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NobodyGetsIt: Thank you; I am.
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NeedHelpWithMom: Falling DOES hurt! Thank you so much. My smart DH told me to get an appt with another ENT. Was able to schedule for tomorrow.
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Glad,

Are you asking why we remained in New Orleans after Katrina or returned after the devastation of our city?

Many did relocate to our areas. It’s certainly understandable for those who did that.

Others though, our hearts are connected to this city. It is not an “anywhere USA” kind of place. It’s unique in many ways. Many people feel a European vibe when they experience the culture in our city.

Certain parts of New Orleans will never change and other parts are lost forever. I’m actually doing my family tree. Family ancestry is fascinating.

Would I ever leave the area? Not sure, yeah I think I would in the right circumstances.

I loved traveling to other places before being a caregiver to mom. Caregiving changes our lives. Traveling was very limited then. A weekend away here and there when I could find a sitter.

For now, Louisiana is home. I suppose it will always be home in my heart.

What about you? Did you grow up in Colorado? My daughter is loving Colorado. It is a beautiful state! We honeymooned in Colorado so it’s very dear to my heart. We flew into Denver, visited Vail, Estes Park, Colorado Springs, etc. It’s gorgeous there!
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"Llamalover47,"

Hope you are feeling better today!
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Delta is projected to land as a major storm.

It’s a cat 3 storm. God bless Lake Charles. I feel for them.

I just hate seeing them get hit back to back.
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Oh man, the poor Lake Charles residents are evacuating again! They are still dealing with the horrible destruction from hurricane Laura. Looks like Cameron parish will get slammed! So sad!!!

Looks like New Orleans will not get the brunt of this storm. We can live with rain! We deal with rain quite a bit. Flooding can be an issue with hard rains.

Thanks Glad, I appreciate your kindness.

We evacuated to Texas for Katrina. I was very fortunate. We got a hotel suite and I called a good friend of mine in Texas to meet for lunch. She insisted that we stay with her. She lives in a huge house with plenty of room.

Some people foolishly thought they could ride out the storm. Sadly, many died.

A major issue with Katrina were the levees breaking.

Mom’s house had NEVER flooded before during storms. I remember as a child the street getting water for hurricane Betsy but it did not enter our home.

For Katrina when the levee broke mom got nine feet of water. It was horrible. I have awful memories, just awful. The residents of New Orleans will never forget Katrina.
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Coyotes howling in the distance. They have been very active recently, hear them nightly.

DD1 OMG! She still sounds so terribly high maintenance. Almost feel like unfriending her on FB. She has 1,700 some friends and climbing. She wouldn't miss me. She always posts memes about what the ideal, perfect man is. Now she is switching committed one to one relationships every two to three months. One of those that cannot be without a man in her life? And doing a darn good job of scaring them off at the same time.

Reminds me so much of TS1!

Just strange she is so self-assured posts about her accomplishments all the time. Posts pictures of herself working out, etc. She is lucky she hasn't attracted a stalker yet.
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Stay safe NHWM. Hurricane again! Evacuations, again! That would get very old very fast!

Were you there for Katrina? Why did so many decide to stay after that devastation?
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Feel better, Llama! Good luck getting to the bottom of things. Falling hurts!
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Bridger: That is odd and must have shocked you.
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NobodyGetsIt: Thank you so much!
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Sorry about that "Llamalover47,"

I don't know all the lingo but, glad you didn't have the other TIA!!
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Polar: Thanks. He made my surgery ear bleed (2010 Tympanomastoidectomy) on Sept. 14. It just came to be a problem last night, but I'd had ever so slight not stable feeling, which I'd attributed to my gi issues.
NobodyGetsIt: Thanks. No, I did not have a Transient Ischemic Attack. I was thanking in advance the people who may post here (Thanks in advance=tia). God gave me too much on my plate.
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Llama - I hope the doc finds the cause of your dizziness and fix you up like new again.
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Dear "Llamalover47,"

I'm sorry to hear that you're not doing well - how scary that must have been for you! Are you saying you actually had a TIA?

I'll be praying for you and hope the ENT will find an answer to the dizziness. It's been a rough month for you.

Take care of yourself! Hugs to you -
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So, as well as having to completely amend my diet as some of you know, I had a really bad night and into today. Attempted to arise out of bed to use the bathroom, but was dizzy and fell on the floor. Hit my arm hard. DH drove me to Patient First and got xray, checked for U.T.I., blood work, EKG & got Meclazine. Now must see my ENT to investigate dizziness. Zero sleep last night. Pray for relief. Tia.
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Bridger,

We never know what lies ahead. I am sure that was a shock.

I often described my oldest brother as the prodigal son too. So, I understand you looking at your brother in that way.

Do you know what I see most of all? I see the unconditional love of your father, just like in the scripture of how the father was waiting for his son.

It was the brother who did not welcome him. Trust me when I say that I was just like that brother for quite some time! I had to learn to forgive.

Yes, I had a complicated relationship with my oldest brother too. He died in 2013.

Your dad is a special man. Mine was too. He died in 2002.

I get your mixed emotions about your brother, I felt the same about my brother. It is wonderful if your dad is happy about the reunion.

Ahhhh, life can be complicated, just like a soap opera! Geeeeeez, my family’s life reads like a soap too.

Every family has it’s stories. No one has a perfect family.

We’re here if you need to talk. I lived it too. The circumstances are different but the story is the same, an estranged son.

You and I, well we are like the brother who was always near their dad. Just remember that the brother had his issues too, like all humans do.

Anyway, I wish all of you the very best.
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My last message I left I told him Mom was dying. Maybe that got his attention. I don’t know what to think. He did leave his home and cell number. Gave me his address and his daughter’s phone numbers and address. More info than we’ve had in 50 years. Like a soap opera.
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Bridge - I agree, that is a SHOCKER. After more than 50 years, he wants to make contact. Maybe now that he's old and thinks about mortality, he wants to see his dad before too late. I'm now curious as to how his first visit will go. Please do share.
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Shock of all shocks —— my older brother called. Haven’t talked to him in over 50 years. He left at 18. He’s 70 or so. He lives about 250 miles from us. Dad wasn’t here when he called. He has a daughter that lives near him. He’s divorced. He said he might try to come visit in November. It’s been so long I don’t know how to feel. Angry because of him not contacting Mom and Dad. Just because he was a pissed off teenager. Dad wants him to come. I guess the prodigal son. I left 10 or 15 messages with an old girlfriend we knew who kept in touch with him occasionally. He said he was afraid my parents wouldn’t want to see him. Idiot.
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Ok, prayers for the safety of those in the path of the storm!
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Hoping that Hurricane Delta will not cause too much problems for us.

We will get dumped on with lots of rain and praying that the storm surge won’t be awful!

As usual, possible tornadoes due to the storm. We typically get some flooding with hard rain.

We aren’t in the direct path but not out of the woods yet.

Please keep New Orleans in your thoughts and prayers!

Thank you, AgingCare family.
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"Jenna,"

It still seems like your friend and daughter have taken advantage of your friendship especially when you said neither one of them have friends and you've given them things. You bought a gift for the daughter's child for crying out loud. I just have to shake my head at the whole thing.

They probably chase everyone away with their behaviors. You can't be their "everything" if they don't have other friends either.

I wouldn't waste my time walking on eggshells while you are trying to be a good caregiver. Not only is life is too short for all that but, you need your energy and strength to take care of your mom.

Probably the grief is triggering you as to how you will feel when you lose your mom since that seems to always be in the back of our minds.

I hope things start to get better for you soon - take care of you and mom!
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Jenna,

It’s her loss. Sounds like she doesn’t have many people in her life. She should have appreciated you more than she did. Her daughter sounds immature.

Sorry that you are struggling with this. In time it may be for the best. You were a ‘genuine’ friend. You know that so take comfort in that.

Unfortunately, silly misunderstandings occur. Sometimes they work themselves out, other times they don’t.
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Thanks all, I truly appreciate your insightful words and understanding. My long term friend's "real" best friend is her 30 year old daughter which I always understood and accepted. I came 2nd which I also get. That's not what bothers me.

It was the daughter gossiping to her mom (my friend) and instead of the daughter letting me know how she felt she had her mom do it for her (this is not the first time as it happened with my friend's sister). The daughter and the mom are both drama queens when I look for ways to simplify my life, not add drama.

I guess that's why I was so taken back when my friend told me (and not on the phone but through FB) that I was nasty to her daughter which I know I was not. Daughter definitely took my words out of context.

All over a stupid thing like a birthday present that I had bought for one of the daughter's kids. How petty is that?

I guess I didn't post that it's my choice to end this friendship because I'm tired of walking on eggshells with both of them. They are 100% co-dependent and my friend is 70 years old and not in the best of health. Both of them don't have any friends.

I'm just sad... Perhaps I'm more sad because this is like a death to me and I'm worried about how I will react when my Mom passes. So maybe there's a correlation there. I don't know, I'm not a shrink! :-)
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Sorry about your friend, Jenna.

Sounds like the daughter misunderstood something and translated incorrect information to her mom. But your friend should have wanted to hear your side of it. Not just bump you off like that. Perhaps she will realize what she did later and reach out to you.

Do what you feel you need to. As far as you having a bad day, haven’t we all had bad days before? She could be more understanding about that. Yes, people should consider what we have been through or are going through now in our lives.

Wishing you all the best.
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Jenna, I have lost a few friends over the years also. It always seems to happen when I have helped my friends over the years, was their for them, and then if I asked them ONE favor that I would PAY them to do (babysit my son at the time) they couldn’t do it. One friend I dropped completely, the other one I am still friends with.

We have been friends since 2nd grade. I bent over backwards for her over the years. I asked her to babysit my son for one evening and she said no. So a couple months later she asked me if I could take her to the doctors and I said no.

we were together so I can’t just end the friendship. But we don’t ask each other for favors anymore. I meant to say we WORK together so I can’t just end the friendship.

When I retire in 3 years, I probably will end the friendship with her.
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Jenna, I've broken up with two friends in my lifetime. I felt guilty about it for years. But then I grew older and wiser and rather than second guess my decision I felt a true feeling of how right I had been to do it.

I'm sorry you are grieving the loss of your friend but consider congratulating yourself for making a wise choice for you.
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JennaRose: Sending you hugs tonight.
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Oh Jenna, any excuse will work when people are looking for one. Please do not own their crap.

Sending some love and strength to you for all you do. May God bless you with a true friendship that will make you feel valued and loved and lifted up.

Great big warm hug lady!
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