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Sister spent the last two days here doing her annual online workplace training - all I can say is I'm glad WHMIS wasn't a mandatory thing when I was working 😖
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It's not my mom's home. I am on the lease and pay the rent and bills. She is on there as a resident but the main duty falls on me. She agreed to move in with me while I get settled. I do not want to kick her out
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DoggieMom, You are not still now living with mom? Are you? I hope not, because you need at 38 to be more independent, and not so enmeshed with her. Her happiness isn't your problem. You have plenty of your own to concern you. Like your mom, I tend toward OCD (after N.'s recent bout in hospital I was home literally lining up things on his dresser, comb, keys, wallet in STRAIGHT LINES, so I can sympathize with your mom if you and doggies are in her home. I would NOT be kind! Just saying, that's a fact. My home, my rules. And I think you shouldn't have to live by her rules, so out you go. Where SHE GOES is up to her. You have your seperate lives and meet and enjoy where you can.

Speaking of meet and enjoy, I am heading to our DeYoung Museum next week to meet a friend and see the Lempicki exhibit. Will be the first time I have been there since I managed to knock down a perfectly nice doctor, aged 85. Or we knocked into one another and he was the one to go down. A bit nervous. Will be watching where I am going this time!

I am assuming that NO ONE here has heard from Need. I do not believe she would voluntarily leave us this long with no one here having an explanation; she was too devoted to this site. It makes me really sad not to know anything about this. Now RealyReal is off grid, too? But I think she does have a busy life other than us.

Bundle, you will be missed! I see you out there making another collection of one-liners for us, or hoping we will forget the others you did before. For me, that's a given, that forgetfulness thing.
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DoggieMom, that is so great for both you and your mom! Congratulations! Time to go enjoy a more carefree life!
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I had a long talk with my mother and she agreed that moving will be good for us. She can be closer to her sister, but I'm a senior living apartment (I think she's not cut out for living with someone else). My aunt has dogs, so she says she can like dogsit without ownership. I realized I'm more independent at 38 than 16 years ago. I think my mom would benefit from senior groups so she could help others by baking or having book groups.
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BOJ: Thanks for letting us know so we don’t worry.
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i’ll be taking a break from the website. i’ll return. huggggg.

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On my mind…

🥰 Meeting someone accidentally,
then having them become a huge part of your life.
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That’s just awful. I don’t blame you for wanting to get as far away as you can. Think how much free time she’ll have when she doesn’t have to spend it cleaning up after you….good grief. I’m sorry for you “and your little dog, too!”
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Not really to her it’s all helping me. My brother is super OCD and so is she. Anything that falls below their level of clean is less a slob. Being told you “stink” and having to clean a chair hurts. I have never repaid my family for helping me move even though I have offered money. At this point, I think my dogs deserve better to get away from the stress. All I’ll hear is how grateful I should be I have my mother alive.
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Ah, I see. I honestly don’t know what I would do in your situation either. If you know your DIL’s mother or a sibling it might be appropriate to mention you’re concerned about her health but that could also be construed as meddling. This is a hard one and may only get more difficult the longer it continues. I’m sorry you’re in this predicament.
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Nacy, that’s scary. Are you close? Would mentioning it to your son be appropriate or be seen as a betrayal? Are you concerned about anorexia or something else?
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Doggiemom, do you think your mom knows how awful she is to you? Not that that makes any difference to you, on the receiving end, I’m just curious.
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I can't wait to move to another state. My mom and I reached loggerheads today. I tried to show her some music from Wicked I liked. She said it has no rhyme and how could I like it. Okay, fine, we have different tastes. She has a chair in the room I sat in. Well, she told me I stink and spent two hours scrubbing the chair and the room. One of my dogs had a pee accident and she flipped and told me what a slob I am. I am done. Just done.
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I can still handle scary and suspenseful tv but I’ve given up on sad books. I just got surprised with one and had to stop reading as soon as the wonderful, loving, wise and sweet guy said his back hurt.
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Bundle, this is why I never watch scary, dark or even suspenseful content. I don't even watch something if I know it has an unhappy or vague ending (I usually force my sons to give me the "spoiler" so I can know). IMO life is stressful and sad enough so why would I put more of that into my head?? Now I watch what is called Kdrama (Korean dramas and romcoms) w/subtitles. They are mostly formulaic but usually have 16 episodes that are 1 hr long each. They are wholesome and engaging, equivalent to our "Hallmark" channel shows. I think many of the plots are a little more clever and I enjoy learning about aspects of Korean culture that are in each series. Plus there is lots and lots of content. I watch on Netflix and my Viki.com subscription. Hulu, AppleTV and Disney+ also have Korean content. ( My exception has been the Harry Potter movies, which are so well done.)
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i just watched a true crime movie. should NOT have done that. now i’m afraid to walk around in my own home; any creaky noise.

must go back to watching my usual innocent, feel-good rom coms. will watch one RIGHT AWAY.
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wishing us all good health!!
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Golden: Thank you; home health has been a godsend.
My goodness - that is difficult to wake up and then get back to sleep. Prayers for your sore throat to get better. Wrap up in a warm blanket.
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Llama - glad home care is going well.

Thank you. No, I don' t take any sleep meds. I usually wake up in the middle of the night for a few hours then go back to sleep. I am just feeling a sore throat and have been cold today, so maybe that made it worse.
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Update: Home health has been great with OT assessment (not needed), PT twice weekly and RN's. The RN assessed a tailbone pressure sore yesterday, which was really great in the fact that I didn't have to go to an urgent care clinic (I was doing everything right with the sore and it never ulcerated).
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Golden: I'll pray that you can wake up faster. Do you take any sleep medications?
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Gershun: Thank you!
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way - good luck with mil and the POA. making any progress?

We are in the "below freezing" weather now - hovering around OC (32F). I think fall is over.

nacy - I can relate to the "small town" thing. We had a lovely husky cross who was an escape artist. He could open the lobster claw clasp on his leash and did regularly to tour the neighbourhood. But he was a sweetie. Came home one day to find him in his enclosure nicely leashed with a note from the bylaw officer. "What a nice dog. Try to keep him in." Another time the bus stopped opposite the house and the driver came out with Mooch, hanging onto his collar and brought him to the door. "He's Dave's dog isn't he? " Dave is my middle son and was well known to the bus driver and well liked by everyone.

On my mind, I wish I could wake up faster. Some days it takes me hours before I am "with it". Until then I have to drink coffee and fake it. never had that problem earlier in my life.

Tuesday we have workers coming to install new condensate lines for the new high efficiency furnace we will eventually have to get. The furnace room in out on the balcony and, though small, also useful for extra storage. Next 10 lb bag of jumbo carrots goes there. Yes I will - they were great carrots, a great price, and have kept well.
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Happy Birthday to the November birthday people!
I know at least two, but I have temporarily lost track of the exact date.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY anyway,
in a sincere loving way!
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Happy B'day to your mom on the other side Llama!
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Today my mother would have been 105. Yes, she was a Halloween baby. Her mother was a 4th of July baby.
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9 kids, mostly older but everyone dressed up and polite. And just a brief shower to make things interesting.
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Nacy, that’s really sweet. It has to make you feel safe and connected to your community. Kind of Hallmark-y!

80 degrees! We’re in the 60s and rainy. I feel bad for the kiddies but I know a little rain wouldn’t have stopped me as a child.

I always buy Halloween candy twice; doubly dumb because we haven’t had a trick-or-treater in 25 years at either of our houses.
But I really love Junior Mints in the little 6 piece boxes. I couldn’t even find them this year.
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🥰 this is just a sweet quote for anyone going through grief.
my heart goes out to you.

"I wish Heaven had visiting hours."
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