
Replacing the much lamented 'On My Mind' profile option, this thread is for musings, jottings, whimsies, preoccupations and the rest of the thesaurus for anyone to jot down anything they please.
I can't remember what the maximum character count was before, can anyone else? But anyway it wasn't very many so let's keep to that.
I am with you on teaching your guys how to live on a budget and all the other DIY projects that life is about. What a strong foundation you are blessing these youngsters with.
May The Lord continue to guide you in these matters.
Oh, I absolutely loved that EVERY place you go in Pidgeon Forge plays Gospel music and when you ask someone how their day is, they tell you.
I am sharing how I budget the money with the oldest, much like I constructed a budget with my nephew when he was attending college and I paid his expenses.
I am trying to teach as many life skills as I can: changing the oil in the car, checking fluid levels, rotating tires, cooking and canning, making a grocery list, gardening, bargain shopping, laundry, repairs, etc. All the things my parents taught me that I really didn't appreciate until after I had a household of my own.
You did not read my comment.
Go away.
Like any social program, the bigger it becomes, the more $$ it gets from the government, the more secured the jobs are for those running the program.
You are not wrong to decline what you don't need, what you can comfortably provide yourself.
Avoiding what the government or charities provide is a good thing, the government giving with one hand and taking away with the other hand,
and charities sharing photos of your children at events, used to seek more donations.
Being frugal, teaching a budget, and living independently is the best experience and opportunity for the boys to learn their own way, imo. It is a good life lesson, however old-fashioned. (Old-fashioned being also a good thing). imo.
Foster children already have a 'poor' stigma attached to their position in life, attending events to receive handouts can foster a needy mindset.
I want to state a disclaimer here that there should be no shame in being poor, and families in need should definitely receive these things when needed. Satisfied is the child who recalls being poor and growing up to succeed as an adult, rising above their circumstances.
To cover it all....there is a budget concern that if you do receive these things for free now, when offered, the funds not spent for those needs can allow for saving for future needs at a time when money is not as plentiful.
As you can see, you are not wrong. imo.
Good for you!
Don't give up on being able to stand and walk again until you have tried some PT. Mom was able to move around the house with her walker after displacing her artificial knee replacement for a couple of years. It was awkward and slow, but painless and she preferred the walker to her wheelchair. My SIL used an office chair to get around in the house after her stroke; she could push it with her good leg and it turned in all directions much easier than a wheelchair.
I admire your ability to accept and cope with your health limitations and continue to LIVE your life! I hope you won't be offended if I say you reminded me of one of my great-aunts, who was the life of the party, even during her 98th birthday party. Grand ladies like you and Aunt M inspire me to what I hope to achieve in my own life.
in response to what you wrote below, here’s a little joke:
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My wife insists that I use the phrase “make love” instead of the f word.
I said, “What the make love are you talking about?”
The c word. The f word. The s word. The h word if you want. At least these are clear as opposed to wondering which one the poster meant by starring it all out.
Or they automate based on current editorial policy. They don’t even do that.
If you notice, only one of 3 words in your post was starred.
Maybe you are special (you are) and the admins have a sense of humor. lol?
Hell of a thing to do for a friend.
Testing 1, 2, 3.
Oh how times have changed. Maybe it is just you who can't.
Gershun
10 hours ago
You can't say **** on here?
I just noticed stars were put in place of the word hell in my earlier post.
Just in case anyone just reading it thinks I said something else. No, I didn't say that word. The word was hell. (insert eyeroll here)
BurntCaregiver
Aug 2020
I hate being a caregiver. It's like I'm stuck in the seventh level of hell and can't get out.
anonymous786886
Asked July 2018
Does the end have to feel like hell on earth?
Momsonlychild
Asked August 2020
Mom’s health-I’m numb from the hell we are going through. What do I do?
A Paradise Built in Hell
David Hilfiker
In "A Paradise Built in Hell," Rebecca Solnit writes about that special sense of community, of altruism, of love, even of joy that can arise out of disaster.
But, life goes on right. And on and on and on and on............And on.
So, I just hang onto the ride for dear life and try to count my blessings cause so many have it so much worse than I do.
I must admit I suck at it. I care about all sorts of things that really are a waste of time and temper, as well as things that aren't, such as wanting those around us (four and two footed) to be happy and healthy.
I just noticed stars were put in place of the word hell in my earlier post.
Just in case anyone just reading it thinks I said something else. No, I didn't say that word. The word was hell. (insert eyeroll here)
For a $30 replacement clock, it changes every minute and provides hours of night-time interest. I wonder if it would amuse our elders too? Yours, Margaret
You are right. We can't go against our natural nature. I've never tried
but I'd probably fail. And who wants to be uncaring anyhow.
In the big picture it's not going to serve you well to do so I suspect.
glad - you are not alone. (((((((hugs)))))) to you too.
I'd be a listening ear anytime you'd like to share your long story.
I suddenly had this light bulb moment. I thought "I get it now. If you don't care then nothing matters right?" Just think how much easier life could be if we all just didn't care. All our sibs who don't help or seem to care. That's it! Learn to not care and just sail through life selfishly and everything will fall right into place. Pandemics, mom's and dad's getting sick and dying, our pets problems............****, just don't be bothered. Let it all go to rot! The secret to happiness.
Sigh.............only problem is.............I do care.........a lot.
So much for that idea. :0
In real life I am not so huggy.
(I find it strange that huggers think their right to give a hug overrides my right to avoid one).
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