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Anxiety,

Yes I survived . Rain was horrible , saw ALOT of accidents off to the side of the roads , police , tow trucks etc .

HUGE waste of time .
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I took care of my daughter and DH October of 2020 with Covid . I didn’t get it then . I got it spring of 2021 from the family I worked ( nannied ) for at the time because I could not keep any distance taking care of a 3 month old infant with it . The whole family got it , the 3 year old brought it home from preschool . At one point the two parents were upstairs in bed while I took care of both kids . The parents were very sick . I was able to function . I got it last and didn’t miss a day of work .
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I'm going to try my best to have a great week and celebrate myself!!! I'm going to make a trip to Starbucks soon!
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Not getting sick doesn't mean you are the carrier, Nacy.
It means you have a stronger immune system or were not exposed in the same way at the same time to the same virus.
None of this is really on you.
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Wow, cwillie. Is that because of the Candada USA thing? YIKES. I believe they are USA brand and wondering if a tariff on them??? Because mine were 30.00 at Target. Not even on sale and the most wonderful sort of navy blue-grey color that almost makes them look like well worn jeans. Could have gone with the tan. My target tee shirt, my favorite which is kind of a boxey overside short sleeve that is kind of short, below belt length--up from 6.00 in past to 8.00 now. Still a bargain though don't last forever with washing washing. Just about buy them in black by the dozen!
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Nacy,
Good for you and your fortune cookie is right.
If I get fortune cookie it will tell me; stop buying clothes woman.
Yes, I admit I am shopaholic. But I can quit cold turkey.
Really it is more about loving beautiful things as I see them.
The problem is we moved to condo and of course there is less space.
Nacy, so sorry about your uncle.
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So out of curiosity I looked up "wrangler women's cargo pants" (because I'm always on the lookout for comfortable, practical pants) and came up with a price of $69 C per pair. I don't think I can get close to your bargain prices Alva.
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I just went shopping Nacy. I NEVER EVER do. Went to Target and got two pairs of great "cargo" pants (lots of room for cellphone, ID, dog treats), two pairs of lightweight sweats, two tee shirts, all for 130.00 at Target. The one pair of cargos are made by Wrangler, my favorite for jeans. I am usually in blue jeans and tees at all times, and I feel just the fashion PLATE in my new pants. Told my daughter I was "all dressed up" and no place to go and she says "Meet you in Chicago for the weekend; deep dish pizza". Wow, my memories of our last trip there were tripped big time.
Had fun with that shopping trip. First time I enjoyed it (despite the fitting room lighting which should be banned in all 50 states).
My condolences on loss of your Uncle, my woman.
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Nacy: Condolences on the loss of your uncle.
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nacy - lots going on. Condolences on the passing of your uncle, glad your sis's hub is doing well, also glad your mom is ok and no more covid in the family so far.

hothouse - happy for you that that burden has been lifted. Time to relax a bit now?

way - thinking of you and your dh and your trip. Let us know how it goes.
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We closed on my parents’ house yesterday. A huge load off my back.
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Nacy, (((hugs))). Hope your mom gets through this. Take care of yourself.
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Anx, I think you should start a thread of your own, just about this. “My brother is an officer, and sick, but will have no communication with me, will not give up POA , won't get help for mom, and won't consider AL, or finding a way to pay me”. You didn’t sign on to his ‘army’. His only hold over you is your concern for M. For example, you could walk away, then report M to APS for inadequate care. Neither APS nor your brother can force you back to what you are doing now. With your own thread, you can tell what you have tried, and you can get other ideas about how to handle it all.

I find it quite hard to follow the mixture of so many people's issues on the 'general' threads, please separate your own issues out!
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Caregiving is hard enough when you are the one with all the authority, I can't imagine how much more difficult it must be when someone else has all the power and shoulders none of the responsibility.😞
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Nacy,
I am sorry. Seems like many families still choose men to be in charge. Not right at all, I am not anti men, just strong believer in women’s power and wisdom combined with compassion.
Hope you don’t get sick as well.
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Anx, I've accepted that you and spelling aren't a good mix, and read straight over them, but 'espogus' had me tossed!
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Looks like you figured it out Nacy.
Good work!

I still have the automatic thermometer that you just point at the forehead.
My chiropractor used this to admit clients for treatment. If they had a fever, they were sent home.


That was way back in 2020, early on.

As far as isolation, I have always been isolated more than the average senior.
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Nacy,
Sorry that so much is going on around you, and your Mom is ill.
I may not post directly to you, but that does not mean I don't care, and I do read your posts. That part has to do with me and my boundaries.

Maybe you could take your Mom's words this time at face value: She doesn't want you exposed more by coming over. That sounds reasonable. But I do get it, I think.
You have been able to survive by interpreting your Mom's words all these years.

Maybe review the protocols from the past that you followed and that kept you safe from illness. I know I am going to, then reconsider how to keep safe. That's enough to do without worrying about what others are doing.

Did anyone get ill after the party on 9/21? Was anyone there ill that you might have noticed? (Coughing, fever, left the party early?) Sometimes, with enough information, we can figure these things out. There is a real difference between worry and information, imo.

What does "taking care of yourself" mean to you? It is such a general term, often used.

Feel better, stay calm, not to panic, not today.
Have a better day, from this moment on.
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Nacy, GOOD.
There are folks here to intervene if needed.
If she doesn't wish to go to ER anymore she shouldn't have to.
You can't be responsible for everything here. Let it go.
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nacy - hush, girl, You can't fix everything. I'm glad you are staying out of it. You obviously care for your mom's wellbeing and already do a lot for her. Like you say, you are not POA and it's POA's job to make that call.
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Anxietynacy,

You can’t blame yourself , with the “ should haves”.

Your mother said she wanted to wait until her doctor appt . That was her decision .
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Well we can at least keep reading your posts on the public threads for now Send. Keep them coming.
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Gershun,
Felt something was wrong. Thanks for telling me!

I get logged out, but I didn't do it.

My posts are deleted.

The problem was the accessibilty widget (little blue man). And my computer was talking to me!

Now, I don't know what is wrong.

Thank you for writing to the admins on my behalf.

This morning (about 9:00 a.m.) on here, I saw posts being deleted.
The Admins have a big job moderating the new posters who have malicious intent and are attempting mayhem.

I think there is an issue with an over-sensitive spam filter.
I think the admins and tech know what they are doing.

I will be back, and keep trying.

I miss all my friends.

Thanks Gershun!
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Nacy: My PCP just gave me the Monovalent. Prayers for your mother.
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Hey Send,

Hope you see this.

Good you are back! I got your PM but still can't send you any PM's back.
Not sure if you are aware of this or not. I sent admin.
a message about this.

It's not an issue with my account. It's still an issue with yours.

Hope things are well. Have missed you.
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TX ,

I agree with Golden . FIL fires the staff , it’s now your husband’s problem to have a moment with his Dad , to tell him that you will not be available to help any longer .

Stop stepping in and being the solution .
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TX - your house, your rules. You do not have to take over from the fired staff. Sounds like a meeting between your hub and his dad is needed. Fil needs that extra help. Who is going to do the shopping, cooking and giving of rides? Make sure it is not you. Does fil have any dementia?

Eva - that info was from Alva not me. I must check if the flu and covid vaccines are here. I missed last year's covid.
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TX think carefully about what the ‘housekeepers won’t do’, so that it DOESN’T ‘fall on you again’. For example, what are you going to do if the housekeepers AREN’T ‘licensed and bonded’. Will FIL let you sack them?

I can’t remember if FIL is in your house. If he is, you call the shots. If he’s not, he makes the decisions, not you, whether you think it’s safe or not. You may need to accept that this is a situation where things have to get worse and fall over before they will change. Sometimes propping them up means that they finally fall on you.
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Nacy,
I hope you will be OK and of course your Mom.
Good reminder to get masks, I wear them during flu seasons which is soon.
Golden,
I think only Moderna is available.
Thank you for letting us know about tests available
I did not know they do flu shot already.
I get sick after shots, for at least 24 hrs, they say it is normal.
Hubby had none of those symptoms.
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Nacy- I hope you're spared. It recently hit my home, and every single one of us got it except for my FIL who lives downstairs. How he escaped it is a miracle, but I'll take it!

My FIL let his caregivers go yesterday. We had 2 wonderful ladies that each came 1 afternoon a week to do laundry, light housekeeping, errands and cook with him. He decided he does not "need all that" and can suffice with just hiring a housekeeper. Husband and I had a deep discussion with him, letting him know the caregivers were licensed, bonded and trained in handling biohazard waste (he's on chemo and has incontinence). Housekeepers may or may not be licensed and bonded, and many that I tried earlier this year declined our home because of his chemotherapy status. Its too risky. But somehow, he found one willing. I had to cancel my volunteer hours at my kids' school tomorrow so that i can be sure to be home when his new hired housekeeper arrives to make sure she is licensed and bonded, and aware that he is on chemo ( I don't trust he told her). I'm beside myself. The caregivers were amazing. They were so so good to him. I know that housekeepers won't do the shopping, or cooking with him, or give him rides. This will fall on me again. My husband and I are in the busy stage of life, with 3 kids in four sports. We are gone most of every day, and almost every week night til 9ish, and most weekends for tournaments and games. I had peace of mind knowing the caregiving company had him covered two days a week. Now I feel hopeless and unheard.
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