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Gershun I also find Oprah unpleasant. I am in the Baltimore area and remember her from "way back" . And the fact that she bought WW and is now the queen of the lifestyle is hysterical to me. I mean I know she is trying,, but it is off putting to many.
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The saying Power Corrupts is evident in all of those TV "experts", any good they might have done early on has been more than overshadowed by the absolute crap they keep trying to feed us in the name of ratings. IMO you can't excuse them because they have taught you something, we learned things from Jerry Springer, Montel et al too but nobody ever pretended they were setting some kind of example.
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Dr. Phil is one rich Dr. as is Dr. Oz and those Dr's on that other t.v. show called the doctors. I wonder if any of them remember why they decided to become dr.'s in the first place. I wonder if Oprah gets a portion of each of their incomes for having put most of them on t.v.

This may be an unpopular viewpoint but I don't care for her either. I think she fancies herself as some kind of God and people are too easily influenced by her and what she promotes.
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Honestly, Dr. Phil is one step away from Maury and Jerry Springer. Not watching it. Don’t like his style at all. It’s tabloid television. I don’t read tabloids, nor do I watch them on television. They are going for shock value. It’s all about the drama.

It doesn’t matter to me if he makes some valid points. I am not going to sit through the rest of the crap to hear him say one or two good things.

Same with reality television shows. They are scripted! It’s amazing how many people think they are real.

To each his own, though.
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I think these shows are present-day freak shows. I agree that at least they've had some valid concepts and advice added to them nowadays, so that there is something useful to be learned for those who will take it; but their main function - and their main earning potential - is as spectator sport.

We recently had a suicide associated with a similar product. The Greatandgood were quick to blame the show's producers, the show was pulled and the presenter ate a lot of humble pie but honestly? - there are always plenty more where that one came from when something like this happens.

Meanwhile - how do you make yourself do a one to two hour desk job that you can't face but have to hand in tomorrow?
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I do agree that Dr. Phil makes some real valid points. For instance "when you argue in front of kids you change who they become" I just think he has become greedy and sold out. He probably was a pretty good Dr. His wife makes me cringe though.
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Dr Phil does use people's stories with a component of entertainment (that pays the bills) but also with a component of education. When his book Rules for Real Life came out the shows he did on how to recognize toxic people and get them out of your life were very practical and useful to a lot of people. I recommend the book. I have also found his calls to leave children out of divorce disputes and allow them to _be_ children and make sure you tell the kids they did not cause the divorce extremely useful when my nephew and his first wife were going through their divorce and I had daily child care dropped in my lap.

Personally I have found some of the shows on child neglect by drug addicted parents useful. To see the video of the couple's apartment with drugs and needles in their children's bedroom and no eatable food and then hear the parents describe themselves as "wonderful" parents and deny their children had been dumpster diving in the apartment's complex dumpsters where neighbors photographed the children were eye opening to say the least. We have a similar problem in our extended family and it really made me see that until a person is at least able to admit there is a problem, there's just no way to ever correct the problem or trust them with their child.

I think many of the shows can give you a peek into real life problems you would not otherwise be able to gain. My father told me books are a way to learn from someone else's experience. I believe several of Dr Phil's shows are a way to learn from someone else's experience too.

I cannot watch the shows much anymore, I really don't like the arguing with Dr Phil as a referee much. But I do check the episode description and occasionally watch a couple. I usually learn something too. It may not be something I really wanted to learn, but occasionally it is something I really needed to learn.
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And you are right NHWM. Back when we were in school the worst thing to worry about was getting into a fight where now-a-days kids brings gun to school. It is a different world. I think people today are under a lot more pressure to make ends meat and the kids really are left on their own with little knowledge and manners because they just aren't being taught the way we were. If that makes sense.

Dr. Phil was once license and now his license is stamped with "retired". I really don't care for him much anymore either. I was just suggesting his book that he wrote about 6 to 7 yrs ago (maybe longer) because it is really a good book and very true for today's world.

I am just sorry about your friend and that she just can't see the writing on the wall. She sounds like she has a big heart!

I do think we should be more cautious. We have had a lot of break-ins in my city. H3ll people are stealing stuff right out of your back yard! We replace our 5ft fence with a 6ft fence and made it were you can't get in the back yard unless to go through the house to unlock the gate!

I am not sure if my mother sees my brother for what he really is or if she just goes along with me because I can help her with this house, bills, and over see her healthcare. But it really doesn't matter because I really can't stand my brother. But that my friend is a whole different story!


Gershun, I use to watch Dr. Phil, but I stop watching him because it seemed like he shove his new app, new book and Robin's new stuff down peoples throats. Like Robin clams her new skin care line can make you look younger, but she has had plastic surgery, which tells me that "she doesn't even believe in her own products!" But Dr. Phil's book "Life Code" was written before he became so fake! Just don't buy the audio book then you won't have to hear him...LOL!

I have read a few of his other books and in my opinion they weren't that great. With one of his books, I read half of it and I return it to get my money back!!

And your right--it is all good!😊 I was just making a suggestion:)

I do hope things are getting better for you.
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I'm not a big fan of Dr. Phil either. I think he exploits people. Uses their stories for entertainment purposes which is kind of tacky in my opinion. But I could maybe read him..........as long as I don't have to look at him or listen to him or his wife. LOL

But to each his/her own Shell. No problem. :)
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Shell,

Maybe cynical isn’t totally accurate but I am definitely more cautious than I used to be. Just the car jacking that goes on around town is unnerving. We have to constantly be aware of our surroundings.

It’s a messy situation with my friend. My friend is a bit naive. She is overly trusting to a fault. I will meet her for lunch or coffee. I stopped visiting her at her house since a meth user lives with her with her granddaughter. The granddaughter stopped using because she got pregnant. So, she, the boyfriend and the baby live with her. Her granddaughter claims to love the guy. I would not want him around my child. Her son is just over a year old.

When I asked her why is he living there she replied, “No one else will let him live with them. Everyone asked him to leave their home. His parents threw him out.” I looked at her at said, “Gee, I wonder why they don’t want him around! He uses Meth!” His mom and dad are divorced. He can’t stay with either of them. His dad is a prominent attorney here. My friend said that his grandmother warned her not to allow them to move in. She refused him living with her too.

She keeps saying that he will change. He leaves rehab every time he signs up to go. Meth really is a horrible drug that is tough to beat. They get nuts too! This guy fired a gun in his mom’s house and that is why she threw him out!

So, no one I know will visit her at her house any longer as long as he is living there.

Not a fan of Dr. Phil. He sensationalizes everything and I don’t like the majority of his advice. He’s not a licensed doctor. He comes off as a ‘know it all’ to me.

So, I don’t know if I would enjoy anything he wrote. Maybe his writing style is different than his television personality.

Sorry that your brother got caught up with using that drug. It’s a tough drug to deal with. I am glad that your mom sees the situation for what is is. I hope my friend doesn’t ever get hurt by this guy, or any of them, her granddaughter and her great grandson.

Yeah, things have always been bad but it’s a different world. When I was in school the worst thing that happened was two girls got in trouble for smoking cigarettes in the bathroom. Today, people bring guns into schools and shoot people. We didn’t deal with being in fear of being shot in school or a store like these Walmart shootings! Crazy!

Crime has increased so much in New Orleans. I used to take the public bus to downtown or the streetcar to go uptown here in New Orleans at 12 years old, shop, see a movie, eat lunch with my friends. It was perfectly safe then to do so. You could never let a kid do that now.
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Gershun and NHWM,

Either one of you need to become cynical. No you can't trust people the way you once did and yes horrible things are going on in the world today. I really think people are just as bad today as they always have been...ok, maybe they are worst, but really what is going on in the world is really nothing new, we just hear more about it in today's world. May I suggest reading a book called "Life Code" by Dr. Phil. Even if you don't like him. This book has the *New Rules* for living in this new world. It truly is a great book and a easy read!



NHWM,
It is sad when we see our friends and family putting themselves endanger unknowingly. Have you thought that maybe your friend is scared of this guy...meth is the worst drug of all the drugs...it makes people crazy and mean--at least that has been my experience!

I never couldn't figure out why my mother just starting giving in to my brother and letting him steal stuff out of her house, then one day I got to see a side of him that I never saw and when I told her she said, "yup, that sounds like him" and she went on to say that "he gets scary" and then I knew...she was scared of him. Now, she has told me that she is scared of him. I think he has hit her, but I don't really know that for sure! He is a meth-head! Ugh


On another note, on my mind...my brother tried to break-in my house and the cops couldn't do anything because he didn't break-in and take anything. He tried to use his keys which don't work anymore because the locks have been change!!! I am sure he will try some thing else. I have caught him lurking around the outside of the house at night in the pass. He really believes that he has a right to come into our childhood home and take whatever he wants!!! Ugh
My mother doesn't even want to talk or see him anymore...I guess she has had enough of the monster. He does upset and stress her out and then he leaves and I have to deal with the aftermath! Yikes...Ouch!!! He doesn't believe she has dementia...he thinks we are lying...as if, I could make-up the crazy things she does and really, why would I lie about that?
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Gershun,

I feel the same way. I find myself becoming cynical too. I am a little upset with someone that I know right now. She is too trusting. She allowed her granddaughter to move into her home with her boyfriend that uses drugs, (meth). Scares me to death for her but I am tired of telling her that she shouldn’t have him living there. He steals from her. He doesn’t work. Most of all, I don’t want her to get hurt. Meth is a different kind of drug. Not that I condone any drugs but some are worse than others.
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My hubs is away again for three weeks as of today. The first few days are nice but then I start to climb the walls a bit.

As for crime. Yes, it's getting to be so you can't feel safe anywhere. Then there is what's going on in Australia and Iran right now. I look twice at people now cause ya never know. I've always been a trusting sort of person and like to give people the benefit of the doubt but that is starting to slowly change. It's sad. I don't want to be a cynical person.
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Geeeez,

Yeah, crime is bad in New Orleans but I am so sick of hearing about the crap that happens. People are heartless!

Watching the news...A person shot and killed in Walmart. Another person was injured. Glad that I don’t live anywhere near that Walmart. Don’t shop there. Feel awful for the employees.

My gosh. So sad. Cameras are now in church parking lots because of the car break ins while people are in church! 17 cars broken into over the weekend! Horrible...Can’t even pray without crimes being committed. Grrrr
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TN,

It’s true. We are used to our routine. Hubby travels. I’m used to it. Sometimes I like the solitude but there are times I miss him and want him home.

He’s in Vegas at the big tech conference.

We have been married for 41 years!
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Isn't it amazing how quiet and empty the house can feel when we are missing someone? My 5 year old grand-nephew visits Mom and I at least a couple of times most days. Friday night he "slept over" with one of his friends so they could play together all day Saturday. I must admit I enjoyed a Saturday morning where I knew I could clean out the fridge without a small partner asking me what I'm doing and why I'm doing it. By late Saturday afternoon, even though I was enjoying the NFL playoffs, I missed not seeing the little guy and it hadn't even been a whole day yet!
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Hubby out of town for work. He will be gone all week. Boo hoo. I miss him.
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I love spring too! I was married in the spring.
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Just thinking and dreaming of Springtime.
Spring is right around the corner.
Planning crops, and ordered more bees. I can't wait for Spring. Flowers, birds and butterfly migration, planting and harvesting.
Maybe I will hatch some baby chicks. (I love baby chicks :) )

It will be here before we know it. :)
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I saw that Send, but what I'm thinking of is an episode where they detailed a UC Davis study and several of the participants. I think I remember that the participants had been part of a study of some kind for the previous decade or longer and it offered a unique opportunity for the researchers because of all the accumulated data.
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Cwillie,
Is this close?
60 Minutes
CBS This Morning
Morning Rounds
Decade of Decline
https://www.cbsnews.com/video/60-minutes-report-traces-progression-of-alzheimers-for-10-years/

They followed the patient and her husband for 10 years.
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Techie I had already read that there are many more people with plaques and tangles than there are with ALZ, this was made abundantly clear in the UC Davis Alzheimer's study featured by 60 minutes (funny I can't find a link to it, but it must have been almost a decade ago?). This is one of the reasons it irritates me that social and political attention is so focused on ALZ rather than "dementia", it think it will likely be discovered that alzheimer's is not necessarily what we think it is - we already distinguish between early onset and other forms - and that the less well known dementias and their risk factors play a greater role than we currently give to them.
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Interesting article on ALZ...
https://www.cnn.com/2020/01/03/opinions/diagnosing-treating-alzheimers-opinion-devi/index.html
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Here in Vancouver people steal the copper inscription off of headstones so they can sell it. Pretty pathetic.
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Send...I guess the grave robber needed the holly I left in the coffee can more too,because I just drove by there and it's gone too and I guess my Uncle didn't tell me that to protect my heart.
There were wreaths and fresh little Christmas trees on other graves,I saw today,but for some reason,they stole ours.
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Lucky, that is just awful! I really cannot believe that are lowlifes out there that will steal wreathes and flowers from the dead! So far nothing we’ve left at my MILs grave has been stolen. I must admit I was a little taken back when I went out there one day and my SIL had left a nice vase (my husband for some reason chose NOT to include the vase option on the headstone) and she had taped a note to the back of it saying it belongs to MIL and should not be taken or thrown away. Now I see why she did that and I put the same note when I leave a vase.

Unrelated.....on New Year’s Day the local news stringer posted video footage he shot of the CHP out with a drunk driver at around 4 in the afternoon. It was a homecaregiver still in her scrubs who said she had had a few drinks. I can’t help but wonder...considering the timing....was she drinking on the job? She looked younger, maybe late 20s early 30s and this sadly isn’t her first DUI.
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Lucky

That is just sad. I just don't understand people that can do these type of things!!!
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CWillie,
Nonenol article....I read that too.
Moisturize, moisturize, moisturize in 2020!

Aren't candles, scent diffusers, and perfumes just what the elderly love to cover up odors? I blame those products, once the scent is in the home, they are going to expire, get old, deteriorate. So I do not spray scents around the home.

Luckylu,
Your Uncle's attitude about the theft is admirable when he says:
"They must have needed it more".
I am going to copy that!
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I've tried lots of cleaners and candles and scent diffusers but whenever I return home after I've been away I still get that first whiff of old people smell, and mom's been gone long enough now that I can no longer blame her. While searching online I found and reread the AgingCare article on nonenol which states that it begins to show up when we are in our 40's... so it's me then, sigh.
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Me too NHWM, Thanks~
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