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In California, persons share renting, or even just attending a party where illegal drugs are used, [in the presence of drugs] are arrested, charged, and prosecuted. Something to ask a criminal attorney.
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Ali,

I understand. I wish everyone well too.

I certainly hope that she will get the help that she needs but at this point in time, she isn’t welcoming any help into her life.

There is absolutely no point in her sticking around your place because she will drive you crazy!

You don’t need that kind of distraction in your life, especially along side working towards finishing up your course load at school.

Yes! Burn sage! LOL
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Need,

Haha, I said that to my bestie when I was venting to her recently, that there will be some sage burned once N is out.

I have some sympathy for N because I see she is on a destructive path, but she needs to take that destruction elsewhere. And, hopefully she will get some help that really "clicks" with her and she will want to change bad enough to see it through, to do whatever it takes to change. I can tell from her deflections, denials, and all the other ways she finds to blame others for her behavior, that she's not ready for this step.
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Ali,

As we say in New Orleans, your roommate has ‘bad juju.’

I know that you will be glad when she’s gone!

Maybe call in a priest to bless your apartment after she’s gone! LOL
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The weather is still funky and nasty here!

Rain, rain go away...
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I do need a trim of my long, COVID hair. But I had long hair till 26 and had never went to a hairdresser. Dad would trim me up. After married, I got it cut to shoulder length, along with my first perm. Next work day, my coworker did not recognize me and returned to her office saying “oh, Kat is out today. I’ll wait till she returns.”! Soooo funny.

Ive developed a new skill - cut DH hair during COVID. He likes it and hasn’t returned to the barber since!
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I haven't had my long hair cut in well over a year, but the nice roomie, E, used to do hair so she gave me a trim that's lasted a few months... and I hack at it myself here and there. It's definitely "covid hair.

N got herself locked out again earlier tonight around 11pm. My phone is off, notifications are off but I had a feeling and checked my phone just now and she had sent multiple texts and rang the bell. It's all off because I'm trying to sleep. She got back in somehow and I'm relieved but it's always a bit of a circus with her. She says she's leaving. She does not say when.

After talking to a lawyer, I think my best route is to wait a week until 30 day notice is up, and file a restraining order myself. I'll have the info from police report and hopefully the 911 call by then. And, there is video of erratic behavior that lasts hours. It may or may not be enough to be granted the order but that seems to me the best way to proceed because there is no guarantee of success, so why pay lawyer fees in the thousands...? I will be able to show I gave fair notice and if it's ignored, I hope the judge would be sympathetic to that. I have no recourse with housing courts right now or in foreseeable future.
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Send: LOL and hope that you're able to get your DH to shower soon.
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Ali: Bravo! You did EXTREMELY well until adverse conditions caused by your roommate, "N."
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It is difficult to be cutting my dH's hair again. He ignores, puts it off, and looks really bad without a haircut. I tell him he feels better after his hair is cut.
(Don't say it, but he acts better too).

The time is never right, even though we have a w h o l e lot of time. If he is in the dog house, then I avoid cutting his hair. Standing there with scissors in my hand.....with the power to make him look really good, or really bad....I just cannot do it!

He is looking good today, but I cannot get him to shower. It's going to be okay. As he walks away, I am the only one who sees his hair separate into oily strands, exposing his scalp. I won't force him.
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My husband cuts my bangs. Does a decent job too. I on the other hand. Not so much.

Every time I looked at him for days afterwards I'd break into gales of laughter.😂🤣
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I’d been wearing a winter hat since my husband cut my hair in January, and also a scarf round my neck to cover up the fact that he’d not cut it level at the back! Thankfully the hairdresser made some progress with it yesterday, so normality is returning!
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Gershun,

😂 LOL

Yep! I messed up my husband’s hair too. I warned him that I would not do a good job.

He didn’t believe me. His mistake, right?

My hair stylist used to tell me NEVER to trim my daughters bangs again! LOL Oh my gosh! I never could get them straight. They would run from me if they saw scissors in my hands.

I gave up and stopped trying. They thanked me and my hairstylist thanked me.
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I cut my hubs hair last year because of covid and absolutely butchered it. LOL

Well, I tried.🙃
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I just took my final in my psychology class. I missed 2 questions out of 50, no big deal. But I'm slightly annoyed because the multiple-choice answer I chose for one miss was taken directly from my notes which came directly from the text. And, the multiple choice answers were too similar. Basically, it was a simple question, "what is a hypothesis," something I know inside and out because I've also taken a Research Methods class. So a "tentative, testable explanation of phenomenon" is valid as an answer, as well as what the correct answer was, "a possible explanation." Blah. I like my answer better, haha. And behavioral geneticists do not look at "potential genetic and environmental contributions to behavior," they apparently study "the relative contributions of genes and environment in a population."

Potato, potato. The same word, said the same way. lol

The school work and term is all done.

I talked to a lawyer today about getting a restraining order. I'm going to go in-person tomorrow to try to get a copy of the police incident report and see what info it contains. Lawyer said not to get my hopes up that it will help because CPD is known for putting one-sentence descriptions for any situation that didn't lead to an arrest. Just have to see. Lawyer put in a FOIA request online for the 911 calls. I feel like I'm waiting for the 30-day notice to expire to see what I'm dealing with, and also waiting for another all-day/night bender.
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Chris,

When we had lockdown I let my husband cut my hair. He actually did a pretty good job.

He asked me to cut his. I told him that I would not be able to do a good job. He refused to believe me. His mistake! 😆
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Cwillie, pun intended! I couldn't resist it!
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Literally Chriscat 🤣🤣🤣
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I’m going for my first haircut in months, later on today. It will be a big weight off my mind (!).
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So nice to be at the beach. Walked out on the fishing - nobody was catching much. A little windy. Ended up at our favorite hotel. At first we didn’t think we were going to get a room - called back at 4:00 and they had a nice oceanfront suite. Saw several dolphins go by.
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Ali,

You must let us know when you have completed all of your courses.

We are pulling for you. You’re doing great!
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Ali,

Yay! That’s fantastic!!!

Bridger.

Sounds like a wonderful trip!
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magic words for me are the Outer Banks. I’m always ready to go there. Puts me in a great mood automatically.
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I got my grade back on the big assignment worth 240 points and it's 100%. I'm relieved. I am appreciative of this easy-grading professor, haha.

Today, I need to prep for the final exam in another class and finish any small tasks and I will be DONE for this term. Another one in the books.

I'm grateful I'm on track, despite the problems at home.

Bridger, I took a drive from Chicago out to the southern Atlantic coast last May. I had never seen that part of the country and just wanted to escape for a bit. It was during high covid alerts so I took all precautions and couldn't go to many of the beaches I wanted to see, but it was still nice and relaxing. Sounds like a very nice way to spend a spring day!
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Got up to a dreary day of driving home to Ohio. My husband asked if I wanted to head south to the beach. Of course, I said yes. So we ‘re off to the Outer Banks. This what I wanted retirement to look like!
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Thx GA & Bridger, my relative has good insurance & had already claimed for that dentist bill! Also has used a community service before (reduced fees) but they get overfull sometimes. So already getting rebates or reduced fees. Just wants freebies I suppose... or hint hint... someone else to pay.
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Kellse, I know exactly what you mean. Here in Chicago it's common to see people posting big jobs or expecting professional level results but they are offering very little money per hour. I figure professional trades people don't even bother responding to those posts. And when you go looking for cheap work, I think that's actually what you get. So, it evens out in a way. :-)
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Bridger, most definitely N poses harm. The scariest thing was when she called 911 and reported that I stabbed her. I need to get the incident report to see what it says but the cops told me they could see she was being erratic/irrational, and clearly she wasn't stabbed or injured at all.

The reason I gave her notice was because twice in one night, at 2am and 5 am, she had left the kettle on the stove unattended. The second time, it boiled dry for so long that handle melted onto the stove and the smoke detector went off. She passes out when she's smoking or cooking, so I think that's a danger, too.

A friend is helping me figure out any legal recourse. I hope to talk to some local attorneys this week to see if they can possibly help me in this situation.
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Ali, My son who is a lawyer in Ohio says they have exceptions to the eviction moratorium if a tenant is threatening harm. Do you think N is nutty enough?
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The problematic roommate, N, had thrown all of her stuff out of her room and said she was moving out, but now all the stuff went back into the room and she said she has "30 days." It's actually 10 days per the notice, but I won't be surprised when the day comes and goes and N is still here.

I'm just taking it a day at a time, focusing on school and work.

I went to water my plants in the front room today and N started yelling out from behind her adjacent bedroom door. She thought I was doing something? Listening at her door? lol I have no idea. I was just watering plants. It's a nightmare... but at least I'm getting video evidence of her manipulation, lying, and drug-related behavior.

She told my downstairs neighbor that I'm spying on her in her room. I'm not too concerned about the stupid accusations because I've lived here 3 years with L downstairs, and L and I get along fine. N has been here 2 months and is always on the front porch smoking and acting loony. Who would you believe, who would anyone believe?

But I'm starting to realize how set N is on manipulating things to where she is the victim and she gets whatever it is she wants.

I'm still waiting to talk to an attorney about the possibility of getting a restraining order. I hope I can speak to someone this week and get input about that.

My friend V says that everything N is doing is a set up, a trap, to get to stay here. I really don't know what to think. V called it "predatory druggie behavior" and said I was not equipped to deal with it because I'm too nice. I'm scared to think that V may have a point. Either way, I will have evidence that I need to show the full scope of erratic behavior.
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