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Hmmm, I'm of two minds about e-signatures, on the one hand they are very convenient but on the other I fear they are open to abuse.
When it comes to the inspection report, well I did ask for a price reduction when the inspector revealed that the shingles needed replacing and the seller agreed, so it never hurts to ask. I think with house inspections everything depends on their integrity and competence, but on the whole they are a scam designed to make a middleman money.
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way - I'm so sorry about your friend. That's too young and cancer is a b***h. I lost a couple of friends to cancer. One in her 40s, another in her 50s.

Secrets abound in dysfun fams. Glad you now officially know about the accident. Mil is hardly a good judge of her own driving skills. Of course, nothing is her fault -never was, never will be. 🙄
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Golden ,

Thanks . You are right, MIL is never wrong in her eyes , she even complained that the policeman was talking to the other driver more than he did to her . That’s because her account , which I didn’t write all of it here, is so ridiculous .
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Golden,
So glad it is done. Inspection part was the worse for me, nerve racking as one never knows. It took 4 hours to sell and 10 days to wait for inspection results!
And about R, that is excellent news!
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Oh Golden, such good news all around!!!

I will believe with you that the PSA will be a big fat goose egg in March.
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It is normal for PSA levels rise as men age. I am not sure that what I was reading was accurate, but normal could be higher, 4.5 or 5.
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Yes. Send, look up age and PSA levels. There are different levels for different ages.
Be careful also if your loved one is on one of the new generation of blood thinners. They can raise the level exponentially. Happened to my SIL after a blood clot to the lung and being put on these blood thinners. Oddly, when his PSA skyrocketed he said "Any chance this is my new med" and his doc said NOPE. And sure enough when we looked it up it is common.
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I'm sorry, nacy. Hope she is OK.
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Anxietynacy,

Oh boy . If she coughs a lot that’s not going to make her back feel better .
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Nacy, sorry to hear this.
Just to let all know, the government passing out free tests again, four of them. Keep them around so you don't have to expose others to Covid.
I got the new booster and didn't even as if Moderna or Pfizer, but sure did react one full day with chills, exhaustion. Didn't get flu shot with it as had that the week before without reaction.
Update us Nacy.
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Anxietynacy,

I hope you don’t get sick .. 🤞🏻🤞🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
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Hope you don't get sick and your mum recovers quickly. 🙏🙏🙏
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Nacy- I hope you're spared. It recently hit my home, and every single one of us got it except for my FIL who lives downstairs. How he escaped it is a miracle, but I'll take it!

My FIL let his caregivers go yesterday. We had 2 wonderful ladies that each came 1 afternoon a week to do laundry, light housekeeping, errands and cook with him. He decided he does not "need all that" and can suffice with just hiring a housekeeper. Husband and I had a deep discussion with him, letting him know the caregivers were licensed, bonded and trained in handling biohazard waste (he's on chemo and has incontinence). Housekeepers may or may not be licensed and bonded, and many that I tried earlier this year declined our home because of his chemotherapy status. Its too risky. But somehow, he found one willing. I had to cancel my volunteer hours at my kids' school tomorrow so that i can be sure to be home when his new hired housekeeper arrives to make sure she is licensed and bonded, and aware that he is on chemo ( I don't trust he told her). I'm beside myself. The caregivers were amazing. They were so so good to him. I know that housekeepers won't do the shopping, or cooking with him, or give him rides. This will fall on me again. My husband and I are in the busy stage of life, with 3 kids in four sports. We are gone most of every day, and almost every week night til 9ish, and most weekends for tournaments and games. I had peace of mind knowing the caregiving company had him covered two days a week. Now I feel hopeless and unheard.
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Nacy,
I hope you will be OK and of course your Mom.
Good reminder to get masks, I wear them during flu seasons which is soon.
Golden,
I think only Moderna is available.
Thank you for letting us know about tests available
I did not know they do flu shot already.
I get sick after shots, for at least 24 hrs, they say it is normal.
Hubby had none of those symptoms.
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TX think carefully about what the ‘housekeepers won’t do’, so that it DOESN’T ‘fall on you again’. For example, what are you going to do if the housekeepers AREN’T ‘licensed and bonded’. Will FIL let you sack them?

I can’t remember if FIL is in your house. If he is, you call the shots. If he’s not, he makes the decisions, not you, whether you think it’s safe or not. You may need to accept that this is a situation where things have to get worse and fall over before they will change. Sometimes propping them up means that they finally fall on you.
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TX - your house, your rules. You do not have to take over from the fired staff. Sounds like a meeting between your hub and his dad is needed. Fil needs that extra help. Who is going to do the shopping, cooking and giving of rides? Make sure it is not you. Does fil have any dementia?

Eva - that info was from Alva not me. I must check if the flu and covid vaccines are here. I missed last year's covid.
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TX ,

I agree with Golden . FIL fires the staff , it’s now your husband’s problem to have a moment with his Dad , to tell him that you will not be available to help any longer .

Stop stepping in and being the solution .
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Hey Send,

Hope you see this.

Good you are back! I got your PM but still can't send you any PM's back.
Not sure if you are aware of this or not. I sent admin.
a message about this.

It's not an issue with my account. It's still an issue with yours.

Hope things are well. Have missed you.
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Nacy: My PCP just gave me the Monovalent. Prayers for your mother.
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Gershun,
Felt something was wrong. Thanks for telling me!

I get logged out, but I didn't do it.

My posts are deleted.

The problem was the accessibilty widget (little blue man). And my computer was talking to me!

Now, I don't know what is wrong.

Thank you for writing to the admins on my behalf.

This morning (about 9:00 a.m.) on here, I saw posts being deleted.
The Admins have a big job moderating the new posters who have malicious intent and are attempting mayhem.

I think there is an issue with an over-sensitive spam filter.
I think the admins and tech know what they are doing.

I will be back, and keep trying.

I miss all my friends.

Thanks Gershun!
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Well we can at least keep reading your posts on the public threads for now Send. Keep them coming.
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Anxietynacy,

You can’t blame yourself , with the “ should haves”.

Your mother said she wanted to wait until her doctor appt . That was her decision .
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nacy - hush, girl, You can't fix everything. I'm glad you are staying out of it. You obviously care for your mom's wellbeing and already do a lot for her. Like you say, you are not POA and it's POA's job to make that call.
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Nacy, GOOD.
There are folks here to intervene if needed.
If she doesn't wish to go to ER anymore she shouldn't have to.
You can't be responsible for everything here. Let it go.
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Nacy,
Sorry that so much is going on around you, and your Mom is ill.
I may not post directly to you, but that does not mean I don't care, and I do read your posts. That part has to do with me and my boundaries.

Maybe you could take your Mom's words this time at face value: She doesn't want you exposed more by coming over. That sounds reasonable. But I do get it, I think.
You have been able to survive by interpreting your Mom's words all these years.

Maybe review the protocols from the past that you followed and that kept you safe from illness. I know I am going to, then reconsider how to keep safe. That's enough to do without worrying about what others are doing.

Did anyone get ill after the party on 9/21? Was anyone there ill that you might have noticed? (Coughing, fever, left the party early?) Sometimes, with enough information, we can figure these things out. There is a real difference between worry and information, imo.

What does "taking care of yourself" mean to you? It is such a general term, often used.

Feel better, stay calm, not to panic, not today.
Have a better day, from this moment on.
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Looks like you figured it out Nacy.
Good work!

I still have the automatic thermometer that you just point at the forehead.
My chiropractor used this to admit clients for treatment. If they had a fever, they were sent home.


That was way back in 2020, early on.

As far as isolation, I have always been isolated more than the average senior.
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Anx, I've accepted that you and spelling aren't a good mix, and read straight over them, but 'espogus' had me tossed!
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Nacy,
I am sorry. Seems like many families still choose men to be in charge. Not right at all, I am not anti men, just strong believer in women’s power and wisdom combined with compassion.
Hope you don’t get sick as well.
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Caregiving is hard enough when you are the one with all the authority, I can't imagine how much more difficult it must be when someone else has all the power and shoulders none of the responsibility.😞
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Anx, I think you should start a thread of your own, just about this. “My brother is an officer, and sick, but will have no communication with me, will not give up POA , won't get help for mom, and won't consider AL, or finding a way to pay me”. You didn’t sign on to his ‘army’. His only hold over you is your concern for M. For example, you could walk away, then report M to APS for inadequate care. Neither APS nor your brother can force you back to what you are doing now. With your own thread, you can tell what you have tried, and you can get other ideas about how to handle it all.

I find it quite hard to follow the mixture of so many people's issues on the 'general' threads, please separate your own issues out!
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