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I have had private messages from people who could not post on this site before.

All I am saying is that this sort of thing isn’t uncommon, no matter what site it is on.

I hope those who are affected by this glitch will have full access to AgingCare soon.
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Sendhelp, I will make sure she gets your message.

Needhelp, I have been on this group for 6 yrs at least and have not seen this happen before. Seems everyday someone else is effected.
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Catskie...
Pls help if you can. Also, if you receive this, please like so I will know you received it because I'm not sure if I'll receive a message back from you. Can you post msg below for me so people know what's happening and AC
Catskie62:
If you receive this, PLEASE HELP or try to reach out for me.
I haven't been able to post anything here for the second day now! I wrote a dozen different thoughtful responses on threads yesterday, on my end it appears as if they post at first, but then they never actually show up in the thread or on the recent activity list or when I refresh the page.
I tried to message AC yesterday morning, didn't get a response. I've tried everything rebooting, using a different browser etc. I'm getting pretty frustrated and discouraged. I have no idea what to do. I can see others are having problems as well. They can post but don't have access to their profile pg. I can see my profile page but can't post!

Can you perhaps copy this msg for me and post it on the MyProfile and On my mind threads where this is being discussed and then report the post, as another attempt for me to get help with this from AC.

I hoped it would be fixed by today, but I just tried to post on those threads and it plain will not let me post! I seem to be able to read what's happening just fine and it seems as if I can vote & like posts but can't post myself.
What should I do?
Bandy7
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I agree with Send. No one said anything offensive.

It’s just a technical glitch. It will be fixed in time.

Glitches have happened before and no doubt will happen again.
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Would it help to log out, then log back in later?
Nobody jump ship yet! The tech difficulties are likely due to the storms, March coming in like a lion! It is not time to feel slighted. I often feel a bit paranoid, but have learned to use that to stay safe and figure things out.

I personally do not want to lose any long time posters.
Their presence here is invaluable to so many people!

I have read her private messages to me.
She will always be forgiven for any misunderstandings.
I have found her comment(s) on a particular post so much better, and funny to boot the way she wrote it. So cool!

If there has been any censorship from the admins because of what we say, Alva would not be someone they would be concerned about, imo. I doubt anyone would report her for anything.

I came here to comment on the tech difficulties. Maybe we could address our bills, our own challenges today, then come back in a day, or a week.

I hope there is not a mass exodus from this valuable forum.

BTW, AlvaDeer and I are not having an argument. I agree with her. I am not a threat to her. She has done nothing wrong. 🧸️

Thanks, JoAnn. Alva gave me permission to contact her through you.
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JoAnn,

Technical difficulties are going to happen occasionally.

Barb had a problem not long ago. They will eventually fix it.

Hope your issues are resolved soon.
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This post is about Alva

At this point she cannot use the site. She has contacted the Administrator and they are trying to fix the problem. She can't post and she can't get to her profile.

She can see where she has received two private messages from Send and anonymous. She feels it may be due from a reply she made. At this point she can't read these messages or respond. She wants to apologize if she offended you. She is upset about it.

For now, she is going to take a break and see what happens but feels this maybe permanent.

I too cannot get into my Profile.
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cwillie, thank you for that link, I sent them a PM.
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@Gershun

I feel for you losing your father at such a young age. With me, my grandmother was like my mother. I lived with her when I was little and she just died. She was old and had some health problems. Then I got handed back to two people (my parents) who I barely knew and who didn't want me to begin with.
It's hard for a child because they don't have autonomy. They cannot make their own decisions like an adult can. So those years are tough. It forms the type of adults we will be in later life though.
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Have you tried messaging AgingCare through the Admin profile Geaton (and everyone else that is having this problem)?

https://www.agingcare.com/members/agingcarecm
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My posts are now disappearing the the page about 5 minutes after I make them. I have twice tried to post a call out here and have tried to post contact numbers. they don't show. My response to an OP is not showing. Something is wonky on the page I think. I hope they know it. I will try to send email out, but with little hope it is a valid contact. Good luck kids.
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I have tried twice to makes emergency emergency posts calling out admins. Neither has posted. I hope they will contact us because nothing on the page is working well at this point. Perhaps they are doing some sort of reset??????? I keep getting a disappearing avatar (my duck) and the log in request. SO FAR I am able to log in but I cannot post that question here in discussions and have tried twice.
I don't even know if they are reachable at this time. When Kim was around eons ago I had an email. Then I had one for "Ashley" but I think she is not here now we are
"a place for mom"? Anyway, here are the contacts I have in my phone book.
Moderator@agingcare.com
Ashley.thielen@agingcare.com (old I think)
and one from 4/22 which is:
ashley.huntsberry@aplaceformom.com.
Hope these can help, but not much hope. Hope just resetting everything and site will be up soon.
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Geaton I have tried to make an emergency please help post calling out the admins. But something is definitely up with our site. My own just went all avatar-missing and sign in request. I signed in and FOR NOW my profile showed us. But JoAnn is having trouble now for days and can't reach anyone. I think that is a new problem with the page as well. It is pretty unresponsive to our reaching out. Hope this gets fixed.
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Geaton, you and JoAnn both!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I think the site is sure not what it once was. We all used to have an email, a way in. Last I tried that no response. I am going to try an emergency admins admins callout. Like I always say to our OPs. I sure do wish you luck (meaning I feel hopeless sometimes.)
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Geaton,

I hope your issue is resolved soon.
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I totally get the number a dysfunctional family childhood does one a person. We take on adult responsibilities, endure stresses no child should have to endure, accept abuse as part of the "norm". It's a long road as an adult recovering from these experiences and a lot of mistakes, a lot of relearning and a lot of hard work. (((((((hugs))))) to everyone

glad- happy for you that you are having a break thanks to your son. It sounds great. I miss the breaks I used to take pre covid and now it doesn't make much sense to go south with the move looming.

Made it through another winter here! Happy March 1 though still snowy and somewhat cold. Better days are ahead.
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Can someone please contact the site admin on my behalf? I have not been able to get into my Profile for weeks now. I sent an email from within this site last week: no response. I called the (239) 594-3222 number listed at the Contact Us page and got a message saying only, "Extension 3125 is not available. Please leave a message after the tone." I tried 4 times to post a help request in Discussions and 1 time in Questions but it just keeps automatically logging me out without posting, that's why I'm putting this within a thread. I even switched to Chrome from Safari to see if it makes a difference. Nope. Thanks for any help!
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My son has invited me to a college hockey game (he works for the college) and to stay the weekend. I am so excited not much exciting happens around here, other than cats with rubberbands. 😁😁

It will be good for me to get out of here for a few days!
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Don't get me wrong. My mom never expected me to take on the responsibility. I just think my young brain felt I needed to. My mom was awesome.

Also, it wasn't just me in the picture either. I had six siblings. One of which had schizophrenia, which was another burden on my mom and the family as he could be violent at times.

I think I took on the responsibility of my mom cause I was so afraid I'd lose her too. She was recovering from breast cancer at the same time as my dad was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer so it was a valid fear although at the young age of four I doubt I really comprehended it all. But my subconscious must have taken it all in somehow and that is most likely why I was so protective of my mom.

I in no way blame my mom for any of it. She had so many burdens of her own bringing up seven kids, one of whom had a serious mental disease.
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Glad,

I agree. It robs us of our childhood when we are exposed to situations that we aren’t old enough to understand. This happened in my family too, mainly due to my brother being an addict.

Honestly, I understand that my parents didn’t know how to handle these things. There wasn’t any support for families back then. It was a ‘hush hush’ era. Support groups weren’t around.

I spent a good deal of my childhood being confused.
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G, I absolutely get where you are coming from!

My folks had been going through a very ugly divorce that took 4-5 years. It had been final for just a few weeks when my dad passed. At that point I started to see things in my mom that I never really had before. Or I was older and better understood. My mom was a whack-a-doodle! I wonder if she was bipolar. I remember her fits of rage, more so after my dad was gone. And the bad mouthing she did of my dad! Nothing children should ever have to go through!

My mom went back to work and started working on her Master's degree, in guidance and counseling, of all things! She would get home from work, go to her room and study and work on papers, nap and whatever. I often would have to get dinner put together for mom and twisteds and me. I am the oldest after all.... Once dad had taken me and twisteds to dinner, got home, and mom was in the garage with the car running.

There are others that have had terrible childhoods. How we live through it I never will understand.
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I always loved that song Send.
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"He ain't heavy, He's my brother"
song by the Hollies
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The road is long
With a many a winding turn
That leads us to who knows where
Who knows where
… But I'm strong
Strong enough to carry him
He ain't heavy, he's my brother
… So on we go
His welfare is of my concern
No burden is he to bear
We'll get there
… For I know
He would not encumber me
He ain't heavy, he's my brother
… If I'm laden at all
I'm laden with sadness
That everyone's heart
Isn't filled with the gladness
Of love for one another
… It's a long, long road
From which there is no return
While we're on the way to there
Why not share
… And the load
Doesn't weigh me down at all
He ain't heavy, he's my brother
… He's my brother

She's your mother!
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No Send, I just felt I had to for some reason. I think I thought she'd die too if I didn't. At least that's how I felt then and then it just carried over into my adulthood.

Obviously I knew later on she wouldn't die if I didn't but it just became my way of life and I never thought to stop.

I don't regret all the love I gave her though. It wasn't really a burden, just a labor of love.
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Pammz,
Sometimes all we can do is get through the toughest days.
Hope you feel supported and encouraged that you made it!
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Gershun,
That is a very young age to become responsible for another person.
Did anyone tell you to take care of Mom?

Sorry you went thru so much loss of those closest to you.
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Thank you all, I made it through
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I also lost my Dad when I was four years old. I think it definitely molded me into the person I am today. I truly feel that I started to take care of my mom at age four. No lie. I always felt that God gave me my purpose in life after my Dad died to live for my mom. While that sounds really noble I believe it probably wasn't good for me to think that way.

When my brother died at a fairly young age I suddenly recognized the feeling and realized that was a feeling I'd been having all my life. I never understood this kind of pervasive sadness that always crept up all my life, but when he died it was like this lightbulb moment where I thought "oh, now I get it"

So not to say I have grieved all my life but maybe losing someone so young gives you this idea of the inevitability of death and sadness somehow.
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Burnt,

Oh gosh, can you ever imagine going through with an arranged marriage? It’s hit or miss!

I feel the same, living through trauma indeed changes a person’s perspective on things.

Some people do thrive on sadness or misery. It’s terribly depressing to be around people like that.

I care about others but if I find that all of my energy is being drained. I will back off in order to protect myself.
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