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RIP my little doggy friend I sometimes walked (neighbour's) 😥.

Maybe when we downsize we will get our own..

I did a 'find your dog breed' quiz online for my DH - it choose a Chinese Crested. I had to google it... 🤣🤣🤣

PS I'm sure they are nice.. just not what I expected!
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I am feeling more at ease since we buried mom’s ashes in our family plot. I feel like I can start to relax and plan for changes that I wish to make in my life.

We are meeting with a realtor this Saturday. I want to sell this large home and downsize. I want to travel again. I really want another dog but am resistant to getting one at this time. It breaks my heart into a million pieces when it comes time to put them down. Toying with the idea of fostering but knowing me, I would end up adopting the pooch! Maybe I should just volunteer at the shelter. I can take them on their walks.
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Anche: You're very welcome. Good for your other trip.
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Thank you so much! We did another trip today not far from home... My first idea was to go to Venice (only 30km from home) but we finally went to the prosecco hills and to a water mill dating from the XVIIth century.
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Anche: You're very welcome. Glad that you were able to go on your trip! And had that delicious strudel.
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Thank you Barb!
Hugs!
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Anche, glad you had a good break!
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Thank you Llama. We could go to our trip! We did only half of the trail but that's fine... We have a good excuse to go back!
We had lunch, I just abandoned my diet today and had a nice glass of white wine as well as a slice of apple strudel with whipped cream.
A big big treat for me! Feeling better!
... And elaborating strategies to take some of the burden off my shoulders and mind!
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spiritu: You're very welcome.
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llamalover: thanks for your response
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Anche: Good for you!
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spiritu: Thank you for your post. You may want to start your own separate thread with your question as some posters may not have seen your post here. Best of luck.
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Hope we will have sunshine tomorrow! I have plan a trip to the mountains nearby! Hiking along a mountain trail with tunnels made during The first world war. The home aid is willing to stay here some extra hours and she will have a day off when she needs it. We agree and the agency who sent her here agrees as well!
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OK, so I had been staying temporarily at my mom's house for caregiving purposes. My sister takes mom to appts. as I do not drive, I stay with mom and clean her episodes of incontinence, and cook for her, etc. sounds good? Well I just cannot deal with my sister anymore. She is power of attorney and she talks with doctor's, makes appts., etc. Well last week was pure hell with mom. She has advanced liver disease likely due to a malignancy. I've been staying with her in the hospital for the last couple of days after a harrowing week of pain and incontinence. Se has in home nursing care. After a full day of being in hospital with her till 8pm on Friday, my sister casually announces that my mom's three physicians have decided to discontinue care and discharge her to hospice. Ok, here's the thing I was in shock, and totally caught off guard. Went back to mom's house alone and just cried. Next day in hospital with mom, I talk to mom's cardiologist (who is my nephew). He stated that he never said that at all. He said talk to mom now, see if she wants to be frequently hospitalized and treated and discharged, and if down the road when she becomes really ill would she still want treatment or palliative care. Totally different. Turns out my sister doesn't know what hospice means. She doesn't even know what an emergency contact is and never lists me, and yet list our part time caregiver. She also turns her phone off at night so if the hospital tried calling her, they wouldn't be able to get through, and the part-time caregiver would be left with the awesome decision of making life and death decisions for mom. I have begged her over and over not to do this, and to list me as one of the emergency contacts. She doesn't. I tried to explain the implications of telling me and family members that she was going on hospice, but she just doesn't get it. She put us through hell for two days. If I try telling her on the phone, she bites my head off and dismisses me. I tried explaining it in the hospital, and she got up and put her back to me. I finally lost it, it all came out yesterday, and I let her have it. Felt really bad for my mom to see that (she can't hear, she's deaf), she knew I went off. My sister has always done that to me. provokes me till I lose it, then says I'm upsetting mom. I told her I was done with her disrespect, and I left mom's and came back to my own home in another state. We're not talking, and I feel horrible for mom. Don't know what to do, but can't go back until/unless she apologizes and takes responsibility and allows me to at least be legal medical guardian as I cannot trust her with accurately understanding and conveying medical information. Oh and BTW, my brother does nothing at all. I'm always painted as the overly-emotional crazy one. Am I wrong here? What should I do???
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Glad,
We received the same Potus letter, again.
It was a repeat duplicate letter announcing the check we had already received in March. Some people have not received it yet.
I do not think a 4th check is coming, but there is speculation online, I now see.

I speculated that it was sent as a political statement/gesture (at the taxpayer expense), to remind us who the president is.

I could be wrong. But it is the same letter, if you can get through reading it.

1st Stimulus was $1200
2nd Stimulus was $600
3rd Stimulus was $1400 rec'd in March
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Glad, yes my MIL just received a letter yesterday (she's on Medicaid in LTC - Lord knows why she must be paid to lay in bed all day!) My own mother (age 92) just got a direct deposit into her bank account as well this week.
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Moment of panic, audit? It was a letter from the IRS signed by POTUS that I will receive another stimulus check within seven days. Has anyone else received a notification? I thought that I was done with receiving checks.
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In the U.S., the IRS tax filing deadline was extended to May 17th, 2021.


Taxes are ready to mail now, what a relief.
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First thunder storm. Snow earlier this week.
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Need: Wow - that's too bad, but it is your mother's passing. Not about him at all.
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Llama and Beatty,

My cousin is a bit self centered!
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Need: Big virtual hugs sent to you. What is wrong with your cousin? The cousin wanted to make it about himself, apparently. That would be bad for your brother. Tell the cousin that the extra persons CANNOT come. Prayers to you, dear NeedHelpWithMom.
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NHWM, thinking of you for this weekend.

The Cousin! Sheesh!! What's so hard to understand about 'family only'? Whether told before or now.. no matter, HE decided to invite extra people - HE can UNinvite those extra people! If he feels a bit silly, oh well.
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Because of COVID we decided to have a simple graveside service for my mom just for the family. I specifically told everyone, just family! I am a bit annoyed with my cousin. He decided to invite extra people to the service. So, I said something to him when he called and told me that he invited extra people.

My cousin immediately does what he always does. He says, “No one told me it was just family and I already invited them, so I won’t go to the service!” This is my cousin that my mom and dad raised from a young boy. Of course, we want him there, so I said, “ Just do whatever you want to do.”

The reason that I am upset is because my brother who had mom for the last 14 months of her life is not going to be happy about extra people that we don’t even know being there. My mom wasn’t close to them. My cousin has lived in another state since graduating from college. These are people from his college days.

My brother has a long history of heart disease and hasn’t been vaccinated and I hate that these extra people are coming because my cousin wants to make a big production of my mom’s service. He is making it about him instead of my mom and our family.

Why can’t anything stay simple, especially at a time like this? My cousin has no clue how hard caregiving has been for my brother and I, plus the last amount of time with her in hospice. We just wanted a quiet, private, peaceful goodbye at her graveside service.

Sorry, I just needed to get this frustration off of my chest. My husband isn’t happy with my cousin right now. I don’t know if I should give my brother a heads up about the extra people coming or not.

Once again, I am placed in the middle and will be looked at as the bad guy when he sprung this on me about the extra people! Grrrrrrr...
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On my way to pick up my daughter from the airport. My mom adored her grandchildren and they loved her. I am very grateful for that.

Looks like all of the rain has blown through and the weather should be fine at the cemetery this weekend for mom’s burial.
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Small airport with private planes and many charter flights, midair collision when both approaching runways landing on adjacent runways yesterday. Everyone walked away. One plane deployed a parachute and came down safely. Whoda thunk!😊
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Thanks, CW for that link. I ran it. There is one channel through the air that has one morning news broadcast a day, then lots of court tv and OLD game shows the rest of the day. Most everything I would want is in the gray, extreme measures are needed for any sort of reception. I love rural living, but it does have its drawbacks.😕
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Are you sure you can't get local channels gladimhere? Have you checked with TV Fool?
http://www.tvfool.com/index.php?option=com_wrapper&Itemid=29
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If was in an area that I could use an antenna to receive just local channels I would do that in a second!
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Glad: Good for you! I don't have a streaming need. That's usually the way it goes - prices increase once you're subscribed.
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