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Barb PW was either a troll or had a plan to keep the estate for themself. And some hide previous answers and questions by changing user names, changing accounts or closing them and saying they are leaving.

Why do posters have to take on new usernames? I think it is very deceptive and dishonest especially when so many tragedies and unfortunate events seem to befall them, so many, it is completely unbelievable. I, for one, am completely appalled and sickened by it! And it has been going on for years.
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Barb,
We should look at a person's profile to better help that person. If their profile is set at private, entering their screen name into the search icon is a good idea so we can view their previous posts.
I just would not tell them, especially a new poster. And I would stop posting to someone who appears to be a bit wonky from the get-go.

Still, we are all challenged more now to protect ourselves from insincere posters and those who just want to get mad at us.

This is a public social media platform, correct?

People often mistake kindness for weakness, and choose you to get mad at for some reason.
Maybe they think you are a safe person to criticize because you show no malice when you post real, thought out answers.
Or maybe because you are often the first to post an answer or a query of the new poster, giving them the benefit of the doubt.

I am glad that you are still here, helping others.
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well I just figured out how to update my profile! So now no one will think my folks are still with me! It did take a bit to figure out
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Barb, Nothing wrong with looking at profiles and past answers. I think she only wanted to hear answers she agreed with.
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I think your main mistake was not simply approving what she wanted to do in the first place. We all think so much more highly of the intelligence, wisdom and good intentions of people who agree with us, I suppose.
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Heck no Barb, reading their profile or previous posts is often the only way to get a clear picture of someone's situation.
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Hmm, PrettyWitty seems to have gotten pulled. I wonder if she was a troll.

I've never had anyone get upset before when I've looked at their previous posts. Do you guys thinks that's something one shouldn't do?
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just a reminder to all us kind people here:

you’re doing more than enough, even if it doesn’t feel like it.

don’t let others influence your emotions.

be like a tree, let the dead leaves drop.

do more of what you love.
🙂🙂
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Dorker, don’t stop writing, here or elsewhere!

I had a feeling it was going to be preemptively shut down, after the recent rhymes-with-moles unpleasantness.
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I sent AC an email message saying that I think closing Dorker's thread was an error.
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That's okay Real, I can be a smarta** too. Didn't think you really meant it. At least I had hoped not.
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I have wondered about Dorker,, since I missed the recent post I guess I'll never know.
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Beatty, not her caregivibg journey thread. One she posted today.
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Gershun, I was being a smart a$$ and I have to think that PB was too.

I would be very sad if the threads that just deal with normal life were removed. It would alter the forum far to much.
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Too bad about Dorker's thread but I don't think any of the aforementioned threads should be reported. It would be like chopping off your nose to spite your face. Not necessary.
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Dorker's thread is gone???

RIP 😭

THAT thread was the rope I clung to when I couldn't see for FOG & seemed stuck in the bottom of the bog.

Dorker's turn of phrase & honesty was a treat to read.

It was also such a tale of success! How to unmesh, disentangle from others' expectations & finding reasonable limits. To stick up for oneself. Plus keeping the relationships intact!

I hope she writes a book or film.
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I’m sad Dorker was shut out. She’s such a talented storyteller. She really has a way with words.

AC admin, Dorker is one poster that keeps other posters coming back to AC again and again. You made a huge mistake deleting her thread. Remember her other thread from a few years back? “I’m so disheartened.” Over 11K posts. I think that was a record for any single poster/situation.

Huge mistake AC admin. I suddenly don’t like AC forum much anymore.
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PB, don't forget the "on my mind" thread.

Perhaps the crime triggered someone.
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Really?

I guess she should have put more emphasis on her mother's take in all of it....🤔🙄
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Wow! Someone reported Dorker”s thread and now it’s gone. That’s just ___.

Let’s report the dinner thread, joke thread, general thread.

Those have nothing to do with elder care.
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Send: You're welcome. He loves his autos.
Michael J. Fox is alive.
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send - Michael Fox is alive. The posts mentioning him was with regard to the cause of his Parkinson's, the broader context being aging, behaviour and environment.
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Thank you Llama for mentioning Jay Leno.
Jay Leno is sharing new details about the injuries he sustained during the car fire at his garage.
The comedian and classic car lover, 72, suffered third-degree burns and may need skin grafts, he told TMZ on Monday night from his hospital bed. Posted 2 hrs ago.

Honorable mention:
Michael J. Fox was reportedly passed in just another celebrity death hoax.
Then posters were talking about him here. I cannot confirm with certainty that he is dead or alive, living with Parkinsons.

The internet has enough information to be able to determine if a celebrity has passed, but it may take some time to be accurate before posting.
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Prayers for Jay Leno.
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BOJ: You're welcome.
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thanks a lot, llamalover!
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BOJ: I hope that your joyous self returns soon.💛
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dear golden :),

by the way, i love being called “bundle” or “bundle of joy”. every time i read that, it makes me smile. and if you met me in real life, you really would think i look like a “bundle” or a “bundle of joy”.

:)

ok, right now i’m definitely less smiley, but i’m climbing back up, to being me. it’s been chaos here. it’s getting better. it started off so well, and then chaos.

anywayyy, regarding what you wrote: yes i agree! :)

in fact i’m working on solving MY problems (what i need and want). and THEN looking at what needs to be done for my LOs.

there is in fact the risk of grabbing the stick by the wrong end:
you try to help your LOs, thinking this will help you, but it’s never-ending…
…their problems just keep piling up…

OR
you can start from the other end: working first on your own needs/wants…

anyway:
things are getting less chaotic. i’m very focused on solving MY problems.

i’m getting there :) !
courage and LUCK to all :).

bundle of joy :)
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bundle - I understand that. BTDT, but focusing on the problems of others even though their better solutions ease life for us, is not the same as focusing on our own needs and finding solutions for them. I took a long time to learn that one. I know life throws stuff at us which overwhelms.


glad - it's good that you don't have to drive as much as you were and live in two different places. Are you looking at early retirement? Or another job maybe less stressful/demanding? The world is your oyster!
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Burnt: I went alone to the Straw Market in the Bahamas because my DH had a migraine and stayed back at the hotel. The Straw Market was quite an experience to say the least. DH's company rewarded us with a trip.
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