daughter found New Orleans coffee in a Vietnamese grocery when she was living in Denver! She was thrilled to see it too. The Vietnamese love our coffee.
There is a Vietnamese community in New Orleans that serves it all the time. They put their own unique twist on it though. They don’t serve it as cafe au lait, instead they use condensed milk instead of milk.
A very long time ago New Orleans had a Chinatown. It was along Tulane Ave. It dwindled and a few of the merchants opened up their businesses in the French Quarter.
It’s sad that our Chinatown didn’t thrive here. We are a melting pot of diversity. I love all of the different cultures and influences. We are a unique community and we certainly aren’t considered to be an ‘anywhere USA’ city. I think it would be cool to have kept Chinatown like NY and California has.
I have always wanted to visit the Greek section of Chicago. I have friends that live in Chicago and they say that they have amazing Greek restaurants there. I love Greek food and culture. Our Greek festival is coming up soon! Lots of fun and great food.
I found the Cafe du Monde at an Asian grocery store. Cool. I was glad to get it.
I drink several brands and yes, Community is one of them! I like Cafe du Monde, French Market and several others.
We have a local coffee house here, PJ’s. A woman named Phyllis Jordan started the company. She has since sold it. They have great coffee! I also love French Truck Coffee.
We are a huge coffee drinking city so there are tons of great local coffee shops.
I do love Peet’s coffee too! I used to go to their coffee shops in San Francisco. Occasionally, I buy it too.
I adore Kona! It’s delicious but expensive. Too bad that I don’t live in Hawaii for part of the year. I would drink it everyday! 😊
Have to say that I am a purist when it comes to my coffee. I don’t like those sugary creamers. Lots of people love them but I actually don’t like sugar in my coffee or tea.
Just out of curiosity, who are "old-timers" here? I've seen reference to that term in a number of places, not always in a positive tone I must say. I've been registered on AC since I think 2019 and don't consider myself an old-timer, but not a "newbie", in spite of my screen name. I've seen various people come and go since then, and I certainly recognize familiar names and have gotten a sense of various people's personalities and knowledge through their writing. I've also seen references to and accusations about "cliques" and some kind of "in" group, but I admit to being pretty clueless as to who that's supposed to be, perhaps because some of it dates back to before I joined in 2019. I do know that there is much to be grateful for on this site--insights from "old-timers" and newcomers alike. And I know I've been around long enough to be able to weigh what various people say and just ignore or not respond at times. There are a few who look for dissension and some who, while well-intended, do express themslves in harsher ways than I would even if I agree with the content of what they say.
A high school class is learning about the Salem Witch Trials. Their teacher told them they were going to play a game.
"I'm going to come around and whisper to each of you whether you're a witch, an "Old-timer", or a regular person. Your goal is to build the largest group possible that does NOT have a witch in it. At the end, any group found to include a witch gets a failing grade."
The teens dove into grilling each other. One fairly large group formed, but most of the students broke into small, exclusive groups, turning away anyone they thought gave off even a hint of guilt.
"Okay," the teacher said. "You've got your groups. Time to find out which ones fail. All witches, please raise your hands."
No one raised a hand.
The kids were confused and told the teacher he'd messed up the game. "Did I?” He asked.
“Was anyone in Salem an actual witch? Or did everyone just believe what they'd been told?"
And that is how you show kids how easy it is to divide a Community.
Shunning, scapegoating, placing blame and dividing will each destroy far more than they will protect.
Don’t allow fear to cloud your decisions. Use your own discernment. Trust your heart…and your gut.
The best teachers will show you where to look, but they won’t tell you what to see.
~Unknown
An "Old Timer" knows: How easy it is to divide a Community.
Shunning, scapegoating, placing blame and dividing will each destroy far more than they will protect.
I think some of the folks who show up and talk about cliques are disrupters who are trying to sow discord.
There are multiple points of view represented here; I will admit that I think as a group, we tend towards the belief that moving an already difficult parent into your home to do hands on care is a bad idea.
I don't think we believe that because we're clique-ish. It's because we've heard/experienced so many bad outcomes with that scenario.
Sometimes folks show up here trying to preach about their understanding of what "honoring" parents is about. I think we trend towards looking out for one's own mental and physical health when caregiving, because no one else is going to do that.
I hear you and all of us have seen a wide variety of behavior on this forum.
We all have our own unique personalities and experiences in life that can cloud how we view the world.
I think that it’s healthy to read posts and form opinions accordingly.
Some information will resonate with us and other postings will grate on our nerves.
Some people will be respectful to others even when disagreeing with them and others will be extremely direct but they aren’t necessarily meaning for their messages to be disrespectful to the OP or other posters.
Some people stay out of all conflicts. They remain neutral and have a diplomatic approach.
Of course, some people are just downright disrespectful. They are usually reported for their rude comments and catch backlash from the forum and the administration of AgingCare.
I haven't been a member of this group for anywhere near as long as some of the members.
I do know that I have been a caregiver for half the number of years I have been alive.
I have been in every care scenario there is. I know all the behaviors and all that go with them. I consider myself an 'Old Timer'. In fact I would at this point call myself an 'Ancient Timer'.
There have been some that stick together but on the whole I wouldn't say I have seen many cliques. Some of us have similar experiences and similar points of view.
My main purpose for joining was to get support for maintaining the boundaries I needed while being caregiver for my mother.
The Villages is the name of the community.
i'll continue to be gone from the website. i wanted to send lots of positive thoughts, strength & courage to you all!! :) :) :) :) :) have a GREAT weekend.
I just finished watching it the documentary. Whew! Interesting! You know what? People who are totally screwed up when they are young, usually remain that way into their old age.
Some older people have it together and some are very odd! I don’t think a place like The Villages would appeal to me.
I swear, if something happens to my husband and he dies before me, I seriously doubt that I would want to take a chance on some of these old geezers! LOL 😆
My word, I wonder how many wealthy old widows are taken advantage of by men who are looking for a free ride.
Happy Mother's Day this weekend!
A special shout out to caregivers who are mothers, who have mothers.
Another special shout out to Mothers who are cat, dog, fur-babies, and pet Moms. Your rewards are every day of the year!
Get yourself some flowers so there will not be any doubt that you are valued too. Get them today, red roses will be sold out by Sunday, with a way too long line out the door.
A Mother may be the only one in a family that makes things happen, always.
Accept and celebrate that role even on Mother's Day! Don't feel sorry for yourself, or wait for anyone to acknowledge that you count too. It may be a dreaded burden on some family members to do the obligatory acknowledgement to their own mother, or to their wife.
I have often thought that a Mother could be doing what Mothers do on that special day. Preparing the family gathering meal (even if ordering out), lol.
Just my opinion.
I also registered with a Mormon website to trace my roots because they have incredible knowledge on genealogy.
I am not Mormon. I was raised Catholic but you don’t have to be Mormon to register with the site. They baptize their dead so it isn’t surprising that they have an amazing genealogy library.
Anyway, it turns out that Princess Diana is a distant cousin. Interesting!
Some of the old photos are amazing to see on these websites. It’s truly fascinating to see our family history.
It takes so much time to verify the historical records. I do feel that it is worth the effort though because it is so interesting.
One hubby per lifetime is enough for me.
😂😂. I wouldn’t remarry as an older person. But plenty do.
My grandmother lived in a senior apartment after my grandfather died . She was so proud that she got the boyfriend in the complex that all the other widows wanted. Lol.
That’s so cool being related to Princess Diana. I’m related to Chester A. Arthur, not one of our best Presidents .
Now, what do I do?
My only thoughts are how to give them away to some neighbors, to share.
Movie reminds me of the 2005 movie: The Boynton Beach Club,
or the Boynton Bereavement Beach Club. A comedy.
I will watch Some Kind of Heaven as soon as my dH can find it for me, because we don't have Hulu.