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Glad: Congratulations! What is your new job?
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Thanks, all. It is just a very nice small town, population about 1,100. Very cute and historic downtown. Very close 10-15 miles to major shopping. Here it is about 60 miles to major shopping and population of the city I am in is about 12,000. Entire county about double that. Destination county about 26,000.

Fired up my new kindle. The one i used most was slowly dying. Now this one is going to mess with my head for awhile until I get all my preferences set correctly.
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Glad, I'm so glad to hear it was just a sabbatical!!
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Good for you Glad!
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glad - Very well done. Congratulations!!! Awesome!!!!
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I spent time on the phone today cancelling trips I will not be able to take. My cousin Pame was in Boston over the weekend. She drove up to see me. Nice to see her.
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Glad, Congratulations!
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No longer considering myself retired, I have been looking for work. An offer was made this morning, that I have accepted. Will be moving about 100 miles southwest of here. Excited! I love what I do!
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what's on my mind?...

unfortunately, there are many people on this website who bully others.
it's too bad.

at times, insulting/sarcastic/attacking...

i see some people standing up to the bullies.

it's too bad -- because as i said, many people are already going through a tough time, and then get additional bullying on the website.

some people are bullied into silence...afraid to post their opinions next time.

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of course, there are also many caring, kind people on this website, who, although they have an opposite opinion to someone else's opinion, state it in a non-insulting way.

i'm sending out my compassion to those who are bullied.
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dear becky :),

hug!! courage!! enjoy the take-outs :).
good luck with the move to AL in illinois.

bundle of joy :)
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Three of my granddaughters came to visit this afternoon. We played five or six games of Clue. Then we ordered takeout from a local place. Trying to have some of my Maine favorites before I go to assisted living in Illinois.
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I experienced scenarios like the one I described in my dream with my mom.

We were at our local fair one summer and were sitting at a picnic bench. A lady said to me "Does she still like getting out?" I looked straight at her and said why don't you ask her, she's right there.

I do understand how that mistake can be made but I think people need to at least start with trying to converse with the elderly person and then if that person can't or won't communicate then move on from there. It could lead to an eye-opening experience.
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ITRR, I get into similar situations when I take my wife out and she has her walker or I’m pushing her in her transport chair. The nurse, or whomever, starts asking me questions concerning my wife. I’ll either sit there not saying a word waiting for them to get the hint or I’ll reply through clenched teeth “She can talk for herself!”

I do have a bad habit of speaking for my wife at times as she can be slow to reply to questions. Her newest PCP actually told me to “Be quiet. I’m talking to your wife.” He is now also my PCP. Great guy!
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My apologies!
I have been mistakenly answering rhetorical questions.
Will try harder in the future.
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Gershun, about people just kinda disregarding seniors and disabled people.

I worked with a senior woman that had a stroke and was in a wheelchair. Taking her out really shined a spotlight on how many people act as though they aren't even there.

Asking right over her head to me if she would like something was so common. I actually started asking her in a really distorted voice, sounding mentally challenged myself, the question asked to me. She loved that it caused people to realize that she was still there and could speak for herself. It highlighted for them that not all disability is obvious and each person should be treated as a human. You can't believe how many times this happened and how many people actually engaged in a discussion with us about this.

Maybe one person was treated more kindly because of our antics. I know it really helped my friend and it provided much laughter for her.

Your dream reminded me of this time in my life 3 decades ago.
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happy sunday everyone! :)

speaking of warning labels on products, etc...
:) just posting a joke here:

I'm not saying let's kill all the stupid people.

I'm saying let's
remove all the warning
labels and let the problem
sort itself out.
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We need an eye roll hug. I should look to see if I have an emoji, I think I might.

A biting tongue would work as well.

😏😏😏😏
😝😝😝😝
Or
😇😇😇😇
😘😘😘😘

Maybe on my new kindle which I haven't fired up yet.
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I use the word 'disclaimer' when stating, e.g. "I don't profess to be a physician."
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Lol.
A warning label, and a disclaimer.
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Maybe all the threads should have a warning like prescription bottles. Side effects include but are not limited to 1. Dissatisfaction with answers given 2. Anger at all people who answered etc. etc. Just a thought. ;)
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Send, I have done that for years. It is called avoiding a knee jerk reaction. More should practice that. There are time I just want to say "you asked!"
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Glad,
The extreme reaction from the OP that I observed is often from a troll or sock puppet.
Along the theme of be gentle with me, is it okay to post here, then they pick the first answer to say the answer is mean. Twisted, because the answer is not mean at all.

Ignore, ignore.

You are right to unfollow.

Be sure to take a deep breath as you move on, shake the dust off. Know that we have read it, and you are not alone in being surprised.
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Why do people on this site ask for advice then are confrontational when they get advice they don't like? It happens so often! I unfollow threads when I see a thread going that way.
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Some of the worst sunburns I have ever had were after a day of skiing. Those were the days before sunscreen. In spring I would even ski in cutoffs. Sunburnt from ski boot line to short line. I took a year for one of those burns to heal. Looks awfully funny walking around in summer shorts with a lighter tan from the ankle down.😕

Not only do you get the normal sun exposure, but it is intensified reflecting off the snow and the higher elevations also play a factor.

TS1 once borrowed a sunlamp, sat with her face within a few inches of the lamp, then told her friends at school she had been night skiing! What an idjit! Her eyes were swollen shut the next day and she couldn't go to school.
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My dermatologist - "The ghost look is in." Yes, I agree. Knew so many who were 'sun worshippers' and now are paying for it dearly.
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Queen Elizabeth IS truly remarkable - an icon!
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Gershun,
Start now, being heard, before you get old.
Practice.
Speak up while you still can!
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I had the oddest dream last night but I'd like to share it cause it was eye opening.

In the dream I was with my mom. We were spending the day together, window shopping in the mall, going for lunch, the usual things I did with her when she was alive. But the odd thing was that in the dream the roles were reversed. She was me and I was her. So for instance when we were in the mall she was walking a bit too fast and I was thinking "oh, I wish she'd slow down a bit" When we went for lunch the waiter kind of ignored me and she ordered for me. Then we ran into my brother and he kind of patted me on the head and said "oh, I'll drive you home" I was thinking like my mom would have, "try asking if I want a drive home, maybe I'd like to walk"

At the end of the dream we were in the lobby of a nursing home and the director of the place was describing all the great things to do there and all I was thinking was "but I'll end up in my room all day cause I can't do any of those things anymore"

When I woke up from this dream I really felt that old people, no matter what state they are in really want to be heard and asked what they want and how they feel and not be spoken over and have their feelings and desires disregarded. I know that is probably an obvious thing and with a lot of aging people it's not possible to always give them what they want but it was an odd feeling in the dream to be on the other side of things and feel what it's like to have the shoes on the other feet so to speak.

I hope I never made my mom feel that. I know I tried really hard to let her be heard but I'm sure I sometimes just bull dozed her in a way.
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Yes Send, it's very sad. I always felt that bond between them was strong.
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Gershun,
So sad that she is without her long time love and support.
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