Countrymouse Posted November 2018
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Replacing the much lamented 'On My Mind' profile option, this thread is for musings, jottings, whimsies, preoccupations and the rest of the thesaurus for anyone to jot down anything they please.
I can't remember what the maximum character count was before, can anyone else? But anyway it wasn't very many so let's keep to that.
You are correct. My husband had three polyps removed and none of his were bleeding.
I've never had one. I do that poo sample thing and so far it's been clear. I've always wondered how that replaces a colonoscopy though cause even if your fecal sample shows no blood that doesn't necessarily mean you have no polyps right?
Lol. True story ….I bought my current car during Covid , a 3 year old used car that had 4,000 miles on it . Best buy ever .
Exactly , the stubbornness to not change a few ways they do things , like you said the laundry etc . No grab rails because “ they are ugly “ . Not using a walker even after multiple falls and multiple trips via EMS to the ER and Scans because she’s on blood thinners .
My grandma was so sweet too. We were lucky to have them in our lives. They were sweet when they were young and remained sweet.
I find that if a person was always mean then they remain mean as old people.It’s sad.
She’s going to be a handful. You’re handling it the best way.
You can’t reason or negotiate with her. It’s a safety concern. Of course, she won’t see it that way. You’ll be the bad guy.
I was fortunate that when the doctor told my parents that they couldn’t drive anymore they didn’t argue about it.
I have friends who had to take the keys away from their parents and it became an extremely stressful situation.
Your MIL can’t get around anymore without help. It’s sad and very dangerous for her to remain where she is.
I realize that none of us want to face what she is but it happens and we have to deal with it appropriately.
I don’t need anymore challenges , and I’m not betting money on cooperation . She will not want to give up the car . She’s very controlling , she will look at it as losing control .
I’m going to ask her what are her plans since she can barely walk . She will deny any problems. I will point blank tell her that she is declining .
Your MIL is challenging. I hope she will be cooperative with you and your husband.
I am glad you’re going. I always did the home tests. Mine showed blood so I had to go in and they removed a bleeding polyp.
My husband also did the home testing. I asked him to schedule a hospital visit and he had three polyps.
It’s better to stay on top of things.
Wishing you well.
I think the joy comes a few days after it is done.
Prayers for a good outcome!
You are braver than me.
This is true . We have learned from watching our parents that a longer life does not equate to staying spry until we die . This is what my in laws assumed . But modern medicine does not stop aging , it just pushes back the date of death .
I will first ask MIL what her plans are , see if she’s even able to come up with a plan for when she can’t get up the stairs or drive . I know she can’t use a computer or smart phone . I did research and there is a service she could call on the phone to get an Uber to come .
If she is still in denial of how she is deteriorating physically ( she has CLL has lost a lot of weight ) , then I will point blank tell her that her mobility is getting worse and see what she says .
Her standard answer is usually that she wouldn’t want to live in a facility . This time I will push to see if she can even plan how to stay at home then .
Without POA we can’t do anything anyway except call DMV about a drivers test . We have no idea who her doctors are . If she has dementia , I’m sure she showtimes well . We could ask her for the name of her primary saying for emergencies just to have the number I guess , perhaps we could mail a letter to him/her.
Meanwhile we are going to visit 87 yo MIL this Saturday. I’m having MIL scaries . She bear crawls up her stairs to her master and full bath , walks poorly , refuses walker , grab bars , stair lift , moving etc . Holds onto furniture and walls. She says her cane is enough when she goes out . It’s NOT . She falls a lot because she is bent over from the waist getting closer to 90 degrees , a crooked scoliosis angle and puts too much weight on the cane and it gives way to one side or the other and down she goes . She also has a bad contracted artificial left knee , a built up sneaker sole and left foot drop . The built up shoe doesn’t even help anymore, it never touches the ground . She walks on the toe of that foot . She insists she stands up straight , and has only “shrunk alittle “. To watch her walk is a sight to be seen ! She still drives , has always refused any of our suggestions etc. DH will not be forceful enough . So I’m gearing up to tell her like it is this Saturday !! Sheez. I’m assuming I will be contacting DMV after our visit .
She doesn’t have to listen she has no POA. But I think she may have early dementia . I’m going to try to shake her tree and see what her responses are like . I doubt she would ever go for any cog testing. It’s not going to be fun . We never had a great relationship . She’s a control freak and in her eyes I was the wrong religion and should not have married her son .
Anyway , I just thought this is ironic, I’m trying to prepare for my soon to come more elderly years , and this woman is still denying it .
Geaton - My appointment is at 12:30, plenty of time to do the final prep and travel.... since we are supposed to arrive an hour early I wouldn't want it much earlier than that
PS - I'm hungry, I want my breakfast 😥😖
We get a fair amount of rainfall but it has been pouring down today. Tornado warnings, thunderstorms, etc. A funky day!
So beautiful! I wish we had the fall foliage that New England has. The leaves are gorgeous in Autumn. Our leaves just turn brown and fall to the ground.
So true! Sometimes we have to chill. Also true about families living far away from each other.
My oldest daughter lived In Birmingham for a while and my youngest daughter lived in Denver for a while.
Grand Canyon is spectacular! You will love it.
It is hard to travel when we are caregiving. I’m glad that you are catching up now.
Different areas definitely have different vibes.
It’s interesting how things change as the years go by.
We drove to Florida every summer when I was a child. My dad grew up in Florida. The interstate hadn’t been built yet. It took so much longer to drive there. Now, it only takes about four hours.
Some of those expensive RV’s are like a hotel on wheels. I would be terrified to try and drive a huge vehicle like that!
My mother was afraid to fly. She didn’t fly until she was older, long after my dad died.
Mom’s brother married and moved to the east coast right after WW11.
She flew out for a surprise birthday party that my cousins threw for him.
One of mom’s friends went with her on the trip. I was glad that she went. She was too.
My grandparents used to drive from New Orleans to see my uncle on the east coast. When the driving became too tiring for them, they decided to fly. They were much older for their first flight too. They loved no longer driving for three days to see their son.
My grandparents were precious. We would drive them to the airport. Back then we could watch the plane take off. They always held hands while walking towards the plane. It was so cute! They were married over fifty years.
Gotcha, you’ll have a great time. New Orleans is definitely not ‘anywhere USA.’ We are a unique city.
Well…since you’re not interested in the fine dining restaurants you will have to try out some of our low key options that are equally as delicious!
Grab a beer at Crescent City Brewhouse on Decatur Street.
Our poboy sandwiches are wonderful! They are served on delicious French bread.
Muffuletta sandwiches are sold at Central Grocery on Decatur Street. They have been around since the early 1900’s.
I love the muffuletta sandwiches at Napoleon House in the quarter.
One of my favorite burgers in the city is at Port of Call on Esplanade Ave.
Hahaha, funny that you mentioned NCIS New Orleans because I never watched the show. I get a little annoyed if our city is portrayed in a stereotypical way with ridiculous dialects that aren’t accurate.
My nephew has worked in the film industry for years and worked on the NCIS New Orleans show. He invited me to watch a filming of the show but I never got around to going. My daughter went and had fun.
You can stream our local jazz and heritage radio station. They broadcast wonderful jazz.
wwoz.org
Their website also has a listing of the live music shows. Check it out!
If you gamble there is a Harrah’s Casino in town too.
What dates will you be here?
Our Jazz and Heritage Festival is in the beginning of May. Jazz Fest is fantastic! Greek Festival is held at the end of May. Both are great.
Are you renting a car or planning to Uber everywhere?
Do you like seafood? My favorite seafood restaurant in the quarter is GWFins.
Mr. B’s in the quarter has excellent food.
Cafe du Monde is in the quarter. Go there for coffee and beignets.
If you are interested in hearing jazz, my favorite spot is in the Marigny neighborhood, which is very close to the quarter. Snug Harbor on Frenchmen St.
Are you planning on venturing out into other parts of the city?
Do you want to eat at the fine dining establishments that are ‘classic old school New Orleans’ where you have to dress up or do you prefer a more casual vibe?
New Orleans has incredible restaurants, both casual and formal.
Southern Candy on Decatur St. in the quarter has the best pralines.
Royal St in the quarter is fun street to hang out and hear the street musicians on a Sunday afternoon. You can browse through the art galleries and antique shops.
Our WW11 museum is excellent. It’s in the CBD and near the quarter.
Uptown has a ton of good restaurants. Magazine Street is a very walkable area. The quarter is walkable. Marigny is walkable.
St. Louis Cathedral is beautiful and is in the quarter. My mother was christened there in 1925. My mother’s family came to America from England.
Message me if you have any questions.
I haven’t watched every episode but the ones that I have watched are good.
The actors were in a restaurant. The daughter asked people at the next table to watch her mom so she could use the restroom.
Then the mom tries to leave the restaurant. The people protected her mom until she returned from the bathroom.
It’s so difficult for children to go out in public with their parents who are suffering with Alzheimer’s disease. There comes a point in time when children can’t take their parents out anymore.
One scene shows the daughter telling her mother that she was going to have to place her in a home. The mom says to patrons in the restaurant not to let her daughter ‘put her away.’
A young man tells a heartfelt story about his grandfather who had Alzheimer’s disease and how his mom had to place his grandfather in a home.
It was interesting to see how people responded to the actors. I’m glad that the show did this story to bring awareness to the topic. They said that by the year 2050 Alzheimer’s disease would double in size. Very sad to think about.