
Replacing the much lamented 'On My Mind' profile option, this thread is for musings, jottings, whimsies, preoccupations and the rest of the thesaurus for anyone to jot down anything they please.
I can't remember what the maximum character count was before, can anyone else? But anyway it wasn't very many so let's keep to that.
Then, you pause just a moment, and hear talking, talking from a program you would never select. Wait, who said that? It is playing without you clicking on the program.
NO, NO! NOOOOO!
Not friendly to the elderly!
For those of us who still like to choose, this is extremely disturbing!
It is going to scare any elderly with alzheimers, and confuse them.
My bird and I were watching a relaxing bird video for budgies, meant for relaxing. In the middle, the screen went black, an advertisement came on by the Humane society: "Some people say this is a sport", and a video of a rhino
being shot, falling dead flashes before my eyes. Sound effects.
Turned off Youtube. I will be boycotting Youtube, because I cannot watch this kind of brutality. Will that help? Will they get the message, we just don't want to see that?
Only 1/3rd is likely to be 'end of life care', at the most, on the average, if it happens that way.
2/3rds of their life is also gone when they pass. The part that was happy, productive, and enjoyable. The part we miss.
When I say, Sorry for your loss, it is about the loss of a person's whole life, not just at the end.
I understand how Polarbear may feel when someone's death is a welcome relief, not saying sorry for your loss, and struggling to know what should be said in those circumstances to comfort a person after such a difficult period of time.
I think it's wrong to expect that anyone is going to be able to somehow say just the right words. I know I struggle with it when it's someone else who has experienced a loss. I think most people's hearts are in the right place with what they try to say.
When I lost my cat recently my one sister said nothing when I told her. While a cat isn't the same as losing a spouse or a parent it's still a loss. I resented the fact she chose to say nothing. Even an a I'm sorry is better than stony silence. Just my opinion.
― Dietrich Bonhoeffer
It is not your place to tell me what I should feel or not feel. It’s rather hypocritical of you.
Rather cold statement, polar and not your place to even think you know how others should feel.
I don’t feel sorry, and I don’t think it’s a loss either.
Vent here.
Solve problems here.
We will all listen to you.
Do not vent to kids. They will throw you under the bus and exaggerate everything you ever told them.
You can also talk to a professional, financial planner, geriatric care manager, or a counselor.
I am sorry about your DDs MIL. I am sure that she appreciated your help and you gave her something to be grateful for, because it is the small gestures of love and care that make us feel special.
God bless you for giving!
However, I always look to help the other person before I help myself. At Thanksgiving dinner yesterday where 30 of us gathered and after learning of an unpleasant dx of my DD MIL's, I made sure to help her get plates of food. But we are only 8 months difference in age.
OB - sounds like you are making good progress. Sitting here looking at the snow and not even being able to imagine beach, sun and sand. ⛱ It's been a long time...
EB - Hey I am still in nightie and dressing gown and it's a normal Friday. There are no pajama police or nighty nazis around here! It's comforting to take it easy!
Your mom was a wise woman to know that nobody's wants to hear about what ails you. Especially if that's all that they hear.
Finding the positive in any situation helps me cope with life and I always feel for those that can't see what a blessing they are being given.
It really makes me wonder how many are alone because they suck your life force with their negative, nasty attitudes. May God open their hearts.
I was in the grocery store and a senior lady in an electric cart, was being helped by a middle aged man, he was holding a basket so she could pick out individual green beans. I was waiting to get green beans and she was blocking the access, which was fine, I only mention it because I heard the following interaction between them while I waited.
He asked her what she was making with the green beans and she snarkily answered that she was making green beans. He said he was asking because he thought she might be making a casserole or something for Thanksgiving dinner. She then, still very snarky replies that she isn't having Thanksgiving, she is all alone and nobody invited her, so she wasn't celebrating. She was obviously very bitter and kept biting this nice man as he tried to create conversation while she picked one green bean at a time.
So he asks her if she has any family, because he was alone with his mom and that his sibs were in rockport. Well, she instantly says that's where her family is and they start having a pretty nice talk. Then he asks her if she can mobilize in and out of a car. She says she can, so he invites her to come be with him and his mom. He will pick her up and take her home. Telling her his mom would love to have someone to hang out and play cards with and he would be willing to give her free transportation. They exchange numbers and I was so happy for her.
But, she starts being really negative that she doesn't know how to play cards and I spoke up saying how awesome it will be to learn something new while making a new friend. Well, she was just determined to be miserable about it.
This made me think of this poster. Because this woman was bemoaning being alone and bemoaning a true effort and invitation to change that. I realized that some people choose to be so miserable that nobody can get near them. This guy was really diligent in his efforts to be kind and helpful and offer a chance at friendship. I thought he worked at the store, he was a patron that willingly held that basket for at least 5 minutes, invited her for Thanksgiving and offered her a ride to and from and encouraged her to hang out with his mom and she didn't see any of that, what she chose to focus on was the negative. What she couldn't do, not that she might have a nice time or how awesome it was that someone, a complete stranger, offered her something lovely.
It just made me wonder how many, my mom is one, that declare abuse, neglect and whatever other negative thing to anyone that will listen and miss seeing the love being offered.
I think those that are alone and it is everyone else's doing, should take a good long look at themselves.
There are many people in this world trying to make real connections, we just have to be willing to look past ourselves.
That's what's been on my mind.