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TN, have a wonderful time! I know you will!
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My house is full of boys: my foster sons and my grand-nephews. The minivan is packed with our luggage (except for one small personal gym bag each) and we head out in the morning for a fall break vacation in Pidgeon Forge. We start with a trip to Ihop for omelets, pancakes and waffles. Then on down the road for a magic show and some go carts before picking up our grocery order at Walmart and checking in to the indoor water park hotel. We have two connected rooms: one has two queen beds and a twin sized chair bed and a second room with a full sized kitchen and living room (with a hide-a-bed for me). I (or the older boys) will be cooking breakfast most days, lunch will be hamburger helper and/or sandwiches, supper is some restaurant meal with lots of snack food around too. Its been 5 years since I took the older grand-nephews on this trip with a couple of their friends. This time I have the five ages 17, 15, 14, almost 9 and 8. I think we are going to have a blast!
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Gershun, at one time I stuggled with something very similar. The conclusion I came to was I forgave my LOs for their transgressions (with forgiveness meaning I can treat them the same as before) but I don't really forget and I definitely do not set myself up for more. My attitude is "I'm here, you can visit or not but I won't be waiting on you." When I began inviting extended family members to holiday dinners and going to local events with friends and distant cousins, the "close" family started coming back around and behaving themselves.

I think you have to mourn the relationships you thought you had or wanted to have; then decide what YOU are willing to do for the relationships being offered. Fill your time with people who are worth the effort.

I really do not miss the family much when I am hosting the people in my community who have been left behind: the elderly couple who kids moved away and just cannot get back for the holidays, the widower who has no close family left, and as many of the kids as can come around the arrangements made necessary be divorces. Being together with the people who want to be there makes a fun day without all the tension.
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Is it just me or does being estranged from your family start to feel like hanging on to old grudges?

My sister has already sent out her Christmas invitation and I immediately feel my self tense up. It will be three years this Christmas since I've seen anyone in my family, partly due to covid, but I still don't want to see them.

I consider myself a Christian woman and so I know I should try to meet people half way but I just don't want to even try with my family anymore. I wish them the best and all that but feel I'm better staying away from them. But the way I feel inside because of this is awful. I feel like I'm in the wrong.

How does one shake off these feelings? How can I still consider myself a good person and still have all this resentment inside of me? How can I be around people who I feel have done me wrong and pretend that it's all okay? Especially when if you were to ask them they'd say I was crazy and overly sensitive for feeling this way. How can I be right with God while having these harsh feelings towards others?
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((((((glad))))) moving is confusing. My magnum opus is being a very gradual event. Still confusing sometimes. Can't imagine moving as quickly as you are and still working throughout. It's great your kids are helping. You have endured a difficult time very well - from one bed to another, working remotely sometimes... Well done!!! I am so happy for you it is nearly over.
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While many people across the country will have the day off work or school on Columbus Day and Indigenous Peoples' Day, you may be wondering whether your bank will be open, if you’ll get mail, or if Starbucks is open on Monday, Oct. 10. 
Because it's a federal holiday, agencies or institutions operated by the government, such as libraries, federal offices, and DMVs, are all closed. But how can you check if stores in your area will be open on the national holiday? 
Here is what you need to know about what is open and closed on Columbus Day & the new federal holiday, Indigenous Peoples' Day.
Will post offices be open? What about FedEx, UPS?
Post offices will be closed on Monday, and the U.S. Postal Service will not deliver mail or packages.  
FedEx offices, on the other hand, will be fully operational with ground, delivery and express all same as usual. The only modification modified service for FedEx ground economy. UPS store locations will also be all open, offering pickup or delivery services. 
Will banks be open?
Many, but not all banks will be closed on Oct. 10th, and ATMs and bank mobile apps may be available for some services. Federal Reserve Banks will also be closed on Monday. 
Will schools be open?
Many public and private schools are closed but if you’re curious about your child’s school, check their individual school calendars on their websites. 
Will stock market be open?
The New York Stock Exchange (NYSE) and Nasdaq are open.
Will grocery stores and pharmacies be open? What about Target, Starbucks and other chains?
While locally owned businesses are up to the owner, supermarkets and most drug stores are open.
Same goes for Target, Starbucks and other chain restaurants.
National parks are also open. 

It is a holiday in Canada-their Thanksgiving Day.
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My son is here this weekend. I will work remote today and go in tomorrow to return on Friday.

My daughter is.coming this next weekend. Then my son, again, I think my last weekend here. He has been a great help this weekend, I am actually feeling somewhat organized for the move. Still a long way to go, but getting a handle on it. I can't wait for the same bed in the same place, my place, every night!

Funny! I closed on this house on October 31 four years ago.
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Glad,
October 31st, 2022 is a Monday.
It is Halloween.
And escrow will be closing.

No matter what bed you wake up in, no matter where you are, you always have us on AgingCare.

If I change my bed around, now, at my age, I have experienced needing to re-acclimate myself to my surroundings. So I put my bed back.

Write yourself a sticky note before bed. You just have way too much going on, so some confusion is normal. And you were recently home sick? Do you need to replace some vitamins, like B-12, magnesium, vit. D?

Take good care of yourself. When was the last time you had a visit from your adult children?

The full moon effects are ending today, a Monday, the 10th of October. A holiday in the USA-Columbus Day-and Indigenious Peoples Day-banks could be closed?

Everyone, let's have some tea in the afternoon. How about 2 p.m.?
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Closing to be October 31, I have been thinking, all week, that the 31st is a Monday! Went to an online calendar and it actually told me that the 31st is a Tuesday! Thinking I have lost my mind, check the calendar on my phone, the 31st IS A MONDAY! Life is confusing and discombobulated itself right now without messed up.website! Then I wondered If I was thinking it is the wrong year! OVERWHELMED! DISORIENTATION!

I will be so relieved to be at the end of this living out of a suitcase phase! It doesn't matter where I am I wake up wondering where I am, what do I have to do today, what freaking day is this? To make matters worse my weekly schedule of being remote is a bit different this week. 👽👽👻👻😏😏😏😏
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boj -do what is good for you. The other is cared for. Care for yourself.
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BOJ- Being betrayed is soooo hurtful. I am sorry for what you're going through. Believe in Karma. It has its own way of evening things out.
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Bundle (((hugs)))

Some days we walk tall, some days we sit, quietly, or
curl into a ball.

If today is a curling day, just curl.

The walking days will come again.
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BOJ: Hugs. Hope it gets better for you.
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Bundle, don't disappear. Keep looking up......God is able in all situations. ((((HUGS))))
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BOJ,
You have been so brave!

I don't know your situation, but sometimes doing nothing for a time may help you.

You will know what to do.
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thank you pamzimmrrt!!
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BOJ I am so sorry,, keep your head up and do your best!
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thanks so much becky. we’ve never met, and yet your sentence of empathy/compassion made me happy, and now i have tears knowing how awful the situation is.

i type with tears.

i’ll continue to be gone: i’ll return to internet in the future.
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BOJ, I’m sorry you’re having an awful time.
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having an awful, awful time. God is my witness. i’ve done everything i could to help, only kind.

i’m experiencing betrayal, etc.
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Gof8 - sounds like a plan, Enjoy!!!

glad - That's great! Hope it all works out smoothly.
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GO8 WOW! Have fun!

Found a place to go. Offer pendingl

FF, the Shingrx second shot is the he that got me too!
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I have a son with six kids. Five of them are in elementary school, three of them are a set of triplets.

tomorrow is Grandparents day at their school. You have lunch with them, times are staggered but not for the Triplets. Our plan is ten minutes in each classroom.



I am stressed out
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I had Shingrix, the first shot was fine, later the booster threw me for a loop. I really wished the pharmacist would have told me about the possible side effects and not to worry about them. Later that evening I was experiencing something like delirium and we went to urgent care.

When we get our covid boosters, we get the shots on separate days as both of us have side effects and didn't want both under the weather at the same time. For me the side effect was being soooo very tired and not hungry.

Flu shots, always been a breeze for the past 40 some years :)
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Dialysis is almost over for today. Have to go for bloodwork. Hope to go to fabric store. Finishing up rag dolls I made for gifts. Need some ribbon for hair bows. Try to keep busy and my mind occupied.
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Gershun,
So sorry about your brother.

Here is some shingles info: The newer vaccine is called Shingrix .
Shingrix provides strong protection against shingles and PHN. In adults 50 years and older who have healthy immune systems, Shingrix is more than 90% effective at preventing shingles and PHN. Immunity stays strong for at least the first 7 years after vaccination. In adults with weakened immune systems, studies show that Shingrix is 68%-91% effective in preventing shingles, depending on the condition that affects the immune system.

How Well Does Zostavax Work?
Zostavax®, the shingles vaccine, reduced the risk of shingles by 51% and the risk of post-herpetic neuralgia by 67% based on a large study of more than 38,000 adults aged 60 years or older. Protection from shingles vaccine lasts about 5 years.
While the vaccine was most effective in people 60 through 69 years old, it also provides some protection for people 70 years old and older.

*Adults vaccinated before age 60 years might not be protected later in life when the risk for shingles and its complications are greatest. *
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Thank you Geaton. I had no idea either. It's been 19 years already since he died and it still seems like yesterday.
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Gershun, that's just awful about your brother... I had no idea that could happen with shingles!
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Ontario doesn't fund the shingles vaccine until age 65, although I suppose you can self pay earlier if you want to.
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My brother died of complications due to shingles. It went into his brain and caused encephalitis. So one can never be too careful.
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