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NHWM,
So sorry for your loss.
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NHWM, I am so saddened to hear your news. Despite some health issues, this was a total shock. So sorry. I hope in time, you have some fond childhood memories to think about. Sending (((hugs))).
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Need I am so very very sorry. We are never ready for this sort of news.
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Thank you, Pam.

My brother and I had our differences for sure. I’m so glad that we learned to focus on what we shared in common and we let the rest go by the wayside.

There was a time when I felt each of us were too stubborn to meet each other in the middle. Somehow we did and I am very grateful for that.

Sometimes my mom pitted us against each other and I think it took us thinking independently to realize who we were and how we felt.

I don’t understand why my mom did that because I know that she wanted us to be close to each other.

I try not to interfere with my daughters relationship with each other. Fortunately, they get along well.

Our kids need to be able to figure things out for themselves. They don’t need us to try and manipulate their emotions. Guidance and manipulation are two entirely different things.

My brother and I grew very close and I will miss him terribly.
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Big hugs to you Need.
I am so sorry for the loss of your brother.
I lost my last brother this past Feb and it was a total shock.
Take extreme care of yourself.
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Thanks, 97. It is a shock. I’m sorry for the loss of your brother.
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You know, I think as we get older and we lose someone else it makes us think about our own mortality.

I would like to think that I am not afraid to die but in reality I am afraid to die. I’m not exactly sure why I am afraid. Possibly, it’s just fear of the unknown.

I am absolutely terrified of my husband dying before me. I don’t know how people go on after losing their spouse.

I know that I when my time comes around I want it to be quick. I never want to be a burden to my family. I don’t want to linger and suffer for a long period of time.

I suppose that I should be grateful that my brother didn’t linger. Maybe I am being selfish but I wanted to have more time on this earth with him.

I hate having this feeling of unrest. How does anyone come to terms with dying when our time comes? I don’t like thinking about this so deeply, but as I said when we lose someone it brings certain thoughts to the forefront of our mind.
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Need,
Do something for yourself each day. Take a walk. Make a cup of coffee or tea. Sit on your porch .
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Need, so sorry. I wish I had something to say that would ease your pain.

But I think maybe we need to grieve. Hopefully not for too long.

When I lost my older brother it hurt terribly. He was only 57. Much too young to die. Just as your brother was too young. I think when someone dies before their time it makes it that much harder for those left behind.

Be super kind to yourself.
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Thanks, Gershun.

Your words are comforting to me. You know the pain that I am feeling right now since you lost your brother too. Wow, 57. Far too young to leave this world.
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Way,

I just bought a new patio set a few days ago. I enjoy having coffee or tea outside and looking at my garden.
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My daughter is coming by in a little while to drop off the dog. She made plans awhile back to go to Austin for the weekend and we are going to watch the dog while she is gone.

I am going to take the dog to the park sometime over the weekend. He is a little celebrity with his beautiful blue eyes. Everyone stops to play with him. He loves all of the attention.

Siberian huskies are such beautiful creatures. I love him so much.
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I love Siberian Huskies too. Their eyes are mesmerizing.

He'll help take your mind off of things too.
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Gershun,

He really is the sweetest dog. I want another dog sometimes. My greyhound died awhile ago. I miss my grey. He melted my heart.

My mother was his favorite person. She would say that they were growing old together. They had a special bond. It was very sweet. Mom was very sad when he died.

My husband doesn’t want another dog so…

Plus, I don’t handle losing a dog or cat very well. Maybe he is trying to protect me from loosing it like I do when they die.
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Pets are a great source of comfort but it is hard to lose them Need.

I still have my sweet kitty but he has kidney disease and after he is gone I doubt I'll get another. (at least not for a while)
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It really is hard to lose them. My cat lived to be 16. She was so sweet. My dogs, my schnauzer and grey lived to be 13.

My schnauzer was out the box crazy! I loved her but I swear she was neurotic! She barked at everything and everyone.

I spent a fortune on obedience classes and private lessons but she was a stubborn little dog! My grey was the opposite, he was Mr. Chill.
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Need: I am glad you were able to rest somewhat. Continued prayers for you as you go through the most difficult of times.
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Need, I’m glad you have the distraction of dog sitting right now. Hope you are doing okay.

I still miss my beloved Lab to this day. It’s been years since he’s been gone but he’s not forgotten. I’d give anything to have a dog in my life right now.
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HH,

Labs were my brother’s favorite dogs. He had two of them.

One of his dogs was a thief! For some reason the dog would escape and steal anything that his neighbors had on their porch.

Once she took a broom, my brother would always apologize and return what she stole. Fortunately, the neighbors were fond of his dog.

Another time the dog went into the neighbor’s garage while the woman was washing clothes and the dryer door was open.

She took a baby blanket from the dryer, LOL! His neighbor automatically went to my brother and told him that his dog stole her daughter’s blanket.

She was so sweet but also a very mischievous dog at times.

It feels nice to remember the funny incidents instead of thinking about his suffering with heart issues.
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Rest in peace, Suzanne Somers.
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Started my new job with a new baby to take care of. She smiles and laughs and I have spit up in my hair and it makes me happy !!!! 😊😁
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Way,

She sounds precious!
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way: Congrats on your new job!
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It's five years since mom died - Oct 19, 2018. In some ways it seems like a lifetime ago.
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cw,

So true.

My mom died in 2021. Sometimes, it seems forever ago and other times it seems like yesterday.

I turn 68 this month. I feel like the older I get the faster time goes.

Remember when we were kids, we couldn’t wait to grow up! Time seemed to move slowly then.
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cw and Need: So sorry for your losses.
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Thanks, Llama.
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Need: You're welcome.
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Hey all. Just a drive-by "I love you and thank you." I stay very busy these days. I hope everyone is well. x

Just needed to share with y'all that I need no other moment of validation for the rest of my life. lol I've gotten it all in the past week. I figured out a way to get into behavioral gerontology and my mom just apologized for everything terrible that happened during caregiving. I have a lot of work to do yet on the new career path, but I feel really lucky and grateful in this moment.

CW, you helped spur ideas when you mentioned that behavior skills training is needed in caregivers/CNAs. I don't think you said it quite like that, but it's true. Beyond in-house behavior services for facilities, behavior skills training is a growing area for gerontology/agency caregivers and I figured out this week how to get my master's supervision hours with elderly populations. :) I'm very happy. I'll come back down to earth real soon because I have a 10-page paper to write by next week. Ugh.

I'm linking the behavior gerontology Facebook page if anyone's curious to follow it. It's not a big part of the behavior services field, but it's growing. https://www.facebook.com/behavioralgerontology
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Good to hear from you, Ali. Glad to hear that you’re doing well.
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