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Thanks much for all of your support!

My DH has a hx of uretal problems; when he was in his late teens, docs discovered that he had a stricture in his ureter; his mom was told by one doc that one kidney would simply die, but she found someone would cut out the blockage and re-attach the ends. Worked for a long time. He had surgery to remove some "gravel" a few years back and a filtering stent put in. That urologist is only doing oncology now, but I was able to find an Endourologist (those are the folks with the itsy bitsy cameras) who can see what's going on.

Fortunately, my DH is pretty cooperative about medical stuff- he gets that I know more about this stuff than he does.
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newbie,

My dad had bladder cancer and was completely cured also. Glad that you went into remission.
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Barb: Prayers for your DH. I am a past kidney stone sufferer.
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Barb, sending wishes of health! DH's PSA level ok?
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Barb, wishing your Ex hubby very good luck here.
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Barb, wishing lots of health!
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Good luck Barb and DH!
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Hope you’re OK Barb!
🐻🐻🐻
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Thinking of the people in Florida. Hurricane Idalia wrecked havoc on Florida. So sad.
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Hey Poodle, you okay?

Saw the urologist today. Surgery is scheduled for next Friday. Pleased with myself as I was able to locate the CD of the CAT scan done before his last surgery in 2019 and the discharge reports. So yay, us.

Thank you so much for your support!
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Barb,

Great job on finding DH’s records. Hope the surgery goes well next week.
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Barb: Good job!
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Barb: Poodle is posting to the whine thread so she may not see your question.
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Has anyone noticed?
If you are trapped in a dysfunctional, toxic relationship.
The part that is you contributing to the ongoing insanity
is that you have agreed to wait to make a good lifesaving decision for yourself that is separate from what "they" are doing (or not doing).

You are going to "wait", once again, for the dysfunctional persons to "talk" about it. Then you will decide, based upon what "they" do or say.

I don't have the answers yet, but I know it is wrong to wait this way.
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Yes Send, I have noticed that. Good observations!
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Met our daughter’s new boyfriend. He’s very tall! Seems like a sweet guy. I’m happy for my daughter. She seems to be content.

They just got back from Florida, so we are finished watching our sweet granddog. I love that dog!

Now I have to vacuum. Huskies have so much fur!
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Bob Barker died at age 99! Just before hitting a dollar!

He wanted to retire when he was still young, at age 83! Gotta love him! 😊

Betty White died at 99 too.
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Had my second and final Shringrix vaccine on Sunday. My arm is just now recovering/feeling better. It was red at injection site and very sore.
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Llama,

My arm was a bit sore after my shingles vaccine. Hey, that’s better than getting shingles. My husband had shingles before and it’s painful.

His shingles had a silver lining though. He had neglected getting regular check ups. When he went to the doctor she decided to do lab tests.

They found that his numbers were off and sent for further testing and they discovered that he had prostate cancer. Thank God, after he went through treatments he went into remission.

You know how some men can be. They wait until something is wrong before they go to the doctor!

Anyway, I am glad that he got shingles because it got him inside of the doctor’s office and he was very fortunate to catch his cancer early.
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Need: Thank you for sharing your DH's story. Wow! Getting shingles WAS a silver lining for him! I am glad he will be okay after his cancer dx.

So I did have shingles when I was 20. It was painful, but I recovered quickly.
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Llama.

20! Wow 😮, that’s awfully young to get shingles.
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Need: Thank goodness that I got shingles as a young woman. If I ever got them at my age of 76, it would be VERY difficult.
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Llama.

I didn’t even know that a person could get shingles that young. Most people are over 50 years of age when they get it. You must have been surprised.
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Sorry to say you can get shingles more than once Llamalover, so don't skip your vaccinations. And I've known several people who had shingles at a young age, the youngest was still in her teens. I
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cw: I am aware of that fact and that's why I got the two dose Shringrix vaccine.
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Alva. You suggested the book " Never Simple" recently to a poster and I just got it at the library and find it very interesting. I can't recall who you suggested it to or why or the heading of the post. If you read this perhaps you could post that. Thanks, Riverdale
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Riverdale,
In case Alva does not get back to you.....here's this:

"AlvaDeer
Sep 7, 2023
In my humble opinion your Mom isn't "self-negligent", but mentally ill.

You are asking us for advice on how to deal with a mentally ill woman. I doubt any of us is capable of giving you any advice that might work because even society at large hasn't a CLUE how do deal with the mentally ill. There are no longer places that care for them. And the law will not adjudge them incompetent to make their own decisions. Meanwhile your father's and your life are sacrificed on the pyre of her illness.

I have a good recommendation. However, be warned it will not in any way "help you". It MAY make you feel less alone. It is called Never Simple, by Liz Scheier and is a memoir of her life spent try to get help, trying to help her mentally ill mother. All to no avail over the decades. And all along with the help of the social services of the city and state of New York."
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Riverdale, Alva and I both frequently recommend Ms. Scheier's book as a testament to the fact that there are some folks you can't help, no matter how much you love them.

(Spoiler alert)--in the end, Mrs. Scheier, with dementia, COPD and emphysema, on oxygen 24/7 and evicted from her rent-controlled NYC apartment, was situated by NYC social services in a nice Medicaid-funded Assisted Living facility. She eloped from there, got herself to a hospital emergency room in Manhattan (she was convinced the doctors there would save her) and died shortly thereafter. There was simply NO helping this lady, who was incredibly smart and resourceful, but terribly mentally ill.
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Finished the book. Quite amazing and heartbreaking. A certain testament to a daughters love despite going through so very much to put it mildly and am impressed with all NYC tried to do.
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Regarding Shingles, I had Shingles when I was 17 and my son had Shingles at age 18. Very painful. My mom had Shingles when she was 88, from her head down over her right eye.
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