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Glad: So good to see you posting! Congratulations on the sale of your house. 💜
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Good to see you glad.

Happy for you that you are closer to your kids, the house sold and you are doing better.
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gladimhere,

Hello !
Glad to hear from you , I do remember you posting here , I was new here then .
Sorry to hear about your troubles .

I understand getting discouraged over the move . My DH and I have been looking for a home with a first floor master bed and bath for quite some time now that would not break the bank . They are in demand causing the prices to be crazy . Many folks near me are selling their larger houses and looking to move to a more suitable house for aging .

We are actually in an area where young people are moving to. I could sell my house tomorrow but would have nowhere to go unless I wanted to buy something really run down and have to gut it . Anytime a house in good condition with first floor master goes on the market it’s multiple bids , ridiculously high prices and sells in a day . I’m only willing to go so high in purchase price . I refuse to pay much more than a house is worth .

DH and I have pretty much given up . Decided we may have to wait until we retire in a few years and expand our search to other areas closer to our kids perhaps , although it’s expensive . For now DH has a commute to work . If needed we could stay , make changes to our bathroom and put a stair lift in at some point I guess .

I hope you are happy to be near your kids !! Moving is a lot . I hope things continue to get better for you .
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Hello all, whoever may still be here. I have been in withdrawal from this site for more than a year now. I was so discouraged and depressed, withdrawing from everything, my house was not selling, it finally did in November after one year and nine months! I moved much closer to my kiddos and it has taken awhile to get acclimated to a larger population and much busier city. Still have unpacking and organizing to do it is just alot!

Was thinking of you all, and just thought I would pop in and say hello to all that know me and even those that don't.
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You're welcome @Anxietynacy.
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@Anxietynacy we are never promised tomorrow. You never know when you or your husbands health will take a turn for the worse.

I tell my parents to take as many trips and weekend getaways now as possible while they are still healthy and can enjoy them because their health could change seemingly overnight.

This time last year my sister had no idea that she would be dead from leukemia. She thought she had all the time in the world, she didn't. That's how fast things can change for all of us because we never know what illness or disease is lurking in our own bodies.

My mother's friends husband went to work on the computer after dinner and when she went to see why he hadn't come to bed yet she should him dead from a heart attack. This after he seemed perfectly fine.

Take that trip with your DH and enjoy it fully. You and your DH deserve some R&R and deserve to be happy.
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Anxiety ,

Let POA brother know you will be away and NOT AVAILABLE for those days .

Don’t feel bad about it .

One time I went away to visit my kid up at college for the weekend . My sister ( who rarely did anything ) called me to come back home because Mom was in the hospital with an ischemic bowel event again for the second time . I said “ No , the hospital will take care of her “. My sister was not happy that I would not come home because my mother would not let staff help her toileting and had my sister doing it , which is what I had done in the previous time . The first time was worse and Mom was scared. I told sister to tell Mom to use her call bell and go home .

After that , when her third ischemic bowel incident happened ( bloody stools ) , I decided I no longer would spend all day at the hospital , or do any hands on care ever . Mom had to get used to being cared for by the staff . I told my mother she had staff to help her . I rang her call bell and left when the staff came in to clean her up .

Let your brother figure out how to get Mom’s needs met.
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I met my hwp in 2019, He said he was diagnosed with PD in 2010
I was in love! I married my hwp on April fool's Day 2021! He was 72 and I was 64!
I did a lot of research on PD and new or thought I knew what I was signing up for!
His PD was there but it was very hard to tell. We did a 6-week cross country road trip honeymoon! It was amazing!
I retired in August 2021 so we could spend more time together!
We have done a lot of traveling by air (Hawaii twice )and by car.
We survived COVID together! We rode bike and trike for awhile and we were very active!
Our life has been really really good! We are now Snowbirds from Oregon to Arizona in the winter. I worry that traveling will get more difficult. We used to drive but now he flies with a relative and I drive the car.
Now 5 years later, things are very different to say the least. I just never know who I'm going to encounter from day to day!
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I suspect your cats are higher functioning than your DH's friend?
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Stay cool Send. But I think they need to make water parks specifically for older people... picture wading pools, splash pads and gentle wave pools populated with grey haired folks in wheelchairs and using walkers!
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@ 115 degrees outdoors,
what better time is there than to be inside
with your computer
in the air-conditioned space you call home?

There will be caregivers needing support
Have a nice break
and then come back
You all are needed here!

Remembering Countrymouse who started this thread! Where ya been?

My computer broke, so I will check in when I am able, but not leaving.

Love from Sendhelp
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I'll also take a break 🫖.
Time to finish some library books & have some digital detox 📚🌳❤️
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taking a break from the forum. i’ll return.

🙂🙂🌸🌸🍀🍀
bundle of joy
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THank's @way.
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Alva is on her month off from the Forum .
Visiting with her daughter .

Idk about Need .
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Where's Alva? I hope she's OK. Also haven't seen Need post in a while either. I hope she's OK too.
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Ahhh, Way, I hope it helps. Asthma is no fun!
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Golden ,

I’m hoping to get allergy shots to help control the asthma that is being triggered .
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I wouldn't say our health care is broken. Mother had great care at no cost to any of us. but we do have a grave shortage of doctors in Northern Alberta at this time.

It concerns me that they are so rushed at that clinic. Seems to me more mistakes could be made. But they do seem very competent. They took my blood pressure height, weight and blood sugar right off the bat, Never had my blood sugar taken in a doctor's office before. I think it is a good idea.

Way I quit bothering with tests. I did the skin allergy test years ago but they didn't reveal my allergy to dairy or gluten - just some pollen and molds. It was not that useful.
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There are delays in the states too . Some areas worse than others .

Im on a 6-9 month waiting list for skin scratch allergy tests so I can get allergy shots , I already know I’m pretty much allergic to air at this point .
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Proud Canadian, yes!!!! 🍁
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Nacy -could be a good opportunity.

Well, I finally made it to a doctor here. His receptionists/nurses were kind, and caring and professional. The doctor was OK - careful, and straightforward. I am good with him. But there are two problems. The clinic is in E'ton and there is much road construction in the area. I went in a circle till I found them. And the other thing is that they are a walk-in clinic so everyone and their dog was there, crying baby, snuffling, coughing people. Not so good. The construction will pass eventually, but the walk-in nature will not. And they are rushed off their feet with too much work as there aren't enough drs here.

But these days there isn't much to choose from. There is a dr closer to me and I will try him in a while. His office is on the edge of E'ton only 20 mins away and seemingly not so busy. It might work!
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Anxiety ,

An ER trip that results to a hospital admission is your chance to pass the baton to POA as it should be .
Do not bring Mom home . Let POA figure out where Mom goes . Tell POA Mom needs to be placed , you are done .
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A hug from me, venting.
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This trip seemed doomed from the start, we had originally booked with the airline that went bankrupt this spring (Lynx?) after that it was either West Jet or even pricier Air Canada...flying in this country is insane. At least we were able to cancel almost everything so shouldn't be out too much money.
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CWillie,

Stupid West Jet!

My hubs works for an airline. Not West Jet. But he shared office space with a lot of West Jet employees. Not much nice to say about their work culture there.

Sorry you had to cancel your trip.
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cwillie - Crud!

Seems so many friends struggled through the latter half of June. Overwhelmed, frustrated and sad.

Today is a holiday in my country and we enjoyed the afternoon outdoors with my best friend and her daughter. Lunch and a swim. I also made pie. We chatted, laughed and decompressed. Much needed.

I hope things improve for all of you.
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Well I am home again, no trip for me ✈️😞
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Fresh fruit does not seem to be sweet this year ,
I should stick to Oreos , no surprises . They always taste the same.
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Thanks for your words Anxietynacy!
Thanks for your enormous hug Way!
And thanks to everyone else also for your support!
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