
Replacing the much lamented 'On My Mind' profile option, this thread is for musings, jottings, whimsies, preoccupations and the rest of the thesaurus for anyone to jot down anything they please.
I can't remember what the maximum character count was before, can anyone else? But anyway it wasn't very many so let's keep to that.
I look for opportunities, then encourage him to relax, take a nap , go to bed early (which was unheard of before)and so on. I plan breaks - going out to a performance, or a meal or just shopping. I tell him he is more important then the...whatever is calling him out to work. Now that there is more light, he feels he has to work till it's dark - hangover from the old days.
I think it is very hard for them to put themselves first. On the farm the animals, the machines, the chores and all come first even if you are sick, or tired. R is slowly learning to listen to his body and acknowledge that he is aging and can't do what he used to. It's a work in progress.
I have a question for you, do you have a hard time getting your farmer type husband to slow down, not over work and hurt himself?
Psue -thinking of you. Prayers🙏
Peasuep, thinking of you. We are here for you.🫂🫂😔
Home care is coming in and other help.. He's not an old man - 60s at most. Hard to tell with her as she is a smoker and her skin is very wrinkled. She moves like a younger person.
Thankfully they have lots of support. She still goes out to play cards a couple of times a week. He has family nearby to visit and give her a break.
It's sad.
Im excited, got the car my son gave us, took it for a ride, wow I love it, now do we keep it or sell it. Don't really need 2 cars and 2 trucks for 2 people. But I really like this car, or do we sell it to pay for his wedding in Ireland??? 🤔🤔We can't decide. Honestly he just was sick of fixing things that started to break down on it. He thought it was the alternator this time, turned out , he left a light on inside the car. Lol.
Most spouses are unaware that when they are talking
no one is listening
so they are talking to themselves anyway.
I saw someone write something funny:
“I do it all the time. Sometimes it’s nice but sometimes I’m so mean to myself. 🙂”
I am so obsessed right now, with coloring. I just ordered a New Orleans coloring book, that will be fun! 😊
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Yup the denial I’ve seen the past two days is astounding . I told DH , they will find partner ( who isn’t eating much) on the floor at home .
Take care of yourself and DH. 🫂💖
Partner's family are also in denial. I'm glad the bill paying went well. They need to smell the coffee and they probably will eventually. Mil can't babysit their dad anymore. Yes, memory care is expensive. Maybe they haven't made any back up plans. Not your problem as such but can cause problems for you I am sure.
Hope Dh detaches and doesn't worry about mil's foolishness. Trouble is he has had too much of that sort of thing to deal with, with his dad. I'm sure it's a sensitive area for him. Hope all the legalities are panning out reasonably.
Prayers for all.
Well ,partners family is still holding out hope that MIL has some miraculous recovery and comes home so she can supervise again . We did see partner and family as we had to meet up to settle up paying household bills , which went well . They are not realizing how bad partner is , they also mentioned how expensive memory care is .
MIL is so bad she may not even make it to AL , she may skip ( not literally ) right into SNF . She waited too long . We begged her to go to AL 6 months ago . She apparently has some bad bedsores and her pelvic , sacral , and spinal compression fractures have her immobile . She says she has walked alittle in PT . We watched the aide transfer her . She is dead weight until he gets her to stand .
Assisted living came and did assessment yesterday . MIL will have to have her wounds healed and be able to stand and pivot . If she can’t , to SNF she goes .
They said at least 3 more week in rehab .
Meanwhile we walked in on MIL on the phone with her friend talking about lunch outing plans next month when friend from Florida comes up north for the summer. I don’t think so .
DH is having his moments of frustration with MIL during our visit .At times she is talking about unrealistic plans for when she leaves rehab of partying with her friends at her condo and driving again . It’s strangely alike to FIL 3 years ago . At one point I sent DH out for coffee/tea for us .
While we were waiting in the hallway , another patient was brought back to her room across the hall . I could hear the staff member saying “ Here is your remote , your call bell etc.”. Then the staff member was moving her overbed table near her and said something along the lines that she would straighten it up .
The patient ( a female ) said “ Don’t worry about it . My son is coming , my daughter-in-law will clean it up “. 🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️
Wishing you luck.
I hope things work out really well.
Let us know. Thinking of you.
Namely:
There’s someone in my life I miss. I’m going to reach out to them. Let’s see if this solves 99% of my problems. Maybe even 100%.