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Awww, it's very unusually warm here, going to be close to 80. Rain during the night.

I have 400 pieces of candy. Give or take, mostly take, someone got into them. 🤭.

Just watched the today show, Halloween special, 😃. It was cute!
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I get very few trick-or-treaters on my street, I have a few treats to hand out and I'll leave the light on but rain may chase away everyone.☔🎃 👻
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Happy Halloween 🎃 👻
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Last night, I dreamt my mom went into the nursing home. It was one of the ones where we live, only it was much nicer than it is in real life and her room was larger than the ones they actually have. While we were there, she met with some unknown person, probably a higher up at the NH, and she came away with the realization that she needed to be in the nursing home. After she got moved in and I left, I was thinking about all sorts of places I could travel to because she was in the nursing home and I didn't have to take care of her anymore.

It makes me wonder if God is telling me that she isn't too far away from being a nursing home resident.
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Way, Ahhh, that's a good idea, worth a try.
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The aunt lives in Georgia and doesn’t travel . She won’t want POA . I was hoping to ask the aunt to talk to MIL on the phone about getting her affairs in order .
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Way maybe your mil would rather have the aunt be POA, and would definitely be better for you
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Golden ,

A while back I suggested to DH that maybe he should ask his aunt ( MIL’s sister 10 years younger ) to talk to her . He said no . Just let her be a ward of the state.

I’ll try it again . Maybe he will since it seems he is going to let himself get more involved . Uggh
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I know what you mean that she was different this time. You can see the decline in ability. Mother could still manipulate for a few years, but it was more obvious to me.

I'm so glad she gave your dh her doctor's name and number. That says to me she knows she is declining. Dh will make contact when he feels it is right.

That brother - arrgh! Wanting his share of the money and pressuring your dh to settle the estate. No respect!!!

I understand that dh is concerned about his mother's welfare. Despite all, she is his mother and he feels a duty to care for her. I get that and felt the same way. On the other hand, I didn't say much to mother about getting her paper work in order. Her financial advisor (who she really liked and respected) did that - and then she told me that he wanted her to get her papers in order. I think he was tired of dealing with her as well as knowing she was of an age when she should have it done. So eventually it happened. No way I could have led her through it. She had to make the decision herself.

It's so stressful dealing with these kind of people!!!!
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Golden ,

Yes , I believe she has dementia. I think MIL’s brain is just operating on default mode right now to a large extent .
She’s just relying on old thoughts, ways, beliefs and memories . Saw a lot of this the day we visited her especially as it got later in the day . DH and I were even saying she wasn’t even being very manipulative . She was different this time , a noticeable step down from the last time . Maybe she can’t manipulate anymore .

She did finally give DH her primary docs name and number the other day . Not sure when he may want to try to contact doc since we think she still showtimes pretty well . I have to let DH have breaks and chip away slowly on contacting doc .

Lately DH is annoyed at his brother who keeps asking when the remainder of FIL ‘s estate is being settled . He didn’t visit his father in AL or go to the funeral but has his hand out for money .

I told DH I doubt anything would get accomplished unless he took MIL to a lawyer himself . We don’t think she would be willing to do that though . She’s always been a stubborn , know it all , my way is the only way kind . DH didn’t say anything . I guess he’s thinking . I didn’t bring it up lately . DH has been bringing up his mother .

DH has been bringing up how annoyed he is that his mother didn’t get paperwork done . He used to say he didn’t care , she would just become a ward of the state . I’m still hoping he won’t stress himself out over this lifelong selfish woman and let it happen .
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(((((way)))). It makes no sense to us, but I am sure it does to her, or she is saying it to jerk you and dh around, or to get you and dh off her back re POA or some combination. You did say you expected that she had the beginnings of dementia, didn't you?

If room mate has the beginnings of Alzheimer's then an attorney should not set him up as a POA. As I understand it, the attorney has a duty to assess the capability of the person to be named as POA.

Do you think she is playing games and jerking you and dh around? She likes throwing out bait to stir up some drama. Don't give it to her.

If she is serious about this there is not much you can do. I think I would want to say to her "Great idea!" just to shock her. then drop the subject and refuse to engage in it again unless she gets sensible. ((((hugs))))
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I’ve posted before that we have been trying to get MIL to draw up POA papers . She has none .
She has recently said again that she will make her roommate POA. It appears that MIL has forgotten that the roommate has early Alzheimer’s . I give up .
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Psue has internet problems and will be back, by Friday, hopefully!
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Ah, electric transport. Not to be used on roads, but in Edmonton could use bike lanes. Nice idea. Unfortunately I wouldn't have anywhere to plug one in here. But they look like a good idea for some. I read that they have to be kept inside in inclement weather. Inside what I'm not sure - a heated garage?
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Those enclosed scooters are new here, I've only seen them used by the postal delivery people. Seem like a good idea!
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Cwillie, they sound like fun 🤔🤪🥴

Took mom to Kohl's this morning, physical therapy for her back is over, she is doing well enough, but I've noticed the way she walks is different, she wobbles, from side to side, and bumps into things ALOT with her cart. This is new, but also first time out in quite a while that wasn't for physical therapy.
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I've just been looking at enclosed mobility scooters, these things are basically tiny cars complete with headlights and heaters. As far as I can tell the same laws that apply to open scooters apply to them so you can drive them on the sidewalk and you don't need insurance or a licence - I don't need one but they are so cool I WANT one anyway 🤣
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Golden, we are having some unusual warm weather in NYS , but trust me I will be complaining right there with you!!
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Psue - you're welcome, Glad to be of help. Hope you and hub are doing OK. He is fortunate to have you. Life dumps on us sometimes. Haven't seen you here for a while. I know my posting is very sporadic. Some days I am challenged! Hypertufa makes me think of the days we, as kids, sat in shallow parts the Ottawa river scooping out hands full of clay and making figures with them. it was fun.

Eva - hope you and hub are doing alright since he got back home,

nacy - your sis is caught in denial. Mine was too. When I mentioned the BPD diagnosis, sis's response was . "Oh, no. Mother just has a few little emotional problems". While, in fact, mother had a serious mental illness and had developed dementia. It's so much easier for them if they can pretend that mom is not sick,

way - I really like your compromise! One half hour - done and dusted!

cw, nacy - the parades sound fun and I loved them as a child but for years now - uh-uh and especially in the evening. I don't like cold feet.

A little snow around these days and temps below freezing at night. The geese have flown - south I presume. Good idea!!!

Saw a saying recently - "I can't wait to start complaining about how cold is!" Works for me lol.

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I've been luck for ten years, getting to see it all just walking out my door, so weather or not I go watch it , will depend if friends come over and drag me down. 😂 Hubby says what you said lol.

It's kinda one of those things you have seen it a few times, that was enough.
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All our nearby towns have moved their Christmas parades to the evening because the lights are popular, being small towns I'm sure there are several tractors too🤪. I can't be bothered because I'm not trucking out at suppertime, in the cold, to watch a parade - I used to go to the daytime ones though.
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GMA did a segment about it, if you wanted to look it up. Greenwich, NY tractor parade. It's so much fun.

It's like a Hallmark movie 😁
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Around the 2nd week of November, are town has a Christmas lighted tracker parade. Hundreds of tractors, thousands of lights and music.

It's so much fun, goes by are house so we had friends over, good food, friends parking here. Cold weather we would be able to run inside get warm , run back out.

Because of all the road construction, it's not going by my house this year 😞 , if we want to see it we have to walk 3 blocks and deal with the weather 🥶.
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That works for ME, way
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I vote for a compromise , move the clock a half hour once and leave it alone all year long from here on out .
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Funny it is such a debate.

Me honestly Ive lived it all my life too, and I hate it always have, dreaded the time change all my life.

I just kinda want to see what it's like to not change time for one year. See which way I like better.
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It's time once again for the debates about doing away with changing the clocks to ramp up - I don't get it, all my life it was just something we did and I can't remember ever feeling it was more than a minor adjustment, yes even when the kids were small.
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I took Mom to eye doctor this week, we randomly ran into my sister, who had an appointment in the same building.

I'm over any and all my issue with, "she doesn't help" stuff. Anyways when I was walking mom to the front desk, mom was her usual unsteady self, my sister was watching, and she said , oh mom just had her eyes dilated. I said no , moms getting old, this is what happens.

Then my sister said why doesn't she sit if there's chairs. I said getting up is to hard for her.

I think it was a shock for my sister to see moms decline, but I also think that she will tell herself long enough that it's because of her eyes getting dilated, that she will believe it.
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Evamar, hypertufa is also therapeutic- mud pies for adults!
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Golden: You're welcome.
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