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My husband and I go to the dental school clinic for check ups and cleanings. It’s about one half the cost. If I needed fillings or whatever I would go to my regular dentist,
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Beatty, I just saw your post in the News Feed section and wanted to respond.  I don't know if the issue of dental insurance has been discussed elsewhere, so I apologize if it has.  If not, this might help:

AARP has a plan with Delta Dental, if I remember correctly.  My father and I both enrolled and did get some savings off basic procedures.   As the years pass, Delta increases the coverage.

Some community colleges with dental programs also offer cheaper rates for standard procedures.  

I have BCBSM Medigap coverage, which now has expanded to include some dental procedures.   I need to spend some time outlining what it has vs. what Delta offers to determine which is best; that's what I did over a decade ago when we were making decisions which plan to purchase.
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I had the pastry class today. It was much better than the bread class. Made a good variety of pastries.
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My relative says Dentist charged too much so won't go back. OK. I know teeth are expensive but what can you do? Get your cleaning lady to fix those teeth then? I think her hourly rate is less.
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Geaton: I know, right. So sad when the - oh, oh - crisis comes along and they didn't have the wherewithal to adapt.
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My personal favourite is people on FB looking very good plumbers,electricians,or mechanics but they dont want to pay much . WTH people this is their lively hood
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Bridger46164, yes: the people who think there is free help. I feel so sorry for them because they find out too late and they are in a permanent pickle going forward. I realize that many many people live paycheck-to-paycheck but people mostly avoid thinking about a plan for their aging until there's a crisis. That's why in many of my responses I go on and on about PoA and guardianship whether they ask about it or not -- because people don't have a clue about any of that and it also creates a big pickle. But if we're talking about "peeves" here...mine is when people somehow "find" this forum but then ask for information that they can easily find themselves just by doing the same kind of search.
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I love cooking class vacations.
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That's really neat that your'e taking those classes Bridger and the resort sounds great.
Have a good time learning about pastries tomorrow~Hope it goes good!
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Finished my bread class. Not particularly good. Too much about bread machines. Hope the pastry class tomorrow is better. But the resort is beautiful and the restaurants are great. My husband and sons have enjoyed golfing.
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Needhelp, I'm so looking forward to eating out again. Restaurants, pubs etc are allowed to open for outdoor dining only, from next Monday in England. It's amazing to see how creative various establishments have been, in putting together some wonderful outdoor spaces. When you think they've had very little income over the past year, it's quite humbling to think of them investing money in this way. I want to support them. April evenings in the UK are usually freezing cold, so there will be plenty of throws and blankets! I think we should embrace this new way of eating out.
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Going to meet my cousin today at a local Chinese restaurant for lunch.

She says her taste has finally come back after having Covid.

I’m sure there will be plenty of leftovers. She wants to order all of her favorite dishes but I know we won’t be able to eat them all.

We usually eat on leftovers for two days afterwards!
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Stacy, Of people qualify for Medicaid that’s between them and Medicaid. I ‘m talking about the people who ask those in the community to cut their grass, clean their house etc And I don’t spend much time worrying about them. I have enough family that I help and just took on more. My brother has stage 4 pancreatic cancer, so I’m helping him.
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I woke up and saw that, CW. I hope Queen Elizabeth will be ok. I was reading that death of a spouse is the highest "life circumstance" stressor in my text last night.
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Prince Philip has died. I was worried for him when he was in the hospital this spring and I did think he look awful when he was discharged. 😞
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Ali: I know that you were disappointed in the grade that you received, but you did well under a huge amount of stress! Just remember that. The situation with N has put you through such turmoil. She needs to vacate STAT.
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Ali, when there are distractions like you have been dealing with the stress will impact all areas of your life, especially studies. The focus is impossible. My capstone was the worst grade because I had the constant distraction of mom, the first year I was caring for her. I remember sitting on the porch and talking with the man that asked me to do the project, I was so excited, then the project quickly became overwhelming. But, got it done. You will do the same and it will become so much easier when you take care of the roomie problem. Nothing is wrong with the grade you got, many get those and are very pleased.
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cwille,

I share your sentiments!

Interesting what you said about the past generation,

I was FaceTiming with my niece, so my mom could say hello to her.

Only two people are allowed at the time in mom’s hospice house and my niece lives several states away.

My mom told her that she couldn’t believe that she was 95! She is so ready to join my dad in the afterlife.

It’s fine to be older if a person has good health.

My husband’s great grandmother lived just shy of 102!

She was dancing with the band we hired for her 100th birthday party. No walker, no cane! Had all her faculties. Oh, if we could all be so blessed!

She never took any meds except for Tylenol for an occasional headache.

She was in remarkable health. She died from old age.
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Oh, Ali. I know that you are disappointed but you did your best.

I don’t blame you for being upset about your whacked out roommate though.

She has to go! And the sooner the better, right?

She is too much of a distraction in your life. You deserve to live in peace.

Hopefully, she will see the error of her ways and own them.

Let’s hope that she will see the light in the future and live a productive life and not disrupt others lives like she has yours.
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I just got my worst grade ever on an assignment, turned in yesterday when I was distracted and upset. It's 88%. I'm not going to allow myself to be upset. It's still a B grade. Even if I had turned it in late there would be 10 points off automatically, so I tried to just finish it and get it in on time. Ok, I'm a little disappointed, but not really about the grade it's about WHY I got the grade, because of N and her shenanigans.

Whatever. Whatever, whatever. Just need N to move out.

I'm concerned about the other assignment I turned in Tuesday, too. I'm not sure I did it right and it's worth 240 points, not 100, so if I do poorly it will drag my final grade down. I'm hopeful, because that professor is much easier grader.
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Bridger,

Some people have never had enough to save.

They live paycheck to paycheck.

They have had unexpected expenses in life and are constantly playing catch up.

Through no fault of their own, they got behind or couldn’t get ahead.

These people sometimes need help over their bumps in road and that is understandable.

Regarding our ancestors, my grandmother was so resourceful in her life.

She simply didn’t believe in any waste. She taught my mom to be the same way. Mom taught me. My dad was the same. They believed in saving for a rainy day!

So many people don’t think about ‘tomorrow’ and seem to relish in flying by the seat of their pants.

Your family is blessed to have you and your husband in their lives. It is very kind of you to help them with their needs.
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Ali,

I have my fingers crossed for you that she will move.

I agree. That’s a small price to pay for your peace of mind.

As usual, wishing you all the best!
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It hasn't even been 24 hours since interior cameras went up. N is putting all her stuff in bags outside her room, like she is moving. We will see.

It's like she knows she can't continue on as she has all day and night with cameras here. If this works to get her out, it will be the best $255 I've ever spent. I was willing to spend much more trying to go through the legal system, whatever it would take.

Very draining. Thanks for allowing me to share and vent, and giving input and support. I'm probably an emotionally fragile person on my best day, unfortunately. I definitely didn't need this level of chaos in my life.
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I think some people are living on the edge and have never had the opportunity to save.
I think some people would rather look for a handout than try to make do or open their wallets even if they have the resources.
I think some people are very "ducks in a row" and some are much more "let the chips fall where they may" kind of thinkers
And I think that the life plan of many of our oldest generation was to have died 10 or 20 years ago without years and decades of frailty and ill health - the way their parent's generation did.
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I’ve thought about this over the months. We get questions frequently from people who want “free” ramps, stair lifts, grass cutting, house cleaning etc. I know that circumstances and finances are different for everyone but, it seems that there are a lot of people who do no planning and those who don’t step up and help their family members. My husband and I help his two elderly aunts every week. We clean, do yard work, grocery shop, etc. I help my uncle who is 85 and in the nursing home. I do his laundry, do personal shopping and visit twice a week.

Getting old is not cheap and it is certainly not free. Does anyone else share this pinion or am I hanging out here all alone.
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I think I've figured out what I need to do to build a case for restraining order, if N doesn't leave willingly. Some days she says she will, the next day she says she's staying forever. I don't trust her to leave on her own, though I'd be so grateful if she did.

I have 3 new interior cameras to monitor her behavior. They are all in common use rooms, so no expectation of privacy. I hated to do it but given what's happened, it was necessary. And I may have a referral or two for a local lawyer that will help me with a restraining order.

She will be driving me nuts in the meantime with her erratic and volatile behavior.

And no more roommates until this eviction moratorium is lifted.
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Ali: Your roommate, "N" perhaps had a rare second of lucidity to give you those gifts. It's fortunate that you didn't trip over the stolen faux flowers! I hope that she gets some help for her crutch. I hope you can rid her of your life.
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My word, Ali. She is a nutcase!

I am glad that you were able to fall back asleep.

Take care, my friend. It’s got to get better. I hate to think about it getting any worse!
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I was able to fall back asleep and I'm so glad! I needed it. I've been tired. I open my bedroom door to some fake flowers (taken from neighbor lady) on a tray from the living room on the floor right in front of my door, endless post-it notes, a $20 bill, a cup. :-D There were other things strewn about. I was rushing to meet the dishwasher repairman at the front door who woke me up with his calls. I can laugh now but it was an abrupt experience and I told N to leave me alone. At least she seems in a better, if still chaotic, mood than yesterday. I took pictures. I can't imagine telling a judge or anyone -- "My roommate puts stolen fake flowers outside my door. I need a restraining order." 😆 N said something about "Native American artist peace offering, Happy Easter." I reminded her she called the police yesterday and told them I stabbed her, so forgive me if I find all of this really scary. Sigh.
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Ali,

Good prayer!

Let her stew for a bit. Drink your coffee, eat breakfast, take a shower!

Then let her back in. Take a loooooong time! 😆 I like the idea of not replacing her key!
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