Countrymouse Posted November 2018
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Replacing the much lamented 'On My Mind' profile option, this thread is for musings, jottings, whimsies, preoccupations and the rest of the thesaurus for anyone to jot down anything they please.
I can't remember what the maximum character count was before, can anyone else? But anyway it wasn't very many so let's keep to that.
Her in law family is huge and they mostly reside there. Her mother in law has been in treatment for cancer for 9 months now. I know they will provide help . I just have to not go to the place in my head where if it got worse how would I see those 3 grandchildren. I am just still trying to absorb the shock of the news. She has met with 2 different surgical practices as well as an oncologist so I believe this will be best as they are all in agreement as to how to proceed.
Again thank you for your very kind wishes.
My first very aggressive cancer hit me at age 47. I had mastectomy and adjuvant chemo for 6 months. The cancer at the time had already spread to my lymph nodes (in fact how it was FOUND) and was in two nodes. I did not have any problems after that for THIRTY SIX YEARS. I have had now another cancer in the other breast at age 81, last Feb. I have chosen now at this old age to treat conservatively with removal of the lump and watching the breast, no chemo and no radiation. Just had my 6 month followup. All looks great so far.
You lovely daughter can do this. It is much more terrifying when you have youngsters, for all involved. It's gonna be one crazy year but it will pass. I send you and her the very best of wishes and goodluck.
Prayers for you all. It's a very difficult time for a family. My heart goes out to you. Try to keep up a normal routine. It is best for you keep somewhat active and live as normal as you can. From what I have read the prognosis for stage 0 is excellent. ((((hugs)))) and prayers
I will keep her and your entire family in my prayers.
She has 3 children (11,9 and 2 year old). It is often said that one would prefer to have an affliction on themselves rather than our children.
Just have to find courage to get myself together every day and not spend the day in bed.
Great news!
As my realtor said few months ago once it is signed it is pretty much done deal!
Don’t worry about house inspection.
If it goes well the possession date is Oct 7th. I so appreciate prayers for all to work out smoothly.
I know God has a plan - I hope this is it! lol 😊
It is such a blessing that they will take the furniture. I have offered to my cleaner, who has done other jobs for me for nothing, to take anything she wants. She already has a white wicker chair and stool, and wants the carved wooden chest my mother brought up from Haiti. She is more than welcome to it. She has been so good to me. I have to do something to thank the lady next door for looking after my plants so well. The white violet, white anthurium and pink anthurium and blooming nicely and the ivy and others are thriving. She has been very good to me too. So grateful for kind, helpful people.
It will go well.
Selling, giving away furniture was the worse!
So great they take your furniture.
Hope all goes well.
Once people give good deposit, there is very little chance of sale not happening.
Keep us updated.
We were planning to go up about Sept 15 to get rid of the furniture and take the plants and pics. They want possession Oct 15. It would be great to not have to deal with the furniture and have the house sold before the winter.
Prayers would be greatly appreciated. 😊
The prospect of a rabies outbreak should terrify everyone. There is no cure. None.
I put great pressure on someone to get their infant vaccinated with measle vaccine and more. The baby's mother didn't believe in vaccines.
Re measles, the statistics are pretty telling when you compare the death or health problems of unvaccinated babies with those who are vaccinated.
Here is Hello Karma. For those waiting for me, I'm on my way. Have been held up with bad weather (this is not an excuse; there really has been bad weather for thousands of years). Just wait and see. Bad people will be punished. Many caregivers are abused, taken advantage of, exploited. Especially women. Women tend to be more exploitable. If you're a woman, be careful: act in your best interests.
(If it would be too obvious I exist, bad people would pretend to be little angels). I haven't been on AC for a long time. Sometimes I take a look. Has it ever happened to you, someone clicks "like" on a post you wrote years ago, and then all the memories come back how you were doing at the time? Some of us are in the same place we were years ago. Some of us radically changed since then.
Anyway I just want you to know, karma is watching. The list is long. It'll take me a while.
Sincerely yours,
Karma
Thanks for that song.
I did not recognize it by the title, or the artists, or the lyrics.
Listening, yes, I have heard it before.
Nice.
Wistful tears.
The first verse:
Every generation
Blames the one before
And all of their frustrations
Come beating on your door
A beautiful song actually.
Llama, I hope you and your husband’s health situation is improving.
My father in law was another selfish manipulator .
The only one of our 4 parents that wasn’t at all like that was my Dad .
Sometimes the caregiver is the one trying to resist being controlled by the narcissists .
No one here misses the absence of dates on posts?
Because "times are changing" "things are changing" and "we can't stop it"?
It is not important? Have you ever entered to search for an update on "fire" or "earthquake" news, and found you have been reading about an earthquake two years ago? (The date is important.)
Mind control (also known as brainwashing, coercive persuasion or thought control) refers to the way some people have tried to control the beliefs and behaviours of others (of any age, any generation).
It is a process where a group or individual uses methods to persuade others to change their basic beliefs and values. A group or individual may use unethical methods to persuade others to believe and do what the manipulator(s) want. It often harms the person being manipulated.
The term has been applied to any tactic, psychological or otherwise, which undermines (damages) an individual's control over their own thinking, behaviour, emotions or decision making.
Theories of brainwashing and of mind control were originally developed to explain how totalitarian regimes appeared to succeed systematically in indoctrinating prisoners of war through propaganda and torture techniques.
Control of what day/time it is; what & when you eat, and a whole long list of mind control techniques are more successful if you cannot tell the time, read a calendar, know what day it is, know where you are, etc.
Have you ever heard of prisoners scratching the walls with the number of days gone by? Why do you think they would do that?
I get it, I get what you are saying about the older generation complaining about the younger generation. And if any of us come under the control of a narcissist, we need to fight their attempts at control over us.
When caregivers are done listening, we need to walk away.
Are you sure you haven’t visited my MIL lately ?
I’m tired of her complaining about my kids generation to us . I tell her times have changed , then she always says “ Well I don’t like it “. I normally say ,” well we can’t stop it .”
Next time she says it , I’m telling her “ Nobody asked you “. I’ve tried being nice but I’m done listening to it , and my tongue bleeding .