
Replacing the much lamented 'On My Mind' profile option, this thread is for musings, jottings, whimsies, preoccupations and the rest of the thesaurus for anyone to jot down anything they please.
I can't remember what the maximum character count was before, can anyone else? But anyway it wasn't very many so let's keep to that.
Most spouses are unaware that when they are talking
no one is listening
so they are talking to themselves anyway.
Im excited, got the car my son gave us, took it for a ride, wow I love it, now do we keep it or sell it. Don't really need 2 cars and 2 trucks for 2 people. But I really like this car, or do we sell it to pay for his wedding in Ireland??? 🤔🤔We can't decide. Honestly he just was sick of fixing things that started to break down on it. He thought it was the alternator this time, turned out , he left a light on inside the car. Lol.
Home care is coming in and other help.. He's not an old man - 60s at most. Hard to tell with her as she is a smoker and her skin is very wrinkled. She moves like a younger person.
Thankfully they have lots of support. She still goes out to play cards a couple of times a week. He has family nearby to visit and give her a break.
It's sad.
Peasuep, thinking of you. We are here for you.🫂🫂😔
Psue -thinking of you. Prayers🙏
I have a question for you, do you have a hard time getting your farmer type husband to slow down, not over work and hurt himself?
I look for opportunities, then encourage him to relax, take a nap , go to bed early (which was unheard of before)and so on. I plan breaks - going out to a performance, or a meal or just shopping. I tell him he is more important then the...whatever is calling him out to work. Now that there is more light, he feels he has to work till it's dark - hangover from the old days.
I think it is very hard for them to put themselves first. On the farm the animals, the machines, the chores and all come first even if you are sick, or tired. R is slowly learning to listen to his body and acknowledge that he is aging and can't do what he used to. It's a work in progress.
I also have a gf that I told and told not to date this guy ,many times over. now she is hiding out at a gf sister because he got abusive.
Man I wish people would listen to me! 😝
Thanks for that analogy of farmers mentality! 🥰 So true
Also I encourage him to do something about it earlier rather than waiting tilI he is worse. I don't nag - but I do remind him at times. Most people have to learn from their own experience which can be frustrating to watch. Your hub no doubt has been brought up to put himself last and it takes a while to change that mindset.
I've seen R tired and with a headache, trying to deal with something here that is not in any way urgent. I tell him it's not that important and to take a rest, go to bed or whatever. Relax!!!!
cw - you are so right about that!!!
He thinks he can redo a 200 yr old house by himself and make money on it. It's got about 300 archers
It's more about the sentiment than anything. Some people keep sentimental coins, or jewelry, no he keeps farms, tractors, and trucks. Lol
Im hoping he learned something. I will try to encourage him that it's time to take better care of himself, like talking to a brick wall somedays. First I I'm encouraging him to drink these protein drink, OWYN . My x started drinking them and he feels a lot better.
That old house is a huge project. I hope your hub feels better soon and realizes his limitations. I know it is very frustrating for you to see him pushing himself to the point of exhaustion. So far R bounces back. I know sometimes he takes time out here and there during the day. Other days it's 14 hours straight with hardly a meal or a break.
What a wonderful day!
Tried really hard to get to a doctor's appointment that I confirmed yesterday.
Arrived on-time.
The appointment is next month.
Once I was out, had a good time doing errands with dH, and got my hair cut impromptu, as a walk-in. Many chores completed.
Resting up now.
Golden,
I looked it up online about my husband, and he is atypical.
But we are making do, because I am not so normal either.
He lent me his arm to step-up or down on the curb, then
I was fine walking.
send - Glad you had a good day. Many of us are (I think what they call nowadays) neurodivergent. Makes life interesting.
I was going to buy some specialty ciabatta rolls from the 50% off bin but when I checked the regular price ($7.50) it was a hard NO, I'll bake some tea biscuits instead. And they've boosted the price of my regular brand of coffee to $21 per can, at those kinds of increased prices it will be worth it to take the trip to cheaper supermarkets for that alone.
Moms did too much , cleaning the house for Easter, which didn't need at all. No one cares, and she was snippy because I didn't help much. I was there yesterday, she almost fell backwards, on cement, I grabbed her just in time. Honestly I'm just trying to keep that outta my mind. Nothing I can do no power, if I told my brother, he won't care mom will lie, so no point in me worrying, my pretty little head. 😂
A gf/neighbor has some major foot operation, I've been helping her. It's getting draining, her brother is come Wednesday. So I'm trying to keep my patients, other friends that were going to help, are no where to be seen.
So I've been have a blast. 😂
Sounds so much better DrivingDaisy than anxietynacy.
Things are not good.
My husband is not well. He is in such pain on higher and higher doses of morphine which don’t help or for very short time.
He was six times in hospital since late December and getting weaker.
Cannot get him to drink more, he eats less but still OK, drinks maybe 2 glasses of liquids which is not enough. Drinking so little is more dangerous than eating less.
Yes, that's it, neurodivergent!
Thanks for that.