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Who was it that talked about wearing a helmut when caregiving?
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Jeanne Gibbs
Jude/Phoenix Daughter
StacyB
Rainmom

Jude, in the UK made me laugh with her sense of humor.
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I miss Jeanne too. There are a lot of people I miss on here.
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Oh, and I miss Jeanne Gibbs, terribly. I understand from her daughter in law that she's had a stroke, but she still posts on Reddit occasionally.

I loved her cake pictures. And her advice was spot on.

From Jeanne I learned the idea that you give elders dignity by allowing them to pay their way.
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Great Barb! Good story.

Maybe our thoughts on here will benefit the future generations of caregivers.

That is one way of looking at things. A positive way.
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Gershun, on that note...

The Story of Honi and the Carob Tree
based on a midrash in the Babylonian Talmud, Tractate Ta’anit 23a

A long, long time ago
in the land of Israel lived
A very wise man named Honi the Circle Maker
Honi was famous in those days
Because Honi knew special prayers
that no one else knew
But…despite being so wise
Honi was also very impatient.
One time,
when it was the time of the rainy season
No rain fell.
The ground was too hard for planting
The crops began to dry out
All of the people began to worry.
"What will we do?" they cried.

So they went to Honi the Circle Maker and said,
"Please,
can you talk to God,
Ask God to make it rain?"
"Why should I?" Honi asked.
The people answered
"If there is no rain, how will we grow our food?"
"Ach", Said Honi
"I have plenty of food in my cabinet".
"HONI!" they said,
"For once think about someone else."
"FINE!" said Honi
So Honi the circle maker
drew a big circle on the ground
with a piece of chalk
And Honi stood in the middle of the circle
And Honi said:
"God
I will not move from this circle
until you make it rain."
But nothing happened
So Honi said:
"God
Maybe you didn’t hear me
It is I;
Honi the Circle Maker
These people need rain—
a rain of blessing
to soften the earth
and bring food to the hungry.
I know you, God, are just and compassionate
And I’m not moving from this circle
until you make it rain!"

And then there was thunder and lightning
And rain fell from the skies
in a tremendous downpour
And all the people cheered
“Hurray for Honi the circle maker”
And they all ran off to tend to their crops
and to plant their vegetables.
And Honi said,
"Ach, Look at me.
I’m soaking wet
And a big prayer like that really makes me hungry."
And he set off down the road
looking for something to eat
And Honi came upon an elderly woman
who was planting a tree
"Excuse me"
he said
"What kind of tree are you planting?"
"It is a carob tree", she said.
Honi said to the gardener
"Carob huh?
How long will it take the tree to bear fruit?"
"Well", she said,
"It will take 70 years."
"70 YEARS!" cried Honi.
"I mean, not to be rude or anything,
But you’re not exactly a youngster.
Are you certain you will live
another seventy years
to enjoy the fruit of this tree?"

"Perhaps not,
said the woman.
"However, when I was born into this world,
I found many beautiful carob trees
planted by those who came before me.
Just as my ancestors planted trees for me,
I am planting trees
for my children and grandchildren
so they will have carob to eat."

And for the rest of his days
Honi the Circle Maker learned that it is good to think of others – so
he helped to plant carob trees
so all the children and grandchildren
would have plenty to eat when they came into the world.
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I was thinking the other night that one day if this forum stands the test of time we'll all be gone and replaced by others. Kind of a morbid thought I know but life can certainly be morbid.

When I listen to the news and they talk about infrastructure projects to be completed 20 or more years from now I think to myself, will I still be here? It's a strange feeling. But that's life I guess. We come, we go.

Hope I cheered you all up with my macabre thoughts. LOL
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Anyone hear from Paul in England? I wonder about his troublesome dad.
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Alva: Glad to hear that Captain is okay.
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Going for coffee in the morning at the only coffee shop in town, first time since last July? HGTV shut down the coffee shop then, they had contractor problems and finally reopened after Christmas. Now they are open only Monday-Friday.

Who in the world would not open a coffee shop in the downtown shopping area on Saturdays?!

So this is a whine too!
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Bookluvr
Hope
Assandache
Veronica
Pamstegman
Staceyb
Madge
MountainMoose - I see her around but not nearly as often.
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I remember Ahmijoy saying she was changing usernames because her account was not able to be accessed. Another one of her names I thought was very derogatory towards herself. It was something to do with fat mama or something like that.
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I have always wondered how Ahmijoy is doing. I stay with forum because I feel I can help someone. I think this forum is like life. Different personalities you like or you don't like. Me, I kind of know who don't appreciate me and very few I get bad vibes about. But in both instances, I just don't comment on their posts. I have been on this board at least 6 yrs. On the whole, we oldies seem to get along. The others come and go.
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Vstefans
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Sharadale
Ms.Madge
Garden Artist
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Thanks for letting me know about Captain Alva..I'm glad to hear that he's doing alright.
I appreciate all the kind support Iv'e received from so many here on AgingCare.
Only another caregiver "gets" me.
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luckylu, I think it is good to know as well. I really miss some who were here when I began. Ahmijoy comes to mind. She always has wonderful wise comments without a lot of wordiness. When I leave AC for a while (I don't take my social media along when I travel at all, and when there I need a vacation I take it) I usually let one or two people who regularly post know that I will be gone for one or two months. I figure, the group knowing I am 80, people will figure I died! I miss Captain, my Captain as well. I do know someone mentioned they occ. message with him by email and he is OK. Or at least was.
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I'm grateful when someone posts that we've lost a caregiver on AgingCare.
Otherwise,I wonder what happened and if a person is ok.
Like Captain and BlackDogMina,quite a few ,really.
So thank you to those who have someone post.
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I haven't watched that. I tried one episode, didn't much like it. But we sure vary in what we do like. I just finished Clarkson's Farm, the second season on Netlix. I grew up wintering on a farm age 7-14 so I loved it, tho it is a rich man's toy in this case I think. They do say that he has done more for the plight of England's farmers than anyone ever, however.
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How many here are Yellowstone addicts? I haven't even watched one episode. But, I do see that it streams, every weekend, on Paramount.
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Just to weigh in on the facts at issue here.
If you google my bro's name it appears he has not died. I did not make publication, obit, nor even allow the funeral home to publish his death. I felt it opened his estate to fraudulent claims for no reason. Possibly to identity theft. I had already from him a list of people he wanted informed, and after I took care of immediate business I made those notifications. He even wanted the women who had long ago bought his SF home to be informed, and that opened up a whole new relationship for me.
On to family informing: Yes, I have a death book. It is collaged by me with Day of the Dead skeletons and ALL the info my daughter needs to settle things. Including who I want informed. And yes, she would inform my Facebook and Aging Care friends after she took care of business (let alone likely entertaining herself with anything I ever wrote?).
I liked Bridget. I am trying to think it there's someone I don't like at all here? I don't think so. Bridget gave me insight into someone living with and taking dialysis that I hadn't had as a nurse who only saw the problems and the failures, and who wrote into her own advanced directive that she would never accept even temporary dialysis (among other things).
Were there bickers and arguments and things--I guess. I don't much do discussions because of them, but right now some longstanding members have been going through tough times and I am checking in not once, but often twice daily to see what's up in their world.
Stacy. girl--could you go to your private messages?
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@Stacy

B*tch, please. You are the one being disrespectful here not us. You got called out on your disrespect about Bridget's death, so you resort to insults and swearing.
On top of being an ignoramus yourself unable express a thought without profanity, you're also a bully.
Wow. Not your day is it, honey?
Go back under your troll bridge and wait for unsuspecting passersby. Maybe they will throw you a coin. Depending on what you look like, maybe it will be a bone instead. Have a nice day.
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Is there a Star Trek marathon or something on tonight and tomorrow? Does anyone know?
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stacy 2019 was a lifetime ago for many of us. And things change.. I don;t think you are an ass but perhaps you could be more respectful at this time, see my message to you
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Oh dear gosh Stacy that is lovely.. are you drinking? (i drink so I am not judging here ) i don;t think anyone hates Burnt or Sp,, but i do think they liked Becky, . Did you really say "dont call me names and go f**k yourselves." ? I thank you for respecting me,, but this is horrible! And " we can get down to the nitty gritty. It could be fun." what the heck is this about? And I don;t think anyone hates you
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I'm sorry to hear it about Bridget. She was cool. That's too bad. I liked her posts and even made a few recipes from her.
@Stacy
Why don't you show some respect? Really, do make an effort. If you find you cannot then say nothing.
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Get over it Stacy. You are like the bullies who continue to bully after their target commits suicide. Leave Bridget alone. She's not going to rise from the dead and come back to the forum. She always seemed like a nice person to me.

I am sorry she passed away.

Unlike many of the miserable old and evil acting people who finally kick the bucket whose death is a relief for the adult children they made miserable and whose lives they ruined.

Bridget was a fighter and lived a pretty decent life surrounded by loved ones. At least that's what I got from her posts.
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Stacy my dd actually knows my PW to get on here and who to let know if I have become disabled or passed. I have made some friends on here that I feel pretty close to ( Thank you FF for your years of support and friendship, and others) and we see it as no different than making the hard calls that will have to be made. It is better than having people wonder and make up stories, etc. I know of several people on here I truely wish I knew what happened to, as I miss them. So yes, my DD would message someone she does not know, but I do know. Heck she'll be calling some people she never met anyway! LOL And no, I do not find Steve odd at all, he is a loving and supportive SS who is going through some things and loves to hear about Becky's friendships she has made. Just as we all would love to hear good memories of our loved ones. I surely hope no one my DD informs of my issues will think she is "odd",, she is simply doing what I asked. And she will surely be using my account to do so, as she would have no need to set up her own account on here, and who would know her anyway? Although I suppose if someone was going to search out all the obits in my area with my name, etc they might.. Of course I use my real name as I have never had any issues in that area..
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Stacy not everyone places an obituary
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I had no idea about Bridget. I am so sorry to hear this news. I am glad that we somehow found out. I wonder if someone who was close to her might make a Discussions announcement that she is gone. I think I saw PeggySue asking about her on a recent thread. Am I wrong or is this our Bridget who was taking dialysis, had recent problems with insurance approval? Or am I wrong. I am very sorry for this new.
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