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polarbear, 7/28/2023
On my mind: I dislike arguments and conflicts on this forum, but I dislike even more the new AC suspension policy. I dislike seeing it on the top of the news feed. The way I see it, AC is telling us in our faces every minute of every day that we are treated as children and will be disciplined when misbehave.

I still like AC forum because of the members, but I dislike it because of the new policy. I may eventually or soon leave . Many posters have left or banned/censored. I find it disturbing that BC and (maybe) lea were suspended. That's insulting. They are valuable contributing members of the forum.

BTW, I didn't see the post that David said was deleted, but I agree with him regarding the effects of censorship and the fear of being censored.

Let's see if this post of mine gets deleted or me suspended or banned. It will just prove my point. I'm getting tired of AC bosses.

polarbear, 7/28/2023
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I feel exactly the same way as you, Polarbear.

As for me, I’m considering leaving because of the new policies and over-censorship. Before, my feeling was only positive: we could all express ourselves; we might disagree on a topic, but you’re free to express your opinion. It felt good.

A different, but related thing:
Sometimes AC deleted certain paragraphs of posters. I really feel that’s not OK. That completely changed the meaning of what the posters said.
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What's on my mind? Why is it so hard to find unscented antiperspirant? And why is the stuff that IS available never one of the kinds that come on sale?
(I'm smelling "sheer fresh" today)
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@cwillie

Never use anti-perspirant. People are supposed to sweat. Anti-perspirant a first class ticket to getting Alzheimer's disease.
Use a natural deodorant stick. I do and it works really well.
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I've had pararaphs and entire posts removed or edited. I've even had my account suspended.

There's really no need for the censoring. I can understand that obscenity and profanity can't be allowed, but that's not the issue. There was never a whole lot of that going on since I've been a member of this group.

What I have a problem with is what the moderators allow to be posted.
The purpose of the forum was not supposed to be a place for people to complain about their caregivers. It's not an employment website. It's not for people with mental illness who are manic or people 'on the spectrum' who may have OCD and are seeking attention. It's not supposed to be a place for trolls, agitators, or social justice warriors who want to bring public attention to their causes.
Yet, I've seen all of this getting through and in quantity. No one moderates any of it.
I have said many times that I wished I had known about this group years ago because I've learned a lot from the people here. As of late though...
I think the moderators should be looking more at the kind of posts some people are making instead of policing the wording of people who have been posting here for years.
Just my opinion. Which as we all well know is always correct (LOL ;)
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I have seen posts of mine and plenty of other people deleted! Mine wasn’t profanity either, Burnt. Nor were the others.

It kind of reminds me of movies that have been formatted to show on regular television channels. They edit it to where I have no desire to watch it.
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People should be realistic and know that it’s impossible for everyone to agree on things.

Plus, we don’t have to agree on everything.

Nothing wrong with hearing all opinions. A debate, not a dispute. I would never expect the whole world to agree with me on everything. Nor do I expect that I will agree with everyone on everything.

Why post on a forum if you don’t want to hear different viewpoints. Don’t participate in threads that you don’t like. Simple! Common sense too!
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“Nothing wrong with hearing all opinions.”

The problem isn’t us. The problem is, sometimes AC doesn’t want to hear all the opinions and deletes them, partially or completely.
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I went with my boyfriend to see Jeremiah Johnson at the movie theater. I was in high school at the time. It’s an old western with Robert Redford. I loved Redford and went to see all of his movies.

Awhile back it was playing on a regular network and I decided to watch it. They edited it so much that I couldn’t enjoy the film.

That movie didn’t even have nudity or anything. They removed one of my favorite scenes, where Jeremiah is building his house.

I refuse to watch movies that were at the show and are now on regular television. They have to cut them severely to fit in the commercials. They cut out wonderful scenes.

That’s how I feel about the censorship here. They are taking out valid points and good information at times. I am grateful to the people who were brutally honest with me because it helped to wake me up from my caregiving coma!
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Trust me Burnt I sweat plenty, even with an antiperspirant. I'm one of those lucky people who used to have actual drips rolling from my pits and down to my waistline, a simple just deodorant doesn't cut it.
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NHWM - they probably had to cut out half of the movie to fit in all the commercials 🙄
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cw,

Yep! So, I don’t watch any of my old favorite movies on regular television anymore.
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Anyone else seeing the new survey from AC pop up? I have taken the survey three times now trying to get it to go way and it keeps returning like OCD’s mother! LOL 😆
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NHWM Jeriamah Johnson will be on Grit channel Sat pm. Iknow this because I have seen the ads about a million times the last few days! LOL Its one of the channels we get at the river.. and they seem to not cut them as much
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Pam,

Thanks. Don’t know if I have that channel. Will look.
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Pam,

How is the retired life going? Hope you’re enjoying yourself.

My dad drove my mom a bit crazy when he retired.

He didn’t know what to do with himself and started shadowing my mom. She hated it! LOL She started sending him to the store to get him out of her hair for awhile.

She was used to being alone and focusing on her projects that she was working on to sell at the craft fairs that she participated in. She was annoyed by his interruptions.
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NHWM I don;t officially retire until Aug 24.. but I will probably drive my hubs nuts! But I have house projects here and at the river house to keep me busy for awhile! Or he will drive me crazy!
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Pam,

It will take some time to adjust. Sounds like you have things to keep you occupied.
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FYI, just in case I disappear from AC, it's due to AC closing my account because I just told them to take their idiotic policy warning down.
Polarbear
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Any good recommendations for movies that are streaming right now?

I have MAX, Netflix, Prime
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PB,

I don’t think they will close your account. At least I hope not. You have wisely contributed to this forum for a long time! We would miss you if you disappeared.
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PB.

I don’t think any of the older posters read the policy updates anymore. I suppose the newer posters may read it.
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Polarbear, please tell me you haven’t been banished. That would be ridiculous. (((Hug)))
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Hi NHWM and venting, my account is still active for now.

NHWM, I understand no one reads that policy update anymore except new people. The fact that it is there is insulting. The policy itself is insulting.

The truth is they/AC need us to keep the forum active so that it attracts clicks/traffic to the site in order to generate business leads. Remember, this site is owned by A Place for Mom. They also run a referral service for other care services. Ask Karen.

There was a time, several years ago, AC actually sent out small monetary gifts to certain posters for being good/active forum members. I got a $10 gift certificate one year once.

Now, instead of gratitude, they hand out warnings and punishments to keep us in line. IT IS INSULTING TO OUR INTELLIGENCE!!!

I don’t need their monetary gifts. I bet no body does either. It’s the new policy from AC bosses that I have a huge problem with. They assume that we are a bunch of adolescents with ill manors, lack of self control and in need of discipline.

It is disgusting!

When we let people treat us badly and accept it, we lose a piece of our dignity.
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Polarbear, I agree with every word you wrote.
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PB,

You’re right. I understand how you feel. It does seem like it’s a different atmosphere. I remember the giveaways too. I received a $20 gift which I wasn’t expecting. It was a nice way of showing people appreciation.
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PB, I agree, and I do not agree with you often.😉😉 One of the reasons I left, the A.C. Gestapo. I checked in nearly daily and get to watch it continually go to crap! Yes, there needed to be more monitoring of the site, but really treating us like junior high schoolers?! Absurd!

It has been nothing but downhill since APFM bought the site. Just plain sick of it! I don't need the added frustration in my life.

Xmas gift cards? AC has just become another corporation that wants to improve their bottom line without consideration for those to which they provide a service.
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I don’t want to ignite something if it’s settled, but David is right that a thread about someone “who felt guilty about whether she did enough or not for her mom” disappeared. I posted in that thread, and when I clicked Post, my message briefly connected to a totally different conversation and then disappeared, doesn’t show on my list anywhere either. I was irritated because I’d spent a fair amount of time writing it.

Edit: I assumed it was either a technical problem or the OP requested it be removed, but I haven’t posted often enough to have an opinion.
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